₦airaland Forum

It's appalling and laughable how a low-life like you and your type are so convinced that I'm going to enter into a needless exchange of words with you all. Lol.

Direct your mention to your fellow low-lives. Bumpkin.

VULCAN:
What's all this hypothetical blabber?

Are you their account officer?

Nobody really knows where anybody in Nigeria gets their finances from, so why are you defending these women anyhow?

If you don't know there are Nigerian men who order celebrity women like Domino's Pizza, well I know some.

There are men who can afford to drop N10m on our female celebrities for a weekend in Dubai and they won't even feel that money left them.

That is not to say that I am categorically saying that Toyin slept with someone to buy the car.

I don't know and frankly I don't really care.

But I won't defend a woman who I don't even live with, in a world where some women leave their husbands at home and claim they are going for a wedding in the next town only to spend some nights with a lover.

Speak for yourself only and even that is not always true as you have done some bad things that you never planned to do and tht later you asked yourself "what was I thinking"

We4all:
Bla..bla..bla...you're still a learner if you don't know that most Nigerians are 'corporate fraudsters and oloshos'. It is what it is!

Direct your mention to your fellow low-lives. My post is concise enough for any sane person who's established to understand it.

Congrats to her. Meanwhile, as much as I don't hold brief for anyone, it's, however, both appalling and laughable whenever I see people doubting the genuineness of the source of someone's floating wealth simply because the person is popularly known for a particular occupation, especially a newbie in such profession. Life doesn't work like that, people. It's never been how long, but how well, vast, opportune, etc., backed with action.

Case study, a said relatively new actress that was said to have bought a brand-new model Prado a few days ago. She or any other person in her position neither need to be business savvy nor venture into another business directly nor sleep around to accumulate wealth bigger than what she earns from her known popular occupation; instead; in the absence of diversifying silently while still in the profession, all she needs is an encounter with a dealmaker who knows how to liaise with someone like her to net genuine deals worth millions and billions from the appropriate quarters and automatically start swimming in real money once she's compensated or partake in sharing the profit where a formal agreement was entered.

Opportunities abound; unfortunately, most of you either don't have the grit or acumen to maximize them.

bukatyne:
It is not the first choice.

Imagine a single lady actively seeking for a single dad or divorced man or widower to marry.

The question is why?

Seeking, in the guise the OP did, obviously has an unspoken reason behind it. He has later revealed the unspoken reason anyway. Saying, however, that a single mother or something similar can't be the first choice of anyone under normal circumstances isn't true because it negates the nexus of love.

Also, this "There is no free lunch in freetown." remains what it's, an idiom. Taking it literal negates altruism/love. I've always witnessed some people moving mountains for others without looking forward to gaining anything from them or for people who literally have no good to offer them.

Citing your submission, your husband is obviously a proponent and practitioner of one doing things that make one happy, thereby negating principle, which according to hypocritically disingenuous elements of Nairaland, is the best way to live life when it appeals to their sentiments or when they're the beneficiary. Self-absorption and opportunism are evil; they're relationship killers where one of the parties is sane. Ordinarily, doing what's right gives any sane person happiness in particular and fulfillment in general. So, anyone whose source of happiness and fulfillment doesn't come from doing what is right personifies evil and should be avoided by any peace-loving person.

If you've been sincerely doing what is right, then you aren't the bad person between the two of you.

An unfortunate incident like this is better imagined than to happen in an Igbo family; one would have seen nitwits within and outside the Igboland spewing trash about how Igbos are greedy and oppress each other because of inheritance. Fairness is priceless.

ImaIma1:
Once it's a woman, they don't bother to ask. The fault must be her's. If a woman had open the thread to ask for ways to punish her husband, they would have been asking what he did, and what she did that made him do what he did.

ImaIma1 avoid drift from humanity to chauvinism. There's a difference between "judging" and "advice." When someone comes for the former, it's normal for some people to ask what happened, while in the latter, almost everyone will state their opinion based on the information available.

It all depends on the mental trait the woman you've as a wife possesses. If she's:

- A headstrong woman, twice the dose of her offense through psychological abuse, will do the wonder.

- A feeble-minded/timid woman, stern warning and temporary withdrawal from her will reset her brain.

- A principled woman, a simple frowning face and private talk later will make her sit up.

Beverlyjean:
The moment u get married , u will have to make sacrifices and thats part of adulthood... she is not a child, children are the ones that most likely leive without responsibilities... only a coward runs away when challenges comes forth... being an adult also means taking up responsibilities... if every married person should start to think of only themselves, then the institute of marriage will collapse... a husband that solely provides for the family can now stop taking care of his family and concentrate on enjoying his life with his money however it pleases him same as what this woman wanna do... people mention deadbeat dads , these are men that are selfish as well and want freedom ... wrong is wrong, right is right...u cant cross them

May unlimited divine blessings follow you in all of your endeavors. It's always appalling, yet laughable, seeing some low-lives and nitwits trying so hard to appear sane, successful, and woke through rationalization of abnormalities.

missdivineprove:
Calm down with the grammar. I believe in Love, but why would you meet someone for the first time and all your concentration is on where she work.
Does that depict Love?

I don't hold brief for men who do that. They, however, aren't different from the women who fall in the categories I listed in my previous post. That's my point.

Unless you aren't a proponent and practitioner of hypergamy, self-absorption, and or opportunism, you've no moral right to criticize men who quantify companionship worthiness of a woman based on the size of her material worth rather than her immaterial worth/the quality of her soul and it's also hypocritical of you to act as if you believe in love.

Neither of them married the other for the quality of their soul; rather, they married each other for superficial/self-absorbing reasons.

JovialJune:
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Da hell!!! See nonsense this one typed abeg, a woman is willing to leave a marriage so that she'd stop disrespecting her husband, you're saying she cant leave cos marriage bla bla bla, see talk abeg, she said she wants to be free, she has the fvcking right to leave a marriage where she feels caged, marriage hlas it is in this century is not sacred anymore, at least for some, you hear husband and wives commiting disgusting atrocities in secret when they can easily divorce and do it freely with no guilt,

The lady should better go to a better Judge or court where she will be granted her divorce abeg, marriage is not by force, everybody has the right to leave a marriage they are no more interested in, regardless of whoever is enjoying it or not.

Come on, stop visiting your frustration on me. Of course, direct your further mention to your fellow low-lives because I'm not the cause of your frustration.

Saccharine:
So,basically she is being forced to remain married when she doesn't want to.

She is alleged to be disrespectful and yet the man is insisting on continuing and im seeing comments that are even projecting what she might have done if she got the divorce.

Same set of people would cry 'why did she not divorce' if she does something harsh to this man now just so that she can have this freedom that she went to a court to acquire..

Last I heard,marriage is not by force.

Y'all are funny individuals.

Common sense didn't tell you that mutual sense of right (not what makes one happy) and mutually doing so at all times is the soul of the sacredness of marriage and that once the law makes it obvious that one can wake up one morning and decides to divorce their spouse unjustly, marriage will automatically lose its sacredness. Wherever a court grants a divorce request based on irreconcilable differences, both parties involved wittingly or unwittingly gave their consent to it.

That "marriage is not by force" doesn't encourage self-absorbing and opportunistic acts - as she exhibited. It's the same as freedom; freedom doesn't negate decorum. Leaving shouldn't be at her discretion at this point, but that of the husband; and, of course, granting her the leave will be done after subjecting her to some pains, if I were the husband. It's insanity for one to think that she/he has the right to walk into another's life with a set standard in place, disorganize/wreak them and leave at will scot-free.

bukatyne:


I am happy the wife stated the true reason for wanting the divorce.

I give her points for that.

An Arab woman interested in no-fault divorce? Aye n dori kodo.

Since the husband still wants the marriage, he should engage his wife on what she means by 'freedom' and reach a compromise.

The Law unfortunately cannot force anyone to be with their partners when they have checked out of the union.

If not for the court, babe would divorce Oga and request for monthly alimony of D25k so she can maintain her 'current' standard of living.

"Signs*

This isn't entirely true "The Law unfortunately cannot force anyone to be with their partners when they have checked out of the union"

The law seldom grants an unjust divorce, especially where one of the parties involved is still interested in the union. The judge even demonstrated this in his judgment. In a lenient scenario, the judge will penalize her and award damages in favor of the husband, and then let her go.

Of course, the law or anyone can't force someone to stay emotionally connected to their partner; she's long bailed out emotionally from the husband. The object of attraction isn't appealing to her anymore, and as I said above, the husband partly contributed to it through the condoning of nonsense from her. If I were the husband, I'd subject her to some pains and then let her go - one who comes into equity should always come with clean hands because peace is only priceless when obtained under mutual goodness.

Her action is typical of a self-absorbing and or opportunistic woman (or man); to her type, it's always about her happiness first instead of what's right. Anyway, her husband was partly an enabler of her unhealthy attitude before she metamorphosed and have the boldness to seek to divorce him unjustly through the condoning of nonsense from her; reward unconscientious acts with goodness at your peril.

Congrats man. Wishing your family unlimited blessings. There's nothing surprised here, though, because altruism/love has always been a man's forte; of course, only a woman who's selfless and humbles herself wittingly or unwittingly - or a conscientious woman - deserves it. It's a sin/counterproductive for a man to be altruistic to an unconscientious woman.

RisenPhoenix1:
That is even worse. How can a man's psyche be so fragile that a woman's behaviour can affect it?

Many a time, you do yarn trash, all in a bid to appear woke and tough. Refrain from such illusory acts. No sane human being is immune from the effect of physical, emotional, and psychological abuse provided that there's an existing or unneutralized bond or even closeness with the involvement of a toxic person; this is regardless of the gender of the perpetrator and victim.

HML. This union personifies a match made in heaven.

JovialJune:
You this old ancestor that love to shalaye unnecessarily like a little wimp, don't pity me na, bring it on

The guilt is afraid; actually, you don't have to make everyone in the cyberspace know secrets of your nuclear and extended families. Yours is the personification of the axiom "an apple doesn't fall far from the tree." Lol.

Oya, relax, enjoy my pity in good faith.

JovialJune:
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Tan wayray, talo bi e? Who asked you

This small girl, you take style like small wahala. Anyway, let me pity you.

Quite appalling; more appalling is the fact that approximately 99% of the people who'll comment on this thread are equally products of paternity fraud. Good thing I'm a true son of my beloved father; confirmed.

Self-realization in particular and emancipation in general; have no age set. With self-conquest and in-depth knowledge of human psychology, one can always tell what another can metamorphose to at any given stage of their life. By the way, evolution doesn't know a gender.

I've always said it, nothing in this world can be as euphoria and refreshing as sharing complete closeness or oneness with a conscientious person who has an altruistic interest in you. Unfortunately, greed and conceit, with or without poverty, won't allow many who haven't experienced life almost in all angels to understand and appreciate this very fact.

Love remains the greatest refreshment in life, and it remains one of the things money or lack of money can't buy. Amanda truly personified love for Taylor; thus, Taylor's action.

Quite an articulated post. I believe, however, that every crass and opportunistic or self-absorbing person personifies toxicity (if not evil) whether or not the person professes/identifies with Christianity/Religion, Red Pill, or Feminism. Unfortunately, they make up the majority in these circles.

I doff my hat to all conscientious men and women whether or not they identify with any organized religion, ideological movement, or dogmatic ideology.

Love is the greatest refreshment in life, and conscientious people are the personification of love. Jesus Christ, whom Christians modeled their religion on, is/was a conscientious human being.

Insanity is when an instigator of a fight, or their sentimental supporters, assumes the right to dictate to the retaliator how to fight back. If she's the instigator of the battle, she deserves whatever magnitude of pains her ex-hubby has meted out against her. However, if she has always been the oppressed between the two, may the wrath of the law and evil from all dimensions befall her ex-hubby.

One who comes into equity should always come with clean hands.

When a wife who's a self-absorbing and or opportunistic woman is richer than her husband, she becomes a source of sorrow to him, especially one who doesn't have an altruistic interest in her husband. The husband can only be a little safe if he's gritty and psychologically advanced than her.

Meanwhile, when a wife who's a conscientious woman is richer than her husband, better if she has an altruistic interest for him also, her success will become a source of upliftment and happiness to him in particular and the family in general, provided that he's conscientious and has an altruistic interest in her.

It can never be about money; rather, it'll always be about the ethical leanings of the parties involved.

Ishilove:
Lol. You seriously, seriously, SERIOUSLY wish. I kuku don't blame you. It is the internet that makes agama lizards believe they are crocodiles.

Keep dreaming.

Seriously, people like you always make me lol. All my current PAs will best you on everything good 100%; in fact, your exact attitude was what my current PA on international relations put up before I poached her from her former place of work. But unlike you, she had a relatively good-paying job. Of course, I've polished her better and well-enough now. Most of you've always missed your destiny helpers because of needless public haughtiness.

Anyway, I know that you've already started putting my advice into practice. I'll be observing you and a few others from now onward, and once I see a good improvement, I'll do the needful. My word is my bond as always. Always accord aristocrats due respect whenever you're opportune to come across one, especially on a leveler like this forum.

Making or leaving people better than I met them in different ways is one of my numerous hobbies.

pocohantas:
Lol. This one wey you done hammer am like this. By next week he would say you are his ex-gf and he has your nudes. Very delusional boy.
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I can see that you've been doing everything possible to make people who don't know to believe that the heartbreak you suffered isn't real - I don't take pleasure in the pains you have suffered, though. Lol. Well, don't give me more reasons to conclude that you didn't accept the pardon I've granted you.

By the way, you've 20 writing issues in your OP:

1 Faulty tense sequence
1 Determiner use
1 Misuse of quantifiers

9 Punctuation in compound/complex sentences
2 Misuse of semicolons, quotation marks, etc.

1 Mixed dialect of English

2 Word choice

1 Passive voice misuse
1 Wordy sentence
1 Inappropriate colloquialism

Meanwhile, you capitalized on Elun Musk's aberration to create this thread to further your clout chasing. The illusory incident you embedded in the story didn't happen in your office or anywhere; it remains an illusion.

Stay safe and blessed, queen.

Ishilove:
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Grandiloquent trash as usual. Your anus must be really jealous of your mouth because of all the shït it vomits on the daily.

See someone I intend to make my private secretary on domestic affairs very soon; simple advice you've refused to take.

By the way, you've 2 writing issues in this your text too:

1 Determiner use

1 Wordy sentence

Here's a correct version of your text "Grandiloquent trash as usual. Your anus must be jealous of your mouth because of all the shït it vomits on a daily."

Stay safe and blessed, little lady.

Ishilove:
The US arm of my company just laid off one of the Nigerian staff there because of her atrocious writing. I see her atrocious grammar in her correspondences to top companies and blush in mortification. I was forced to draw the attention of my boss and he commented - "I doubt she passed through University as she claims". He wanted to lay her off tomorrow, Friday, but when she committed another unpardonable grammatical blunder yesterday, he just quietly told her to leave. I woke up this morning to see she had left the Company WhatsApp chat. Literally.

There are standards and we shouldn't expect companies to lower their standards; rather, we should build ourselves up to standard so that they will be the one rushing us.

You're always forming English pro in particular and intellect pro in general. Eschew conceit and see wonders in your life. Well, before your said sacked former coworker's fate befalls you - may it not be your fate - note well that this small post you made here has 9 writing issues:


1 Incorrect noun number

1 Pronoun use

2 Punctuation in compound/complex sentences

1 Misuse of quotation marks.

2 Word choices

1 Passive voice misuse

1 Wordy sentence


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