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What are you still doing there is what i want to know?

Now i want to give you an example. My former neighbors (we used to live in a face me i face you house by the way so i have all of life lessons at my disposal ) they were married for some time before they came to our compound. This lady was blamed by the man's family,even the man's mother would come and torment this lady. I was very young then about 11/12 so i dont know if she had miscarriages or not, but the worse happened when the man started going literally nuts ,he would stare into the sun and be speaking jargons, he will put bluefilm during the day and be watching (dont ask me how i know ) it was in the midst of their wahala we moved from that house , but two years ago my mum came across her at the market, she is now a mother of twins with another man, i think she has another child too ,my mum says she asks of me all the time.

Buttom Line, I think the patriarchy in this society enourages women to have this "fix it " mentality and religion even made it worse,considering what most pastors and their wives hammer on is how wives should submit and submit and sibmit some more . It is a marriage between two people but i don't know why women are usually raised to believe that burden is on them to "fix" their marriage. This is a trying time when you need your husband the most ,for emotional support yet he is the one putting you through emotional troubles? I am tempted to ask what prayer will do here? Cos i suspect he is cheating already or maybe he went for prayer meeting at 12am who knows.

There might be something causing the miscarriages ,maybe even rhesus factor get that checked out along with him,it could even be weak uterine lining, hormonal imbalance or even certain foods you eat(ginger for example has been proven to cause miscarriage in some women with weak uterine linning),you can even opt for surrogacy if need be,gone are the days when a woman should suffer this kind of a thing when technology has come to save the day ,if he doesn't bulge, then take my last advice

Life is a risk, it might not work out for you like my neighbor,it might but you never know till you try. Start going out more and visit dating sites,its time to be on the defence before he forcefully throws you out one day or even brings a pregnant lady home .Should you decide to leave and find your peace, never get married to someone else till you are pregnant if possible till you give birth,i know some people will come for my head for this, oh she is encouraging having children out of wedluck bla bla bla. Like i said, i have seen many things to borrow myself sense.

Kbs468:
Hmmmn. African morals were never imbibed indeed.

Alright. Enjoy yourself and your Studies Dear.

Wishing you all the best of accomplishment

thanks ,have a lovely day ahead.

Kbs468:
Your comments always hits a nail on it Head.

How can I see disrespectful and uncultured comments entertaining?

Some of them would even in the name of criticism be insulting people and public figures that are old enough to be their parents oo.

Why did we allow ourselves to derail away from the moral and ethical upfront NIGERIA Ney AFRICA is known for?

Imagine people raining insults and abuse on people they can't even stand before them face-to-face without melting and always answering YES SIR or YES MA'AM to each and every one of their utterances.

Questions i cant answer but i will tell you one thing tho, the feeling of being faceless will bring out the true nature of people on the internet. This means the so called morals we assumed we had as Africans was never truly imbibed in us if we can't take our so called home training to our online interactions .

Kbs468:
Very Apt with your analysis and like the saying goes,

Birds of a feather flocks together. The likes are always from people like the original commentators too. Else, how would I ever like such rude and insane comments

i guess we have alot more on our hands than we thought cos there are more insane people here than sane who find appalling and rude comments entertaining .

Kbs468:
Exactly and simply the truth especially the Olosho thing.

But one wouldn't blame the mods though because it's not easy as most of them are fond of opening new accounts with different monikers after a ban had been imposed on them.

And that is typical of immature minds because a ban simply means one has erred one way or the other and so access denial for a given period of time is meant to torture one to be remorseful and have a change of attitude when next the opportunity to post comments comes around.

Rather, The penultimate statement above is always the case

you are right. I guess we all should stop encouraging them with likes and call them out for their behavior. This place is becoming too toxic for a sane person. Seems the hardship is affecting the mental health of alot of people.

Sadly people think its only when you run mad and take to the streets that you need to check your mental health. Many of this people need to see psychiatrists and therapists. People still dont know that lack of emotional intelligence ( which includes empathy,being able to stay unprovoked, being able to debate without throwing insults, being able to listen and give feed back) is a form of mental imbalance.

Kbs468:
What a comment from you but you shouldn't worry about such kind of toxicity anymore because they certainly always put up their immaturity at every given opportunity though.

For goodness sake, somebody posted a comment that was probably or definitely referring to CHRISTIANO RONALDO over MESSI in his submission that wasn't even related to the topic at hand.

And instead of reading and ignoring it, He ended up reacting that way as a MESSI FAN based in NIGERIA oo and not MESSI'S relative oo.

i think the problem here is the mods have allowed this behavior to go unchecked ,if it was a female moniker he would have probably added olosho to the mix to get more likes .

Its appalling how these people have used nairaland as a safe haven to vent their frustration from the real world, and when you report it takes the mods forever to look into it.

Scatterscatter:
Pele ooo... Madam sanitizer
We have seen you

lol ,i am learning child psychology ,i guess it works for adults too , what you just did can be likened to an emotional tantrum .

Scatterscatter:
People should learn to mind their business. Messi wasn't even mentioned in the post yet the guy dragged him into it. He got what he deserved!

No , you are just as bitter as he is for escalating it that way, you too have ancestors that the footballers in question don't even know ,that was an emotional reaction from you and it was uncalled for maybe you are angry about something in the real world out there or something but this forum needs to be sanitized and rid off any uncivil comment. There are better words you could have chosen,stop justifying toxic behavior.

Scatterscatter:
Well... Saying this doesn't mean anyone in your lineage has ever achieved anything close to what the left leg of the "short Messiah" has achieved. Come to think of it, he isn't even up to 35yrs of age and he is already greater than you and your ancestors put together.

What a shame

well that escalated so quick, Dominique ,lalasticlala, i was expecting this comment to be swept too or una dey do partiality here. This one na rule 2 na . Why cant you people be civil on this forum for once , infact mynd44 your attention is needed on this thread

hopefulLandlord:
"James Bond" is a character that's been played by Many actors over the years like Sean Connery, Pierce Brosnan, Daniel Craig etc.

each of these actors act other roles in other movies so I have no idea what point you're trying to make unless you're agreeing with me

and i asked you before does a catechists ,a ritualist, a wicked uncle, a hunter ,a chief priest all sound alike to you ?

Also people choose to focus on their strength and not weaknesses ,i dont know any other popular movie done by mr bean and i am sure not seeing him play his normal act will be somehow . Same way a Jim iyke will not be good for the role of a native doctor or a jackie chan playing the role of a vampire Enough of this nonsense abeg.

sinceraconcept:
"it" LMAO, like she is worth nothing and should be considered a thing. We Nigerians are known to defend and stand by our legends. Thanks for defending the Legend Pete Edochie

Its not a matter of thanking me, i just don't see any sense in what it is saying,as i am not even sure that sex of the person.

hopefulLandlord:
seeing him in a movie one can predict what his role would be and one would be correct 99 times out of 100

is that so me predictor, well i too can predict how a James bond film will end, and i will be right 99% of the time .

hopefulLandlord:
Stupid comparison. Mr Bean is a character played by Rowan Atkinson who has played many other roles in several other movies

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rowan_Atkinson_filmography

And pete has not played other roles?shut up there

King, catechists, hunter, ritualist, uncle ,chief priest and so on, do they all sound alike to you ? Yeye dey smell.

I am sure the same person considers Mr bean a good actor .

From Mr Pete's days in things fall apart till now sugatbelly will never till "it" leaves this earth match up to Mr Pete. Nonsense. By the way who/what is this thing called sugarbelly ,this is my first time of hearing about it.

One in a million that worked out ,the rest are licking their wounds in silence

I see nothing wrong here ,if Christians and muslims can have public holidays its only fair traditional worshipers have theirs too.

djoe21:
Just like that?! Hmmm Nigeria ladies are changing o

so what were you expecting?

SirVictory:
Exactly wah I'm saying... how abt we start one. I still reside in Edo

ok

SirVictory:
I'm also based in Edo, are u in for a relationship

not in a relationship at the moment.

internationalman:
Hmm my home girl.. what's up or should I say vbo ye re..

I Stay in Benin too maybe we can make acquaintance

ok

Some people earn a living by staging miracles, its all business. The heart only believes what it wants to believe,some people feel these miracles are fake,but what is life without hope? So they choose to hide in the comfort of hope these fraudsters give them in the name of miracles.

loshybab:
Ok,I garrit. You were when U met. I wish All d best

thanks

loshybab:
Definitely!!!
So,are U in a new relationship now? Are you also based in SW?

not in any at the moment,based in Edo.

loshybab:
Oh...Ndo
I probably got deceived by the proclamation in your profile.i guess you wanted to access the Islamic section.

That aside,it's quite surprising coz Yorubas to Edo people,to me have the highest no of intertribal marriage in southern Naija.

oh, that ,commented on an isalmic thread.

Yeah ,it sure is surprising,i guess some people's tribalism runs deeper than others.

loshybab:
I was simply guessing your tribe from the state you mentioned you hailed from.
As for the dude,I guess he is Yoruba.

i am not etsako, am Bini ,yes he was yoruba.

loshybab:
Etsako from Auchi I guess...
It is well. You'll be fine and even get a better man. I wish U all d best

sorry dont get you,are you asking his tribe or mine?

loshybab:
What tribe,if I may ask?

Edo

eni4real:
Yes I did.
Hope yours was great too??

it was,have a great day.

Mine was even engagement ,he finally yielded to his parents wish of not marrying my tribe.

eni4real:

hope you had a great day?

eni4real:
He will survive it...

ok

eni4real:
I am glad you can see that men are also going through a lot in Marriage. ..

If this man still believes that this marriage can work, we should not discourage him..

The final decision is his afterall..

Tough case tho

i never said men were not going through tough marriages,there is no where it is said that only men are monsters. But rather the culture of fix it that Nigerian women have been fed with.In my culture in those days it was a taboo to leave your marriage no matter what ,infact it is better you die there than leave and bring disgrace and dishonour to your family name. That is my point.

As for the op, he is in for a long thing, he is not just dealing with an angry wife but a raging one,thing one has crossed the line of anger to rage, that sometimes takes medication to overcome depending on the cause for me if he was my brother, i will fear for his life. I am not discouraging him o, but i will say it the way it is without sugar coating it.