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MaxInDHouse:
You're missing the point here!

Smoking becomes a SIN not because it's written in the scriptures but because it's a dirty habit and dangerous to health!
Sugar on the other hand only becomes harmful when the body has defects making it hard for the body system to convert the excess sugar to energy.
So while sugar never carries any dirt smoking is about dirt, odour and side effects that's dangerous to all. When you consume sugar the person sitting next to you feels nothing but it's unlike the smoke where your presence alone can trigger a seizure on the asthmatic patients.
SIN is what you know is harmful not just to you but others around you!

The cars we drive everyday are causing harm to us and the people around us as they constantly emit gases that are deleterious to our collective health yet I don't see you condemning them as sin.

The point with all this is to establish to you folk that your sin parameters are just an arbitrary concept you make up as you go for the things you want or don't want, stop fooling yourself that a god has anything to do with it. Nobody is gonna condemn you for stating you don't like smoking. I myself don't like smoking, inhaling the smoke literally makes me sick but I will not condemn someone for making his own choice to smoke, that's his business. I will maintain sufficient distance from such a person while they do it and return to close contact after, it's that simple.

MaXiK:
Good day Nairalanders!!

Please I need your advice. My current girlfriend has all the good characters that perfectly defines a wife material plus she's a scholar and also a virgin (not particularly concerned about this anyway but to evince how disciplined she is) but sometimes she will look attractive to me and other times she will appear unattractive and I won't feel attracted to her at all. To clarify things, this changes has nothing to do with her dress sense neither my beholding senses but real changes in her facial appearance and allurement.

To be frank and sincere, she is just greatly above average in attractiveness but she's not stable in her look, she falls far below average occasionally. Also we're both dark in complexion and I will prefer my children to be lighter than I am, if not fair.

I have been trying to look beyond her look by focusing on other quality attributes she possess but the issue about her irregular look keep on fluctuating my feelings for her.

The crux of it is that I'm in my early thirties I need serious relationship; someone to build future with and finally get married to but here I am with someone that meet up with more than seventy percent of my requirements in my ideal wife but with unstable look that is threatening my feelings for her.

I am concerned about this because of some issues we consider trivial are still crashing marriages these days....

My questions:

How important is look in marriage?
Is it me that is making issue out of trivial matters because this lady is receiving a lot of relationship advances from people far better than I am and she's turning them down to maintain her commitment to our relationship?
Is there any possibility of stability in her look in the future considering that she's still in school?

Your genuine, mature and constructive advice is highly needed.

I will appreciate ones from those who have experienced what I'm currently going through.

Looks are important in marriage but I think you are neglecting the fact that people change and will change over time especially women. The way a woman looks in her 20s is not the way she's going to look in her 30s and beyond. She's also gonna change when she gets pregnant and after she gives birth. If the only look you consider to be paramount is the one that drives your sexual attraction then you better don't get married at all because you'll be seriously disappointed. Unless of course you never plan to have kids by birth or you also plan to sustain her looks by plastic surgery.

I think you need to establish more concrete reasons why you love this lady and school your mind to relegate looks to a secondary characteristic because one thing is for sure you will encounter women more attractive to you in looks than she subsequently as time goes on so will you now jump ship just because of that, what was the point of marrying if you are going to do that? Make it clear in your mind you want her for things that are not as variable as how she looks, if you can't then move on don't struggle with it but just know that if you don't deal with this now it's gonna be a problem down the road even if you get another lady.

MaxInDHouse:
The highlighted is the key word here!
SUGAR (considerable amount) is GOOD for the body but SMOKE is not.
So note that the plant used to manufacture cigarettes is not the problem here but what rebellious humans are using it for! Genesis 1:31

For your information that's why God instructed Adam and Eve not to eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil this simply means there are certain things they'll need God's direction on it's use before they can derive the benefits otherwise it will lead to self-harm! Genesis 2:17

Just like how the sugar is not the problem but the way you consume it. We eat a lot of refined sugar and it is becoming obvious that it is addictive. If you are going to say tobacco is a sin because of addiction and harm then you'll have to consider that refined sugars are also addictive and can cause harm, will you now consider consuming refined sugar a sin?

MaxInDHouse:
Your intellect is far too low to that of the true God {Isaiah 55:8-9} so do not think you can falsify Godly principle just because you feel there's no God! Psalms 10:4

All human bodies needs SUGAR (considerable amount) but no human body need SMOKE! Job 5:13

Your body does not need refined sugars yet you consume it anyway.

TenQ:
Did I mention my intuition?
No. You have gotten me wrong again.


In other words, apart from the scriptures, it MAKES LOGICAL SENSE to me.

Any other explanation is like assuming that a man is similar to a mechanical clock. To me, a man is closer described As an advanced AI robot rather than a mechanical clock

Your logical sense is also known as intuition and we all know your intuitions are not always correct. Our intuitions may tell us that the earth is flat because to the eye it looks flat but that is not correct as the earth is not flat so we must find a way to confirm if our intuitions are correct. Which is my question to you how did you confirm that your logical sense/intuition on this matter is correct?

haddeylium:
Really? It's a common knowledge that sugar is a natural food and our body is built in a way it can convert this sugar into energy we need. Diabetic patients have a shortage of this insulin enzymes and have to put a watch to their Sugar intake.(The problem here is not the sugar but the diet)


There's no correlation between the two . Smoke is a poison. Smoking loads you up with toxic doses of carcinogens.
Human body is not built with an exhaust pipe or chimney unless you possess one

It is also common knowledge that tobacco is a natural plant and our body can process the substances it produces.

Go check it up sugar is also now being regarded as a poison. It is also said to promote cancer growth because the cancer cells thrive better in a sugar rich environment.

budaatum:
I can't quite understand this need to enslave oneself to a book my Lord. I mean, how can one read "thou shalt not live by only one book alone" and then allow oneself to be enslaved by that one single book? I really do not get it.

I've never read a book that I then went on to believe. The idea just screams "buda bash your head against a rock and die this exact very instantaneous second". And I swear my Lord, if buda doesn't go and bash buda's head against a rock instantaneously, I, buda, will bash buda's head against a rock instantaneously my very own self, because, a brain that does not use can not!. It's after all not shelves of storage space but a microchip at least.

One day we will accept responsibility for allowing our brain to be washed instead of irresponsibly blaming the brainwashers for washing our brain for us my lord, then might we buy your own shampoo.

I am so thankful you did not get to experience the mental slavery of believing my dear buda. Perhaps that's why you don't understand the pain I feel thinking about it but still I am glad you didn't because it is debilitating and rehabilitation is not swift for the scars run deep my dear buda. As would often tell you any day I don't blame anybody but myself which makes it even more egregious.

I am hoping for plenty of shampoo and Jesus tokes.

BassReeves:
3 John 1:2
'Beloved, I pray that in every way you may succeed and prosper and be in good health [physically],
just as [I know] your soul prospers [spiritually].'

Success to you might sound like survival, but success and survival have different and distinct meanings. Misunderstanding of these two definitions sometimes leads to them being misused for each, as just like you're doing here Misunderstanding leads

Succees is not just only a biological imperative, it is a conscious choice too.

It involves a conscious decision to succeed. Success, whether good success or bad success, success is a choice and it has to be intentional. For example a drug addict robbing a passenger off his/her money, achieves a bad success, because the money was obtained in a way not approved off. On the other hand, a philanthropist donating to a good cause, achieves good success in an approved way

The difference between success and survival, is that the latter is natural, but the former, isnt natural. Meaning that the urge to survive is natural, while the urge to success isnt.

Let me, right now, I ask you, this question. If you're going to have to choose. What would you choose between success versus survival?
Are you going to choose, just to survive or are you going choose to succeed? You see, success and survival arent the same.

If it is merely choice then it is not a purpose. Purpose is a goal, success is the description we give to the achieving of the goal. You can't describe anything as successful if a goal is not defined.

Dtruthspeaker:
CHANGE OF POST!

The question is not "Why did you now go to school" but "Where did you see A B C in nature?"

So, As Always, No Road!

See this shadow dribbler why would be lying to yourself that English is found in nature, just why. What do you gain by telling such kindergarten lies?

haddeylium:
You need not to worry yourself about the bible principles that condemns smoking if you're not a Christian.
Medically speaking, you and I know that smoking is not for people that want to live long. Of course, you're familiar with the label 'Smokers are liable to die young'.
In that light, JWs cherish life because it's a gift from our God. We would not willingly do anything that would shorten or end our life.
Just think about six million people that die needlessly annually from diseases that could have been prevented by simply not smoking..

Also think of all the people suffering and dying from diabetes will you also outlaw sugar?

budaatum:
Oh the showerhead, you remind me my Lord!

I still have not finished reading the book! I feel like a person who loves meat but can not sit and finish a cow, lol. It was easier when I was 9!

Ah my dear buda someday I'll read that book without thinking of the metal slavery I put myself through.

haddeylium:
@Lordreed

What if you smoke what is not harmful? Also we are getting to understand that sugar is also very addicting, is sugar now a sin?

budaatum:
buda woke up one morning and discovered buda had acquired the amazing ability to make mouth however buda wanted and whistle. buda made mouth like this and beautiful whistle come out. buda made mouth like that beautiful whistle too. Anyhow buda made mouth beautiful whistle would come out. What an amazing power to have so suddenly acquired, buda thought.

See, this particular morning that buda woke up was a school morning where buda was one of only two black kids. I mean, buda was pretty standoutish with the very black skin already, now buda could whistle and actually call attention to buda! You must just imagine the stage that was Carleton Nursery N7 playground, buda's school mates watching and listening in awe as buda made mouth like this and buda made mouth like that as buda beautifully whistled in the playground.

"buda More! buda More!" They cheered at the amazingly suddenly acquired ability of buda to make mouth like this and make like that and whistle beautifully to their adoration and cheer.

Then the bell went. Playtime over and we all went back to class. But they wouldn't stop. One stood up and said, "Miss, buda can whistle so beautifully!" Another said, "Yes Miss, you should have heard buda whistle in the playground". "buda is a bird". "Beautiful buda, Miss!"

So Miss asked proud buda to come front of class at Carleton Nursery N7 and buda made mouth like this and buda made like that and buda whistled beautifully in the front of Miss and the entire class for like five minutes and buda mouth start to hurt as buda's classmates clapped and cheered proud buda.

Miss, when buda finally tired and stopped making mouth like this and like that and whistling beautifully, said, "That's not whistling! That's screaming!".Then she taught us all to whistle while buda sunk in the unclothedness of emperors with no clothes.

All I can say is, it was a valuable lesson to learn when I was 3 years and 9 months old at Carleton Nursery N7.

LMAO! O my dear buda you are most gracious to share this wonderful story. May the shower never stop talking to buda.

haddeylium:
Personally, I have not seen a Jehovah's witness smoke before. Individual would have overcome the addiction before being considered for possible baptism.
We try to live in comparison to God’s principles found in the Bible(that condemns smoking), and not in comparison with others.

Where in the Bible does it condemn smoking?

Dtruthspeaker:
We saw in Nature that to say and write "Go", "Apple", "Food", "Run" we need something that says "Ah" or "A" , "Gu', Fu, Ru'.

Bwahahahahaha! You saw in nature to say and write "Apple" in English? Why did you now go to school to learn it or why weren't your forefathers writing A for Apple? LMFAO!

GeorgesDiary:
It has nothing to do with awakening!

Nigeria is the fifth country in the world with the highest number of Muslims. It is also projected that Islam will become the world's largest religion.

Why? How?

It's not because Christians or people of other faith will be converted, it's simple demographic mathematics.
Muslim men have more than one wife and each wife have more children than an average monogamous family. So, a married Muslim woman have about 3 children, let's say she is one wife out of 4 wives in a single Muslim family. That one family may be having about 12 children.
Fertility in the Muslim population surpasses that of other religions. As a result of Muslim demographics, they have the majority of much younger population more than any other religion.

Here is another reason Islam may not be near decline...

Christians enjoy some level of liberty. A Christian can denounce God, denounce religion and become an atheist without consequences from the community. Most Christians believe that faith in God is personal and therefore, every man has the right to answer for themselves.
For Muslims, it's a different ball game. By the virtue of Sharia law, Muslims are not permitted to convert talk more of denouncing God and religious affiliation. Conversion comes with a heavy price; death sometimes.

While Muslims residing outside Muslim communities can convert without so many consequences, they aren't always proud to do so because of the persecution and threats that follow. Abandoning Islam by Muslims is seen as abandoning their family or tradition.

I remember that year when a Muslim would always attend our fellowship secretly and also ask me questions online about Jesus. He told me inbox "I believe in Jesus as my Lord and Savior but my father will kill me if I publicly identify as Christian".

You hit the nail on the head.

Dtruthspeaker:
First you are taught A,B, C and 1,2,3 no problem, you got it and you understood it.

Why?

Because you saw it in Nature and Natural Living! And if you checked it, your spirit was happy, therefore you knew it was TRUE.

Where did you see A B C in nature?

budaatum:
By the way, do you resort to this sort of utterances when arguing with your learned colleagues before the bench?

Ethics 101, don't you think, or did you throw that class away too?

The quack knows everything: chemistry, biology, physics, law, he is a quack professor of them all. LMFAO!

BassReeves:
Success is the achieving and/or accomplishment of an intent, aim, plan, goal, design, desire, ambition, objective or purpose

Good success, is when one, achieves an intention, aim, plan, goal, design, desire, ambition, objective or purpose, in a way, that is, alright, high standard, pleasing, welcome, desired, acceptable or approved of

Bad success, is when one, achieves an intention, aim, plan, goal, design, desire, ambition, objective or purpose, in a way, that is not alright, not high standard, not pleasing, not welcome, not desired, not acceptable or not approved of

Sounds like survival by another name. If I am correct and it is synonymous, I could accept it only because its a biological imperative not a conscious one.

To be honest my wife does more of the work that's one of the reasons I married her because I Intuited correctly that she'll do what she can to keep the marriage going. I love my wife dearly for all her sacrifice and patience.

This isn't split personality as I know it to be but your wife may have undiagnosed mental health issues, especially that headache, it's a sign that she should see a professional.

JustNumb:
How do I report a winners chapel pastor?

Do I confront her about again or just tell her people?


My family members don't know about it yet cos if I mention it to them, her respect is gone forever.

Edit : for those asking, we were friends for many years even before we got married. I didn't marry her cos of virginity. Who virginity help?

I married her cos she was my friend and we were compatible

Compatible in what sense? If you were friends and compatible why is she seeking emotional connection with another man? Was she aiming to marry that pastor before you came along?

BassReeves:
Our discourse is about human beings, its you who going on a tangent

Thank you for returning back to focus

I concur that purpose is not external to the mind and that it is always established by the individual mind. You even reinforced my point and re-state my point that about the overarching purpose of life, one word, that springs to mind, is success.

Success is controlled and determined in the mind by how bad or good, a person cares for success, hence when success is looked at, in this light, it's said, success is dualistic or binary and leads me to propose that, we are, here on earth, to make a good success or bad success of ourselves. Yes, success, is always established by the individual mind.

Just to clear this for all of us, human beings are tripartite, meaning we're made up of a body, soul and spirit. Our spirit has the faculties of Conscience, Discernment or Intuition, which individually or collectively are used guiding us in how to make good or bad success(es) of our life existence on earth

What do you mean by success and what is good or bad success?

Hismasterpiece:
Yes He did, but He didn't introduce it into the world, man did. So He isn't to blame for sin.

I didn't he introduced it, I said he set the conditions for what would be considered sin. As for blame some will put it squarely at his feet; he created beings capable of sinning and then put them in conditions that gave them opportunity to do so knowing full well that they would indeed sin. If a leader has foresight of danger and fails to remedy it who should receive the blame?

BassReeves:
The question about what is the purpose of life was asked in relation and exclusively to human being.

It was you introducing something different and external to human being in trying to make the discussion be about life forms (i.e. ingle celled organisms)

Life forms, like single celled organisms, for example, are behaving, as per their design and existing in line with their function(s).

The question you fumbled at answering was whats the purpose of life

Then you should have made it clear you were only talking of human beings. In any case my answer still stands, purpose is not external to the mind, it is always established by the individual mind.

TenQ:
I did NOT just take it by faith:
I said, it makes logical sense that a "software" runs our physical consciousness and that this "software" is the soul/spirit of man.

I said:


Looking for a physical evidence of the soul and spirit is exactly like asking for a physical evidence of a software in the hardware.

The Soul or Soul/Spirit is
what produces INTUITION and INSTINCT as functions of the software that runs the hardware of living beings.
E.g. A male dog somehow know how to mate with a female dog on heat without any training.
A software contain both data, information and instructions. These are the functions of the soul.

That is why I said "and your intuition". Now I asked how you substantiated this claim, I didn't ask for physical evidence. What convinced you that soul/spirit are real? If only your intuition and what the Bible says were all it took then you believe it by faith.

TenQ:
But I can answer the other question too
1. I follow the teachings of the bible and the bible teaches that soul and spirits exist. In fact, the bible says "God is a Spirit"
2. It is logical as the soul/spirit are the equivalence of the Operating System and Application Softwares that powers the physical body of a person

So aside from being told by an ancient book and your intuition, is there anyway you have substantiated the existence of spirit/soul or you just take it on faith?

TenQ:
Thank God for records!

You added the qualifier of physical, you brought up issue of spirit interacting with machines. I asked for how you know spirit/soul exists with the expectation you'd produce whatever evidence you have. I didn't constrain you in the manner of evidence you need to produce except what cannot obviously be evidence like mythological stories and fallacious conjectures. If you have evidence for how you know spirit/soul exists produce it and stop beating about the bush.

BassReeves:
It because of one word, conscience, does answer your question.

Single celled organism(s) dont have conscience but you do, albeit you have a seared one

You asked purpose of life, single celled organisms have life, now you are saying it needs to have conscience. Your question was not "what is the purpose of conscience."

Image123:
Of course. Who else, every new lawmaker?

Well he was saying it wasn't the god.

Image123:
Yookus or something, he probably lost his password.

LMAO!