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Kimoni:
Day 11 done. Was going to say the same thing about press-ups
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Day 12 done

hatux:
They gave her laptop.... Does she needs that.... To give just one user #500 Naira airtime na wahala.... Mt chew

naijababe:
Day 14 done, I am moving to level 2 in 6 days and mehn dem pressups are still a killer, apart from that every thing else is almost a walk a in the park

Day 11 done. Was going to say the same thing about press-ups

cococandy:
By the way I think I saw somewhere in her post where she said she gave some leftover food to the nanny to give the dude because he said he was broke at the moment.

If that's true, I don't see the crime in that.

You know, I have been restraining myself a lot from speaking further on this issue out of respect for the couple. But I don't understand why people are deliberately ignoring a significant part of what the lady has said or gone through. The hubby conveniently twisted the above to "cooking for him" and peeps have continued to drag her over this despite her explanation.

These guys were all so young, yet they have refused to leave till today

5minsmadness:
Aisha?

naijababe:
I won't lie, for coconut water, it does. £3 for omi agbon? Hian!!!

True that! Men hardly do Ijebu though

rezzy:
I had the mind of quitting because of the complains and everyday threat of closing down the creche.

We were told not to go to the creche except the nannies call us and since my baby doesn't suck BM, I won't be called. Sometimes, he will cry to the extent that I will be confused in the class. [once my baby opens his mouth to cry, they will force him to eat and I have told them several times that he cries if he wants to sleep and sometimes he just wants to be carried]

So last month, Head teacher gave me query, I replied. Some hours later, she brought suspension letter for 2 weeks. Thank God it was the beginning of a new month, I decided to sack myself.

Thanks

Waoh! Your baby is beautiful

5minsmadness:

But I like this moniker
And you should never judge a book by its cover!

Who are you anyway? have been trying to guess, you are definitely not new to nairaland.

Com'on it's obvious naa

naijababe:
Me I lazy pass you o but poun meta fun omi agbon? I just nor fit it just feels so wrong

Your ijebu come pass me and Damiso own oo

damiso:
I had an injury today o (on top all jullians shouting) and it was not from the work out.

I forgot i placed my weights behind me after the first set of strength workouts and as I was doing the second set of jumping jacks I stepped on one and twisted my ankle you should have heard my yelp of pain.. I have placed ice packs on it and seriously hoping and praying that it does not get worse tomorrow .

So that was the end of my day 14 thankfully I had a half day at work today so I had earlier done some brisk walking and jogging before picking the kids. Gosh how silly could I have been like naijababe said I am hopeless

Ladies please be careful

Awwww Damiso Sowwyy

Like naijababe said, pls take it easy henceforth.

And holla @ moi if you need me to take up your exercises from tomorrow

Chillis:
It not by shouting day 10 dusted.
show us the weight too by snapping photo on the scale.
who knows, maybe you dey do only 4mins before and end of video

Pls we need evidence and sweat too.

Chilli you no serious ooo

But I showed everybody evidence na? Na me say make you go vacation

5minsmadness:
Pm me if it's a serious problem for you. We can attempt to correct it surgically.

Do not use alum. Vaginal atresia can result and it's very hard to treat.
P. S kindly ignore the title of my moniker. I penned it for fun.

You see ur life outside? I must confess I have also never taken you serious because of ur moniker, don't blame me

Day 10 down...if I don't keep the records here, I'm sure I'll be jumping the days, so pls allow me

UmmTwins2:
@Kimoni 10x my sis. I'm grateful for ur prompt response. NO i'm nt carrying multiple. NO vaginal exam was done even as i emphasised dt I wanted to be sure I wasnt dilating or anything. As for d braxton hicks, d doc didnt confirm dt to me, jst told me it was preterm contractns. I came to d conclusion dt it ws braxton hicks when I started aving ds crampy feeling always accompanied wt a bulge moving in my lower abdomen on n off then dt I even thot was baby moving until it stopped for awhile n I started panicking so I made research online n ask questns wch led to my conclusion dt its braxton hicks (FTM) atimes my tummy jst gets hard like its going to tear bt other times I'll see my uterus actually balling up n makes me crampy wch is why I panick when it keeps happening vry close together. I ONLY take medicatns when vry vry necessary n when I'm doubly sure too since av been pregnant. As ftm its hard knowing wch aches/pains r normal n wch shld warrant worry. 10x so much my sis, I appreciate ur help

Pls continue watching the movements and if it is really getting closer together, then maybe you should specifically request for a vaginal exam otherwise, I see nothing to fear in these movements you have just described. I suspect your pikin just like to dey play football well well

UmmTwins2:
Congrats! to all d new moms, may God keep n bless ur LOs n strengthen u for d vigilante ahead. May God grant d rest swift n easy delivery inshaAllaah, nothing but beautiful birth stories on ds thread by God's grace. Ameen. August mamas, I believe u'r warming up already, may God make it easy for u all n d rest of us waiting on d bench too. Ameen. Madam shiller, how body? May God see us all thru. Mamas pls I NEED UR URGENT ASSISTANCE. I'm only in my 25th week but i've been getting braxton hicks contractions on n off since abt 15wks n I'm a FTM. It's gotten more frequent n kinda stronger recently dt I'm really scared n worried so my doc gave me SALBUTAMOL tablets to be taken twice daily for 7days bt I'm wary(afraid actually) of taking it cos I read it has serious side effects wch I dn't rily understand. Mamas abeg HELP o, what's ur experience wt salbutamol? Or any info abt it? Is it safe n wl it help my situation of fear of premature labour? Shld I take it? Or any other remedies for ds situatn? Snr mamas lovinam, tchwinnie, modath, kaffy4bill, kimoni, evrybody pls come o, its urgent n I'm scared to my wits. May God see us all thru n nt let our joy be cut short. Ameen. 10x n God bless mamas as I await ur assistance

My dear, are you having twins? Was there any vaginal examination done before this drug was recommended? Are you having any form of discharge?

I wouldn't worry jsut because my braxton hicks are getting stronger as long as they eventually go away which means I am not falling into premature abour.

I personally hate to take drugs when I am pregnant except if there is a very dire and urgent need for it. I have never heard or taken this drug and I wouldn't know if there is any other reason why your doctor recommend it for you but if it's just Braxton hicks? It leaves me wondering.

Pls read the link below to help you better decide if you really need to use any drug with its significant side effects just for Braxton hicks.

http://www.babycentre.co.uk/braxton-hicks-contractions

So sweeet

Treese post :
Every woman loves a romantic guy, show me a woman who puts her husband's dp up ALL the time I would show u a woman is married to a man that makes her smile all the time. My husband isn't the romantic kind of guy but I don't think that's very true: Cos I rem 2yrs back he had flowers delivered to me far away in the United states and he was in naija. How he did I don't know, but it felt like a proposal, cos I didn't experience d "go on ur kneels will u marry me ish with him". I did a survey with my married friends on fb,instagram, and bb. And I see d way wives are bin celebrated by their husbands... so I ask myself, am I doing something wrong as a wife, or is my husband not just a happy man. I tried to talk with him. Cos he doesn't like to communicate much with me it didn't do much impact. I tried to develop sending romantic messgaes to him. It didn't work. I rem few days back, I sent him a message, I quote "is it okay to be crazy in love with you" and his response "lol, as long as u tread with care and caution cos someone like me if u love me to much it will make me care less and love you less... Till date that response is still my most embarrassing textmessage from him, when am not a girlfriend. I was thinking and planning we change environment, probably go out without d kids. But I know who am married to d I dea might even irritate him.
I can't touch his phones without his permission; he can strangle my neck for that reason. And if u ask him he says because I vowed never to touch his phone again he is saving my life from bin destroyed. Lmao.
I don't think he is happy, when he is angry with or we arguing over an issue u hear him say things like I should not av taken d child from u when u claimed u were pregnant: yes I got pregnant out of wedlock but I didn't force him to. So why so much hate...
I see d love in vogue and I ask myself where I av gone wrong that young couples like us av such boring marriage.
I have my weakness, I do in fact I av a lot, but if there is sincere love it can fix it in my opinion. I don't think it's about my weakness. I think there is more. I don't think there is any one else either...
When am down he doesn't notice, if I av something on my mind and I try to wear d mood.. am on my own. I understand he is so engrossed with work but still. Dear hubby only u know wat goes on in ur mind. Would av preferred better options. I have seen u defend ur mum on matters BTW us and I don't think u can ever defend me like that. I have seen u care for some of ur female friends nd Dat treatment is far from us. I one day asked my hubby y he doesn't check me out nd tell me wen I look good nd i recieve the comments from differebt men outside, he said it's normal. He said men admire other women nd might not admire their own wives. So much to say, this is just very little of how I feel.
We had an argument yesterday dat involved me mentioning my mum law before I knew it he reported me to my sister in law telling her everything I said. Till now I haven't recovered from d textmessage she sent. He reallt made me miss my late mum. I know I shouldn't av probably talked about his mum. But I tot couples av each other's back.
We av two lovely kids from this marriage. But if he doesn't love me anymore, maybe he never did.. i rem him telling me on our wedding day that i musnt give him problems oo, he said ot like twice and i rem telling him not to worry all will be well. But do men say that on their their wife on their weddind day? is it adviceable to continue, I don't encourage divorce but wat if it will mk him happy. I can't tell.. I love him very much but he doesn't love me Like I do nd he doesn't want me to push it, it irritates him like he said, And I don't want to force it.I want him to be happy, I can't ask him cos he doesn't like communicating with me, it doesn't always go down fine majority of the time. He doesn't believe in marriage counselor or shrink........ so!! "Very confused state of mind"

Treese, pls let me apologize for quoting you on this thread.

Buka, all the issues you highlighted above are mere symptoms, the real issue persist.

The bolded is the main issue in my opinion. Freelance is feeling trapped in this marriage and he doesn't seem to love his wife anymore or maybe he never did like her gutfeel has rightly told her. When you are being forced to live with someone you don't love, everything the person does will irritate you, laughing or smiling with the person becomes an impossible task. I am only wondering why it took him several months and after the birth of 2 kids for him to realize he is not with the right person. Maybe he actually thought the love would grow sha.

I don't even know how to advise them cuz where there is no love in one partner, where do you start dishing your advice from?

Their issue reminds me of Prince Charles and Lady Di. I only pray they don't end up divorced like the royal couple.

rezzy:
I believe all of these stories.

My baby must not see any paper or tissue including books ,because he is gonna tear, chew and swallow it straightway.

My hubby warned me last week that I should be careful that my baby can swallow remote control battery. Friday night, I saw the remote without battery, Jesus, I started looking for the batteries like a mad woman. When I saw it, my baby has used his teeth to compress one of the batteries. I jejely rushed to hide the battery before I go dey hear, "I will arrest you if any thing happens to this baby"

naijababe:
I give up

naijababe:
Exactly! So where is the overhype? And at bolded, dare I say pulled a similar feat against the best clay court player even if he did not go on to win the tourney.

Kimoni, bigger yimu at you. You think say na beans to be the leader of the commonwealth?

We are saying the same thing na

Past glory things...leader of commonwealth see title o

naijababe:
In my 'ojopagogo' voice .............nansense!!!

The British press are no different from their European counterparts, if you paid attention to the Spanish press during Raul (Real Madrid's) hey days you will vomit constantly everytime his name is mentioned. Same for the Dutch, mehn !!! Those ones and their oranje noises during footie tournaments especially talking about Mr Glass ( RVP)!

#yimu

British press are the worst of the lot...no controversy in that.

Before the last World Cup, you would think they already won the cup. Shiooorrrr

#UKlivingonpastglory

TV01:
Ha, ha - the Scots stoutly defending their own

I have to go with NaijaBabe here. Murray is not overhyped. Nobody is placing him up with Fed, Novak or Rafa - indeed, few male players of any era could compete with those 3 in their pomp. And Fed is arguably the best ever.

Having said that, Murray is at worst par with Wawrinka in the immediate chasing pack - and Wawrinka joined him there, not the other way around. Murray has won 2 of the 4 GS' and been a fnalist in at least 6. Absent the aforementioned 3 legends of the game - or in most other eras - he would almost certainly have had more success to date.

He is still consistently ranked in the top 5, and has been so for the last 5 years. And, he still has the scope to improve his game. It's hard not to see him racking up more big wins, but even if he doesn't he has done very well and whilst he may not be amongst the greats, he is not overhyped.

Speaking as someone who doesn't like him myself, but objectively? he good. Abi make we go bring the toothless Tiger Tim out of retirement ! Fine English boi - no huzzle !

TV

I go with Bellong on this one. Murray is overhyped esp in UK, someone whose most loyal fan would dare not place a bet on in a GS final

You and I know he cannot improve his game better than he has done, he has since passed that curve.

Speaking as someone who likes his personality a lot, I am also being very objective

bellong:
Kimoni,

50 cups of "pami" for you...

The lady in her subsequent posts cleared the air about providing for her child. I guess her fear is not about provision but willingness and suitability of the guy to be a father to her child, not necessarily monetary but instilling moral values.. (don't mind my grammar).

Your post is spot on for ladies in situation you described.

Bros eeeee, pls add catfish pepper soup to take wash the thing down

I saw where she was saying Dyt was spot on and Dyt and Pickabeau's discussion was centered on this financial aspect. So I added that as a second paragraph just in case she was of this same school of thought.

I wasnt even planning to make any comment this early momo, my goal this month is to meet your very strict deadline oo

**off to the library**

pickabeau1:
dinachi.. you may be onto something though im no sure about this particular case

But I met a single mom with a very good job recently.. guess what she said

W asked about settling down as she is not short of suitors..

If a man cannot take care of my bills,.. what good is he?

I nearly came for you when I saw this comment, I didn't realize "my bills" included "other bills" mtcheeeeewww

Thanks God I read further

Chizoba36:
@dyt
you are so right about the FEAR! It is real. I think there are times that perhaps it's hard to trust your own judgement and so you shy away from committing again!.....

The fear is choosing someone that won't be a good fit for child / children . I think because of this fear most single parents remain single. Most choose to live for the children

Chizoba, the bolded is why single men get discouraged when it comes to courting single mothers. They guy was not part of your decision to have a child outside wedlock, so why do you want to make it a condition for you to love and settle down with him? That's very selfish in my opinion.

If you choose a good man in the first place, he will naturally be civil towards ur child and loving ur child as his own would be an added bonus and it's something that you would expect yo happen over time and not be a precondition for you to love or date him. That's why people will always end up with pretenders because they set unrealistic goals for their partners.

Looking out for a man that will shoulder your responsibilities as well as that of your child is the biggest scam ever. I would run far from any woman that tells me so. See, I am up for a man taking care of his wife and family 100% but when you start forcing the responsibilities of your love child on him, then, maybe, you are not looking for love but a maga. If a man will take such responsibility, it should come natural to him just like loving the child should too and not because you imposed it on him.

And guess what, men are usually not bothered about this stuff, once they love the mother, they find it easy to love and treat all the kids alike. Women are usually the one who discriminate against their husband's love children or step children. The most important thing for you is to attract a good man and the goodness in him will be transferred to your child but making this as a condition for love reveals you are the selfish one in your relationships. Pls don't do that.

All the best as you get a great guy!

lovinam:
( the only mama I count 123 to write her name)
God bless you real good.( Wisdom) I pray that peace, joy, love, faithfulness, and favour will continue to rest upon your home forever. Amen

I sight you

Iffffffy:
Mamas, I appreciate u all for ur contributions, prayers and advise, I can't thank u enough, #onelove.

God has taken control, we talked abt it, d silence was really killing him that he couldn't sleep in d room again, guilty conscience written all over him, couldn't go to a party he was supposed to with his friends and so on, that I even started pitying him. I had to wake him up in d sitting room yesternight, I could see d happiness on his face wen he saw me and I asked him to talk, and he did, apologised and made confessions. I didn't even bother abt d talks, he missed me and I missed him also, he's my best friend. That's all dat matters (Though not without telling him I will kill him if it happens again) I'm happy I forgave him. Sorry for my long story. #teamoctober, hope u're all doing fine?

God bless your marriage my dear

vague:
people always tend to make the biggest issues out of the smallest of things just to get away with certain things. Any slight opportunity to overreact they will always use it to the best of their advantage.

Or he could be getting action elsewhere and the slightest idea of his wife doing the same makes him act irrational to every small incident.

Exactly

freelance777:
Unfortunately we have kids together, 2 kids to be precise. So am on some serious hanging here. If not, I might probably have parted ways with her.

You don't love your wife. Unfortunately and kids cannot go together in one sentence especially when you are the father of the kids. The problem with your marriage is you. Be sincere with yourself and don't blame it on her. I strongly suspect you have some other love interest outside. Own up and don't blame your wife for your feelings.

Day 9 dusted...