₦airaland Forum

Go ask Ross and rachel.  

OP, You guys were on a break. So technically, she didn't cheat on you.
But if you can't deal with it, walk away or get even.  

dademola:
d rationale behind ma sadness is d timelag mehn. we broke up for 3 months only for us to cme back and she dropped d bombshell.

3 months is quite long. 1 week sef too much. You don't expect most people to wait that long. Well, look on the bright side, she f*ked someone else and still came back to you; maybe the other guy wasn't that good. 

Pennywise:
Having s.ex can be fun and war at the same time. Even if u dont 'hit the spot', a sore pun.ny should put paid to all that urge.

a sore punny? Is that a sign of victory? Do men sleep with women with an intention of injuring them; isn't that ra.pe?

^^^ o di very okay

its and individual thing, and not a gender thing

[quote author=deal_ordea link=topic=794593.msg9466447#msg9466447 date=1320245022]hmmm, Guess you just finish alot of cleaning at home and decide to rain the anger on me, Huh For the record, i am only complaining that i don't like it and girls that do that are sure doing some kind of ashewo online,  Abeg, i wan go do something jor [/quote]Angry at a man hopelessly starring at bo.bbies and pissed off cos he can't have what he is seeing!
No thank you! https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-sport001.gif

Mschew! and i think say na better topic.
OP, if u don't like girls like this,delete all of them from your facebook! HABA!!with this kind of mentality, na people like you go first rap.e woman, come they talk say "its because they were barring it out". its her bosom, its her body, its her life! Her display is not an invitation for you to mingle so Keep your soldier behind bars, before your eyes and your gossip lips will lead you into temptation! nuff said!!

Reason I Don't Like Them

You don't like them and fo'sure they don't like you. Problem solved!! . Now OP, go sleep abeg! https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-sleep013.gif

Boyloaf:
thank u my guy! I tort i was d only one that hav such opinion! BTW, there is a cabal in nairaland goin abt insultin posters because u dnt belong to their clique! God purnish all of una wey dey form cabalistic movement for NL! I will hunt all of u down one by one!

buhahaha
TO all of you bashing OP; BEWARE!! OP will hunt all of you down!! https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-devil03.gifhttps://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-devil03.gifhttps://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-devil03.gifhttps://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-devil03.gif

r231:
get her pregnant ASAP and your problem will be over

Some women actually have increased se.x drive during pregnancy, so this may not solve the OP's problem.

Pennywise:
The story is possible but extremely very unlikely. Nigerian men do not marry older women when there is no green card involved.

Having said that I still find the concept of a woman's libido being too much for a man to cope with rather hilarious.  My advice? See her excessive libido as a declaration of war on you and your male pride. If u keep this mentality for two weeks, she will run from your bedroom.

The green card part is not true in all cases. Secondly, making love is not a battle. If one is "doing" a lady with the intention of trying to show her who the boss is, then the person can go 2-24hours, but still would not be able to hit the right spot. there is nothing unnatural about a woman having more interest in s.ex than a man. If any man sees it as a declaration of war, then it is no longer fun but rather survival of the fittest, and before you know it, if the man keeps on getting defeated, his fallen ego might subject him to exhibiting erratic behaviours, followed by anger and violence.
Simple understanding and compromise from the man and the woman is all it takes to solve such problems

nahinbdis:
This is a rather sensitive matter, but my relative inexperience leaves me no choice.
My wife is 32 and I am 29 and we have been married for just over a year. She was a virgin when we got married and I was more or less same. So we are both relatively inexperienced. Our sex life has been like a fairy tale; simply fantastic. The only challenge right now is that she has a higher libido than I do and because she loves the way I do it, she wants it every day.
She has just finished an academic programme and so not currently working. I work in the banking industry and leave home by 5am and return by 9.30pm; and by then am practically worn out and not exactly in the mood for a session of loving. Right now, wifey is quite pissed about this and we have a discussion slated for this evening.
So am wondering what I can do to increase my energy level. I try energy drinks sometimes, but I guess that’s not a very healthy thing to do consistently. Am also wondering how I can best manage this situation, because demanding as she may sometimes be, I don’t want her to change.

There! Which means, you like the demands!  
Seriously though, you need to try and get your urges back. If its a gf, then i would have advised you to chicken out, but as a husband,  I would think this is a responsibility you owe your wife (unless u wanna divorce her) ! So surf the net for ways to increase your libido, and your problem is half over.
Moreover, if the reverse where to be the case, wont you poke your sweet nothing into her, and beg her to understand?   .
Finally, one of you should compromise. Either you wife stops having urges (this one is hard, very hard), or you find a way to ignite your interest in s.ex( this part; well, not so hard). So make una choose.!



I need to touch this part before i conclude; your wife was a virgin at 32 and you were a V at 29?   Woah! seriously, i throway cap for una two.  https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-greet009.gif

[quote author=TeskyMan  link=topic=793246.msg9464874#msg9464874 date=1320232314]Hello friend,
The bolded part is a lie from the pit of hell. Let no man deceive him or herself, what you sow, you will reap. God is not mocked dear, there is none of the wankers as you have said, who will not pay for their misdeeds. The truth is when they are paying for their misdeeds you will/might not know and they wouldn't inform you tho. Grace of God differs from person to person. Some people its 2 yrs, some 4yrs, some 10yrs some 20yrs but the truth it - You will reap your misdeed. But one thing we do not know is how it will come back hurting us ( i mean in what form) and 2. what time it will come? No man knows except God.
Change your ways now!!!. I'm not saying this for fun, I'm saying it because its the TRUTH. I know a whole lot of guyz who were into yahoo yahoo in the early 2000. One way or the other they repented from their wicked ways. My dear, they are paying for it dearly. The truth is no one will tell you when they start paying for it. I was opportune to know and see when it's happen because I was one of them. Thank God for his grace.
What you sow, no matter how smart you are - you will reap. It's a bitter truth which most people does not care about,[/quote]how many people will say "God bless you" to someone who murdered a family friend or a loved one in cold blood? No way; rather we will curse and hope that nemesis will catch up with the evil doer.As humans, we would like to think that every evil doer will never go unpunished. This subconscious thinking gives us a sense of closure and retribution, that is why many of us will prefer to cling to such beliefs. But is this always the case? NO!!!  If we are all subject to consequences of our bad deeds, then nobody will be walking the surface of this earth; The sins of our fore fathers alone is a enough to take all of us to the great beyond. A typical example of bad people that go scot free are the westerners; After all the evil that they have committed in the past (both known and unknown) and even the one's they keep doing presently (both known and unknown), these guys still have the best of both worlds. To make matters worse, the people that suffer for their actions are the innocent people in the developing countries who are constantly met by disease, hunger and starvation.Most present and past corrupt leaders of Nigeria, how are these guys suffering today for their actions? Rather, it is the innocent Nigerian man, who refuses to join the rest in the act of corruption that will die in penury.

Life is a b.i.t.c.h! Being a good person is extremely difficult, so good people brace themselves for the ugly aftermath of their good actions. Its a price they have to pay. . . cos if it is easy to stay clean (or to be good), bad things and bad people will never exist. 

bravedude:
Bad girls are LovePeddlers that sell their body for money,there are 2 kinds of LovePeddler,the coperate and the open market LovePeddler.A girl that drinks more of alcohol is a bad girl eg,we are dating went for a date,i'm still trying to make do with my 1 container/bottle while she is about to start her 4th container,consider her as a bad girl.You keep more than 1 boy friend and sleep with them with an exception of your boyfriend,you are a bad girl,u smoke or take hard drugs,u are a bad girl.We men are not fools but some are,how can one get married to a girl with the above negative characters?Some of my friends date prostitude and had them pregnant,i'm always against it,why they do this,go to the club,bought over 20 Moet,got drunk,get a LovePeddler,dig them without protection,badt.

The  girls with the above negative characteristics  will always attract guys with similar characters. You call the female a LovePeddler, then what would  you call a guy who sleeps with them? A guy that drinks, smokes and parties will mostly be attracted to a girl that has the same likes as he does. If you choose to call those guys fools, well, na you know.

try not to talk much about sex because you can lose respect and regards from men if you talk more of sex.

loose respect? Hmm, depends on the guy and also depends on the context the girls is talking in. If it's a mild educative se.x discussion and which does not imply an invitation to mingle, then Only an immature guy will read too much meaning into such discussions.

sexsinners:
a bad girl you want a bad girl you will get goodluck[b] knowing tht every guy has done your wife your getting nothing new.[/b]
once a ho always a ho goodluck trying to make her committed to only you,she had multiple men didn't she but why hasn't she kept them.a good girl  will be committed to you because she waited all her life just to have you and avoided many wolfs from getting into her pants just for you.

Truth be told, its just an unfair world. A ho may get tired of the whole sleeping around thing at some point and might decide to settle down to a commited relationship after realizing that the previous lifestyle they lived was completely void. But a woman that is introduced into the world on her wedding night, might just have the thought that she has been missing the goodies of life, and at that point, she decides to go wild and taste the waters. The world is never fair; ideologies like "good will always triumph over evil" are carved to advocate good deeds. Not all bad people are punished, to make matters worse, most bad people keep getting the best life can offer.  So no matter how we want to glorify good deeds by attaching future punishments to evil, most times, bad people die without as much as suffering anything for the evil ways the lived. _{You might wanna talk about the punishment after death, but then again, where are the evidence for the existence of the afterlife ?}

The laws  "no evil deed can ever go unpunished" are man made and wretched. Lets just face the harsh reality and leave certain things that cannot be changed/controlled. The more you try to condemn and judge life's mysteries, the more headache you give yourself.  

There are plenty of wankers who aren't getting paid back for their misdeeds; It sucks big time, but what can one do?  

[quote author=nne_mak link=topic=793202.msg9454392#msg9454392 date=1320091784]I don't care if she is calling the her mum talkless of given direction to a friend this act just shows how her marriage might be! [/quote]Why do you wanna judge the couples happy union?
The man she is marrying isn't complaining, is he? I'm sure that day must have been the happiest day of his life. So OP, why the skin pain!

randyorton:
[size=18pt]U GUYS ARE DECIEVING YOURSELVES. BAD GIRLS ARE GOOD FOR DATING ONLY. WHY ARE GUYS AFRAID TO MARRY THESE DAYS? ISNT IT because OF THESE BAD GIRLS. SO WHY ARE U GUYS DECEIVING YOURSELVES.AS FOR THE GUYS HERE WHO AGREE WITH THESE BABES. WHO AMONGST YOU WOULD LIKE TO MARRY A GIRL THAT HAS BEEN PUMPED BY SEVERAL MEN? WHO WOULD LIKE AN EX ARISTO AS A WIFE? WHO WOULD LIKE TO MARRY A WAYWARD WOMAN AS  A WIFE? WHO WOULD LIKE TO MARRY A WOMAN WHO HS WIDEN HER PUNNY BY PHOKING SEVERAL GUYS? WAITING FOR YOUR ANSWERS[/size]

Who you ask?
THE BAD GUYS!  You don't expect a guy that humps every thing in skirt to go about looking for a virtuous woman. That will just be unfair to the "good guys" because there are limited number of good girls in the world today.
Again, these guys may not want an ex aristo as a wife, but their way of life will always draw them to an aristo rather than the other way round.
A good guy cannot attract a bad girl, and a good girl might not attract a bad boy because they usually share different views about life, different interest, different likes and dislike . .  etc etc.

The reason why a typical good girl will find it hard to get a guy is because the "good guys" are extremely hard to find. But this is not applicable to the bad girl who has variety of bad boys to choose from?

So it's not a matter of "WHO WOULD LIKE TO MARRY A WOMAN WHO HS WIDEN HER PUNNY BY PHOKING SEVERAL GUYS?", it's a matter of "WHOEVER IS RESPONSIBLE FOR WIDENING THE PUNNY" should be responsible for taking the widened punny to the alter?  Unfortunately, majority of guys fall into the latter category so why wont the bad girls be  getting married before the good ones?

silibaba:
we have dated each other for the past 2years while in the higher institution.we enjoyed each other company that on one or two occassions she begged me to impregant her due to the love she had for me but disagree.although I met her virgin but left her the other way round.I finally broke up with her due to some reasons.she felt so bad and later asked me for a favor that whenever we meet in life that I should promise her I will always Be Intimate with her.we are almost rounding up our nysc and now I got an invitation from her to attend her wedding.am so confused whether to go or not inorder not to cause a distraction on that day.I need advice from you all

OP<> What's with the whole, "although I met her virgin but left her the other way round" part;
Why do you think that you are going to cause her distraction on that day?
Why do we have to know that she begged you to impregant her and you refused.

The only way it will be really awkward for you to attend her wedding is if you intend to go to the wedding spreading the news to everyone that you were the brides almighty ex-lover; the one that met her a Virgin and left her etc etc! Even if you don't intend to share the gossip, a few drinks at the wedding can get you talking uncontrollably, or maybe the happy couple might hit you back to reality that some chick that you dumped is happily in the arms of another man?

My advice! Don't Go! Simples

coogar:
if my mum gave me this kind of advice, i would ask for her dna test results and match it with mine.
take back my wife and prosecute the man? was the wife forced to f[i]u[/i]ck the man

listen to that advice at your own peril.
you will find out all your 5 children were sired by your driver, gateman, best friend, lesson teacher and your vet.doctor.

YUP! coupled with the series of STD tests the man will be subjected to, because he chose to suffer for another persons infedelity!
Plus the "i have f.u.c.ked your wife" look every male neighbor will give you from the mechanic man to the Bus conductor, truck pushers, etc
What a motherly advice!

I've found this to be kinda true. . . .

Plus a combination of good boys and girls for me is a recipe for disaster. I mean, no drinking, no partying, no clubbing, etc etc! Boring!Boring!! Boring! https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-violent002.gif

Tomorrow is going to be Tuesday. . . .
It is going to rain in January. . . .
A popular musician is going to release a hot new single by the end of next month . . . .
It will get dark from 7pm . . . .
There will be no power supply in Aba for 2 days . . .

Mschew,
Many Pastors are so cliche!
Shocking Prophesy my "beautiful behind"!

I just pity the gullible people that keep giving these guys their hard earned money to be broadcasting such ignorance?! 

Have U Ever Loved Someone And Hated The Fact That U Did And Cant Stop

NO,NOPE, NEVER, NAH, NIL,

OP, "A guy that every girl wants"! noooooo way
Recipe for heart attack>>>>> Tell your friend to run and never look back  

omega25red:
whats so great about the guy?

Maybe the guy is a "fine boy"! 

OP, you are always at the right place at the right time, . . . RIGHT?

stephinnoyewole:
pls sud i afford Being Intimate with her

Afford?? Is there a price tag attached to being intimate with her? 

stephinnoyewole:
though i've sex her b4,but am affording to impregnate her also.

You are afraid? OP, if people are scared of having intimacy because of preganancy, believe me, No guy or gurl would ever get laid.

Dyt:
y u makin it sound lyk a disease huh?

^^^^^^^^^
My tot exactly.

So OP, what exactly are you scared of? If you don't wanna risk impregnanting her, then don't sleep with her again. If you wanna go ahead at the risk of getting her pregnant, then since you are so against abortion, if she happens to "carry belle" just get ready to be a baby daddy.

So either you "suck it up" or you "zip up"!! 

OP, if you can't ignore her, kill her then!
Sighs*** Some people are always trying to form fine boy!

SMH
What's your point? that you're irresistible or are you just trying to form fine boy?

kpolli:
Eeya. . .  I hope parents stop making this mistake. . .

I don't blame the parents, i blame the little child, who didn't know when it was high time for him to stop suckling on his mothers b.r.e.a.s.t !
How will he agree to his parents choosing a life partner for him?!


OP, how about divorce? Instead of running away like a sissy that you've always been. why not do the legal and right thing and get a proper divorce? That way, you can still see your son, and be a father figure while seeing to it that you pay for his "child support".

You've run away from your real lover, now you want to run away from you wife and and innocent child?
You keep running running running. Just man up for once and do things like a mature man. Grow some balls and do the right thing!

Why Must Ladies Keep Something From Their Husbands Before Marriage?

There have been cases where ladies went out blabbing secrets that they should have died with. And guess what the man said; "I would have been better off not knowing this".
Some things are better left to die with the past. Unless in rare cases like;
1. if the subject comes up directly during a serious conversation.
2. If the past can severely destroy the man's future if he doesn't know the truth.
For minor issues that doesn't concern him, no need to open those ugly black records of the past, because e no concern am. "Simples"  

OP, before i respond, do you cheat and have you ever cheated on her?