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Karlifate:
1/2

They always have standards in the beginning...

Just by this post she shows that she is a wh04e. She is seeking validation from people on social media with that publication. A woman should seek validation only from her man.

Personally, I would consider that cheating.

Karlifate:
Dora the explorer

Though she married as a virgin, yet the insatiable nature still took over

Interesting case. Marrying a virgin does not guarantee loyalty. The most depraved h0es were all virgins one day.

Also, this shows why a married woman should not have single friends. Or any friend for that matter. Where do you think she is hearing about the big d!cks? Her single friends.

Karlifate:
Beyond the facade of innocence, is a girl that want to be slutted out.

Too bad, the boyfriend doesn't know this.

And this is much more common that we think.

ubunja:
all threads permanently suspended on NL.

This is sad ubunja. Have you thought of other ways to share your insights? Maybe YouTube, blogs, ebooks? What about Patreon?

Martinez39s:
"Wetin" is a word in a Nigerian vernacular. It means "what."

Alright thanks

Martinez39s:
Wetin we fit say about Ifeanyi?

What does "wetin"mean?

ubunja:
True man. I once talked about writing a Miseducation titled "Ice Kings", it is going to explore the same themes explored in this writeup. But deeper and from a male point of view this time.

But for men to stay logical at the start will be a challenge, unless they let women choose. Then this whole writeup is reversed.

Thanks man. How is your 2021 so far.

Are you still planning on making the thread, ubunja ?

SpicyMimi:
Lol You are right o! I had plans to be wayward then as a teenager, plans of having Sex once I gained admission to school, plans of wearing revealing dresses, plans of partying etc God saw those plans, and made my mum threaten me so much ehn! She’d threaten to cut my body with new blade, then rub pepper on it, if she found out I got pregnant as a teen or sleeping with a boy! She’d slap and beat I and my bro right in front of our peers even in Higher institution. Kai we get sense by force! Now I’m happy, she did all those things, else I for don turn slay queen.

Nice.

Yusufisraelj:
OP

Permit me to say you have a skewed view on why some people remain virgins and why some are not.

Let me tell you a story, there was a lady I was told whom her dad deflowered at the age of ten and did so for close to 15 years, this event left her sexually scared, and ready to go down with the guy she's in a relationship with, she couldn't even take good decisions on who to settle down with.

You see sometimes you don't throw stones without finding out the underlaying cause, I use to hold your view but that changed when I interacted with some very wounded ladies and guys alike. There is more to life that being a virgin or not, however we must not and never condone careless living.

Well said. It's like these women doing porn or prostitution. The vast majority of them have had irregular upbringing and particularly damaging experiences. Someone may be quick to call these sex workers names but there is typically a story behind their situation.

Sammmyyyy:
I write this, sequel to a thread I read here a few days ago (precisely on Valentine's Day), on why people should preserve themselves and remain virgins till marriage.
After seeing the thread, my mind swayed right directly to the sayings of some men on this forum, on the opinion that marriage only favours the woman and not the man; then I tried connecting the dots.

That same day, my mind led me back to around a year ago while I was still serving. I rented a self-con, next to a young bar attendant of around 28 years, let's call him Kay. It was a twin flat, so we shared the same veranda and our rooms were very close.
This guy had a very young, charming, moderately rich, perfectly shaped, extremely slender, dark girl staying with him. Let's call her Joy. I'd later discover she was in 200L studying nursing but couldn't go home during the Corona, so, lied to her parents she was held in the school hostel instead.

In all honesty, I do not know her age, but my instinct told me she couldn't be more than 19. I even tried spying on her facebook account but couldn't get her exact age.

Guys, not to bore you, Kay and this girl, Joy, have sex more than they talk to each other. There is no day, no single day, I will not hear her whimpers in my room. It is not exaggeration if I say that no day passed without them having sex. They copulate so much that, at a time, the girl's walking posture changed. Her legs were not as free and slender as they used to.

Not just the sex. This girl spends anyhow for Kay. I got to later discover that she's the only child of her rich parents, so they never allow her lack anything.

In fact, I also learnt that the iPhone this guy, Kay, uses was bought by Joy as a birthday gift for him.
This guy would copulate roughly with the girl before leaving for work in the morning and roughly again when he comes back at night. Even midnights weren't left out as I occasionally would need to put up my speaker's volume just to distract me. And surprisingly again, this girl must cook for him before he comes back, from her own money.

Another shocking thing about this was, I have witnessed on more than 4 occasions, whenever we sit outside to gist, especially on weekends, this guy would say it openly that he cannot marry her, and that she should go and cook the rubbish she was making for him in her husband's house. That only her future husband deserves salty rice, hard beef, blah blah blah and not him. The girl too would just sit there, laughing sheepily.

I have also witnessed on one or two occasions, where this guy would throw this girl out at night on frivolous grounds. On one night after he had thrown her out and I had begged that he please allow her in, I heard their faint chatters on how that he wasn't enjoying her again, and that he needed something tighter, hence suggested sodomy. (I lie you not.)

At a time, I couldn't stand the excruciating agony Kay was putting this girl through that I wanted to sit her down and talk some sense into her, but it'd have been a waste. This girl is completely in love, or shall I say, foolishly in love, with him.

This act continued so long, until I finished my service there, packed my things and left the state.

My good people of nairaland, I can categorically say that this guy, Kay, milked this girl financially and sexually. Trust me, that girl has no sexual sweetness anymore. I just feel sorry for whoever her future husband will be. You know after you bite into a sugar cane and then spit it out after squeezing and enjoying its sweetness? That's what Kay has done to that girl.

....

Now, where's the connection?

Imagine if a girl like that who, at her tender age, has wasted her sexual prowess gets picked by a God fearing virgin man of God and is given an exorbitant bride price to pay?

Back in school, I have witnessed girls get laid with as low as Sharwarma and Vanilla ice cream.
Imagine a lady loses her virginity for ordinary meat pie and Bigi Chapman, and when the time for marriage comes, the prospective suitor is given over 200, 000 to pay as bride price.

Well, as for me. I have never messed anyone's child up.

And God is my witness, if she isn't a virgin, I will never drop a naira as pride price. Even a kobo like this, I will not pay.
The only reason I will marry a non virgin is if she'll pay my bride price, then I can reconsider.

In all honestly, I can say that marriage favours only the woman and not the man.

Great post. Stories like this are enlightening and instructive.
Who will marry that used up woman?

By the way, this shows that being used up is not only a matter of number of body count. A woman can have a body count of 2 and these two guys may have thoroughly and mercilessly damaged her physically, emotionally, and sexually beyond repair.

Amazing peace

ubunja:
too descriptive....how about you tell us the other tricks women do that we omitted?? promise we wont tell..

She is definitely cheating with her husband.

For some women sleeping with a man just once is not cheating. Or sleeping with a man in only some positions is not cheating. Or sleeping with a man and not being too involved during the sex is not cheating. This is why she had to add those extra details.

Accurate.

Simple. A man who decides for his life.

Again à lot of lessons here.
Throwback to the miseducations

Most women these days are alpha widows.
Alpha fvcks beta bucks.
There are many lessons to take in here.

monerozi5590:
Thanks for constantly reminding us. We forget this things easily but thank you sir for always bringing this to our minds always.

The best way to remember this is to love and respect yourself.

heartofcity12:
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Even my mother says the number 1 is a prime sign to know if a girl is for the streets.

Samantha123:
Ask your family to arrange a man for you and get into an arranged marriage.

But when the marriage flops, don't come and bite my head off..

What is your stance on arranged marriages?

It is located in Central Africa.
It has plenty of natural resources.
I want to know more about its culture.

The actual formula :

If she's a virgin:
The bride price is whatever her family requires. It can of course be negotiated between the family of the man and the family of the woman. And watch out flr those family that exploit the tradition to drain the groom's pocket.

If she's not a virgin:
The bride price is 0. If anything it is the woman's family that has to pay the groom's family.

Aaron12:
Alaye is not a lie though, they put to much significance to their puccy as if it is refined crude oil or refined gold.

It is men and society that taught them that.

Ilamina:
I like how french African countries are united

United how? I am from a francophone country myself and I don't understand what you mean.

A woman would never tell on the lady if the roles where reversed. She wouldn't even ask the question. If anything, she would ask the neighbor to cover her when she herself does sneaky stuff.

Kipaji:
Two types of men in a woman's life

Wow I'm noticing it just now. Look at the kid in the right picture. His ethnicity hints at who his real father is...
Pretty realistic.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Mothers teaching their daughters about alpha fvck beta bucks.

Two types of men in a woman's life

Stay alert guys.

DarlingtonC:
Because they used to be colonised by the french

Unfortunately, yes

TheDarkGamer:
It depends on how you look at it. But the way I see it, it's an exchange of values.

As long women in my life provide value to me, earn my time and are feminine, I would always provide and protect them when need be. It's just simple reciprocation.

Alright.

NwaMamaIwota:
for adding emoji
we gonna have a marathon sex this weekend 😘😘😘

Men, there's a lesson to take here. Despite all what these women are saying, at the end of the day, most of them know that they have no real value beyond what's in between their legs.