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Enice:
http://www.naijalegaltalkng.com/article/family-law/marriage/72-marriages-in-nigeria

For a marriage done in a church to be legal, it must be done in consonance with the provisions of the Marriage Act or it is no marriage at all. This brings us to the place of marriage.

A statutory marriage must be celebrated in the Registrar’s office and the licensed place of worship i.e. a church. The licenses for churches to conduct marriages are obtained from the Ministry of Interior to enable it conduct statutory marriages after the fulfillment of certain requirements... http://www.naijalegaltalkng.com/article/family-law/marriage/72-marriages-in-nigeria

Seahawk:
I get banned all the time because my main account is dedicated to fighting such posts. Nairaland condones them. Don’t even expect the management of this forum to do anything about it.

bebe2:
Yes am a full time housewife.

It works for us.

U can throw ur kids to minders and nursery or even househelp that will be doing the unthinkable to them, We decided that our kids will be raise by us, drop off at school, get lunch ready before they come back, pick them up , feed them , take them to football or swimming lessons. Get dinner ready for hubby , prepare school and Hubbys things for tmrw.

If I didn’t this, nanny will be busy beating my kids for no just reason, the driver will be probably be fingering my 7yr old without my knowledge and the house girl will be using my sons dick to practice, my husband will be eating buka food and having dysentery every now and then.

And I won’t work till my last child is in secondary school, yet I can bet a million that am still financially better off than u.

Enice:
all marriage certificates (registry, church/english, customary/native, muslim, etc) are the same in Nigeria. The difference is under what law (common law, sharia law, or native law) are you getting married? Under common law (church and english), you are entitled to one wife at a time. Under sharia law (muslim), you are entitled to as many wives as sharia law permits and under native law, you are entitled to what your custom or culture permits. In the case of divorce, you will be judged according to the law you married under. The most important thing is the government recognised official that officiates/signs off the proceedings of the marriage certificate. For church the priest, for english the marriage registrar or any justice of peace, for muslim the imam or whoever according to sharia law, and for native the recognised person according to your native law,
note: the law you marry under will be the law that will guide your marriage and divorce.

LaIabobo:
Madam, customary marriage under your native laws and customs is completely legal in Nigeria.

Sterope:
The Nigerian family law will not ask the husband to share the properties with the wife if he built it with his money. It would ask only if the wife can also prove that she also contributed to the property mostly financial. It is rare for Nigerian courts to share properties and assets between husband and wife if it is owned by one of them. That is why smart women should insist to have their names on properties.

Also, unless your wife is cray cray that is she can handle herself but if she can't and you love your children (not necessarily her), you will legalise your marriage. The reason is the issue of inheritance after your death.

If you care about her too and the way go your family might treat her, you will legalise your marriage.

javalady:
I was correcting an impression, I wasn't the one that made the statement

egojeny1:
There's a marriage certificate normally issued by the local govt. Can it serve as a marriage cert. from the registry?

......An earlier judgment by Justice Oyindamola Olomojobi of the Federal High Court, wherein the court declared that only councils have the powers to register marriages by virtue of Section 30 (1) of the Marriage Act and Section 7 (5) of the 1999 Constitution.

However, in the said judgment delivered on June 8, 2002, Justice Olomojobi clarified that other lawful authorities could “celebrate or contract marriages.”

Justice Olomojobi listed “Lawful bodies or authorities, which can celebrate or contract marriages for intending persons, who are desirous of getting married as husbands and wives, as “Registrars in places designated as an office; recognised ministers of a religious organisation in a licenced place of worship; and marriages contracted under the licence granted by the Director General, Ministry of Internal Affairs; Director General of a state government in charge of marriages; any officer in the ministries the Minister of Internal Affairs.” https://guardian.ng/saturday-magazine/local-government-can-issue-marriage-certificates-in-accordance-with-marriage-act-say-lawyers/

linearity:
You can still use a WILL to protect your wife and kids against the village uncles and gold diggers.

A Will have the same force of law. The mistake that people make is, they think that they are too young to prepare their “Last Will & Testament”. We all know that is not true, but still postpone it. You can always change your Will as things changes, so get it done now.

Elder001:
Flee from any woman that request for Registry Marriage.

The issue of sharing of properties cannot come in except the wife claims that as a relief in her answer to the petition for dissolution of marriage.
The law assumes that settlement of property and maintenance is an ancillary relief which a man owes his wife if he files for divorce.

For example a man file for divorce after 20years of marriage to his wife.

The law assumes he's the one filling for divorce after she has given him 20 years of her life. She may even throw in how she supported him(even if it's not financial support) and performed wifely duties to him. The law assumes the man can't leave her with an uncertain financial future (I still don't know whether this implies if the woman is rich.. didn't see anything like that though) after she spent two decades building his.

If she claims for settlement of properties in the marriage, the judge usually would look at the circumstances of the case and facts supplied to reach a decision on what to give her.
Judges have a wide discretionary power to settle matrimonial properties as it deems just to do so.

The judge has a discretion to award reliefs sought by parties in a divorce proceeding, according to the facts and circumstances of the case at hand.
If she specifically ask that she shares in the matrimonial properties and the facts and circumstances makes it justifiable that she does deserve a share, the court will order that.

The law doesn't care about who owns what or what anyone brought into the marriage.

The court can order settlement I. e share any property belonging to any of the parties on the request of the woman.

Nigerian law considers marriage as a partnership.

The law assumes when the partnership finally end, nobody leaves empty handed except the woman didn't specifically ask for anything.

Elder001:
I guess this is why men are scared to file for divorce or reluctant to file for divorce because from the way it seems now the law assumes you've wasted the woman's life.

Like only women can file for divorce because if you do you'll lose much.. smh

I won't advice any man(not even my enemy) to do registry marriage .
If a lady insists on registry marriage please she can't be trusted, kindly cancel the wedding.

Elder001:
If you don't want to share your properties then flee from any woman who insists on registry marriage.

or else na suicide go end am o.

Go and do ordinary customary marriage not statutory ..no matter how you love a Nigerian lady if she opts for the registry (statutory) don't think twice /thrice before you flee.

javalady:
Who makes POS sales of over 2million

and

Who makes a POS purchase of over 2million??

Hope you see the difference?

zombieHUNTER:
What is funny in the nonsense the BMC stooge wrote..
Is it funny to you that Nigerians are suffering and dying on a daily basis under the watchful eyes of the worst government ever known to man... The dude is selfishly hustling hard to feed... Don't be deceived by this

What is belovedbuhari... A known terrorist round the world

Mcy56:
Me self salute you. You tried!

honourhim:
You aint interested yet you came here to write. I laugh at you stu.pidity.

Mrop:
Alex and Ini Edo both stepped out separately in their designer Balmain white Tshirts that costs $230, which is equivalent to N83,000 in Nigerian Naira.

Nollywood actress, Ini Edo wore hers with a white 3-quarter pants with black strip at the sides and a brown mules, while Big Brother Naija Alex wore hers with similar white pants and white canvas.

Gist from praize news

News source :: http://www.praizenews.com/alex-vs-ini-edo-in-the-n83k-balmain-white-tshirt-who-wore-it-better/

Cc lalasticlala fynestboi

vizkiz:
Why he come block the guy?

This kin person can't survive on nairaland. How you wan take block people from picking on you here?

EarthXmetahuman:
Attache by force.

Delta is muti ethnic that's why no tribe can lay claim to delta state.

There are sub igbo group in delta, but that doesn't make delta an igbo land. Just because we have groups like itskeris who bear Yoruba names in delta all the way to bayelsa doesn't make entire delta state a Yoruba land.

The problem people have with igbos is acting like ss is their for their taking .. That's why most ethnic groups in ss always deny them whenever they ask for support in anything.

They lump everyone together and call them igbo as long as they bear igbo name. They don't care if the person wants to be called igbo or not.

Face your five eroded pigland state and find a way of developing it without attaching yourself by force with south south.
Trust me, if you show them you can stay on your own without them, those sub groups that keep denying their igbo identity will be the one begging to be called igbo not the other way around.

honourhim:
Oga read my post again before you respond. Nobody is sacking him since he has apologized.

What he did was bad and stu.pid of him but his apologies have been accepted by many south westerners who condemned him. Those of you who are waiting for him to be sacked may have to wait in vain.

But this is not the purpose i opened this thread. Read again fro proper understanding.

DoTheNeedful:
You are not getting it. You even contradicted yourself in your first paragraph. The protest was not a Yoruba thing and it was not everyone that supported it. I agree with you that it had political undertone but tribalizing it is evil. ACN/APC was never strong in the SS/SE and APC influenced the protest in the SW.

Nothing stops PDP/APGA from doing similar protest in the SS/SE.

I don't want to argue June 12 with you especially if you are under 27 years. You can't understand. MKO lost in the SE and he was not too popular there. The North conspired against him and wanted to sweep the issue under the carpet. Since the North betrayed him and he wasn't popular in the SE, the fight was left mostly to the SW. Even at that, people like Shehu Sani, Agbakoba, Alfred Rewane stood by him. Anyone that makes MKO a regional politician is either ignorant or evil.

Let Buhari rescind on the national holiday if he likes but even apart from politics, renaming first generation universities like UI, Unilag and UNN is not easy to do and will never be politically expedient for any politician. You will always have students and alumni to contend with. I was a staff and I'm an alumnus of the school I know what happened internally during that time. The alumni fought far more than the politicians. They went to meet GEJ a couple of times then. A lot of things happened in the background. Mind you, many of the excos of the alunmi association are not even Yoruba. Notable among them was Sunny Kuku.

By the way, you have carefully ignored what could happen if UNN is renamed after GEJ or any other politician tomorrow.

Gerrard59:
Even though we have disagreed on some topics, I salute you for on this topic.

Twale sir!

ACHILLES45:
I AM A PROVEN BASTARD

so you finally admitted.
chai.
yeye.

ACHILLES45:
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Boss13:
The desperate ones do. Trust me I know. I’m not bashing anyone. The one liner for all I have said is - take charge of your life. You cannot say a lady will not marry herself. Does she not have a boyfriend. If she doesn’t, she should go and look for. Go out to places you can meet potential suitors. Don’t be inside your house praying for a spouse. Will the man go inside your house to meet you there.

Go out and network. Meet people and show genuine interest in them and not being selfish because that’s the mindset of the average Nigerian woman. Oh the Man must suffer and spend money to get me - at your old age! You want to compete with the 25s. If a man is not serious about you, move on please.

If she has a boyfriend, bring up the marriage discussion. Make him get serious about it. If he is not serious, please move on. A man does not need a mansion or financial stability before he gets married. Infact, in my case, marriage brought financial stability for me.

I hate it when people does want to admit their errors and fix them. I don’t have time for bullshitters and cry babies. It’s your life, take charge and direct your destiny. Else breeze go blow you throwey. That’s how life treat people who don’t want to take charge of their life.

Boss13:
Irresponsible in my contextual usage doesn’t not only imply immoral. It also means inability to take on responsibility and poor decision making. Please if I mean engaging in immoral conduct or sexual conduct, I would state it clearly. I choose my words carefully and construct them objectively to arrive at what I mean.

Hence, yes ladies who are above 30 and not married are irresponsible. Some still engage in immoral conduct. Others are afraid of commitment or taking on extra responsibility, whilst some cannot making decisions for themselves. The same applies to men above 40 yet to be married.

Boss13:
True - we have many irresponsible men and women worldwide. People who want to continue cheating the system and feel they have the right to do so. They are the ones telling us doing irresponsible stuff is cool. If we are all responsible adults, no one would bother about cheating or even quarreling with their spouse. Marriage is responsibility to one self, to your partner, to your family (if you have kids) and commitment to that oath of responsibility you took on the altar or to yourself. Marriage should not guarantee you happiness. You are responsible for your own happiness. Do you get happy on your job all the time? I doubt that because there are some days you don’t feel like working, but you go to work because you owe your employers, customers, staff members/colleague, a duty of care. Same is with marriage. If you want to be happy in your marriage, you have to do things in your marriage that makes you happy and likewise your family. Stop looking for someone else to make you happy - that’s silly.

I need to retract my previous statement of last comment and address some salient point you raised above. See my response to each paragraph above.

Boss13:
The idiom - a fool at 40, is a fool forever, indicates everything I stated in my previous comment. A man at 40 should be able to sort his affairs out. Life is a choice. Your circumstances may be different, but the decision to change it depends on YOU.

We are not talking about successful marriage, but getting married and even making your marriage a success still depends on YOU putting in time and commitment to ensure success. If both partners have a success objective for their marriage, you begin to see the work and commitment they both put in the marriage and definitely such marriage will turn out successful. However, if one party is selfish or is not committed, then the marriage crashes. Your ability to pick out a successful partner still depends on YOU. Do your DUE DILIGENCE PROPERLY before you get married.

A lady who wants to get married knows what to do. She must identify her objective with her partner and if such partner does not share such objective then what are you still doing with such person? From day one, highlight your objective. I have had women walk out on me because I told them I wasn’t ready for marriage yet. Should such lady continue to be with me? Is that not stupidity.

Success is achieving your objective. First, you must have one, then have a plan to achieve it, implement the plan; having controls in place Incase of any changes and when the objective is achieved, you can consider such objective a success. So what is your objective? Don’t tell me. It’s for you to rationalize it.