MrOjay1: My younger cousin is what you will regard as a typical big boy.He drives a good car and is living large.
We haven't been in contact for a long while so I decided to get his number and call him to catch up on old times. I really wanted him to put me through his line of work so I could solve my personal issues. He invited me over to his place and I stayed there for 3 days.
Omo after the first day there,he gave me his clothes to help him wash and instructed me to clean his flat.Hmmm I did it o
He came back with his woman and didn't even mutter as much as a thank you.
He even told her I was one of those his family members 'wey no get levels'.He said it in a very spiteful and disregarding manner.This na person I senior o and he do visit us then when he was little.
I was a little pissed at that descrption and he noticed it.there are other humiliating stuff that happened that day but I don't really have strength for typing.He was just using me to shine in front of the girl.
Before I left,he told me I will need to humble myself before him unless nothing for me.
I'm thinking of going back there to apologise to him for being pissed at him.
How do you guys see it?
I really need his percuniary support to solve my personal issues.
InsideLife2022: I have been an active member on this forum for the past eight years. I just created this account to bring this issue to limelight. Good evening gentlemen and ladies. I got married in late 2020. God being merciful, we are blessed with a baby of 5 months. My wife has been giving me attitudes of recent. I have tried to find out what the problem has been, she is not saying anything tangible. I am being confused and depressed. I have been begging her to come back to join me after delivery. She keeps traumazing me emotionally. She just told me our marriage is over. She couldn't say what the problem is.
She has not been taking care of the baby. She was medically advised to stop breastfeeding our baby permanently. Is not that she breastfeeds our baby. My mother in-law and sisters in-law have been complaining about her lack of motherly treats.
They told me she doesn't even know how to take care of the baby. They cannot allow my child to be in her custody because she can't take care of the baby as a mother. She has fought her mother for asking her to leave her house to join her husband. Every member of her family has been asking her what the problem is. She keeps telling them to come and marry me that it's over between us.
I haven't told any of my family members or my friends of what is going on in my marriage. I am a kind of person that do not like involving a third party in my new marriage of lest than two years.
Her family has never supported her actions. Her mom and her siblings have been asking me to come take my wife and baby. But, my wife is not ready to join me. It has been a serious issues in her family house each time they push her to go meet her husband.
Her family has ask me to come with some soldiers or the police to come carry my baby and leave her since she claims she is no longer interested in any marriage. I have been trying my best to make sure my wife never lacked anything during her pregnancy and even after delivery.
My in-laws have been very supportive and good to me. I know they have never and will not support her for her wrong actions and behaviors. My challenge is, my baby is just 5 months and I don't want to take the baby to my parents because of the questions people around will be asking. I don't want to be seen as someone who is separated from his wife. I hate divorce with passion. My wife does not have any concrete reason why she decides to stay off our marriage.
Her family is fully in support of my next actions of going to take my baby. Now, the question is this; is it advisable to keep the baby with me while I employ a nanny to raise the baby with me?
Please and please I need mature and sensible advise.
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evuna: My sister is 26 years and a graduate of Statistics from a federal university in the South East. There is an issue, more like a blessing. She had been writing aptitude tests since and failing but something remarkable is happening this year. She has been passing all the graduate trainee tests and interviews this year. She is at the final stage of Cerdar group, Stanbic, Meristem and Oilserv graduate trainee program. Just waiting for offer letters. She got an offer into Wema bank graduate trainee but rejected it because of 2 years bond. She is currently in Gt Bank graduate training school.
The issue is that KPMG just invited her for their test which is physical on Saturday. The Gt bank program runs from Monday-Saturday. I have been trying so hard to convince her to take take permission from the tutors at Gtb and go to write the KPMG test. She refused that she does not like Accounting as she read Statistics but she was open to it before this year and had been writing tests of different audit firms. I prefer KPMG to Stanbic and GT and want her to give it a shot.
She is 26 and this is her last chance at any graduate trainee program. Please what do you guys think? She is confused too.
KPMG ( yet to write the test) GTB ( in training school already) Meristem ( Waiting for offer letter) Stanbic ( Waiting for offer letter)
Which among the above listed is the better choice for a graduate of statistics and is the KPMG test worth taking the risk. Please I need opinions from Nairalanders as I told her to allow me take my time to think about it.
Mods, please push to front page for more experienced professionals to help us. Thanks
Accept the offer from Meristem and take the KPMG test.
If she progresses to the final stage and get an offer from KPMG, quit Merristem and join KPMG!
Danonym: Hi everybody, I collected Loan from addmoney.
A loan of N31,000...I made a transaction and it went horribly wrong, so I had to borrow from another app and pay them their 37k, they said they did not receive it...I contacted my bank and nothing yet..
Now my loan has been 4 days overdue and I am to pay N40,000, I've been hustling and trying to pay back but to no avail
Just yesterday they called my family and insulted them, the thing just weaken me, they promised I will go viral....I am just currently lying down, weak..nothing to do.. Also this is my first post
Akinpedia: When younger we make various choice's without the future in mind. Sometimes those choices bite us in our mid-life. These are some of the things one might regret when they're older.
1. *Marrying the wrong person*
When you're young, check your motives for marrying. Don't marry to copy your peers, or for social standing or out of pressure.
Marry for love and companionship, marry the right person, marry your best friend. For if you marry the wrong person or for the wrong reasons, you will have to put up with that person the rest of your life.
Things might get worse between you two; then depression, physical abuse, affairs, pain, shame, court cases, bitterness will define your mid-life years all because you chose the wrong one.
Things will get worse when children are involved. Make the right choice of a spouse when you are young.
2. *The opportunities you did not seize*
When you are younger many doors will open, you will get many chances. Many young people let these opportunities go because of fear, laziness, or pride; yet well younger and with more energy is the best time to start a venture and a name for yourself.
Some think the opportunities are too big for them. Take advantage of them or one day when you're older you will want to go back and grab those missed chances.
3. *The bridges you burned*
When we are younger, we care little for relationships, what most think about is getting money and moving up the ladder of success at all cost.
Many use and trample on people to progress, they take relationships for granted, messing up bonds, sleeping with people for personal gain.
But these bad actions will catch up with you ahead. When you will realize how empty life is without love and friends. When you will have success but no one around you or no one to trust you.
4. *The child you aborted*
You are a young lady, you get pregnant and you are scared. You take the aborting option quickly thinking of that moment then. But when you are much older, you will look back and wish you kept that baby.
When you will be rich and successful you will wish that child you gave up on would be around to enjoy the fruits of your hard work. Being a single mother doesn't mean you can't make it in life or you can't find a man in future.
5. *The child you rejected*
Young man, you impregnated a woman, she told you she's pregnant with your child. You rejected her and the baby and ran. But years later when you're 50 something, you will wish you were responsible, you will wish you manned up and became a father to that child.
You will see that child excel and become an adult but will have no claim to that grown child who you rejected from the beginning. You will regret being a Dead Beat Dad by choice
6. *The marriage you destroyed*
So you get married to your good fiance; the first months in marriage were good but shortly after, with your money and charm, you started having affairs. You became unfaithful.
Your spouse begged you to stop, your children started hurting, your marriage was collapsing. One day when you are older, it will hit you how foolish you were to destroy the good marriage you had began to build for mere temporary thrills in affairs that did you no good. You will realize the damage you caused to your children and spouse.
7. *The God you disowned*
When you are much older you become wiser, God becomes more real as you see life in a more meaningful way. But don't wait to get older to start enjoying a relationship with God.
Know God when you are young, build your future with God. Don't be a young rebel who runs back to God when age catches up.
8. *The body you messed up*
You have only one body to live with all your life. The cigarettes, the alcohol you are abusing, the drugs you are taking, the unhealthy food you're consuming; all that will destroy you slowly.
When you are 50 and lifestyle diseases catch up with you, you will wish you took care of your body when younger, that you exercised more; but now the damage is done.
9. *The time you wasted*
The time you are wasting when younger in worry, wrong relationships, laziness, being a couch potato, giving excuses and pursuing meaningless things; you will never get it back.
10. *The dreams and talents you shelved*
Are you talented when young; are there things you love to do and you are good at them?
Nurture those talents, exploit them, don't give up even if you encounter set backs, don't give up on your dreams. If you give up, when you're older you will look at your peers who stuck to what they love and made it and think to yourself,
"That could have been me". Pursue a career, study a course you love. Don't waste years of your life in a field that doesn't fulfill you.
11 *The name you defamed*
When you are older, a legacy is very important, the value of your name is crucial. You will ask yourself what is your reputation,
what are you leaving behind?
Your legacy is a sum total of your actions since youthful days. We write our biography by how we live life everyday. When you look back your path and you see the mud you threw at your own name, the shame you attracted and the little value you have added to the world; you will regret.
12. *The wealth you threw away*
Are you riding on good money during your productive years? Earning good money?
Don't throw away that money in clubs, reckless living and wasteful shopping. Invest with that money, widen your revenue stream, make that money work for you and keep it safe to take care of you in your older years. Leave an inheritance for your loved ones so that you will never say "I wish I knew better"
13. *The good love that got away*
Is there that great person in your life loving you good?
Don't push that person away, or else that person will walk out your life and you will never ever find someone that incredible and who connects with you all your life. It will torment you to grow older with thoughts of "What if I was still with that person?"
14 *The parents you despised*
When younger, it is easy to show contempt to your parents; what do your parent's know?
They are old-fashioned, shady and small -minded. But your parents are still your parents whether you agree with them or not, whatever their style.
Don't let your parent die or age separated from you, reconcile and make up. When you get older, you will realize why your parents wanted to be close to you. The older you get, the more you see the value.
Time waits for no one. Treasure every moment you have
hotwax: Based on what I saw last week, I concluded that marriage is over hyped. It does not worth the stress for men.
Men should just get baby Mamas. Get someone to impregnate so they can have their own kids.
Or do not legalize any relationship with a woman. You both can stay together but never legalize it.
It was found out that a school bus driver of a school opposite my house has been sleeping with 4 parents. These are married women who are in their husband houses.
He was exposed by his girlfriend who came to attack one parent with screaming match. She even exposed the woman that the pregnancy the woman is carrying belong to his boyfriend and not her husband.
The woman quickly drove away from that embarrassment. The lady revealed alot. She said they have been engaged for years but he refused to marry her. He will beat her up whenever he sees her with another guy.
She has warned him so many times against sleeping with parents of school where he collect salary. It will hurt his employer, he didn't listen.
I have been very weak since I heard the news. Marriage is wahala jare. I could not just get it out of my head. Although I have one oga who has slept with nearly all married women in my office. But this one is the height of it all.
Penguin2: Former governor of Cross River State, Chief Donald Duke, has taken a swipe at former Vice President Atiku Abubakar for being a serial contestant for the presidency since 1992 without success and it’s time for him to rest; saying it’s a sign that God is not with him.
infonet247: A friend of mine rush into my apartment now crying.... He has been married for 7 years now no child yet but went secretly to the village with his people to marry another wife. Now he is asking me how will he face the first wife and tell him he has another wife! I no dey put mouth for family matter, i just tell am make we sleep first. Tomorow i go ask nairalanders. Over to una.
You mean he went to marry another woman and he came crying like a pus..ssy to you?
setobaba: First step blend the pepper and boil for 5min, then add red oil, maggi, salt, the small melon and the fried fish and cover it for another 5mins.
Next step Break the egg in a plate and dice onions in it, add small maggi and very small salt, mix it together and pour it in the boiling soup. Add small water and wait another 5mins then you done. You can use it to eat any swallow of your choice, it’s cost effective and not stressful to prepare. If you can fry egg, then you can prepare this meal.
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