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Yes, servility (people-pleasing) is bad, but opportunism is worse than it; even self-absorption is worse than it too. Actions and inactions of an opportunist are always more pernicious than that of a servile person.

Conscientiousness is standard.

southniyikaye:
Wetin makeup, curve and hips go cause for men hennn..
Toolz without mKeup looking like wetin dem take dey advertise poverty alleviation...

Happy birthday boy

There's much to desire in a woman other than her physical appearance. Besides, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

HBD to the boy.

bukatyne:
25yrs to 36yrs?

Babes why?

A 36yr old guy (almost 40?) to your young self?

Maybe my bias speaking here.

Anyways, good you came out of it and Bobo is a gamer, forget all the years and apology.

He probably realized you would not give up sex soon that's why he jumped to the next person.

@family welcoming you: some families are legit useless and immoral. Or since they are Muslims, he told them he wants to marry you.

Ask your friends what they saw in him then you can pick the logical stuffs for further learning.

Good luck.

Mama de mama, if you discourage ripe ladies in their twenties from marrying men of advanced age like me who're still looking for an under 80 to marry, it means some of us will be leaving this world without offspring. Age in particular and its gap in general are just ordinary numbers in things of the heart abeg. Lol.

I wager he disingenuously conditioned and played you. Unless he wasn't discerning enough to know that you're from strong ethical leanings - I only assumed you to be - before he played you, his actions and inactions were premeditated, and his assumed remorse is fake. If the latter is the case, which I believe is, it is a timeless approach usually employed when dealing with haughty/conceited or opportunistic people.

We need a real ethical revolution as a people. The truth, however, is that greed for money/materialism in the country isn't exclusive to the female gender alone. Mutual altruism remains the soul of every sincere and healthy relationship.

I only hear of this but didn't experience it because I'd one of the most conscientious fathers in the world. As a male child, it behooves on you to know that obedience is better than sacrifice hence more glorifying. Once you know this and apply the same in your relationship with your conscientious father, or parents in general, you'll definitely experience heaven on earth through him/them.

His separation from his wife really wrecked him too hard due to his strong emotional attachment to her, couple with some poor business decisions. The last time I met him at Virgin Group headquarters in the UK, he wasn't the usual cheerful old self in and out. In fact, it's best said he premeditated his death indirectly a long time ago, citing some of his actions and inactions prior to suicide.

RIP.

Klass99:
Where are all these multiply and be fruitful crew people?

And the god forbid vasectomy crew people plus family planning is a sin, crew?

OP, no offense meant but to slap your parents dey sweet me die. 8 children, for what nah?

The part that irritates and annoys me is your father's expectations and nagging for funds to handle his responsibilities.

No vex, I have no valuable counsel other than to express shock at how people can be incredibly foolish over certain matters.

In a situation like this, one can only blame the MOD(s), who ordinarily isn't fit to serve as a gatekeeper for someone like me by the way, who wittingly or unwittingly makes it hard to put crass, conceited, and opportunistic elements like you where you rightfully belong. Imagine you, a wombless woman, insulting someone's else parents just because he seeks public opinion about his family ordeal.

onyechez:
He's talking about honor, loyalty and compromise.
Not all people will compromise but surely will give honor to who is due same with others.

My point stands, not everyone operates from the same ethical leanings and clime.

Some people, but definitely it's not all people.

I can drive; it kills faster than any other thing. He was obviously a bad driver.

RIP.

Foolish man. He deserves castration and hanging.

Drink coconut water, better if the coconut doesn't fall on the ground.

I only hope he's marrying her for a selfless/immaterial core reason; else he might cry had I known sooner than later.

It's actually from this forum that I heard that bride price in Igboland runs into millions and that Igbo men are the devil incarnate that oppress their female folks. No thanks to naive, bigoted, or bitter non-Igbos and their self-hated, ostracized, or deranged Igbo counterparts.

The financial responsibility item aside, because I know that some women have always been supporting or winning bread for their families cheerfully and otherwise, every other thing you said personifies the bravado and posturing of crass and opportunistic women.

I doff my hat to all conscientious men and women.

Quasi-balderdash! Women are expected to provide men something to respect, and vice versa. So, provided that people like Betty Akeredolu continue to state half-truth, the problem will persist.

ityP:
No amount of stoneheadness justified physical assault. If my wife dey gimme headache, I dey separate or divorce asap

Stop constituting nuisance everywhere. Only an insane person will justify any form of abuse. Wannabe SJW.

Any nonsense you'll spew in reply will be for a small-minded element like you and your ilk.

Unless the man is insane, I wager the physical abuse is a reaction to either emotional or psychological abuse. So, shame and blame go to whosoever is the instigator of the abuse between them. It's about time everyone accepts the fact that no one person has a monopoly of toxicity and pettiness. Say no to all forms of abuse.

Men who're dispositionally/inherently self-absorbing or conceited aside, the main reason most men don't share their plans with most women is that most women (people in general) are conceited, self-absorbing or, opportunistic. So, for a man with definiteness of purpose and capability, the worst kind of person to have as part of your team in a worthy pursuit is anyone in this category because they'll ruin you wittingly or unwittingly.

Your team will always make or mar you, so choose it wisely at every given time.

The timeless secret of peace of mind is living life at the periphery of conventionalism and doing so conscientiously. Of course, with peace of mind comes prosperity in all forms when backed with other catalysts.

Yes, a servile or feeble-minded husband like the one in your story deserves the maltreatment from his oppressive wife. He's a true personification of what a man shouldn't be.

A feeble-minded person is as repulsive as an oppressive one.

There are men who don't believe in the idea of placing their mothers above their wives - I'm one - this doesn't mean that men in this category love their mothers less, no. There can't be a healthy marriage where there's no oneness between the couple. A conscientious proponent and practitioner won't find it hard balancing things like this.

Next time employ the use of the word "some." In fact, the way you and your ilk in this act of using yourselves and what happens around you all as a standard for every other person irritates me knows no bounds - you aren't better than men who are of the opinion that their wives don't deserve to share oneness with them. Stop being hypocritically sententious and haughty. Most of us are from responsible families or have responsible families.

Of course, only a conscientious woman who has an altruistic interest for her husband is worth called and treated as a wife. She's the only kind of wife who deserves the sacrifice of oneness, not the self-absorbing and opportunistic ones that abound.

BastardWike:
I like Ogbonnaya Onu, he is a good man and nice to all. However, I would prefer Umahi to him as Buhari's successor. Umahi is a performer and has a strong character to be a man of his own. Onu on his own part, is as gentle as a dove, a character trait that will make it easy for cabals to hijack his presidency.

You don't know him well. He's as gentle as a dove and wise as the serpent. He's a man of grit and intellect - a no pushover. He plays politics of principle and conviction - a conscientious politician of the first order.

HBD to him.

This kind of political expediency by Umahi is like an ill wind that blows nobody any good.

A typical self-absorbing man. Hanging awaits him.

A woman who has sense, but is opportunistic or self-absorbing, is as bad as an official slay queen, whether or not she identifies as one or exhibits a similar social disposition. The expressive social disposition of an official slay queen makes her worse in this regard.

Only a conscientious wife who has an altruistic interest for her conscientious husband is the personification of the celestial axiom "behind every successful man there stands a woman."

AstroG:
Hanty be calming down na ,this your Lies na NUCLEAR BOMB . For once have the fear of God wen u want to lie

She's a well known wretched harlot, so it's natural that she'll always tell lies.