Career › Re: Jobs City by lavylilly(op): 7:52pm On Jul 29, 2023 |
Tomorrow Sunday July 30th 2023 is the D day, history will be made as the first batch of enrollees into Employment Academy (30k monthly support to jobless graduates) will be inaugurated, BFF for widows and orphans will be launched and other events, all at the opening of Givers Embassy, the 1st No Tithe, No Offering Church. Come with your Christmas cloth ready to dance in giving thanks to God for life and good health. Let us be orderly and enjoy the service as we wait for selection procedure after the launching. Time is 9am at NUT Pavilion, Alausa, Ikeja, Lagos. Use your GPS in case you have difficulties in locating the place. Together, we will make the world a better place. See you in Church |
Jobs/Vacancies › Re: The Tech Craze: A Bubble, Not A Solution For Unemployment In Nigeria. by lavylilly: 7:26pm On Jul 29, 2023 |
 Unittyy: It baffles me how unemployed and frustrated graduate think they can hurriedly take some online courses in Coursera, Udemy, Utiva within 3 - 6 months and become programmers, data analyst etc. Tech is still paying big time but the issue is that the street is littered with mediocre self acclaimed tech people who have nothing to offer. |
Business › Re: Is It Advisable To Save Money With These Recent Events by lavylilly: 7:15pm On Jul 29, 2023 |
Save in $, you don't need a domiciliary account IyanuDeb: depreciation of money I think |
Romance › Re: I Need Help Urgently On How Best To Help My Woman Heal From This Ugly Encounter by lavylilly(op): 7:14pm On Jul 29, 2023 |
Y do you feel his lying OKOATA: All these bannies with the same piece of crap lines, how niggas still fall for this sh*t baffles me. To even be in a relationship and not lash is funny as fu*k, naso my GF say that as a kid she was kidnapped for 4 days and knacked by men. She con like sex pass anything as I dey give am back to back. One thing I no too understand be say na you carry the matter pass anything. Oga e be like you never enter woman trap before, dem dey play you wayo. You better start to knakana the banny and no dey play mumu love. |
Career › Re: What My Boss Did To Me. by lavylilly: 3:24pm On Jul 29, 2023 |
youngsahito: People never wanted to see somebody below them to be successful. They rather see you beg for food every day and worship them. Almighty God will help you to be an achiever. You should have had a plan b because women are the assistant to devil. Never tell your boss your plans |
Romance › Re: Do You Believe in No-Sex Before Marriage? by lavylilly: 3:20pm On Jul 29, 2023 |
Actually, some ladies take this no sex before marriage nonsense too far. Ask Linda ikeji, she will tell you. Its just bullshitt. You can't be telling lies, deceiving people and yet now be forming celibate all in the name of marriage. She's eventually was at the back collecting d!ck Who are you deceiving? |
Romance › Re: I Need Help Urgently On How Best To Help My Woman Heal From This Ugly Encounter by lavylilly(op): 3:18pm On Jul 29, 2023 |
YoungBlackRico: Na lie o...they all have this same story Why do you think she's lying? |
Romance › Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by lavylilly: 10:23am On Jul 29, 2023 |
Zigzagman: Wow. Is this all true? Yes it all true. I know of many women going through exactly the same trauma I have stated most especially sexual abuse. |
Romance › Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by lavylilly: 10:19am On Jul 29, 2023 |
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Romance › Re: I Need Help Urgently On How Best To Help My Woman Heal From This Ugly Encounter by lavylilly(op): 10:15am On Jul 29, 2023 |
dawnomike: visit a professional counselor... It will cost you money but worths it at the long run Kindly recommend any Nigeria. |
Romance › I Need Help Urgently On How Best To Help My Woman Heal From This Ugly Encounter by lavylilly(op): 5:38am On Jul 29, 2023 |
From DM I have a wonderful relationship with an amazing woman. She's a complete spec of all I ever wanted in a woman. She's extremely beautiful, kind, supportive... She doesn't hesitate to buy me gifts even in her moment of lack.
I'm convinced beyond all doubts that we're SOULMATES. Our love story is very interesting and we're truly in love. Time will fail me to discuss US in this thread.
However, we both agreed mutually to have sex only after we're married but she has a very ugly memory that's hunting and hurting her emotions so much that we really need find a solution to it before it causes us a great damage.
MY FIANCÉE WAS SEXUALLY ABUSED AT A VERY TENDER AGE BY A RELATIVE WHO LIVED WITH THEM. She was molested uncountably by this monter of an Uncle who took advantage of her who found pleasure in defiling a primary school pupil.
I've tried so much to counsel her but somehow, I still believe she's not totally free from that trauma. I was a victim of sexual abuse, as well but I found the courage to heal on time but my Fiancée is still battling with this horrible experience.
I hate to see my woman in pains cos I truly and genuinely love her.
I Need help urgently on how best to help my woman heal from this ugly encounter. Please, anyone with practical experience should advise me on how to handle this situation and save my fiancée from this trauma.
Mods, kindly help me reach a wider audience |
Romance › Re: How Has Your Childhood Trauma Shaped Your Adult Love Relationships? by lavylilly: 5:32am On Jul 29, 2023 |
I'm not sure that I can describe 'all' the ways, but my experiences of childhood trauma have certainly mapped out my personality, emotions, situational reactions and who I am. This could potentially be a very very long answer, instead of just a long one, so I will attempt to categorise my experiences and their legacy. All effects lasted into my early 20's in some way or other. Neglect: due to the profound and continued neglect suffered throughout my childhood and teens I reacted in numerous ways. 1. I would lie constantly and make up stories for my peers that made it sound like I had a loving family and Happy life. 2. I would steal clothes, books, cd's etc. to make it look like I had things, or even to say I had received birthday/Christmas presents. 3. I vowed never to treat my own family and child(ren) this way. Physical abuse: I was terrorised by my older sister who kicked, punched and abused me on a level far above that of sibling rivalry or 'normal' fights. Mum would also smack or hit us with a slipper when we had done wrong. This led to... 1. My being very quiet and lacking assertiveness. 2. Having feelings of inadequacy, low self esteem and lack of confidence. I believed I deserved punishment. 3. Being cowardly and passing blame onto others to avoid punishment. 4. Allowing others to take advantage of my demeanour, then hating myself for being so weak. Emotional abuse: similarly to physical, my sister could manipulate my emotions quite skilfully, and I constantly believed I was worthless. I was never told I was loved, or pretty, or clever etc. and had no emotional support. 1. I had no ambitions as I felt useless and pointless. 2. I craved attention either positive or negative, and had to be centre of attention. 3. I sought people I deemed weaker than I, and helped them, advised them and supported them as a way of feeling needed and worthy. 4. I became promiscuous as a way of harnessing affection and feeling loved/wanted, however false and brief the encounter. 5. I self harmed or feigned illness as a way of gaining sympathy from others. Sexual abuse: I don't know when it started (presumably as a young child), but it didn't stop until I was in my twenties. I realise now that this has messed me up more than I knew, and continues to have a profound effect. 1. As previous, I became promiscuous and used sex as a way of control. It was entirely in my hands on who I gave it to, and what they got. I could take it away and have them at my mercy. 2. I attempted suicide twice. 3. I never enjoyed sex. It was a means to an end. I have never orgasmed. I don't like to be touched and physically recoil or stiffen when my man comes near me. We have been together for 6 years, and have not had sex in 5 yrs. 4. I have constant nightmares that my grandfather is trying to touch me. In the dreams I scream out, kick and punch him and tell everyone what he is doing/has done (something I could never do in real life). Over and above these effects I have suffered differing forms of depression including post natal and PTSD. I have been bankrupt, lost our home and still have financial difficulties now. I have a number of flash backs which could have been triggered by trauma. However, in contrast, I have pulled my life up from its depths and defied my upbringing. I returned to education and became a teacher at one point. I got pregnant as a result of my promiscuousity and had a son whom I adored and told him I loved him every day. I had therapy both for sexual abuse and to recognise the neglect and other systematic abuse, and come to terms with it. I recently cut my sister out of my life (which feels great!) and I have surrounded myself with people whom I love, and genuinely reciprocate. The saddest part is that my son tragically died aged 3, but due to the inner strength I have built over the years, I made sure his memory was regailed and I founded a charity as a living memorial to him and his creative talents. My life is full of so many positives, that it by far outweighs the negatives. The abuse, and my grief will always be a part of me, but my experiences have shaped who I am today, and I will not be held prisoner by my memories. QueenDima47: My childhood trauma affected me negatively. I had parents and still have but one who doesn't have is better than me. No love from them. No help from them not even uncle or any relative. Just survive if you want on your own. where will I start from. My parents never cared to know what I wanted And how they will help me. My mom is the worse. She talks about money money money. I talk to myself all the time. Thinking all the time. I have no confidence in my self. But God is my helper. |
Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Have They Increased Your Salary? by lavylilly(op): 5:06am On Jul 29, 2023 |
IamAsiri: Do you believe that it's only those 2 banks that increased their staffs' salaries? No |
Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Have They Increased Your Salary? by lavylilly(op): 3:38pm On Jul 28, 2023 |
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Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Have They Increased Your Salary? by lavylilly(op): 8:03pm On Jul 27, 2023 |
Herkim: Hopefully other banks will follow as well if I hear |
Jobs/Vacancies › Have They Increased Your Salary? by lavylilly(op): 2:26pm On Jul 27, 2023 |
Zenith Bank, Wema Bank and MasterCard has increased their workers salaries.
There was a massive jubilation at all Zenith Bank branches all over the country as the staff of the banks woke up to the news that their salaries had been increased by 100%.
This was the bank's attempt to lessen the impact of the removal of fuel subsidies.
A driver at Zenith Bank now earns 120,000 while a cleaner goes home with 80k.
The good thing is that the Increment was for both contract and permanent staff of the bank.
Workers were seen in groups praying for the owner of the bank, Jim Ovia, the oracle of Agbor that God would bless his large heart, while others changed their WhatsApp DPs to his pictures. It is good and touching to see Nigerian big business doing the most for their staff in these perilous hard times. Chukwudi Iwuchukwu reported
Things are not easy in Nigeria. The government must increase the minimum wage and work with the private sector to improve the economy. |
Business › Zero Rated: Charge VAT But At 0% Exempted: Do Not Charge VAT. ——————— by lavylilly(op): 2:18pm On Jul 27, 2023 |
Zero rated: Charge VAT but at 0% Exempted: Do not charge VAT.
——————— What are Zero-rated good and services under VAT Act?
Zero-rated VAT refers to goods and services that are VATable, just that the applicable rate is Zero percent.
Zero rated supplies are taxable in nature. Therefore, the input VAT you paid on your purchases can be claimed/recovered.
#Thefollowingtransactionsarezerorated;
❇️ Non-oil exports are products which do not form part of oil export but contributes to the growth of the total export. Few examples are: Rice, Sesame seeds, Dried Cassava Flour/ Garri, Palm Kernel Oil, Rubber, Textiles, Cocoa Beans.
❇️ Goods and Services purchased by Diplomats A diplomat is a person who is accredited, such as an ambassador, to officially represent a government in its relations with other governments or international organisations.
❇️ Goods and Services purchased by humanitarian donor-funded projects: This is crystal clear. As far as the goods are purchased for the purpose of helping individuals who are really struggling (a way of alleviating poverty), and not for a business venture or a profit making objective.
——————— What are exempted goods and services under VAT Act?
Exempted goods and services are not VATable. You also can not claim input VAT on your purchases, nor can you issue a tax invoice for the sale of exempted goods or services. i.e. not subject to 7.5% VAT.
#ThefollowingtransactionsareVATexempt;
Exempted goods ❇️ All medical and pharmaceutical products; ❇️ Basic food items; ❇️ Books and Educational materials; ❇️ Baby products; ❇️ Fertilizer (locally produced), agricultural and veterinary medicine, farming machinery
Exempted Services ❇️ Services rendered by Community Banks, ❇️ People's Banks and Mortgage Institutions, ❇️ Plays and performance conducted by the educational institutions as part of learning. ❇️ All exported services. |
Romance › Re: I Have This Issue, My Wife When I Married Her by lavylilly(op): 1:55pm On Jul 27, 2023 |
padi94: What do you need condom for Probably for having more kids. |
Career › Re: Inflation: Why Are Salary Earners The Hardest Hit? by lavylilly: 1:48pm On Jul 27, 2023 |
xandy84: Dash out cars? Really!!! So, where did car go to na |
Romance › Re: I Just Had Sex With A Girl I Saw Today by lavylilly: 8:09am On Jul 25, 2023 |
Bradford111: You mean your father Your mother, the one that gave birth to you |
Politics › Re: Subsidy Removal: Abiodun Approves N10,000 For Workers, Pensioners by lavylilly: 8:08am On Jul 25, 2023 |
You are mad |
Romance › I Have This Issue, My Wife When I Married Her by lavylilly(op): 8:07am On Jul 25, 2023 |
From DM I have this issue, my wife when i married her she was young skinny and just there but since she start giving birth she became so beautiful sexy everywhere in her body are now falling into the right place i feel like sleeping with her every day, but the thing is that she just gave birth to my second son who just clock three months. We've started making love, the thing is that i don't know how to use condoms because if i put on condom within four to five minutes I will lose erection. I want to know if there is any tip on how to use it .
Please if anybody can help i will really appreciate. |
Romance › Re: I Just Had Sex With A Girl I Saw Today by lavylilly: 7:59am On Jul 25, 2023 |
Bradford111: So I saw this beautiful girl with big backside she was also staring at me when I was observing her I approached her and took her number
Fast forward this night she called that she wants to see me here she is naked on my bed after lying to her boyfriend that she is in the house with her sister…. Don’t ask me how I knew cuz he called and they were on the phone for like 2hours
Mehn girls are something else is a long story sha
I just pray I’m not infected for screwing her raw u are a fool |
Sports › Re: Nigeria Female National Teams' Thread by lavylilly: 7:56am On Jul 25, 2023 |
PDPGuy: BTW, the Super Falcons 0-0 draw with Canada was the first clean sheet by the SF in an opening WC match.. They have previously conceded at least one goal in their prior 8 opening matches.
Moreover, the goalless draw was also the first ever that the Falcons have recorded at the WC They have conceded 63 goals in WC highest ever for a female national side. |
Career › Re: Inflation: Why Are Salary Earners The Hardest Hit? by lavylilly: 7:37am On Jul 25, 2023 |
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Career › Re: Inflation: Why Are Salary Earners The Hardest Hit? by lavylilly: 7:32am On Jul 25, 2023 |
xandy84: I have a friend who is into car business and he has already closed shop. Borrow money import cars but nobody buys it for months. Factor interest on borrowed capital, depreciation and you're in trouble. Business that provide non essential services and the worst hit in inflation period, followed by salary earners. Did he dash out the cars? I am interested if his willing to talk business. |
Career › Re: Inflation: Why Are Salary Earners The Hardest Hit? by lavylilly: 7:31am On Jul 25, 2023 |
tete7000: Everybody is hit, even the business owner. If you own a business and your every means of production increase, you increase your price and expect the salary earners who haven't had theirs increased to come and patronise you. Many of them come begging you for credits they can't pay back. When you insist on no credit, your sale plummeted.  |
Career › Re: Inflation: Why Are Salary Earners The Hardest Hit? by lavylilly: 7:30am On Jul 25, 2023 |
9jabox: Savings how? When he will buy data, send clothes, hospital bills (when illness knocks) send mummy and daddy something once in a while…. Guyyyyy Babe He should quit because his working transporters. |
Career › Re: Inflation: Why Are Salary Earners The Hardest Hit? by lavylilly: 1:20pm On Jul 24, 2023 |
9jabox: My friend works in a private organization where he’s paid 80k per month. It was actually increased from 69 to 80k after the first fuel hike. The company can’t do another increment after the second hike meanwhile, his transport fare had increased by another 25%.
He works from Monday to Saturday.
His transport fare to and from work is 1500 daily excluding feeding. Dude spends an average of 3k daily for TP and feeding.
Tell me, what is his gain? Multiply by 6 days equal 18k times 4 weeks that's about 72k, it's a slim chance he would have any meaningful savings. |
Career › Re: Jobs City by lavylilly(op): 7:08am On Jul 24, 2023 |
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Politics › Re: Fuel Price Hike: Lagos Workers Adopt Shift Operations; Residents Lament Plights by lavylilly: 7:53am On Jul 23, 2023 |
While you wait to get verified, share these to your friends on social media and use it as your status on whatsapp A great way to ease the pain of the increased fuel price is ride sharing. Driveinhub is a Ride Sharing app for all to ease the high cost of transportation. Driveinhub- Ride Sharing & Multi-Purpose App 𝑫𝒐𝒘𝒏𝒍𝒐𝒂𝒅 𝑵𝒐𝒘: App Store [ https://apps.apple.com/us/app/driveinhud/id6447472979?platform=iphone] Google Play store: [ https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.charpell.driveinhud] Acekidc4: Problems like this is Suppose to make the Citizens become Innovative and Creative in finding alternative Workable Solutions. This is a good time for we Nigerians to be Creative instead of waiting for government everytime. How many can government do for Us?? We can do a lot of things for ourselves by ourselves. Don't wait for government wey no send una Papa. |
Politics › Re: Fuel Hike: Public Complaints Company Adjusts Work Schedule by lavylilly: 7:51am On Jul 23, 2023 |
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