₦airaland Forum

Shugavee:
many guys pretend to be responsible just to hv you!! Because they know getting a clean pussy n a swt woman ain’t cheap!! So they would deceive you!!! When they hv the money to get any woman they want !! They change .

Y do u ladies speak as if u too have no stain in your clothing ?

lefulefu:
u dont need money to flirt.there some layabout irresponsible broke deadbeats who still change women like they change their boxers.if a man wants to be responsible he will be responsible so no be money go control the man.

Nice one

NobleAngell:
And what about the man involved? What is he? Expensive?

Some people just day talk because other person's day talk
Don't mind him ,,it doesn't matter wat favour the next person might not favour you ,..I have seen boyfriend and girlfriend all the way from University and after graduation Belle enter for 8 years no marriage na later the guy wedd the babe ,,,


So this ignorant people or ladies looking for a wedding ring by all means thereby entering one chance marriage and later come on line and start complaining

erons22:
The op should run from that girl, that girl will only destroy him.

My own den after the girl don destroy my life for school, she broke up with me..

SHE make me stay away from my friends i had to quarrel with my close friends all because of her, i foolishly abide to her because i was in love then..

Then My300l 2nd semester result my GPA drop

I THANK GOD MY FRIENDS WAS REASONABLE I HAD TO BEG THEM LATER..

THE OP SHOULD FOCUS MORE ON HIS STUDIES, IF NOT.....

I just hate girls now

Make guys read and study more o

Na ur education first oo

Most of you dat are still in University go soon day hear say ur course mate mostly the females don day marry the moment una drop una graduation pen ,,,not even nysc yet oo, just gradution pen ,,,,then I pray reality doesn hit u hard to know say it will take most 9ja guys 3-6years to be fully okay for a serious relationship

tunize:
Bros u correct finish na brain brain be everything.

Bro make I tell u something ...

Na only pussy woman day offer person with pikin ,I tell guys no waste ur card they call who wan frustrate you ,,this life is big and hold a lot of good people way go change your life ,life doesn't end in Nigeria ,

Some guys Sha ,u send girl Money ,every day u go day ring her phone ,boss hustle no even look her face ,na she go run come back day imagine which kin person be dis ,,,but even when she comes back no still send ,if na fuvk she want give her the fuvk ,,still continue your hustle
Because all that matters in this life last last na your children to have the best

tunize:
I'm telling u bro the guy jst need use im head more than e heart.

I graduated from school 3-4 years back ,yes I kw say I still flirt o
But I kw let woman control me ,my last babe for school ,I personally tell her make she kw come my graduation party ,she surprise

Even the babes way they style for me back then ,no be say na brag I day brag ,we kw even be mate right now ,,,

Yes definitely while they day school one graduate go day ask them out , every bottle get e size ,but there is time for everything

You as guy graduate with poor grade na gate man u fit end up
If babe graduate with that same poor grade na her pussy and less brain she go use win contracts

Leezah:
Choose. Your girlfriend has reason to feel the way she does and you know it.

Maybe.

2 out of 2 times I have ever been jealous of an ex boyfriend's friend (not with every ex boyfriend was this an issue) it was found out later that the female friend was indeed crushing on my boyfriend. Women unlike men tend to “read” people well, especially other women. When in love a woman's intuition especially tends to intensify. Then again so does her jealousy so this can be a tricky situation that requires some reflection and honesty with yourself and openness with your girlfriend.

Some of what made me feel jealous in these times was intuition, but some things I just simply understand by being a female myself and having many female friends. I knew certain subtle things females do when they like a guy and saw it. Even personally I crushed on guy friends before and some never suspected it. So it's definitely possible your girlfriend sees something you don't.

Anyways, aside from intuition and certain gestures i saw, I noticed that these 2 boyfriends would run to the female friend with all the problems we had as though she was his “refuge”. This is growing intimacy with your friend instead of your girlfriend and a BIG NO-NO. It would have been better that they went to an older and wiser man for counsel than to her.

Although you may go to your female friend for advice with other problems you should never ever come to her with relationship problems. Friends of the opposite shouldn't know all the intimate details of your relationship. As soon as you have a girlfriend this is the most immediate way in which your friendship to your friend should change. By you coming to her you are now showing her what sort of romantic partner you are and how “romantically compatible” you now are with her.

Women are weird. As soon as you deeply open up about these conditions of your heart, etc, we cant help but to at least wonder if we are romantically compatible especially since we come out the womb being relationship/love oriented. Unless you want your female friend trying to now question secretively if you and her are compatible its best you leave her in the dark about this “intimate” side of you or only expose this side of you when you are single. Also don't break up with your girlfriend and the next day run to your female about the issues. Especially in young love people break up then 2 months later are back together.

Overall allowing a female friend to see these aspects of you should be when you are single (via the title of being single and via emotionally being untied to anyone). Then and only then you should share your romantic/relationship characteristics with your opposite sexed friend and even then just know you are opening the strong possibility that this friend will now start qualifying and disqualifying you as a romantic partner. If you want female advice then ask older women but maybe not your mom or those who would have too much bias and too easily take your side. Maybe Nairaland could be good however take every answer with a grain of salt including my own.

Honestly relationships and determining what is acceptable and not acceptable is personal and takes personal reflection. You can't just take advice for everything.

I especially think in today's world with so many boys raised without fathers its not good to get all your relationship do's and don't from females. You shouldn't think like a female when dating a female. You should think like a man. For the most part men have to be more patient and giving in certain areas of relationships and women should be more patient in other areas.

Learning intimate relationships is not like learning to be politically correct or learning what's publicly proper. Although I do recommend reading relationship books from people who share your same vision of intimate relationships dating someone is the foundation in an intimate world you are creating and everyone is different in what they can accept or what they prefer. People's preferences in love ranges from the most traditional to the grotesque…

Meditate on what you want. Overall if this is a woman who fits every aspect of your vision of an intimate relationship than her opinion does matter. At the end of a day you and HER will be the main creators of a world between your walls and conforming to her in all aspects that's reasonably possible and vice versa is key in making a lasting relationship (keyword:reasonable).

Overall there are many questions you have to ask before you seek to end your friendship. In my own situation both of these boyfriends much later “confessed” that they deeply knew the female friend liked them since I first mentioned my jealousy but they thought it wasn't a big deal unless they fed into it.

Personally I felt these were feeding into it (again men don't tend to know the world of female emotion as well). Can you honestly and I mean SINCERELY look at all the encounters with your female friend say that beyond a shadow of a doubt this friend has absolutely, and I mean absolutely has no crush on you? Honestly not even her having a boyfriend matters. Having a boyfriend doesn't stop one from having basic human desires towards another. In divorce courts we see this clearly, so of course in simply dating we can't deny this simple fact of life.

Anywho, despite my own experiences, at the end of the day I would not say it's the best solution to always cut off the female friend just because your girlfriend is jealous especially without considering these things I mentioned.

Many times we date just to date and practice a long term commitment.

Look at everything mentioned here, reflect, keep intimate problems away from opposite sexed friend, and determine your motivation in dating the woman you're with. Is she practice or is she the one?
Is she seeing something you don't or is it jealous?
Is it every female friend and interaction that makes her jealous or is it just this one friend?
Is not conforming to her in this way worth risking a lifetime of not having her by your side?
Many questions to ask before you take any action.

U too like talk
U na ameboo oo

See as u carry the matter for head

tunize:
The way u lay ur bed na so u go lie on top am. Bros u be man act like one nor let woman dey control u like remote
See that babe of urs will deprive u of all ur friends, including males very soon and she will do it in a way that u cant do without her like its only u and her in this whole world, even if she's misbehaving u won't have a sey and eventually she go live u for anoda guy. I pity u shall

And last last last ,she go still break up with am ,,,

Na 1 out of 100 girls day marry their University mate ,
Op better not trash his friendship just because of a pussy lady oo

Harbeeorlar:
But seriously is there proof for all the monies that enters your account? A random person that send money to me legitimately can just choose to report me?

Bro there are different format , frudeulent person use in collection of money ,even if u are not fraudulent but pls also know their format they use in operation ,

I will tell u are brief story


A man went to a car stand to buy a car ,while the car sells never knew he was a kidnapper looking for whose account to use for the kidnapping transaction,and he told the car owner ,how much does this car sells ,they concluded at 3millonaire ,
Few hours later the car seller received an alart of 4 million ,the kidnapper comes back and told the car seller he isn't interested again ,but to give him back the money in cash not in bank transfer but as a God sent ,the car seller can keep 50k for himself ,
An average nigeria will be happy to hear such ,na so business take end o

Now the car dealer account has been used as a means of kidnapping transaction ,that's a big problem
...bro be careful next time ,u might not be lucky next time

Trust nobody except your dog only

Codyt:
You have in fact taken words out of my mouth
I have no idea why this nigga is condoning this inhumane treatment. Weird people everywhere.

80% of Africa ladies are the same like op aunty ,just watch most of their comments ,.

I will tell you a brief story ,see this life no body knows tomorrow ,a friend of my family went to stay with the Aunt son ,who is in another state ,but 4 months later ,the aunt called ,that she heard my friend is staying with the son ,and if he knows what is good for him ,he should pack out of his son house (like my son is succeeding you want to come and slow his destiny down ) ,,,,as a gentle man ,he quiltly packed out ,,not up 1½ year ,the son died a misterious death and he is the only son ,the other siblings have refused to forgive their mother for her actions ,,,
Na every day they they call this e relation for forgiveness my brother,,,,what am I trying to say


,,, anybody can be the one shielding you from unforseen problem ,treat every human equally

daddio:
GOD FORBID O
BUT
LET'S ASSUME SHE MAIMED OR KILL HER!? HOW WOULD HER DREAM OR YOUR VISION FOR HER COME TO PASS?

That's the problem ,I like the girl ,she get mind ,how u go visit person for the first time ,u go say make e go wash dish ,when ur kids day there ,is it wrong to ask them both to do the dish washing together ?to know them selfs better

kuverah:
That's Nigerian mentality for you "everyone thinks she is good person because she is pastor wife". What is even keeping you in that house? My friend go back to your father's house. This is slavery in the 21 century.

It's called modern slavery ,
When you see adult who are sadiest ,bro na small small things like this day cause am

Mizwisdom:
Ordinary insult? something you can be humming tunes in your heart while she's talking without her hearing it? you better get a hold of yourself. Find out what her plans are for your future. If your Father can't afford to feed you, you better relax and endure for now don't go and fall into wrong hands o, it's better than servicing 10 men in one day, be wise

I kw you are trying to dish out some advice but do it in a more responsible way ,who feel , maltreatment of close relative just because they don't have any thing to brag about is the best ,the future is uncertain among everyone ,if the maltreatment becomes severe ,she should go to ministry of women /children affairs ,

There is something they call old memories ,I just pray a girl like dis who end up becoming a sadiest doesn't marry your son or brother ,,u are finish ,

Chijeep:
so na d poor masses b d new energy wey dem dey look 4

Lol
Me kw con know o

Chijeep:
Ground no dey produce oil again dat y dey want 2 b using Tax 2 milk out oil money 4rm us nw

The truth is the world is looking for a more renewable means of energy ,so oil era is gradually coming to an end

sulaak:
They should build airports in all LGA in Lagos.


The solution is mass transit metro line.

That city isn't organized ,,,there are some scrabs people call vechicle that needs to be pull of the street ,
But na develop country they take that kin action not 9ja who refused to provide jobs for it's citizens

Studyinchina200:
You really don’t know chinko people hmm

Don’t pity them.

I tire for this guy ,maybe na ajebo ,way never work for industrial before

Discombulator:
Pretty lame and unintelligent line of thought, so they willingly killed themselves,

It's called business,the highest bidder buys the antivirus

ZAWs:
To be fair, the stigmatization on Chinese nationals is becoming too much.

Na em good for them
Wait ooo,,have you worked for a Chinese company before in 9ja ,bro you will know you are just leaning when it comes to stigmatization

muffyt05:
As much as Hushpuppi is doing all these for game and clout, he should remember to save for tomorrow. Talking from real life experience, the Danku Arawani (eni kukuru ton peni gigun ranise) that KWAM 1 used to hail in his songs, widely known for frivolities and extravagant lifestyles became so broke that as at 2005/6, guy was wearing just ankara with an old model Volkswagen vehicle around town in Opebi.
On seeing me working like a workaholic in my mum's shop, after coming for a service, guy told me about his reckless lifestyles and how I should never lose my head for frivolities.
Hushpuppi, people made crazy money before you but are now broke, guy, plan for tomorrow.

Bro ,hushpuppi know how he make e money ,even the so-called celebrities know very well hushpuppi is the most foolish person ,but wat to do ,na to enjoy the money na

Petyprincess:
Wow!!! I just dnt understand why married people cheat! If you are tired of the relationship why can't you just leave peacefully? She's a disgrace to womanhood!!!

And I believe that's her kids in the background ,
Kids hardly forget things ooo

Validated:
How much you dey spend? Patapa, you go club and carry girls ... People there are building houses at home and remitting Billions of dollars, you are here drinking beer and thinking you are rich. Most Nigerians abroad own houses running in millions of Dollars upon which they pay monthly mortgage. Some build houses and rent them here and you guys will refuse to pay rent, calling them shylock.
Do you know that some of the people you refer to that "dem no born them well to spend as you do" are worth more than some of your revered politicians if they were to sell off their investments and return home with the cash? Go to a company like FSDH and ask them who are their key investors ... MYOPIA!!!

Bro u just spoke my heart to dis guy
He thinks life is about
Drinking beer ,
Going to club
Holding champ bottles ,when all high na high weather na ciger o ,or kinkin bottle

Or buying expensive cloths
When most of individuals in 9ja can't even save up ,
Life is about investment ,make he ask Bill gate or adenuga and co,many of them where not base in Nigeria before

Kenneth10110:
Its not dirty nor bushy you can as well snap your boxers or just mind your business

It will surely add to her account bro
Remember she is a girl ,the camera is for a purpose ,to filter her beauty and get more attention

OttHin:
Zoom zoom zoom zoom
You are doing well.. ooin

Omo na girl gather hair under arm pit like dis ,like say na Forest reserve ?

burner44:
I'm not always in Benin got a job outside Edo state

And she hasn't visit u in your new location?
This your relationship get as e be ooo

QwarkdFerengi:
So op, after a clear ballsac shave and a warm bath, I'm back only to find my question not answered. So it's obvious you are avoiding it. So it's safe to say that you are taking your "girlfriend" to your friends house when your "girlfriend" have no idea where you live. That's wrong. From this, I might say you are in your early 20's. I guess you haven't daggered this "girlfriend" yet. Do it sharparly and focus on other important things. Don't fight over women issues because you go blame yourself Las Las. I know say you go like argue but don't. Na strong advice be that.

Exactly,I can smell that already after reading the first paragraph

Ojady:
"... he met up with my girlfriend, TOOK HER TO A NEARBY FASTFOOD and THEY ATE, AFTER which HE TOOK HER to his own house and WENT AHEAD INTRODUCING HER TO his FAMILY." Broda (in Igbo accent) please read the BOLDED. Is your girlfriend a baby? Is she slow in the head? What was she thinking all through the Journey from MET UP to FAMILY. Your girl is lying to you, she did not think it right to ask him to call you or text you. I suspect a rat. This is my theories - your gyal wanted you to know, that if you lose her, your boy will slide in and she will win last last, 2. She knows the guy likes her and wanted free food; 3. It is what it is, she getting ready to dump you... Either way, Broda, Biko, consider wisely, you would not want her to marry you finish, when fight dey, she go vex come go visit Broda go dey chop free food, shook, clean mouth come dey deceive you. The heart break and casualties would be much at that time

This is the exact problem when you date a university or campus girl ,they are metally not focus ,,,,dis op should go and make money and stop the she called me I didn't pick or I called her she didn't pick too,,,,,na woman they chase man ,but joblessness don make 9ja boys turn the table around


You get money na woman go day beg u ,even sleep for your landlady room because you locked her outside

burner44:
We've been together since May last year. C'mon some matters are kept private and if you are tbinking i do it at my friends place it's a No

So you have been dating a girl and she doesn't know your hux ,,,,

Do you knack her in a hotel
Or at her place
Or at her ,,,,just tell us , because na only runs girls know day care if you don't urcher them to your hux

My first experience traveling out side nigeria is that ,the whitess I saw look so relaxed even though they have missed or late for their flight I was just running like a mad man ,bro no body tell me say make I relax and walk like a gentleman , because the way they stare at me ,I knew exactly I am making the tensed ,
Life outside naija is a relaxed life oooo


But according to Victor ad when ur Phone ring just kw say na money your people need back home or they need your help ..I miss naija sha

vickifeanyi47:
Please to my brothers and sisters back in Niger. Please be mindful of agents. I came in on Sunday. My agent was suppose to pick me up at the airport but I waited for hours without seeing him. Finally he gave me direction on how to locate his fellow agents. Right now am looking for my way cos have just realized all the things have been hearing about agents. Those guys are nothing but Devil. Am just stranded in the middle of no where. Where do I start from now

It's not news thats how fellow nigeria are to their fellow Nigeria's ,,
Don't stop the good in your heart because of a confuse fellow ,,God be with you

Many women commenting here are no difference from the child mother ,they just claim to be sent ,,

olabrinks:
to feed two children, buy their things, school fees. Excuse me, 30k is too small sef. What rubbish

That's why they say 2 head better pass one head ,,,
It's difficulty raising a kid alone but if even 30k isn't enough then u just have to manage the little u receive