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RomanceRe: When Do You Realize TRUE Friends & Realise Your Friend Was A Frenemy Experience by lavylilly(op): 7:56am On Aug 11, 2023
angry
freeborn02:
I'm happy your friend dated the guy. You don't deserve him. Forming hard to get doesn't make guys see you as a good person. Not all guys are moved by that bulllshit. A guy that will be serious with you will be serious, even if you have sex with him on a first date.
Oga! Carry you judgement Comot for here
FoodRe: What's The Weirdest Food Combo You've Ever Seen? by lavylilly: 3:09am On Aug 11, 2023
Agbado and cassava
FoodRe: What is the true situation of rice in Nigeria? How much does it cost? by lavylilly: 3:06am On Aug 11, 2023
Local rice they were selling for between 10-15k per 50kg bag in 2017 skyrocketed to over 28k in 2019 & currently selling at 38-49k

Truth is, many Nigerians are not really angry about corruption and stealing of public funds, they're only angry that they're not the ones benefiting from the corruption.
CareerRe: How Do I Handle Such A Boss by lavylilly: 2:56am On Aug 11, 2023
cheesy
DonroxyII:
Self Review Ethical Issues!
BusinessRe: Who Is Better At Saving Money- Men Or Women? by lavylilly: 2:55am On Aug 11, 2023
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codeigniter:
well written ma
BusinessRe: Who Is Better At Saving Money- Men Or Women? by lavylilly: 12:21pm On Aug 10, 2023
WOMEN
It depends on the person. Frugal people save money and it is not a characteristic limited to one gender. Different gender experience different expenses, generally speaking. It is difficult to compare expenses since it is relative even within genders.
However, most would agree that men generally spend more over a lifetime in general unless they prefer to stay single, never married and celibate. Here's my reasoning:

Men buy things for men and women buy things for women. But men are expected to also buy more things and more expensive things for women relatively speaking.

The average man tends to be the one to initiate dates and pays for them. The average Nigerian has about 100 dates over a lifetime. Once he finally gets it going serious, there is even more expenses. Kudos to women that insist on 50/50 all the way. It tends to be difficult to find one that is happily married.

A woman usually expects maintenance costs and dating costs. Even for a relatively frugal and egalitarian relationship I currently am in, that still runs up to 15% of my paycheck with measly rental income and I usually split with my fiancé. He gets unhappy, even though his understanding when I can't pay for certain things. He's is most happy when I buy things out of the blue for him, though he makes much more than me right now as a 6-figure salary software developer. Birthday gifts, anniversary, Christmas, ringa, girlfriend day, Valentine's Day - all expected that you pay. Even so called modern women will never go below 50/50 unless under extremely dire circumstances and will never reimburse you. It's considered a gift.

Of course, a man can shun cultural influences and so can a woman. But I've rarely seen a truly 50/50 case where both sides are happy over the long term.

Men tend to buy expensive gadgets, watches, cars, tailored suits. Men are also expected to pay the bills in most countries. Studies have shown that truly 50/50 egalitarian households fare worse than 60/40 and 100/0 in terms of long term happiness. So men tend to have to pay more. The courts tend to favor women to have the man pay alimony - at least 50% of his paycheck and likely more! Considering that there is more than a 50% chance of divorce, I'd say men have it worse, risk adjusted.

Women buy makeup, personal, fashion, accessories, hygiene, haircuts, and such. I get it. However, it depends how the individual spends on it. My fiancée saves a lot on these and it costs pretty close to my expenses.

But 50% of your paycheck far exceeds that in most cases.
RomanceRe: Apart From Money, Men Have Nothing To Provide In A Relationship by lavylilly: 12:21pm On Aug 10, 2023
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RomanceRe: 5 Smart Formats To Deal With A Stingy Boyfriend To Collect Money ( Men Sorry ) by lavylilly: 12:21pm On Aug 10, 2023
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CareerRe: Jobs City by lavylilly(op): 11:12am On Aug 10, 2023
Words of encouragement to those who feel like giving up

Hey there, champions of resilience!

Life is an unpredictable journey, filled with twists, turns, and unexpected challenges. But remember, it's these very challenges that shape us into the incredible beings we are meant to become.


When faced with disappointments, setbacks, or hurdles, don't let them define your path. Each obstacle is an opportunity for growth, learning, and transformation. The road to success isn't always smooth, but it's the bumps and bruises that make the victory all the more triumphant.

There was a time I got rejected at interviews, there was other times where I dictated what my salary should be. Missed a few opportunities, maximized the subsequent ones. Failed a few exams, turned out that the failure propelled me to succeed more.

Take a moment to reflect on all the times you've faced adversity and emerged stronger. Those moments of doubt and uncertainty were just stepping stones to your greatness. Believe in your abilities, tap into your inner reservoir of strength, and keep pushing forward.


Visualize your ultimate goal with unwavering clarity. Envision the taste of victory, the sweet accomplishment of your dreams. Hold onto that vision as a guiding star, and let it fuel your determination to overcome any obstacle in your path.

You are a champion!
CareerRe: Jobs City by lavylilly(op): 11:10am On Aug 10, 2023
How To Reply To A Job Rejection Email.


Who doesn’t dread the rejection email that comes after having an interview? 🥲

While it’s better to receive a notice rather than being ghosted, being rejected for a job opportunity can be disheartening. 💔

However, it’s important to not allow your temporary depression or sadness at the moment affect your drive to find another opportunity that better fits you.

So, before hitting the delete button, think about the possible benefits of sending back a quick response.

Here’s an example you can tailor in response to a rejection email👇

Dear Charles,

Thank you for letting me know of your decision.

And thank you also for taking the time to meet with me – it really was a pleasure to learn more about the role and the company.

Of course it’s disappointing for me to see this opportunity pass.

But following discussions with you and your colleagues, as well as my prior research, I remain convinced that XYZ is the company for me.

As your team continues to grow to meet the challenges ahead, I would be grateful if you would give consideration to my profile when looking to fill future roles.

I will also keep a regular eye on your website for new vacancies.

Please don’t feel obliged (as I know you have a lot on your plate), but if you are able to share some brief thoughts on what I could do differently to secure a different outcome in my next application I would be most grateful.

It’s been great to meet you and the team, and I’d love to stay in touch.

Thanks again, and best wishes for you and your new hire.
RomanceRe: When Do You Realize TRUE Friends & Realise Your Friend Was A Frenemy Experience by lavylilly(op): 8:17am On Aug 10, 2023
NEUDUDE:
Lol the day my ex friend grin jokingly called my first car a molue in front of his girl. I knew that was envy speaking and i sure didnt wait for him to stab me in the back before i flee. The heart of man is extremely wicked... Have friends at your own peril, my friendship is merely transactional we interchange value is all. If you do for me, i go do for you shikena grin
So, you haven't experienced true friendship?
RomanceRe: When Do You Realize TRUE Friends & Realise Your Friend Was A Frenemy Experience by lavylilly(op): 8:16am On Aug 10, 2023
HUSTLER001:
One baztard i helped a certain time stabbed me at the back by saying derogatory things about me to a girl he was trying to woo.To think that me & this fool usually drink in a bar together made me wonder. Saw him recently and he looked rejected. Him papa!
Do you have an experience of when you realize you had a true friend? If she please share
RomanceRe: When Do You Realize TRUE Friends & Realise Your Friend Was A Frenemy Experience by lavylilly(op): 8:16am On Aug 10, 2023
Zigzagman:
The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies
Share your experience of when you realize you had a true friend and lo share another experience when you realize you had an enemy as a friend. Thank you
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Are You Looking For Job With Accommodation? Come In by lavylilly(op): 8:14am On Aug 10, 2023
A growing Pentecostal Church in Lagos is seeking to employ suitable and God fearing Individual to fill the vacant position position below:
Job Title: Church Administrator / Accountant
Location: Lagos
Qualifications
Candidate must possess a B.Sc / OND from a reputable Institution
Must be a chartered accountant with a minimum of 3 years' experience and must be a married man.
Skills needed:
General Administration
Payroll and Taxes
Keeping of Accounting records and books
Knowledge in Quick Books Accounting Software
Good communication skills
Leadership abilities
Ability to work with little or no supervision
Must be filled with the Holy Spirit.
Must be called to ministry, with ministry experience
Application Closing Date
30.08.23
Salary #400,000
How to Apply
Interested and qualified candidates should send their CV to: etukisraelsolomon@gmail.com using the Job Title as the subject of the email.
Note: For more enquiries, please contact the recruiter on: 08162644076
RomanceWhen Do You Realize TRUE Friends & Realise Your Friend Was A Frenemy Experience by lavylilly(op): 10:55am On Aug 06, 2023
True friends are a gift 🎁
I recall when I last everything as a result of BUHARI economic conditions, I lost money, the lady took me in, house me, fed me and did not allow me pay any utilities bill, it was from there I got am apartment and started life.

Frenemies experience
I had a friend whom I told her everything about me and my secrets, she sold me out for 5k to a toxic man. This was someone that we spent my man's money together, how much he gives and how we spend his money.

Share your experience
CareerWhat Would You Do In This Situation At The Work Place? by lavylilly(op): 10:40am On Aug 06, 2023
From DM
Dear Careerlanders,

I have an MD who doesn't believe in taxes, I have informed him by sending mails of the implications of not remitting taxes.

He recently requested for TCC and I informed him it will be difficult to get because we have not been filing for VAT since 2019 plus their are penalities and fines attached to not filing.

He said, "any road side accountant can get TCC, why am I finding it difficult to get TCC".

The organization was incorporated in 2018 but started officially in 2019 they only did 2020 & 2021 audited financial statements (AFS) and it's not on tax promax and I informed him of the implications of our actions.

The auditor (to me is not an auditor because I haven't seen an auditor with earrings in my entire life) said tax pro max said tax pro max is the same as accounting software & it started in 2022 & I am supposed to know how to put it on tax Pro max but I informed him that from the (AFS) there's an annual turnover of 100m+ for 2020 and I asked if his aware of the implications given the fact that the company have not filed any VAT since 2019 he didn't respond.
I probed further, asking him since TPM came out in 2022 and the AFS of 2021 was done in 2022, why didn't he inform the organization about the news development and it's implications? He said, he was only contracted to do AFS.

It took serious fight to do the AFS for 2022 and it even the AFS is done half way (draft copy) and yet to be completed, the MD cited the fact that the current auditor (not the one with earrings) want to expose them to tax labilities because of the money he wants to collect, but I said no, his only informing us about the likelihood of our actions, if we go with 100m+ as turnover in the AFS 2020.

How best do you handle such boss because the auditor is telling my boss that I am supposed to know how to prepare audited financial statements and I said No, there's a difference between an auditor and an accountant.

Kindly help the best way to handle this lingering issue.
RomanceHow Do Handle This Situation by lavylilly(op): 10:31am On Aug 06, 2023
From DM
Imet this guy sometimes last year. It took me 6mnths before I finally accepted to date him, at first I was not really in love but gradually I began to love him beyond measure. Truth is I never asked him for anything instead I was the one spending for him...despite how he treated me I still endured..most times I go on my knees for hours begging before he finally forgives me for wat I don't even kno I did wrong.....
He makes sure 3rd parties are involved in our relationship...he lies against me just to be called the right one, all this I endured until one day I was rushed to the hospital unconscious and it took God's intervention before I regained consciousness...he was called only for him to tell my family he traveled.....meanwhile he was the last person I chatted with that same day before I was rushed to d hospital...later a friend of mine called him asking him why he is still not at the hospital but his reply was "don't she have parents" why not call them.. he told my friend he can't come for any reason and even told my friend that he lied about travelling...little did he kno that my parents were listening to his conversation with my friend...
Thank God I have been discharged but even till now he has not called or messaged to say he said anything about me being sick

I feel hurt...that somebody I loved with all my life could actually do this to me....even tho I endured so many maltreatment from him.....yet my life meant nothing to him
CareerRe: How Do I Handle Such A Boss by lavylilly: 10:24am On Aug 06, 2023
Bro you've explained everything to him. The next step is to resign and get another company to offer your professional service. These business owners need to go and do short course on compliance.

An Accountant can prepare a financial statement but an Auditor prepares Audited Financial Statement by auditing the financial statement that was prepared by an Accountant
FamilyFour Stages Of Elimination In Life by lavylilly(op): 3:50pm On Aug 03, 2023
Four Stages of Elimination in Life

At 60, the workplace eliminates you. No matter how successful or powerful you were during your career, you'll return to being an ordinary person. So, don't cling to the mindset and sense of superiority from your past job, let go of your ego, or you might lose your sense of ease!

At 70, society gradually eliminates you. The friends and colleagues you used to meet and socialize with become fewer, and hardly anyone recognizes you at your former workplace. Don't say, "I used to be..." or "I was once..." because the younger generation won't know you, and you mustn't feel uncomfortable about it!

At 80, family slowly eliminates you. Even if you have many children and grandchildren, most of the time you'll be living with your spouse or by yourself. When your children visit occasionally, it's an expression of affection, so don't blame them for coming less often, as they're busy with their own lives!

At 90, the Earth wants to eliminate you. Some of the people you knew have already departed forever. At this point, don't be sad or mournful, because this is the way of life, and everyone will eventually follow this path!

Therefore, while our bodies are still capable, live life to the fullest! Worship God as we're commanded to obey and worship Him.

Remember, the only thing that won't eliminate you is God!. So, meet Him more, communicate with Him more, say a hello, maintain your presence with Him and you will have no regrets! Happy New Month.
CareerRe: Jobs City by lavylilly(op): 3:45pm On Aug 03, 2023
Ask for your Salary Breakdown When given an Offer.

Do not let anyone use Gross salary to deceive you, you will receive heartbreak at the end of the month when you eventually get paid.

When negotiating your offer, tell HR to show you the salary breakdown.

I was once given an Offer out of excitement I took the offer without asking for my salary breakdown, and upon receiving my first month's salary N75,000 was deducted from my salary, I went to meet the accountant to give me my salary breakdown and he refused.

I kept pressing for them to give it to me and by the time he did, he just wrote down the net salary. If you are not hiding anything from me it is difficult for you to let me have my payslip or show me what the salary breakdown is.

For a better understanding below is what a generic Salary Breakdown looks like:

Gross Salary: xxxxxxxx
Basic Salary: xxxxxxxxx
Housing Allowance: xxxxxxxx
Transportation Allowance: xxxxxxxxx
Utility Allowance: xxxxxxxx
Leave Allowance: xxxxx (if any not all organisations give this)
Other Allowance:xxxxxxx (most times not taxable)
Employee Pension: xxxxxxx
PAYE: xxxxxx
13th Month: xxxxxx (if any)
Net Salary: xxxxxxx

By the time you sum it, they should all add up if an amount is missing ensure to ask the HR questions about it.

While we aim at adding value to an organization we earn a living, we should not be cheated while at it.


May bro Bernard not be your portion 🤐🤐🤐
TV/MoviesRe: Pictures From Bbnaija Season 8 All Star Saturday Night Party by lavylilly: 6:17pm On Jul 31, 2023
MrJames007:
See this one. undecided
it's obvious she looking for sex tonight
TV/MoviesRe: Pictures From Bbnaija Season 8 All Star Saturday Night Party by lavylilly: 6:17pm On Jul 31, 2023
The girl on blue is not putting any panties on! Damnit girls sef cry
SportsRe: Nigeria Vs Rep.of. Ireland: FIFA Women’s World Cup (0 - 0) On 31st July 2023 by lavylilly: 6:14pm On Jul 31, 2023
grin
Lilimax:
Never mind we will score soonest smiley
CareerRe: I Failed Job Pre Medical Tests by lavylilly: 3:02pm On Jul 31, 2023
Urbaninspire:
I am so depressed at the moment,I passed the first stage, second stage interview,it was a success then I got the invite for the premedical and I failed the medical tests because I have hepatitis,I don't know how hepatitis got into my blood stream,I don't know what to do again,is just 2 much for my head...I need encouragement
Which of the hepatitis?
SportsRe: Nigeria Vs Rep.of. Ireland: FIFA Women’s World Cup (0 - 0) On 31st July 2023 by lavylilly: 12:30pm On Jul 31, 2023
Weak attempt for Nigeria number 18, she should have passed the ball
SportsRe: Nigeria Vs Rep.of. Ireland: FIFA Women’s World Cup (0 - 0) On 31st July 2023 by lavylilly: 12:27pm On Jul 31, 2023
Another block
SportsRe: Nigeria Vs Rep.of. Ireland: FIFA Women’s World Cup (0 - 0) On 31st July 2023 by lavylilly: 12:26pm On Jul 31, 2023
Almost a goal for. Nigeria
SportsRe: Nigeria Vs Rep.of. Ireland: FIFA Women’s World Cup (0 - 0) On 31st July 2023 by lavylilly: 12:25pm On Jul 31, 2023
Onomonu in on the action
SportsRe: Nigeria Vs Rep.of. Ireland: FIFA Women’s World Cup (0 - 0) On 31st July 2023 by lavylilly: 12:22pm On Jul 31, 2023
Update!
Third goal for Australia

Double substitution
Monday gift finally in
Onomonu in
SportsRe: Nigeria Vs Rep.of. Ireland: FIFA Women’s World Cup (0 - 0) On 31st July 2023 by lavylilly: 12:19pm On Jul 31, 2023
As it stands ow we would meet England in the knock out stage
SportsRe: Nigeria Female National Teams' Thread by lavylilly: 12:18pm On Jul 31, 2023
BronzeTiger:
I honestly want to see gift Monday in this match.
Same thing here o
CareerRe: Jobs City by lavylilly(op): 12:12pm On Jul 31, 2023
*Financial Reporting Analyst*

4yrs and above experience
Big 4 or Asset Management/Investment Banking industry experience is highly desirable
Must be ACA/ACCA Qualified

Pay 500k plus net.

I’ll be happy to receive qualified CVs via DM on telegram to
@LorenzoBanks

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