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[quote author=BABE! link=topic=866206.msg10151696#msg10151696 date=1328720225]I see you! You succeeded in getting my/the attention you've being frantically seeking.

Yes, I remember my promise. I know a promise is a debt. It will be very wicked of me to deny a masochist like you the arse-whopping you have requested and deserve.

This weekend! I promise you, Okoro Romeo. This weekend, you'll officially be my b1tch.

Save your energy. You'll surely need it. [/quote][color=#000030]LMAO! This "dude" is funny! SMH![/color]

xynerise:
dats his dead body.

[color=#000030]What's his dead body doing in the boot of a car filled with ladies and the driver? [/color]

Cuddler:


For Special Privilege 1 - Post a picture of you showing your beautiful curves or beautiful body, of course you are not getting Unclad we can still gauge you in your clothes. That is to say, just post your picture to be judged or put it on your profile and post the link here for us to access. Show some pix of yours, full bodied so we choose the most good looking or the one that looks like a gentleman or lady. Remember its you that wants to go on a date with him/her so get ready to work for that golden opportunity.


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xynerise:
yeah I know

[color=#000030]So what's his "body" doing in your boot? [/color]

Cuddlemii:
Would your car accommodate the whole bumpers? Killz's bumper inclusive!

[color=#000030]He said sexkillz. . . [/color]

Swit up:
hmmmm,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, lilly i meant really

[color=#000030]Yeah really! It's only natural dont you think?[/color]

Swit up:
cooooouuuuul.

[color=#000030]Mail me sometime. . . We need to catch up! [/color]

Temi 23:
OMG!!!! i love this. Nice advise dude

[color=#000030]Thanks man![/color]

Swit up:
KILLZ ARE HERE SERIOUSLY IF U ARE SHOW FACE ABEGI. I NEVER KNEW U'RE MA BRO IN SOM WAYANYWHO HAW U DEY NAW

[color=#000030]Yes i am. How are you? [/color]

xynerise:
@topic. Dyt, Iyatrustee, Annawhite, Cuddlemi will be at d back sit of my car. While Skydeep stays in front and sexkillz will manage d boot. . I will take them to amusement park this valentine.

[color=#000030]sexkillz is dead! [/color]

Outstrip:
It doesn't have anything to do with respect for his mother. Have you thought about the embarassment for the girl. we are not talking about the US here were people are not desperate to marry. Imagine someones mother finds a "wife" for him. He leads both mother and girl on. Both families start to call each other in laws and then he does not want the relationship anymore. I just think it is selfish. His mom is still a human being and should learn to understand that no is no. There is nothing diplomatic about hurting someone all the name of keeping mom happy.

[color=#000030]We are talking of finding a wife. Finding a wife does not translate in to "marrying" her! My mother can suggest a girl to me without letting the girl know! It is wrong if she goes and starts making marriage arrangements without due consultation. I think the bone of contention here is who should do the finding? Where selfishness comes in is if after she suggested her to me, i then promise marriage to the lady and arrangements kick starts. I am yet to ask her hand in marriage, i'm yet to be committed to her, it's just like the relationship i have with any other girl, it's just that "mumsy "suggested her. Like i said in my first comment, if i date her and really find nothing wrong, i could give it a go! If after trying and it wont work out, i find a fault or make one up, but my mom knows at least i tried. . .

BTW OP is yet to make up his mind. So momsy wants to handle the contract of "finding". . . It's very very easy for him to ask his mom to back off. But he wants her to "understand". If he'd wanted to damn the consequences, i dont think it's hard to say NO![/color]

onila:
fronting is in my blood

[color=#000030]-10,000. . . [/color]

Outstrip:
So he should lead the girl on just to please the mother. How about telling his mom to go play with her husband so he can find his own wife.

[color=#000030]It's obvious he has a deep sense of respect for his mom! He doesnt want to lose his mother's support over a wife issue and he doesnt want her to choose for him either! Telling her point blank and to the face "to go play with her husband" is not only rude, but insulting. Some guys are very close to their mothers and from personal experience, mothers do this out of love and are scared most times that they will lose their beloved son to a foreign lady, therefore, they endeavor to put up a diligent search of a wife for their son. A woman they - sometimes erroneously- believe is the "best" for their son. If you dont handle such matters with care, you'll lose your mothers affection and later in life, when you have a serious misunderstanding with the wife you chose, the wife you mother suggested comes to mind and you cant but wonder if you actually made a good choice of wife! You would have actually eliminated such feelings if in actuality, you checked out the girl mumsy suggested in the first place! Mind you, mothers too make a good choice, and they are by far, more experienced than us in matters of marriage. Even after marriage, we still go to them for advice, so i dont see it wrong if they suggest a wife for you. It's just that most times, we fit don go promise one kele say we go marry am, before momsy go scatter the runs. So the actual dilemma is how you will renege on a promise made, and your sense of pride. Most people believe they are old enough to make decisions. While that might be the case, i believe they should also be old enough to accept suggestions and weigh issues critically, from a different point of view. So in other to avoid "unnecessary" conflict, agree with her to later disagree!  [/color]

Hotie Tima:
male a virgin at 20


[size=35pt]big loser [/size]

Adetayo100:
A male virgin at 20 is a virgin forever

[color=#000030]Dumb Conjectures!

Could this trash be explained in details?[/color]

[color=#000030]Coincidental "bumping into someone" All the time? That's some sweet coincidence i must say . . . .[/color]

[color=#000030]^^^
She wont kill him! She's just insecure! Worse case scenario is that she'll minimize the obsession. . . It's obvious she cannot afford to lose him. Therefore, anything other than losing him, she's ready to accept. But, i'll suggest he ends it first then all else follows![/color]

[color=#000030]Who's phil? https://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/39.gif[/color]

cynthiafred67:
^^Hey handsome how u?

[color=#000030]I'm aiit! You? You are kinda scarce and not always there![/color]

[color=#000030]Hmm! Booqee na the hottest chic now o. Booqee, you have 2 young men interested in spoiling you silly on Val's day! sutoboy & DONkollione. Who haff you choseth? [/color]

[color=#000030]The right thing to do is to stay OFF! Look for someone else. Are you so ugly that no one else wants you? What kind of low self esteem is that? Your elder sister gave you a firsthand sisterly advice with reasons that she knows the kind of person he is, yet you stubbornly want to continue? Damn!

Ok, continue with the guy and learn the hard way! "Experience" is the best teacher afterall! Enjoy! [/color]

[quote author=Dr. Joe link=topic=865868.msg10149083#msg10149083 date=1328699809]Thanks for the replies, i really appreciate.
in addition, since i came back i stay with my people(family) so i can set up 1 or 2 biznes before getting a place of my own, but [size=17pt]could you believe this girl once asked me to get an apartment first. [/size]everything about her is going against my original plan.[/quote][color=#000030]LMAO! [/color]

[quote author=Dr. Joe link=topic=865868.msg10148676#msg10148676 date=1328696118]I have been living outside Nigeria for years though I used to return occasionally but now am back and I want to stay here invest the little I have, settle down, get married and build my own family. My headache is finding a wife, due to my absence here for long, I have no girl just last month my sister found one for me,[/quote][color=#000030]Mistake number 1. Being too hasty to settle down and build a family! That requires a lot of patience. You dont have a girl friend as a result of your absence, no that you are back, what's the excuse? The girl your sister will find or any girl at all that has a premeditated knowledge of your stay abroad will even give you more headache! You are her "maga" in the making. Concentrate on your other projects and you'll find a wife in due time. Desperation leads you no where, except of course to your own detriment! Avoid loopholes! [/color]
[quote author=Dr. Joe link=topic=865868.msg10148676#msg10148676 date=1328696118]since then we are in relationship but the girl is putting a lot of pressure on me to hasten the marriage process so she can settle down with me, I barely know her and I cannot tell if she is faking,
when I complain to her about some of her misbehaviors she simply replies me that  we are not married yet so I should do fast so she can do as I wish.[/quote][color=#000030]For the fact that she said "we are not married yet so I should do fast so she can do as I wish." tells me that she is[b] FAKING![/b] A lady that truly loves you has your own best interest at heart, even above her own. Pressurizing you to hasten the marriage process is bullshit, and is a very common statement from ladies who have lived useless lives and are looking for an innocent man to share the consequences of their abject lives with! Reject that motion she is setting, else that'll be Mistake number two! Dont even tell her you need to know her better before you marry her, because she has already shown you her real self. . . Free of charge! [/color]
[quote author=Dr. Joe link=topic=865868.msg10148676#msg10148676 date=1328696118]Just last night I called her and she said she was in a wake-keep with a friend, I didn’t like that so I asked her to go home because it’s late, she cuts the phone and stopped returning my calls.[/quote][color=#000030]Dropping the phone on anyone is rude, disrespectful, objectionable and -for someone you plan on getting married to, who is still thinking of the possibility of asking you to be his wife, i'll add- sensationally st[i]u[/i]pid! Even a faker would obey you and go home, just to make you believe she is obedient. But this presumptuous good-for-nothing already thinks she has won the "Battle of the new wife" and is making hasty and whipper-snappish decisions! WTF! Mistake number 3 is marrying a lady that doesnt give a sh[i]i[/i]t about your concerns for her safety. She just gave you a sneak peek preview of what she is gonna show you when you marry her and that my brother, is what? PEPPER!   She already told you "we are not married yet so I should do fast so[/color] [color=#000030][size=16pt]she can do as I wish.[/size][/color]"  [color=#000030]Do you really want to marry a lady who will do as she wishes? Personally i dont. What about you?[/color]
[quote author=Dr. Joe link=topic=865868.msg10148676#msg10148676 date=1328696118]This morning she sent countless of love sms asking for forgiveness and telling me how much she loves me. Am really confused, will she change with time or[/quote][color=#000030]Tell her i said she is what? A FOOL! Asking forgiveness in the morning? How about telling you where she was going to in the first place? How about a reasonable explanation as to why she needed to be out late at that hour? How about calling and asking for forgiveness for cutting the line on you, immediately it was cut? Even a faker would call and tell you "it's network!" But this girl is irrevocably DUMB! She knows nothing. . .SMH! What the hell does she know about love? Love is not selfish, Love is not proud, Love does NOT look out for it's own personal interests. Love is NOT "I LOVE YOU". Forgive her, and then do what? End the gaddamn relationship! She WONT change with time, she'll only get worse and then worst! [/color]
[quote author=Dr. Joe link=topic=865868.msg10148676#msg10148676 date=1328696118]Should I look for another person? Pls advise.[/quote][color=#000030]Yes please! Cosigned, stamped and sealed! End the relationship! You can avoid future mistakes right now, presently. Why should you purposefully fall into a hole to see how deep it is, and then start calling for help afterwards?

Keep it real bro. . . na wife you dey find o! Damn![/color]

egift:
Chia! See me dey visit Romance section. Anyway, I have 2 little issues I need suggestions on. Please endeavour to address them separately - Thanks.

1. My girl-friends are very possessive
I have few female friends I do chat with and are friendly too. But my problem is that they are very possessive. They act as if they own me or will soon own me. Sometimes people who know me will tell me how some of them brag about me (it sounds as if I am engaged to them or I promised). Me do make that mistake of promising marriage, when I do not plan to. But when I hear those, I really do not have problem with people being ambitious - but am very uncomfortable with it. They don't know each others and never met.

[color=#000030]Pay them no heed! It's their mouth so let the run it. They are possessive because every girl likes a guy who treats her right. If you have no intentions of marrying them, dont discuss the issue with them and above all make sure they dont feel "used". Nothing irks a lady more than the notion or feeling of being used and dumped. If you can avoid a lady making such statements about you, then kudos to you. They dont need to know each other. You are on a mission to find a "wife" and you dont need their permission! "Ladies" are everywhere, but a lady to call "wife" is rare and you have to search diligently for her. The day you find her, their possessive rights to you ends! Yes. Their bullshiting will stop![/color]

egift:
2. The quality I seek in a wife
All I want from the lady that will be my wife is one that will make me happy - just make me laugh, (her talk, actions, even how she carry herself). Love that will not cheer me up will be useless. But all the people that surround me are just interested in themselves - buy me this, get me that and none bothers about what I want or make effort to please me. Even the one am considering, don't also have that as her primary effort. Should I tell them what I want? Am trying to avoid being deceived with pretense. Or will I get my desire (dedicated effort to cheer me up at all times) when I marry or hit great wealth?

[color=#000030]Please maintain your nature. I like when you said you dont want to be deceived by pretense. There's a very high probability and also possibility of them becoming sweet and acting all nice to you if you make your intentions pinpointed! A wise person sees calamity and conceals himself, so thinking she'll change when you marry or hit great wealth would not be so wise because, you already know who they are and what they are capable of. Great disappointment comes from thinking a stone will turn into a loaf of bread! That lady is out there, you just have to keep searching. Maturity is an essential quality of any one hoping to get married, male and female alike. If they are not matured to your expectations, DONT! A wife makes a home from the house you gave to her. A wife is not interested in herself alone. Any lady that is not interested in pleasing or making happy a guy she calls her boyfriend, will do worse as a wife! Your reasoning is ok. Just dont get despaired so quickly. The world we live in has been turned on it's head. Good "things" are rare and hard to find, but as always, the patient dog eats the fattest bone! [/color]

[quote author=doe-eyed link=topic=865547.msg10146169#msg10146169 date=1328656036]@ Killz,
Quite the diplomat there.
And everyone remains happy too

, cept the unwanted chick I suppose.[/quote][color=#000030]Yeah! When dealing with a mother who is so strict pertaining marriage, you have to be diplomatic, else like the OP said, "you will turn the family into party of PDP and AC matter".

Now this is when it gets more interesting. Since it's the mother that brought the lady you eventually rejected, the onus lies on her to appease the lady! By the time she must have appeased 1, 2 or 3 ladies who you found fault(s) with, she'll understand and leave you to make your decision. When deciding on a lady to marry though, make sure it is a lady that has deep rooted respect for your mother. Else, if you renege on the agreement you had with your mother to get a wife who respects her, i'm sorry to say that even CPC will join the ensuing fracas! [/color]

[color=#000030]My chairman, state of finances is subjective o! A man who got married 5 years ago and a man who got married last month will surely give you conflicting responses and ideas! An idea that never fails is : Plan ahead! If you fail to plan, you have incontrovertibly planned to fail! No matter what your state of finance is, cut your coat according to your size. Dont spend to impress, as you alone will suffer the consequences even after receiving cheers and accolades from people who attended your gathering! What ever it is that takes care of you on a monthly basis, add another 120% to it and that should give you an idea of what to expect. Change is constant. Economic situations are deteriorating. Align and position yourself, your pockets, and your bank account(s) to change accordingly. . . IMHO![/color]

swtdarling:
@killz,u are becoming predictable

[color=#000030]At least, you can predict me where most cannot. . . +100[/color]

[color=#000030]There's no juju a very sound neat slap to the face cannot cure. . . I dont believe it's juju by the way. Some people can just be st[i]u[/i]pid at times![/color]

[color=#000030]You are just a discombobulated buffoon who needs urgent medical attention and should be treated with alacrity![/color]

marcar:
Badooooooooooooooo

[color=#000030]No. More like Dumb El Stupido! Why did he move out of the area if he was so smart? [/color]

If I married a nigerian this thing would not work on me!! I don't believe in superstitions and charms and whatever else people do in darkness.
It's all witchcraft!

[color=#000030]Not all Nigerian men go to the devil for protection. And that you dont believe in it doesnt mean it doesnt happen! Witchcraft exists [/color]

[color=#000030]He tried to ask you out = +100
You fronted = -150
Weeks later you bump into him = +100
You now bump into him everytime = -500
You are still fronting by keeping mute = -1000
For thinking Bumping into someone frequently = LOVE. . . -10,000


This is dikwaciously risky in a serious rambunctious way![/color]