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Could this be the case ?
How can a first class king be in this kind of marriage arrangement with his queen ?

What led the queen and his family to be this bold ?

How can a king be this vulnerable in his own kingdom ?



I won't believe this blogger story.......this cannot happen to a baale in Odo gangan not to talk of the whole ooni of ife.

There is this UBA bank close to my work..so because of the close proximity, my colleagues prefers to transact with my bank..

So, I got this big amount transfer to my account for a project and my account was frozen....I approached the customer care and the guy just solve my problem within 10min.

He further advised i to download the bank app for easy transactions.....Wich I did immediately there, he collected my phone, set the app up and boom I was very excited.

Fast forward to about two weeks later, I went back to the bank to increase my transaction limit, the guy just ask me few questions and just one paper work and boom the limit was increased to what I want.

Then about 8 months later, I changed phone, the first thing was to redownload the bank app again, I proceeded to the bank met the same guy, I explained what I want, he just collected the phone and set the app again. He asked where is the other phone, I told him I have gifted it to someone, he then advised I should ensure the app is deleted on the phone.

When I change phone again, I downloaded the bank app as usual and was trying to set it up myself but didn't work.....so I proceeded to the bank, on getting there I met this black beautiful gal as the new customer care....I explained to her that I just got a new phone and wanted to set up my bank app.

She told me to do it myself, I responded that I had downloaded it but couldn't set it to work....(the app is displaying that I had exceed the maximum device on the account, I should logout from the other phone first)

This gal told me to go and logout from the other phone. I told her I had logout and even formatted the phone self.

She did not even ask for the phone, she insisted I should go and logout from the other phone....and I was like ok.

I left, got to my office and redownloaded the app.

The following day which was a Friday, I went back to the bank, gave this lady the old phone to help me logout, she collected the phone, pressed few buttons and said I should log on the other phone, I tried but the same message popped up.

I told her I have to set the app unfailingly today because I have some transactions to do during the weekend.....

She said I should wait for some hours, that it will work. I waited after 2 hours, the app did not work. Meanwhile, other customers with complaints are already queueing up and those I met were just complaining about her....at the same time her superior which is a lady as well was shouting on customers that there is too much pressure on the gal.

She later said she need to send an email to head office. I said ok. Then about 30min later, I received an sms from the bank to disconnect the app from my phone, she in turn told me there would be another sms for confirmation..I said no wahala.

Well, the message came, she then set the app up and I left.... getting to my office to close for the day because the time was about 10min to 4pm, I tried to send money to my wife, the app popped up a message that I have exceeded maximum transactions for the day.....and I was like how but maybe because of the process the gal used.

I woke up on Saturday, tried to send money, it was the same thing, also on Sunday.

Got the the bank on Monday and explained the issue to this lady, she said I should delete the app and download another version of the same app (that this one is the old app, there is a new version now )

At that point, I can't just take her incompetent any more, I asked her what she meant by old app, something I downloaded just 4days ago...and if there is a new type of the app, why did she wait till that Monday to tell me ?

I left the bank branch to another far way branch and within 5min. The issue was sorted out by a guy.

How can one overreacted to wickedness ?

Kobojunkie:
Abeg go Sidon somewhere o'jare!

What do you know ?

A man trying to hold his family upright and tight; it's for his and his siblings good.

Appreciate your father while he is alive.....soon, very soon, you'll understand his fear and struggles.

For the fact that he cares about his kids activities......but you're perceiving his fatherly responsibility and his approach trying to solves his problem as ego shows you don't have experience about fatherhood and I guess you're been mislead by your mother's tears and moods all the while.

You'll soon miss your father when you eventually get the freedom you seek.

By the way, there is no cold war anywhere in your family, children calling firecracker war.

How many xmas have you celebrated without him dropping money ?
How many of your own School fees have you paid ?
Even your siblings ?

You better put on a thinking cap.

kmcutez:
Tell me what you think the the woman’s eggs are. Your doctrine is so far off. Do you know the woman is the one that passes all of her mitochondrial DNA to her children, both male and female. The woman can make sperm from her bone marrow and the sperm will swim to fertilize the egg, hence why you hear of virgin or immaculate conception.

Stop being foolish...and portraying hypothesis as a proving theory.

Can you provide a clinical evident for this your claim ?

Mercychen:
Hi brethren.

I was going somewhere to get something and I needed to make a huge payment to acquire that thing. Now, sometimes If I want to get something, I do pray that the holy spirit should give me a sign whether or not to go ahead with it.

So along the line, as we were heading to the sales point, I hit my right foot against a stone. It was so bad that people around chorused their sorry.

At first I didn't give it a thought but later I became worried and didn't go through with the transaction. So I googled and found out hitting ones foot is usually a bad sign that the journey will end up badly if the person doesn't retract from it. That I already did.

Now, my question is, as a Christian ( bornagain) should I be worried about such superstitious belief?

Should I have gone ahead to acquire that thing, waving off the warning signs?

Should a Christian adhere to these signs? Cos I realized by the time I sluggishly went back to get it, it was already sold out.

Your thoughts please. Mature and spirit-filled Christans only. I don't mean diviners, please. Pure Christans.

Thanks.

LoL.....you reminded me things I learnt while living with my grandma.....let me explain to you how she lived and her death was the final nail in the coffin why I became an agnostic.


My grandmother had four children (one male and three females)

My grandma observes many signs at all times and it works.

If my grandma is going somewhere important for example....and as she is leaving the house she met a female from approach, she will go back home....because her first child is a male.
If she hit her right toe, whatever she is going out for is going to be positive but may be tough
If it's her left toe, the outing might not be fruitful or it going to be easy but may not worth the stress.
Amongst many other sign I will share some other time.


All her prediction always turned out true.....i witnessed many instances.....but religion have come to deceive people to dominate them and subtly renamed, rebrand and repackage the same act and art the idea of religion demonized for the same group of people to practice....


For instance; seven days prayer by midnight (vigil) Which is synonymous to midnight sacrifice with sacrificial contents containing seven seven provisions.

Definitely, consciousness from majority sides agreed there is something about the midnight but was is devil or is it God ?
But one obvious trick is; almost everyone can achieve the highest concentration in the Dark......you want to assimilate and understand the ideas in your book....read it when there won't be distractions....choose midnight.....

I learnt how to predict what time is through the sun and your shadow in the sun from her. Same thing I was later taught in Astronomy.

Benbellamor:
Lie


2 Peter 1:20
Above all, you must understand that no prophecy of Scripture comes from one's own interpretation.

2 Peter 1:21
For no such prophecy was ever brought forth by the will of man, but men spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy

This is what has sustained Christianity for this long......quoting one sentence, word, reference and chapter......and funny enough, the quoted verse/verses is still dependent and subjected to the grace or holy spirit or anointed preacher for meaningful interpretation.

Now go back and read my statement with an open mind.

Truvelisback:
Good day, Fellas. Why do some people assume that that those christians who suffers misfortunes are not christians or their ways aren't pure or straight b4 God? Even many fellow Xtians do assume that way.

Christianity doesn't have a standard interpretation of the word of the bible, no harmonized standard way of life hence every factions/ denominations have some part of the bible to justify their idea or knowledge of whatever life throw at their members.

Additionally, Bible is such a detail book that can be use to justify anything and everything depending on the point you want to score....Bible is your best friend, it will always support your claims.

dhiqson:
A wise Aussie man once said


"why buy the cow when the milk is free"

Lol....brainwashed op

Mercychen:
Hi fam.

Something has been bothering me of late and leaving me emotionally and mentally stressed and drained for the past weeks and I'm cut between the devil and the deep blue sea.

There's this bro we're trying to see if we can work things out. though, I never really wanted anything relationship again or at least for now until I'm decided later in the future on what I really want for myself.

Before, I delve into the main discuss , let
me quickly highlight how it all started.

Some months back, My publisher came to deliver the books I ordered for. So while sorting the books, he just got teasing me like " Babes, na wa o. What's up with your romantic life now?. I've never seen you pulling with anyone. It's always work, biz Money money money I see you pursuing. Lol... I just told him, guy, free me abeg and I went on counting the books at the boot of his car.

He now walked up to me and said, on a more serious note, what is happening? So I told him it's a personal choice cos I dont have the strength for relationship brouhaha now. He agreed with me that truly its not easy and even as a married man, he too feels the heat but the good thing is, he married in the Lord. So I should choose wisely from among the brethren.

So he said, he has this family friend, an eligible bachelor, who wants a decent lady and I'm the one that comes to mind each time the guy mentions it because since he's be dealing with me, he can vouch that I'm a very honest, hard-working and decent lady. So he would want the bro to have me.
That was how I got to meet bro.

Now fastforward to the main reason of this post.
There was this particular day we tripped out to cool off and discuss about US. So we got talking and planning on how to build our home in a way that we will not be caught unawares with some setbacks and unplanned responsibilities. So the issue of children came up and I suggested we have only one, which he reluctantly accepted after much convincing. So we tried to look at ways we can maintain that decision and I suggested a vasectomy. citing the possibilities of health risks (as a result of mismatches ) and failures that might occur if the family planning is done on me but with vasectomy, no issues. He looked me in the eyes and said, "my darling" no!

I was dumbfounded.... And became a little worried because, if he has no plans of having more children, why would he kick against the idea of a vasectomy?

If we are going to be one and follow one course, why shying away from a plan that will benefit us as a couple and a family?


Could it be, he only agreed to have one with me and plans to have more else where?
Is vasectomy a life threatening condition?

I was still trying to wrap my head around his refusal, when he said, it will be done on you ( the family planning). That instant, I felt all alone, like im on my own. So I told him I needed to cool off, and he said feel free.
I left the tent and went to the waters prentending to be playing with the water. He came and dragged me out of the water. we strolled without a word and I asked him to take me home. He did.

He called when he got home. I was cold to him so, he promised to call again but since then Ive refused to pick his calls or reply his texts.

The big question is ..
WHY DID HE BLUNTLY REFUSE A VASECTOMY?

COULD HE HAVE ULTERIOR MOTIVES?

IS IT NOT BETTER TO OPT OUT NOW THAN PRETEND I DIDN'T GET THE MESSAGE AND END UP IN REGRETS?

WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN A MAN KICKS AGAINST VASECTOMY?

No he doesn't but you have a very wicked ulterior motive.

And you know it.

A one sided road map for a relationship in anticipation is heading nowhere....

Nigeria system does not support small and medium business.......

I remember before my admission.......I tried to start a business that will support me in school.

I started a cyber cafe business......taking advantage of my knowledge of A+, N+ and CCNA certificates I have...I got an office, bought all the gadget needed, bought lister engine Generator, set it up and started business.

I was training people on how to use Microsoft packages and computer repair (hardware)

The business started taking shape......

1) The problem of NEPA bill became an issue with the landlord, he collects NEPA bill with rent upfront and the cost of diesel to power the office became overwhelming that the income from the business could not sustain it.

2) Local Government task forces...in different groups.....came with all manner of levies.....

Eventually, the business crashed when I was in 200L.....

Investigation in progress but all these unverified information to the public.........Nigerian police and the abuse of the word Investigation

Anonymus010:
I Need The Advice Of Experienced Married Men

NB: This is not my real account, I created this account for the purpose of this issue.

Please, I need the advice of married people (especially married men). I will make the story as simple as possible and I promise not to compromise the truth to favour me in this issue.

Brief Introduction: I am a man in my late 20's. Got married last year and currently have a 3month baby.

Brief history of my relationship prior to marriage: I dated my wife for 4years before we finally tied the knot last year. I met her in the university, we were classmate in school.

Before I started dating my wife, I was dating a girl in the same class but we both agreed to separate after 1year because we were age mate and she was keen on getting married immediately after graduation which I knew I will not be ready for marriage by then (Note: No sex in the relationship, She was a virgin and because I couldn't assure her of marriage, I didn't sex her).

After the break up with my ex, I became close to my wife and we started dating. She was self sufficient as she had a source of income while in school, she supports me, gives me money, cooks and buy me food etc. She was the best woman any man can think of. I fell in love along the line and decided this is the right lady to marry.

Note: There were several backlashes from other classmates insinuating she snatched me from my ex but we scaled through all that. We dated for 2more years in school and we graduated. We dated for another 2more years post school till last year.

Brief history immediately before marriage: Everything was fine till my wife's birthday last year. I did tripple shifts at work(48hrs work non-stop) and came back a night before her birthday and slept off. I woke up 2:30am to wish her happy birthday. She got angry and told me I didnt put her in mind and that I was not the first person to wish her happy birthday (She later told me her ex wished her first at exactly 12am). I apologised to her and told her the reason I missed the time. I had just 10k, gave her 5k to do a birthday photoshoot, used about 3k to buy her goodies as salary has not been paid.

Fast forward to after 1week of the birthday, she came up with serious issue, saying she wanted a break but not total break-up for some months to put herself together. She lamented she was not getting anything from the relationship, I don't usually take her out, I didnt celebrate her birthday well for her, I didnt buy cake, I didnt buy gift etc. I apologised and pleaded with her to be patient as we had big projects before us (wedding, masters degree and family apartment) which she knew I was saving for. We settled it and had sex. After 7days, I saw a call log on her phone where she had a conversation with her ex for almost an hour between 11pm and 12am. After 1month, she missed her menses and was pregnant. I asked her if she ever saw her ex, she cried and swore that she didn't (Note: I trusted her because she is modest and she is not the sex type). So, I agreed, accepted the preg, quickly arranged an impromptu wedding, I quickly sourced for money, spent over N2million on the wedding......

THE PROBLEM:

2weeks after the weeding, my wife started abusing my family especially my mum, telling me she hated how my family behaved during the wedding. I pleaded with her not to allow this to affect our home. The insults and abuse became perpetual. My wife works from home and will give me several reasons why she cannot cook after giving her money for food stuffs once I collect salary. Its just 2 of us living in a mini flat & I wash my clothes myself, but she will give me thousands of reasons how the non-existent house shores prevent her from cooking.

After 9months, she gave birth, I asked her who she wanted to come do omugo with the baby between her mum and my mum. She opted for my mum (claimed her mum will be giving her problem). Not up to 1week that my mum came over, she has started complaining about everything she does. Despite the fact that this woman will wake up 5am, wash everybody's clothes, bath the baby but she doesnt cook. My wife started complaining about her being obligated to cook every morning because of my mum's presence(Note: she doesnt cook in the morning, if I am going to work by 8am, I will either warm a left over previous night's food or source for food outside). When the complain was becoming overwhelming to the point of her almost insulting my mum in my presence, I told her I will tell my mum to go back to her house( my mum lives in a mini flat too with my dad, so they are very comfortable). She said I shouldn't. After 1 month, my mum left. The abuse, insults and complain continued. She will nag about how my mum did when she was with us, abuse and insults my family. I will appeal to her and defend my family. My wife became complete opposite of who she was when we were dating.

The real issue at hand: We would be migrating to the US soon. Lately, I can't control my wife, anytime I don't buy her idea or wish, she will rain insults on me. Just 3days ago, she told me I don't have sense repeatedly just because she said we should go and greet her mum's pastor which I told her not now but we can go later. If I tell her to do something, she will do otherwise and give me thousand of reasons she can't do it. 2months ago, I reported all her attitudes to her mum, her mum talked to her but no change, she is getting worse. Last week, I did 24hours at work, I got home, my wife didn't cook. I got into the kitchen, made custard and placed the soup on the gas cooker. We were both in the living room. She perceived the soup was getting burnt and insulted me, telling me it was because I was not the one that dropped money for the soup, thats why I wanted to burn it (She cooked the soup with her money because my salary was delayed). She insults me at will, gives me no respect and treat me as trash.(Note: I had never cheated on her and she doesn't doubt my fidelity. Likewise, I had never suspected her of such too).

I am currently scared because I know US is women's world because I have included her and the kid as my dependents in my green card petition. I am scared for my life and career because she could go worse in the US and destroy all I have laboured for.

Please kindly advise me on what I can do to change her.

Sorry for the long write up and any grammatical errors.

You're very annoying and stupid....is the begging not too much ?

Baba40:
The system is tucked already... buying a new tyre, you might end up with refurbished, tokunbo could be worn-out. Just luck would make you get good tokunbo tyre better still go to company to buy your tyres but it's always relatively expensive

Alrt. Thanks

Baba40:
My car has this issue of swerving to the right recently when on top speed and I apply brake, the mechanic told me it was brake disc but he lied. After he serviced the brake disc problem still remain, then I went for alignment and wheel balancing same problem until I changed the front right tyre

I bought the four types about 4 months ago.....I will check them today

Presegs:
Yes, bad brake discs could cause what you are facing.

Was wheel balancing also carried out? That is, all the tyres removed and run through a machine to detect bends on the rims and tyres for possible correction or replacement.

This what the mechanic suggested too and I will be going to the wheel balance/alignment shop today. Thanks

Presegs:
Have you done or did you do professional wheel balancing and alignment using the machine?

If you did and you are still experiencing that, please let him check your car's brake discs for repair or better still, outright replacement if you can afford it.



I represent www.autosandcartalk.com

Break disc ?
OK. I will check

I went to alignment shop immediately the bow joint rod was change but after checking with his machine, he said the car alignment is intact.

That was because I went there first the moment the car started waving hand.

My car is having some issues.......at first it was one annoying noise from under the car any time the rear right wheel enters a gallop.....for two weeks, the mechanic could not find the fault......not until the car started waving hand on speed...
While checking the bowjoint, it was discovered that the rubber bushing of the rod has wear out, he replaced the rod, the noise stopped but the car started exhibiting another symptom........the steering wheel shakes vigorously sometimes when accelerating or breaking.

advanceDNA:
Mr Kazeem, mechanic is a fantastic profession... why you come dey vex say my plenty mechanics na Kazeem...

I no dey vex neither did I posited that auto technicians is not a fantastic profession. But the cliche in your statement sounds more like a conducted statistics.

advanceDNA:
You funny...
So you ddnt think change of location naturally comes with change of mechanic. At some point, I moved a lot

And at five different locations. The mechanics and vulcanizers are kazeem ?

advanceDNA:
Trust issue??
How did trust issue enter this mechanic/Kazeem issue

Jumping in between mechanics

advanceDNA:
I’ve met 4 Kazeem mechanics ...
2 rewires
1 panel beater
And of course 5 vulcanizers

Lol....only you ?

You have trust issue.

advanceDNA:
But u understand sulaimon the electrician??

No vex Kazeem

It’s just that a lot of mechanics and vulcanizers I've met happen to bear Kazeem...

..

How many precisely ?

advanceDNA:
Your Husband cannot even travel and call Kazeem the mechanic or sulaimon the electrician to go fix something in the house...... that’s how he will end up in za other room..

I don't understand kazeem the mechanic ?
Sulaimon electrician

Why not Bola, Tunde, Ayo, Harry, Jacob etc ?

Seun:
The main problem was that she didn't give him money. Why would you marry a guy if you dont trust him with money?

What she called emotional and verbal abuse sounds like they were fighting but she wanted to make herself the sole victim. The husband should have handled it better. He is not entitled to her money. But I think the lady contributed more to the failure of her marriage than she realizes.

She speaks of trying to get him to aspire higher which means she was not satisfied with his professional and financial status. So why marry him if his level was not high enough for you? She could have just given him money from time to time like most men who are richer than their wives tend to do.

I can't ever understand women rationale about a whole lot of things...

You earn more but can't make your home Progressive, peaceful and romantic but instead, hording your money and making him pay all bills with his lower income. By the way, she want him to double his hustle yet lending him money is a big issue ? Who still believes men and women are the same hence equalized both gender ?

He embraced his supposed lower income status and solicited you support his project, but you refused then claimed his ego is fragile........what a confused victim.

She want him to lead but first he must double cross her in earning.

In the same vein she claimed love is enough and far important than money.

The summary of this article is; I earn more, if you want to be the head, you must beat me in this earning competition.......,.I won't give you my money and if you ask me, the whole world will know.....and ontop of that I won't still part with my money.

The truth is, the husband was disappointed in her as a wife.......and as expected, disappointment often times begets resentment

The most interesting thing about the story is, the bride father knew this hence didn't support it but women cluelessness of reality make her embarked on this fruitless competition (marriage).


In addition. I believe the husband earning is not so low........he can even afford the marriage rites on her (his wife)...........it only comparison that make his earning low (she didn't state how much he earns anyways).........if the guy is comfortable while single, and can afford most basic thing of life........why pressure him to go break the bank to earn more or be at per with her........as a qualification to lead ?

abike12:
Emotions can cloud ones thinking and judgment, male or female. A functioning brain would have told you that.

But there is what is called emotional intelligent.

Your suggestion is a clue that she doesn't have sense....atleast the husband has shown his displeasure in the home but you still suggest he talk to her Anyway........meaning he is dealing with someone in nursery 2.

abike12:
Please I beg of you. Two wrongs don't make a right. From your account she is obviously wrong but don't let people on the internet make you feel justified to scatter things because of that. It's a very difficult time for people in nigeria right now financially and from what you have written you are trying your best. Have you tried talking to her when things are not heated? She should be able to feel your pain and appreciate your effort. More importantly, what does she do for a living? If she's working she needs to contribute to the running of the household. Just take time to breathe and calm down then you can revisit things.

People be talking as if female were created without a functioning brain.

Kobojunkie:
Telling stories in a bid to somehow elicit pity from the other party will not help resolve anything. If anything, it just cements you as a storyteller in your marriage and nothing else.

Marriages don't survive on storied, they are instead meant as a partnership and should be operated operated one.

This mentality you have of female is because you place yourself on a pedestal above females...where from where I sit, what you do here is no different from the nagging men typically accuse women of.

Rather than nag your wife, share responsibilities. Let her do her share of the work you do, her right as a partner in the marriage. A wife is not meant to sit as a painting or sculpture to be elevated and comforted...they are partners. And until you get that into your head, you will continue to grumble about doing what ever single mothers do in their own situations without as much as a whine or a sigh.

I laugh in ijebu.
Reality is far from female analogy. Thanku.
Fantasy of 50:50 responsibilities in marriage is delusional to say the least.

And by the way, his duty at work is not cast in stone.....it was casted in contract, agreement and appointment.

The world is misandry. And men propagate the act. End of quote.

Kobojunkie:
His duty? Where exactly is this "his duty" written down in stone?

This is the reason I said men should start telling their own story......because female belittle men effort and contributions.......even those effort that gave them advantage over others........female on average don't even know the value of things provided by men for their elevation and comfort.....they downplay everyone's effort except their...

Women should not monopolies the over estimation of their contribution and effort in family building to their favor.....

Kobojunkie:
That is an understanding based on a delusion, a result of the pedestal men put their ownselves and egoes on without realizing the devastating it inflicts on their paths.

What is wrong with a man babysitting his own child while his wife do some of the necessary running around?

If I can make sense of what you said.......during his period of babysitting, the wife will go and do his duty at work........I suppose It would be rotational babysitting roaster.