₦airaland Forum

Leilah:
Look, lets face it. Why allow polygamy? man will have mistresses regardless of how many wives he has. He will never stop. Its up to you, live in a polygamous circus if you like. Man (king) wives(glorified slaves) mistresses(sexual concubines) its all in the developing world (mans world)

This is nothing but bollocks.

men all over the UK have secret concubines/girlfriends. It's always very good for you lot to come and point fingers here because Africans are not as good as westerners at covering up their misdeeds.

If you have never seen where a man is blamed for a failed marriage before, that's quite suprising. I have brothers and I still remember when there was a rift between my eldest brother and his wife. My dad had very strong words with my brother - I dont see anyone who ever says the woman is always wrong. It seems the women who come on here are are from strange backgrounds.

Does it explain why many women here are unmarried, divorced, or single mothers

simibrasil, I suspect this is one of the reasons you're unlikely to ever be successful in marriage. You're have that attitude that is not conpatible with a successful marriage. This is fine as long as you're willing to stay single and enjoy your life that way. But stop desperately seeking 9ja men to turn to mumu because if they are mumu for a period, they'll open their eyes at one point and that's the end of your relationship

Shinatu, I raise my kids to have respect for ladies but not to become fools for women in this age when women do what they like and get away with it.

My wife accepts me as the head of the family and I love her as my wife, friend, companion and mother of my children and she knows that I wont let her control me. That's why we have been married all these years and it was a quality I saw in her when I decided I would like to marry her.

People who have never met MOST Nigerians talk as if they can determine what happens in most Nigerian homes. It's even more pathetic that most of them are abroad and have no clue what's on ground in Nigeria, except the sensational news which they tend to get. Normal news does not register with them but the sensational ones will impact on their senses.

How many Nigerian families have each of you met to have the authority to make sweeping generalisations?

It's short term prostitution. Make 9ja girls begin sell the thing jare dey make hundreds of thousands of £££$$$

You no sabi say na yeye man the time wey the prick dey sweet you? Na so una no dey open eye when prick dey sweet una, after later una go begin cry and moan. You sabi say na layabout be the bobo before you get belle.
Make you carry ya load jare. Eleru gbe eru o, na your load wa gbe

hanen:
Sisiskill made a GREAT point jare.

All you really need to do is go the Romance section and see some of the threads there, and the poster's point is proven already. Everyone here that is taking it personally is not being objective. nigerians hate being told of their faults by outsiders. Instead they're doing the childish thing and going to look for posts on Brazilian men. Seriously?

Is it Nigerian men that are like that or men in general? It's stupid to ascribe what is generally obtainable to Nigerians only.

Where I know in the UK, there are several women who allow their men to treat them like rubbish because the men are the way they are and the women are the way they are. it's not a Nigerian thing.

Queenisha:
The article quoted here specifically talked of Islamic Women.
Less than half of the Nigerian women population are in that category
and for those who are,I can imagine that most educated Yoruba muslim women are no longer settling for the co wife/Pe'nis sharing  nonsense.

I must add that anywoman that allows her husband to bring in other wives in this day and age is plain stupid
and anyone that's willing to be a second or third wife is even more stupid.

Thank you jare. I dont know where they see any nonsense practice in present day Nigeria. Maybe they are from damaged backgrounds themselves

Siena:
The angry, defensive responses to the poster's thread just go to reinforce what we all know to be true.
Anyone that agrees either gets shouted down, or insulted.

Sisikil, Angelheart and a few others however, have the right attitude, and can see things the way they truly are.

Great! Whoever agrees with you is good and anyone who disagrees has to be stupid.

Mr know all

Cayon:
I pointed out to you the stars and all you saw was the tip of my finger.

Peace

The tip of your finger is enough to indicate that you're leprous and blind; hence you cant see the stars to point them out

3 maggi for one pot?

self-service? It must be that you're used to seeing guys wanking over your head. No wonder none of them wants you and you tried to force yourself on the Nigeria guy with a child.

Your looks are enough to make one puke. Even my grandmother's boobs are not as flat as yours. And by the way, you are just an old and ugly after one. Do you not check mirrors? Ohhhhhhh maybe you're too scared of looking in the morror too often not to remind yourself of your ugliness. No Nigeria man will even want you except maybe to self-service over your head as they've done in the past

Angelheart:
Missheah, ignore this good for nothing self-servicer!! He's one of those bored idiots who have nothing better to do with their lives. He seems to be unhappy in life and makes himself feel better by ranting on without thinking. He has nothing happening for him. What a slowpoke.

we have seen how your life turned out because you are not a slowpoke. You thought you could trap a 9ja guy with a child.

Why is it that single mothers and old women who are unable to settle down are the ones who always try to mislead other girls just so other girls can become like them? Your new pic is not any better than the last one. If you like, go pose inside queen bedroom for buckingham palace.

The former photo na for flower side like bush girl wey just reach Lagos come see flower for National Theatre. The new one na for inside boat abi na canoe sef

I'd really like to attend one of these parties to record the kind of scenes being described here

missshea:
Wow are you serious? I can't believe the condescending tone here, after being given advice to go with our hearts by so many people. I am not desperate by any means, that's a pretty mean insult. My guy isn't gullible either. He made the decision of his own accord. We love each other, that's all it boils down to. Age, race, etc should not matter when two people fall in love. Maybe you are right the situation is temporary, but who can predict what the future holds? When you find a person that you have a connection with, a chemistry, you should follow that path for as long as possible, because there are too many people in this world who are in marriages of convenience, not love. I am not blind or stupid to know that it may still not work out in the long run. But for now it's a chance I'm willing to take, because if it does work out, he is worth it to me. He is my best friend.

It was not meant to insult you but to make you come to your senses. if you chose to go ahead in blind hope, you only have yourself to blame at the end of the day.

**** shakes head ****

I will never understandwhy some women like to try the impossible and then moan for the rest of their lives 

carmelily:
divorce makes more sense than infidelity.
word!

Is that to make yourself feel better?

Angel whatever

Believe me, I would rather do that that marry a Nigerian man!

If that's your pic, Nigerian men are better off without people like you; especially at that age and still single. Where are all the foreign men who have been using and dumping you?

chase, bless you for that.
simibrasil, please go and meet Brazillian men

The man don allow satan use am. Na so women dey allow satan to use men to get into trouble

coolboy, you never see these better names be4?

make I give you more names?

Too many stupid people talk here

White people will divorce as soon as they are looking to have some more sexual escapades.

Angelheart:
Simibrasil,

I agree with tou TOTALLY!! Ok, maybe not all Nigerian men but, I have come across a few who treat women like objects. When is comes to the man's family taking over? You are spot on. The Mother's always sticks their nose in the couple's affails. These men actually go out there to toll for a woman who is submissive and one tha cannot stand for themselves,

Yea you're right. Please go and marry Brazillian men

I think BigB is it
But I dont like the fact that he supports Babangida

You should ask your lying father how to accommodate a Nigerian family

Cayon:
I don' know what I am anymore.

All i can tell you is - My mother is of european decendants (white) but was born in the caribbean. She met a lying black man from Nigeria. I was born.

Peace

When then? Plenty Yoruba people sing in English everyday

missshea:
i am so happy to inform that he has had time to miss me and finally decided that he should still be with me, and asked me back. I do not know what the future holds for us regarding his parents, but we will have to deal with it at a later time. For now we know that he wants to be with me and I with him, so why should we not be together?

Thank you everyone for your input and advice. Dealing with situations like this all alone is not easy! Keep us in your prayers.

You a such a joker! what a laugh

You already know that there's nothing in this relationship for you but you're ready to blind yourself to the fact. Afterwards, you'll start complaining about Nigerian men when you're actually the foolish (oops sorry) one. It's never going to work and I'm sure you know that but you're willing to string along to make yourself happy temporarily.

Anyone can see your desperation and with all these, I think you're trying to use the gullible boy by twisting his senses. You will have what you deserve eventually

I am yet to attend any party where guests exhibit such bevaviour.

(Wesley) Yes. you hit a nerve. ask your father how you got to america. Then come and tell us here otherwise, I'll be tempted to let everyone know how you got to America