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lilyheaven:
He should kick his wife out because of suspicion?
You are already calling someone’s wife adulterous, did you catch her on bed with another man?
Abeg don’t be quick to throw Stone

so they have to catch her on the bed first abi? Why should your husband have reason to suspect you in the first place?

owo8184:
Thanks but if you asked me before now, I will tell you she's not a cheat. We dated 6yrs before marriage. I took her virginity at the age of 27. I think she's been influenced by social media.

since you already know she is not a cheat why are you disturbing us?

owo8184:
I think the first option is what I will choose. I don't think she can even listen. Magun is a no no. I am not that desperate. . Thanks all the same

you are not desperate but you came to naira land to seek advice.

humilitypays:
the man should have more of the money for things to work out fine, and the amount of money needed to sustain a relationship or marriage is subjective, dependending on the lady you are dating or married to.

if this is the mindset no no need for marriage...baby mama should be ok.
The point is anything can happen to ur money so if the idea is when something happens to ur money and no more peace...lol it is best to just have ur child and have peace

humilitypays:
To start with, love does not exist, but the one you people call love which is romantic love is not enough reason to marry anybody today!


Also, romantic love alone cannot sustain any relationship or marriage.


Human to human relationship today has evolved, it goes beyond romantic love because whatever reason that made that man or woman to say he or she loves you, which is mostly sexually related (physical looks, endowments, etc) for men or financially related (for ladies), he or she will keep meeting better persons ready to offer them quadruple of those qualities that made him or her fall in love with you or pretend to love you


The things that can sustain relationship or marriage today are:

1.) Money

2.) Determination and absolute dedication

3.) Ability to sacrifice and to overlook issues

4.) Absolute fear of God for the highly religious

when you say money how much money is enough? So who should own the money, the man or the woman?

Johntemmy:
hummmm... so is love enough to sustain marriage or relationship.

please tell us what is enough to sustain marriage and relationships

ValCon888:
Two consenting adults cannot have sex again.
If you cannot stand a cheating wife, divorce her.

two consenting adults that want to have sex freely should never get married in the first place....idiot

mirabel9:
its possible, if only men can just follow by the rules

so can you follow our rules? All you think love is all about women?

chiefolododo:
I have gone through it, it makes sense , but I think it is difficult to truly love if we should go by what you have written

all the love she mentioned is just base on selfishness...love is not selfish it is selfless...most women understanding of love is just selfish...lol everything is about them

samincredible44:
bro he will question them from now til tomorrow there will still be no tangible reply.he need a strong white garment church to flog out that demon

lol

Miniso:
A lady that will want to hang out, gist ,laugh have sex with you abeg what else do u want. biko nu

lol are they not already dating

KingintheNorth:
Yea I'm very well groomed I'm a banker actually and I have never been a flirt .

lol banker that is not a flirt....lol fantabulous

Kongaone:
Hello romancelander.

A friend of mine dated this girl in 2012 for almost a year during his first job with a 100k salary. She was 21 while he was 23 years old then. She was in her final year and was receiving monthly allowance of 20k from her parents. Though she has accommodation in the hostel but she prefers staying with him in his apartment which was very close to her school. My guy was taking care of this girl whose entitlement mentality was so high. They were eating outside almost everyday as she couldn't cook then. He loved her so much and wouldn't mind marrying her thus he was footing all her bills and was sending very little home to his parents and siblings. This lady still complained that he was looking after his family more than he takes care of her needs.

In days when my guy was so broke she would never assist him even as a loan. She was so beautiful and intelligent that she was the dream of most guys on campus. At a point she called the relationship off stating that she wants to go back to her ex and my guy who was so tired of the relationship but never wanted to hurt her accepted in good fate.

As luck may have it he got a new job ssme year with double pay in Lagos. She later came back saying her calling for a quit was just a joke but my guy requested they just take a break and re evaluate the relationship. He left the town and moved to Lagos, they communicated for few months and lost communication. She deactivated her social media contacts and was no where to be found.

Fast forward to 2020, my guy (now 31) is married with twin boys and has properties and investment in Lagos with a salary of about half a million. He's now looking very fresh and handsome (na money be fine bobo). He placed his wife on 60k monthly allowance and opened a shop for her. Some months ago this his ex girlfriend chatted him that she's in Lagos and they met with their love almost rekindling. She now works in Lagos with 60k pay.

Now this lady (now 29) and still single is accusing my guy of not making much efforts to look for her while he was single. Said she regretted her past actions and has completely changed and felt she was the one married to him. She even said she can accept to be his second wife or his baby mama and won't marry any guy who is not like my guy (in terms of character, emotion and ofcourse money).

My guy has come to me for advise, pls if you are him what will you do? Matured minds pls.

You and your guy are mad

Alexaonfleek:
Lol
Read up my posts on this thread,did I disagree with the op?
I only disagreed with what mr ednut said about the infidel stuff.
And I still insist on the fact that there's nothing wrong with a lady who desires a man that can care for her.
Na from relationship the caring go start.

same way there is nothing wrong with a man desiring a woman that cares for him....lol or you hear say men don't like care?

Lilymatty:
What is wrong with this poster sef, so u mean if we get a financially buoyant man, we shouldn't go for it because it's selfish of us? . Haven't ladies suffered enough from the hands of men! No ladies are bound to be with broke guys. Yeye

Are you a broke girl? No guys are bound to be with a broke girl.yeye

blinkz4real:
All of you re agreeing to this because you re all poor or if you re not poor then you have a poor mindset jst priviledge to have it. if you can't pay her bills pls free this girls for other guys to date and don't go about complaining about girls just go and hustle more or better still find your spec.

I wonder the type of men society is raising up this days just shying away from taking care of the women they claim 2 love in d name of its just a relationship.

Pls stop all this bashing of women its poverty that is disturbing you but you don't want 2 accept it. Women re suppose 2 be well treated and pampered because the re not wired to suffer. Have you checked out how the were first created? From a mans Rib(what does that mean 2 you?)


If you can shadow her responsibility pls do but if its beyond you go and work harder so that you won't be complaining she has entitlement mentality. You can call me a simp but real men handle their woman's needs.

simp go and sleep,most women do not understand the difference between needs and wants....When you give birth to your daughter you can encourage to follow the highest bidder....nonsense men with probably fraudulent money

ZINIBANKS:
All I care about is she must have a car

ok

Alexaonfleek:
Lie

The Bible clearly states that a man who cannot provide for his family is the one who is worse than an infidel,not a lady who desires a man to take care of her.

lol you be handicapped? Or amputee? Taking care go both ways

ZINIBANKS:
Even some will tell you they don't want to marry someone that is broke I agree with them but what if they end up marrying a poor man how will they cope,, and have promised myself if I make that fûcking money I won't go for a broke girl even the girl I'll date must have a car

make sure say the car no be sugar daddy or Yahoo boy buy her the car o....lol...make sure you confirm source of money...lol

Toks2008:
A lady must first strive to achieve financial independence before any other thing and not make searching for a man to take care of her the priority...That is the point.

And note that a lady having that innate desire to be with a man that can take care of her is way different from a lady with an entitlement mentality...the former will not make demands but will support the man to reach his goals whilst the latter will outrightly make demands cos she strongly believes she is entitled.

dont mind all this men that will find a way justify nonsense.... The same wealthy men will start complaining that she left me when my business went down...lol. useless men

lastchild:
It's only a fool that will take what they read on social media so serious

it is only a fool that will post nonsense on social media....hope you are not one?

mrchineke:
Ignorance is bad.......

In your stupidity please remember oil price is now $30 and not $150 like during the useless PDP day.

Stop talking rubbish jare!

You must be a kid to think that oil prices was 150usd when PDP started ruling

Onyi22:
Using Ring is an old fashion of proposing to a lady, Must men still use it up till date?

Can't they use Cars, Landed properties, Company shares, investment Portfolios to prospose marriage?

What's your take on this?

lol.... What will you use to accept the proposal? RAM head

LandMann:
That slawomir or damm niggar of a guy is the most annoying person on NL commenting on this Edo issue... Not counting those who naturally hate APC simply because they have to hate anything Buhari or Tinubu is involved in.. He's probably one of those goading Obaseki into the pit he has fallen into.

He has repeatedly opined that Obaseki will mess Oshiomole up... if he doesn't see the leadership mistakes Obaseki has been making in Edo I don't know.

1. Obaseki sidelined party members that brought him to power in a bid to build his own political structure.

2. Obaseki championed the non swearing in of elected house of assembly members by issuing a proclamation to 7 out of 24 members in the middle of the night to go do their inauguration all in a bid to ensure his own man emerges speaker.

3. Obaseki repeatedly attacked Oshiomole and tried to rubbish his image by saying Oshiomole didn't provide equipments in the specialist hospital he built... All because Oshiomole advised him to try and carry everyone along so they don't start antagonising him (Obaseki).

4. While repeatedly trying to rubbish Oshiomole's image in the media, Obaseki conveniently forgot he was part of Oshiomole's administration, he has not achieved up to 1/4th of what Oshiobaba achieved in the state as a governor in terms of infrastructural development and he also conveniently forgot it was Oshiomole that helped him to limelight.

5. Obaseki instigated moves to remove Oshiomole as a national chairman of APC but he failed.

6. Obaseki issued a state executive order that would seek to prevent APC as a party from carrying out it's primary election how it deems it fit.

These leadership mistakes of Obaseki are all in the public domain and are a pointer to the fact that Obaseki is not a party man, he is not a good leader and he has the tendency to abuse power if he has his way.

Show me the sins of Oshiomole and all you'll hear is "he did not provide equipment in specialist hospital" (but he built the magnificent hospital, which one have you built?)

or "they want access to treasury" (Oshiomole or who? Oshiomole that was a two time governor and also current national chairman with investments home and abroad?

If party members are seeking funds, why not give them contracts and ensure they complete the job as specified and call them out and to order if they don't? They make money from doing the job, the state gets the benefit, everyone is happy... This is what it means to carry everyone along.

Instead, you were sidelining those who brought you to power in a bid to build your own structure... Giving the same jobs that would have benefited party members to outsiders and making spurious claims.

Well, your sins have caught up with you. You can probably go to PDP or any other party and try to build your own structure and be a godfather there. But you are certainly not a party man and I would rather have Oshiomole as a godfather in Edo than you... Because Oshiomole has performed and set a standard. Until you beat that standard, you cannot talk trash about him.

see the way you Painted a perfect a picture of oshomole.... The problem of this country is the citizens.....

MoodyQueen:
Useless things. Keep trying to dictate how your girlfriend should live... Phantom authoritarians.

if you want to be free stay away from relationship.... Useless girls

kkkp:
Lolzz Something wey u for beg osho baba tey tey. But your ego no allow you. Too late

later this one will come and say Nigeria na yeye country. Is osho Baba the owner of Edo state? Do you think osho Baba has the interest of Edo ppl? Most Nigerian citizens are not different from the leaders

Confusedgirl869:
Hmmm bae, what about my parents? Especially mum after all the home trainings she gave, wouldn't she think I disgraced her? Being the first daughter, you know how our parents think na.

You are a disgrace for even typing this nonsense... At least now I know why ur boyfriend wants you to be a baby mama

Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.

please be a baby mama for your boyfriend....lol.

cruxgemmata:
When i say we should shoot them in the head when caught.

One idiot was telling me killing is a sin and instead we should castrate them.

When a castrated person bcomes frustrated. This is what happens, they use all manner of equipment to abuse girls because they are angry dey couldn't feel d urge on the dick anymore.

When a castrated person bcoms frustrated on sex matter. Dey become serial killers by using sticks to rape females. Some wil go as far as kidnapping a male and female and force dem to have sex in his presence for amusement

Any guilty party found, DO THIS

Modified
Didnt read to the point of knowin its a female raping another female. Now i know after some1 pointed that out.
I don tire dey read all these cases, na why.
I just want any guilty party shot in the head irrespective of gender

This is why Nigeria as a country can never go forward... If only we can show the same passion for corruption the same way we show for fake rape trending stories

ettaetta:
she has to trust me na





https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F7PLL1bMTb8

You have to earn the trust na

Thatlong9:
Choose the second guy, if you loved the first you won't have fallen for the second. So go with the second but if and only if you are sure its not lust but love from ur end n willing to bear whatever happens if d guy turns out fake

I don't know who is deceiving you ppl with this "if you loved the first you won't have fallen for the second"

Happy989:
I still love my boyfriend.

stop abusing the word