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On the long-courtship issue, i think its good and its bad, its good, you get to know what you really want out of each other, its bad, too much of familiarity.

But cmon, 8-years, what were you waiting for. By now, Junior should have been like 4years old. He should even have had a younger brother / sister.

Now, that both of you are age-mates, 30s, thats serious,

im not a medical doctor, but if I were you, yes, i would surely prefer someone like 5years younger than I am, if time were not to be by my side,

its true and not always true, but just a little exceptions tho, that women might have hardships with child-bearing/rearing especially for first timers when they reach their 30s level, and considering the short # of years she has before menopause, you might have to really make the babies like one after the other to save time, i hope this is not what is on your mind.

if you really love her, go for it and marry her. Even if you breakup with her after 8years, the truth is you wont be able to get her out of your mind, if you succeed in getting her out of your head and your emotions. You would end up comparing her with the next lady that comes along.

so what should you do? have you prayed? what did God tell you?

Somebody who is morally sound and Heaven conscious wont seek to rule this country.

Its not worth it, to waste eternity for the mundane.

Yes, they are OBJs Dog.

Actions prove louder than words, at least from all they've done so far.

@Filch

@ Kimba

Lets take the 419 scum as being the ants. If that was the case I would go to the nest and exterminate them all!

Thats where you missed it. You would end up looking for how many nests of ants in your backyard? How many of them do you want to find out. And after you succeed exterminating all the nests in your backyard, how about those in your neighbors backyard who might not even know there is a nest-in-reality or a nest-in-making at the backyard of his house. How about the nests in your neighborhood that you have no clue about.

Its plain Logic and you just missed it.

Yes, the 419scums are the ants. But if I were you, I'll remove the Sugar on my table, at least before looking for nests, coz as long as theres sugar somewhere open and free for all, the ants will keep coming, and their future route will differ from the route they find to my table and sugar jar today. Thats where the solution to the problem should begin.

Thanks for those pictures. Now, @Filch, @Jakumo, if you come report to me that you got scammed by the likes of people in the pictures posted above, do you expect me to take you guys as serious people? dont you think yourselves might be labelled as suspects?

It is just a very thin line that divides Ignorance and Stupidity.

@Filch, you said

One thing is for sure. many of the scammers are not very bright!

THe way these guys look, you would note that they havent gotten an ounce of IQ because if they did, their head should have informed them that such pictures with such inscriptiions should have something fishy about it. Or would you admit that such people of a mean estate are wiser/smarter than you are? if so, then I think you have got a problem and your problem might be greater than theirs. If someone who "isnt bright" outsmarts the bright/averagely bright, dont you think there is a problem somewhere?

Its like this: if you see a fool on the street, and you sit and begin to jist and laugh with such, dont you think people passing by would conclude that 2-fools have arrived at the corner of the street?

@Jakumo

Carly.1958 sorry to hear of your misfortune in love, but the 419 apologist and spokesman here is neither Reverend nor Kazey but Kimba who just loves the way those scumbuckets ruin lives, and is not afraid to say so

@Filch

There can be no other explanation other than Kimba is or was actively involved in 419 himself

@Filch, @Jakumo
Can you please pinpoint where exactly, since the beginning of this thread, that I have encouraged, promoted/said that 419 scammers are doing something good?

The whole world knows Nigeria plus 419 is a problem. It has been and its affecting everybody. How do we solve it. Is it by killing all the scammers? where are they? How many US Marines can pick out the scammers in Nigeria. Where is the govt to eradicate them? will some of them ever be arrested? where are the Nigerian citizens to cooperate and pick out all the scammers in their neighborhood? with the advancements in technology, wont they get smarter too? The internet is basically virtual reality, its where impossibilities become possible. How do we go around it and nail the person sitting behind the PC at the moment he gets there to perpetrate evil. He could be in your backyard and yet appear to you as being far away.

There is a problem, what is, who is, where is the solution?

Now guys, get this straight: rather than attacking Kimba - the person, because you cant answer his questions, because you dont share the same view as his, why not get your references out, put your biases aside and discuss issues on a reasonable educated level. Ive read your posts here and there, on various threads, and you guys are like secondary school children who begin to abuse themselves and one-anothers parents once they disagree that 1+1 wont always equal to 2. Im not bothered by your attacks, neither would I reply you foul-words for foul-words. Im more than that. Besides its an indication of immaturity on your part. Usually, people cant communicate better than the tenses they use in writing. so im not surprised.

so why is everybody condemning China?

China is the next super-power. Not even America can beat that.
If you are not doing business with China, you are out of Business.

have you guys driven out all the Chinese flocking into Nigeria everyday.

And how many people graduates from all over the world are looking for Jobs in China. then all of you open mouth dey yab China. Where is all the electronics in Ikeja coming from, no be China, Taiwan, Korea etc,

@Silans
Abeg, if the door of China opens for you, go there. You wont regret it. Yes, you'll have to learn the language and it will end up as a plus for you. You might end up in a Chinese conglomerate finding a place in Africa. Then, you'll be a big boy.

Do you know that as an English teacher in China(alone), you can earn more than some graduates do in Nigeria? That is prime-time information.

Are you an Igbo speaking man? If you are, abeg go China. Igbos full China, yanfu yanfu. Theres a small Ikeja community in Beijing.

besides, what course are you planning to study. If you are talking Engineering(Electrical engineering, electronics, industrial, mechanical etc), then give it a go in China. You would have the opportunity to work with hard-core engineering companies even while you are a student. In Canada, you might be lucky to be working, jobs outside your area of study, but in China, if you are good, i mean  real good, you could get quality profession-related work experience even while still a student. Honkong could be another London to you. Are you good in Soccer? i mean you have got the legs? abeg, go China,

Hit me up on my mail for more info if you wanna.

@poster

After having "Expected Sex(protected, unprotected, hidden or open, whateva)", then you begin talking about "Unexpected Pregnancy".

As long as Rape is not in the picture. There is nothing like Unexpected Pregnancy.
Its all a matter of responsibility.

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Even those who are married, after like 7kids, husband and wife still claim they werent "expecting" the 8th child. im like duh!

the world will really be a better place if women learn to speak up on issues in the society. Worse is that some women were brought up to think and behave like they are some sort of commodity. I really wonder why such women when they grow up would still rear up their kids in the same way they were brot up.

good decision mamaput. Let your kids learn to speak, and speak until they are heard.

my friends are very far away, thats the problem.

sorry o,

May Gods Grace be your strength.

heres a solution:

I don't snore - well, no one has told me I do, but apparently 15 million Brits do and it causes no end of troubled relationships. How do you stop it? Well, a company called Magnetic Therapy claims their Snore Free gadget will put an end to the nightly noise.

The company cites clinical studies showing that when tiny magnets are implanted into the nose, the repelling action of the magnets keeps the airways open. Which is how the Snore Free works. It's a small plastic ring fitted with two rare earth magnets, which is attached to the nose during sleep. The Snore Free apparently "magnetically stimulates the sensory nerves of the nose", which opens the nasal passage and prevents snoring.

I'm naturally sceptical and to be honest, still not convinced it does actually work. But it's only £7, so if you're desperate, it might be worth making yourself look slightly ridiculous in your nose ring to keep the peace in the bedroom

http://www.magnetictherapy.co.uk/mcp/THERAPY_MAGNETS.html

@Mr. Filch
Ok, since you assume I have been sniffing something, kindly tell me what ive been sniffing?

Its like this: If you Mr. Filch could be duped by a mugu, then you are worse than a mugu.

and pls dont take things too personal.
I wont reply you, foul-language for foul-language. Thats not the way I was trained.

@Ashiwaju

No Doubt, you aint one of the yahoo boys but i still don't believe all the westerners are greedy, they are just soft minded and they are passionate. Take it or leave it. Not all the so called maga is worth being dupped.

Tell me something, would you be a maga for donating to a begger on the street? or would you be a mugu for paying thigt in the church? please and please not all these people are greedy. Some are just God fearing and they really want to help.

So the Nigerians that have been duped are also so soft-hearted, as the white man who doesnt know when to distinguish between a reality and a fake?

I wont be a maga for donating to a beggar on the street. Seriously, I prefer to buy them the food they can eat or give them a shirt or two of mine, or buy new stuffs for them, but most often, i dont give beggars money. I definitely know that if they had their way, they wont be begging. The reason, especially in Nigeria, you know some of them are actually in full time begging-employement. Many of those who close their eyes on the street are not actually blind, ive verified a lot oh, besides, whats the use of giving money to a beggar who would use it to go and smoke and kill himself/herself?

Yes, a whole lot of peeps are God fearing and really want to help, but you know God doesnt endorse ignorance. God does not encourage aiding and abetting. Even if we might pity them and "have mercy", maybe God might be looking down and saying "I expected you to be more reasonable than that". And to the actual scammers, their day of reckoning will soon arrive.

@Jakumo

Our man Kimba would make an excellent third-world perennial loser politician as he hunts and pecks intently at his keyboard to fill endless pages dense with irrelevant anecdotes, meandering pointless asides and broken-record rehashes of stale falsehood, demonstrating that he doggedly aspires, despite his abysmal and unintentionally humorous communication skills, to live up to that old soap-box speech-writer's maxim : " If you can't dazzle them with brilliance, at least try to baffle them with bullshit ".

Too many adjectives and your sentence is too long. Anyway, if you thought I was not making a point, well, re-read my posts again, and get the biases out of your head.

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Let me ask all of you a question:
Q) A lot of ants eating sugar off the sugar jar, causing a nuisance on the table. How would you choose to solve the problem.
shoot,

@comchi

hhmmm, you mean your guy told you all those lies? gbese repete, The truth is many people tell lies, boys/girls during relationships, which shouldnt be the case.

Just as was said before, the guy was really trying to impress you / measure up. Perhaps he saw you as highly responsible - maybe due to your personal background/whatever info about yourself that you shared with him, maybe he really couldnt measure up if he told you the truth at the first; perhaps you projected yourself as a girl expecting much from a guy, as in you held him in high-regard and he saw the gleam from your eyes that you valued him a lot, and he didnt want to let you down,

I would ask: what warranted his telling you all the truths you are just finding out?

If that you found out some of these truth and decided to confront him about it and he was forced to open up, ok, he lied, you might find it in your heart to give him another chance. If not, let him go.

But if he just calls you and starts making these revelations, then maybe he feels its time to come out straight and start on a new level. Perhaps he truly loves you and wouldnt want to continue in hide and seek anymore.

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I have a story of a girl who lied to her guy that her senior sister was her mom, and actually begged her senior sister to play along, and her senior sister played it well. It so happens that the guys mom was young, in her 40s while the girls mom was a lot way older than the guys mom, with a history of illnesses, so the girl wants to put up a front, that you know, even on the family level, we match kinda ,

You can make/condition yourself to Like somebody, but you cant make/condition yourself to Love somebody.

Love is a Miracle that happens between two souls that they begin to realize they are bound together.

'Like' could be a temporary feeling maybe because of something you find unique, funny, interesting about another person. Like could develop into Love.

1) I presume you had a boyfriend before, since you say "new boyfriend", so definitely there is an "old boyfriend" somewhere wishing "it would work out between you and him again".
Anyway, sorry for him. Forget him.

Ok, what and what did you ask your former boyfriend, how did you two get along, before he was promoted to the "boyfriend" level and at least till he became the "old" guy.

2) They say the way to a guys heart is thru his stomach, so you might ask him what he ate last night, in the morning, or what he likes to eat,
- ask him his opinions about any issues that bother your mind,

hhmmm

many successful sisters who dont want to get married coz the success has gotten into their head. Its like this: they want things to be extra perfect, so that and just in case they finally agree to marry somebody, at least if the relationship doesnt work out, they could have something to fall back on,

a lot of successful brodas who decide not to get married too, so maybe birds of the same feather should find themselves and begin to flock together.

Definitely its wrong for a guy to hit his girl, but more,

girls who stay in such relationships themselves have a more serious problem.

hey, hey, when did this nonsense start?

its not about slim girls reigning or whateva,

was there a time when fat girls reigned?

but come to think of it, a lot of girls have gone past the "slim" level, they are now "Lepa", i mean "Lepa to the max". I saw one the other day and I wondered if she was sick or something, but she was with a group of her friends,

@goodguy

sshhhhhh,,,

its when you praise those PHCN people that they remember to cut off the power.
But its all good, there was NEPA on Democracy day,
is that what we call PHCN democacy?

By KIM GAMEL, Associated Press Writer
53 minutes ago



BAGHDAD, Iraq - An Iraqi tennis coach and two of his players were shot to death this week in Baghdad because they were wearing shorts, authorities said Saturday, reporting the latest in a series of recent attacks attributed to Islamic extremists.

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A U.S. Marine AH-1 Cobra helicopter, meanwhile, crashed Saturday and its two crew members were missing in Anbar province, a volatile area west of the capital where insurgents are active. Hostile fire was not suspected as the cause of the crash, the U.S. military said.

In the Baghdad incident, gunmen stopped a car carrying the Sunni Arab coach and two Shiite players, asked them to step out and then shot them, said Manham Kubba secretary-general of the Iraqi Tennis Union.

Extremists had distributed leaflets warning people in the mostly Sunni neighborhoods of Saidiyah and Ghazaliyah warning people not to wear shorts, police said.

"Wearing shorts by youth are prohibited because it violates the principals of Islamic religion when showing forbidden parts of the body. Also women should wear the veil," the leaflets said.

No one claimed responsibility for the slayings, which come amid worries that Islamic extremism is spreading in the war-torn country.

Sunni cleric Eid al-Zoubayi denounced the attack.

"Islamic religion is an easy religion and it allows wearing sport shorts as long as they don't show the forbidden parts of the body, so the acts that are targeting the sport are criminal," he said.

It was the second incident involving athletes in just over a week. Fifteen members of a taekwondo team were kidnapped in western     Iraq while driving to a training camp in neighboring Jordan on May 17.

More than 30 people were killed in attacks across Iraq on Saturday, including four who died when a bomb in a parked car exploded near a busy bus station in southern Baghdad. Seven people also were wounded in the blast, which bloodied passers-by and damaged a local restaurant.

The Marine helicopter went down while on a maintenance test flight and search and rescue efforts were under way for the missing crew members, the U.S. command said in a statement.

"We are using all the resources available to find our missing comrades," said a Marine spokesman, Lt. Col. Bryan Salas.

The U.S. military also reported that a Marine was killed Friday by "enemy action" in Anbar province. The death raised to at least 2,466 the number of U.S. military personnel who have died since the Iraq war started in March 2003, according to an Associated Press count.

Iraqi politicians continued to bicker over candidates for the key defense and interior ministry posts, leaving Prime Minister Nouri al-Maliki's government incomplete a week after it assumed office.

"We hope the agreement will be reached within two or three days," Sunni politician Adnan al-Dulaimi told reporters. "I think that to linger and take some time in choosing the ministers is better than rushing into it."

Filling the two posts is a contentious matter, especially after the recent surge in sectarian violence.

Political parties have agreed that a Sunni will head the Defense Ministry, which controls the army, and a Shiite will run the Interior Ministry, which oversees police forces. But they are struggling to find a consensus on who should get the jobs.

A senior Iranian official visited Iraq's Shiite holy cities of Karbala and Najaf, where he met with Shiite spiritual leader Grand Ayatollah Ali al-Sistani and radical anti-U.S. cleric Muqtada al-Sadr.

Foreign Minister Manouchehr Mottaki, who was wrapping up the second high-level visit by an Iranian delegation since the ouster of     Saddam Hussein three years ago, praised al-Sistani for his efforts to maintain unity in Iraq amid rising sectarian tensions.

Mottaki's trip to the southern cities after meeting with Iraqi leaders in Baghdad on Friday highlighted the warming ties between the two countries, both of which have Shiite majorities. Saddam's regime was dominated by Sunnis, and Iraqi Shiites were repressed during his reign.

Also Saturday, a senior U.S. military official said coalition forces could begin transferring security control over some Iraqi provinces to civilian authorities and police by the end of summer, but Baghdad would not be handed over before the end of the year.

The military official, who spoke on condition of anonymity because of the sensitivity of the issue, estimated that provisional control could be handed over to local governors in the relatively peaceful provinces of Najaf, Karbala and Babil by the fall.

In other developments Saturday, according to police and hospital officials:

• Two roadside bombings in Baghdad killed four policemen and wounded five people.

• In four separate shootings in the capital, gunmen killed a garden store owner; a grocer; a taxi driver and his son; and the owner of a glass store.

• Gunmen and Iraqi soldiers fought at a checkpoint west of Baghdad, killing a teacher caught in the crossfire.

• Attackers ambushed the convoy of the office manager of the Diyala police chief south of Baqouba, wounding the colonel and killing five of his guards.

• A former Iraqi army colonel and his nephew also were fatally shot near Baqouba.

• In Baqouba, drive-by shooters killed four policemen and one civilian, while masked gunmen killed four workers and wounded another at a metalworking shop.

• A policeman was shot to death and two officers were wounded north of Tikrit.

• Gunmen stopped a minibus carrying college students from Mosul, killing one of the students.

• A man suspected of belonging to Saddam's former Fedayeen militia was slain west of Mosul.

• The body of a man who had been shot in the chest was found floating in the Euphrates river near Hillah.


http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20060528/ap_on_re_mi_ea/iraq

hey, hey hey,

thats wonderful news,

please, where is Afeni and Jagunlabi and Mr. Filch to tell us the real theory behind this new findings,

im waiting

I had a classmate who actually had thought that Africa was made up of 4-countries: South Africa, North Africa, East Africa and West Africa, so when i had said, 'im from Nigeria', he goes, is that near Hawaii?

im like, duh

dont worry, I educated him with all the venom of the Georgraphy i had learnt in Sec. Schl.

@Charlisco,

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@LadyB
so when a 15 years old girl cannot control her sexual emotion. marriage is the solution. And that would prevent her from committing a sin.


yes that is the solution
Her husband will be using condem to Zap her, so that he does not get pregenant, but that aspect of sexual sin will no longer be committed by the girl in question

If it was Mr. Filch that said that, i wont be surprised, but sir, which one is this sexual sin. And what kind of demon jumps on a 15year old that she cant control herself. And the husband of this uncontrollable-15year old? is he controllable too? or both of them have the same problem.

Better still advice her to keep her legs closed. She could go for spiritual help, if the case gets out of hand,
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My brother told me that Children born by ladies between 18-21 usually have a high IQ, and that the IQ level actually decreases the older the woman is. Its not absolute though, but its a high probability.

Maternal as in, like what Hotstepper said, answering to their mother, children bearing their mother's surnname, and her being considered as the kinda root in the family.

or is it not "Maternal" that such societies are called?

Ghana is a Maternal society.

Ive been there a couple of times and thats the only thing that pisses me off.

many people are usually the architect of their own misfortunes. What you believe usually materializes in your life and person. Its not a Christian or non-Christian idea. There are people that its only evil thoughts that are revolving in their brains. There are others that think good things, and good things come their way.

Personally, ive learnt to think positively.

Your thought pattern will always affect you whether you like it or not.

anyway, now that uve arrived back in Nnewi?, all things can and will begin to unfold, abi 

but really, i dont think it will be that easy for a lady to go back to Nija "and begin" to look for a man, except you know him before, or perhaps, hes one of the faithfuls whose going back to re-settle, or u might have to wait a couple of years so you could fit-in, u know

hello Prophet,

I would like to assist you with some other info that may be in your interest. There is another Prophet on Nairaland. His name is Mr. Filch, aka Reverend. He sees so many things wrong with Nigeria, just as I suppose you see it.

Perhaps the two of you could meet and discuss ways in which we as NLs can move this nation forward.
Just search through the other threads and maybe you would see his nickname,

cheers
Kimba