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Zzor:
Most Nigerian men have this mentality that a good woman should not like money, she should be ready to suffer with them (they will maltreat her after the money comes), she should also not see anything wrong with cheating as long as they are providing for the family.

Why must a woman undergo all these before she can be tagged a good woman? Is she your mother?

why do most girls think that her man will maltreat her if money comes? We want you to like hard work and dedication and make ur money and be a part of the success story of the family...not a leech

godfrey02:
good day nairalanders. happy sunday to you all.
please i need your advice. this is not my real account but an alternate one. matured minds please.
i am a young guy living in lagos. did my service in the north central. met a girl during my service year while at North central, asked her out and it took time before she accepted. was even thru with my service before she accepted to be in a relationship. stayed one year more even after my service, we were together, talk, visit her , she visits too but never spent a night. that i understand she is still living with her parents.
before we started dating she told me she was in a relationship, but some how some how i was able to win her heart.
2020, i moved to lagos for a new job and currently living in lagos, last month i went to visit her at her state (north central) spent some time with her before returning back to lagos.

now this is where i am worried, she told me her ex is allover her now and wants her back. (they are in same state.) what annoyed me most was when i saw a recent photo of her and her ex on her facebook profile. they both went to the studio for the photo-shoot. wearing same outfit. i was at work when i saw the photo on her wall, to be honest with you i was heart broken. but i just had to be strong. in the evening we chatted on whatsapp and i told her i love your new photoshoot. babe denied that she didnt do any photoshot. i just skipped the conversation
last night we were chatting again, and i tried to bring up the issue, thats when she now said she is sorry, she has offened me, that even if her parents get to find out what she did they will disown her and she will hang herself if i ever leave her, so i told her to tell me what she did,

she now open up that her ex has been allover her this few days and wants her back.
i feel unsafe in the relationship because of the distance. i am not there with her and i don;t know whats happening there.
i am about to end the relationship today so she could go back to her ex because i don;t want anything that will hurt me in the future. its still early now and i am willing to let go of the wasted time and resources.

the trust is not there again. she has broken the trust.
we had a heated arguement sometime early this year because of this ex and she vowed never to see him again. but the promise and trust has been broken.
whats your adivce please.
i know if you love someone you won't hurt them, but honestly speaking i am hurt by that photo and her statement that her ex wants her back and has been allover her.

how do i handle this now.
please matured minds. criticisms are welcomed.

she told you she had a boyfriend and you went on to steal her heart...lol. now the owner is taking her heart back and you are getting annoyed....foolish boy

buygala:
I don't stand with #EndSars..I stand with #ReformSars particularly and #ReformtheNigerianPoliceForce..

As e dey go now, the #EndSars protests have been hijacked by Yahoo boys, prostitutes protecting their Yahoo Boy Customers, and even armed Robbers, kidnappers and murderers �

I detest SARS Officers for their high-handedness and abuse of power, but these SARS guys are a part of the Police force particularly dreaded by hardened criminals....this is because these criminals know these SARS guys are also hardened crooks themselves and are licensed to act swiftly and ruthlessly to curb crime�

You don't cut off your head just because your nose is ailing�
SARS as presently constitited have abandoned their primary assignment of apprehending armed robbers..after all SARS means "Special Anti-Robbery Squad...they have now taken or upon themselves to do EFCC's Job of apprehending Yahoo boys abi na suspected Yahoo boys, and have extended that to harassing citezens who make the mistake of appearing fresh, young and have the guts to have laptops and phones on them�

That nonsense must stop...but that does not mean SARS should be scrapped..They are an absolutely necesary evil�

In the whole mad hysteria which is the #endsars protest, Nigerians forget that there are more deadly police departments like the SACS (Special anti cultism Squad)
IGP X-Squad
Special Anti-Kidnapping Squad .

All these Squads are very joyless and are fully licensed to be as brutal, if not more brutal than the SARS Everyone is shouting about..
If the Police want to be mischievous, they will disband SARS and move all its officers to these other deadly squads for them to continue 'the Lord's Work"�

Shebi i have read of a case where Soldiers connived and kidnapped a young boy in Imo State, under the guise that he was being arrested on arrested on suspicion of being a Yahoo Boy..

After kidnapping the young boy and forcing him to pay more than 1million naira to them, they killed the boy, dumped his body in the bush, and made away with his Lexus Es350 car..This happened late last year abi na this year sef..

Because of that, why haven't we called for #EndNigerianArmy?�

I still remember how some officers of the same Nigerian Army killed many policemen while aiding the escape of a fugitive kidnapper in Taraba State..

We didn't call for #EndNigerianArmy because of that..

Point is..the fact of the existence of some Renegades in an organisation does not make that organization totally useless or worth discarding..

If the #EndSars protesters are truly serious, let us also end Nigerian Army because of their atrocities as well

oga start your own # tag.....nonsense

Adakintroy:
The Yahoo boys will.lead you all astray. Many are in the heart of this protest..don't trust their motives.the celebrities have profited from them too many times to condemn them.

A Yahoo boy is a born again greedy person. They can not be trusted.

They justify themselve by telling you it was the country. That will mean they were once good guys until the country made them sin. Attribution#. They were never good and can't be now. They know there intents. It's greed.

When they started making money they still did not leave. Why..?they were greedy and the door was shut. they are trapped in an endless circle of greed that brings about torment and purnishment. The few other deaths or maltreatment can be said to be those caught in the crossfire. They want to use their death to bring about their salvation..dont allow them. They are still yet to condemn Yahoo openly. Don't mix with such crowd. Their justifications is strange. They are liers.

Whoever God send to purnish them should not concern you. The soul that sinneth shall die one way or the other.

You can't rationalize the deed of sars. Say what you can..the banta is a lot deeper than rationality.its spiritual. Good people don't have the stomach for hard judgment with enough torments in it..they don't know how that's for the others ones. And God have access to them as well. Mind your business and go your way..this does not concern you. This is not a protest like you understand it.


For the ones who innocently pass on I say rip. But go on sars. We know you following a saint trail. I can sleep well knowing that Yahoo boys have something that terrifies them.

They are looking for rationalize excape root. Lol.

Welcome to hell.

How does special anti robbery squad equate to focus on yahoo boys (cyber crime) You are mad for posting rubbish

GOATandYAMtheory:
I only pity the innocent ones joining this protest cos they found others doing it. As we know, Nigeria is a country where many do things because they want to be a part of the trend.

So many are on this forum praising the protesters and even encouraging people to kill SARS while they themselves are at home hiding.

Of all the things bedeviling this country, why should #endsars be of high priority if not that some professional fraudsters are behind this?

Because of these professional fraudsters, many of the opportunities to be enjoyed by some of us who wants to earn legitimate income online have been lost. You want to apply for a job online and you find out that you can't do this just because you are Nigerian. If you have had this experience before and you are joining the yahoo boys to call for SARS to be eradicated, you need a brain check.



Mention me all you can, I will only grin @ it. This is a forum where you will see Nigerian youth defend corrupt politicians and yahoo boys openly.. so I won't be surprised when these set of people mention me to defend what they believe in.

mumu the sars you are defending are they better? Or do you choose to act like you don't know all sars want is to be collecting money from the so called Yahoo boys and not to stop them. If that is the case how does it help ur case?

MJluv:
Heavy earners seem to run into these issues with their club's. Looking at Bale with Madrid, then here we have Ozil with Arsenal. Suarez was smart enough to hit the road before the shit hit the fan...


Anyways, Ozil your romance with the gunners is up. This is the end game. It's time you hit the road

if it is you will you hit the road? Collect ur free 350k till end of contract

Blackmiserable:
Strong wine. I respect your opinion honestly.

But why do you think nature has domesticated women? Just some heads up, by nature I could also mean God.

Now, why do you think women have, in a sense, being domesticated? They are not as strong and resilient as men. I mean, the chore of providing basic necessities from antiquity had to do with strength, agility, and swiftness?

Imagine a world of women. Not a single man. Not one. Do you think they'd be better off technologically, scientifically, and even material-wise? Hell no. But why or put differently, why would they be worse off?

Now, look at it from a biological pov. Let me chip in for a moment about how reproductive anatomy favours men. Back in time and even now, the average woman is worried about quite a number of things that has to do with biology.

If you know the number of women who have stayed back at home because of painful periods, heavy period, irregular period, or even period leaks, you would be shocked.

This kills productivity for no fault of theirs.

I am not in anyway encouraging laziness but God who created women from men has made it such that most women would have to depend on a man for basic necessities. Seems like one of the curses though. It is not sexist but the truth.

Simp tell that to Ngozi iweala

visiondee:
u mean our president is supporting this? they should kuku join Nigerian Army in northeast and other parts to fight Boko Haram and bandits

leave that guy ....yahoo boy take him girlfriend....lol

Or11:
And those that kill for rituals pretending to be Yahoo boys. Those whose victims committed suicide from frustration from being scammed, those who had heart attack from frustration and so on. Maybe when SARS continues the killing they will quit the scams from fear of being next.

maybe when sars kills you because you have a car you will have sense in ur grave

Overgrownbaby:
This is all politics , if you know you know

if something goes wrong and for instance he doesn't survive...lol.. we will not see you come and apologize for ur foolish post

MrColdsweat:
Mourinho has finally killed Tottenham.


Pochettino barely made big signings at spurs yet he was always top 4 at the end of the season.

Any club that picks mourinho is gone. When you sack him, you'll see hell when you try to offload this players.

where was he when he was sacked? Trophyless coach

Sheriman:
Everybody ti n gbon So Europe gan self won commot dia head for America military dominance. Believe me European leaders no be talk no do like African leaders. By next year December dey would have announced for European Submit that they are no more collecting US Arms.
They will start manufacturing their own Arms by donating billions of Euros to finance the Project..

When you post without having knowledge...smh

Ehiscotch:
Why are we like this?

It's been properly explained to us that it was a different program.

Why do you choose to remain oblivious of something so verifiable and clear?_

Come on, we are not getting anywhere with this.

The fact that choose to be foolish doesn't mean that others will join you...School feeding program when children were in their parents house is clear corruption

fati2001:
that's to show that you don't have anything to offer in relationship apart from money and sex, no ambitions, no goal, no sacrifices at all...... may you see urself through.

platonic relationship can have that

ebijimi7:
Good day guys i have a gf which i love so much until recently i didnt allow the love blind me.
When I first met this my gf she is very calm and humble if you put water in her mouth tell her bot to swallow it she wont so all these made me feel she is better than my ex until recently she started showing some attitudes, although she is alone no father no mother sge stays with a friend and her parent not that she is fatherless its just that her dad is irresponsible so i made up my mind to help her be a better person in life.
So along the lines as I was helping her sge started feeling its my responsibility to always do what her father could have done for her forgetting i have my own responsibility too.
I started seeing some signs in her when we stayed tigrther for a year at first we traveled for a friend's mother in-law burial i spent money to lodge us in hotel and to feed and to transport from lagos down to abeokuta to and fro for the both of us the total money I spent was about 50k, then when we got there we started preparing for the burial then she got dressed and she asked that what about money for make up I told her I don't have nothing on me again can't you take money from your pocket and just use it to do the make up do you want to kill me she flared up and was angry and told me she doesn't have any money on her, at the end of the day I don't know where she got money from she did the make up then after the event we were about going back to our hotel room then my friend asked may be I was with my ATM card I told him no but my gf has her card with her then I sent my gf account number to him to transfer money so he can withdraw it, so I got back to the hotel room I was playing game with my gf phone then message came in credit alert it appeared on her phone notification bar that the account was credited with 3k and the total was now 10k I felt bad and disappointed that she lied she had no money then I challenged her she told me its not her money but for some ones money then I scold her that why does she have to do that I thought we are meant for each other and not against each other where I lack you are to assist even if its a little I know you don't have much but Atleast then she uttered a sentence that she knows if she tells me she has money I would spend it lavishly because I give out money any how I felt disappointed by this statement. I felt bad that night I gave her money to go and get food and eat while I slept in anger then when we came back to lagos I called her attention to what she did and how her reaction has always been towards money that it made me feel she is with me because of what I was giving her then she got mad flared up and was screaming what sort of rubbish statement are my making that she is not after my money then I told her ok fine let live together for 6 month and don't expect any money from me she got mad and said its not possible that why would I date her and not take care of her she left my presence in anger and didn't talk to me for days she later came back to appologise that she is sorry

lol....oga when you buying her you did not tell us o...so please kontinue paying.
Men will start relationship with money and when the woman fall for ur money you start complaining.

HundredWays:
but how can he be defeated in his LGA

Do u think is political wise??

Do u think even if BUBU is going for the 3rd, Atiku can't defeat him in Katsina... My 2cent

mumu is Atiku from Katsina? Adams is from same local government. What do you expect?

petra1:
If you announce what the bible say, is that a threat. If you tell a man he would end up in hell if he doesn't get saved ,is that a threat?

you mean the personal Bible you wrote?

petra1:
Tithes and offeriing is a bible doctrine and anyone who feel otherwise os free to air his view. But calling tithers MUGU and The men of God rogues is unnecessary



Everyone has civic right to say anything. I'm not aware that the Men of God who are being insulted complained. Pastor Adeboye ,Bishop Oyedepo,Pastor Chris . I'm not aware anyone of them complained.

But the purpose of the thread is to let Christians know that it is unbiblical to insult men of God.Either they complain or not is not the issue. The bible forbid it. And anyone doing so after reading this thread have himself to blame for the consequences There is a Bible culture that some Christians dont have because they dont study .



It depends. A prophet can Speak as the Oracle of God . But what did he say about the Pope.

Threatening those that refused to tithe is also unnecessary....It is unbiblical to insult anyone not only man of God

petra1:
Be specific what did they say. Dealing with doctrinal difference By ministers is allowed . But it is different from Christians insulting Men of God

So when ppl criticize the payment of tithe is that not doctrinal differences? Men of God in Nigeria(most)are very proud and arrogant... They dont accept criticism infact they they like to even control their members.
The catholic church that has existed for many centuries get criticized even recently pastor Suleman made nonsense comments about the pope....lol Suleman that has less than 50 years Pentecostal church.

Deborah98:
Well written and analysed.. Whatever crime one does and to whomever it is done against has the right to punish such offender,take for Instance in a class,a child is given an assignment to do and he doesn't do it,who will punish the child? The teacher of course, whatever pastors do,say or act we don't have any right to throw tantrums at them instead we should be mindful that we didn't call them rather God and He owns the imperial power to deal with anybody who profanes Him name.... Righteousness89 what do you have to say about this...

But your pastors opened their mouth to criticize the catholic church but cannot tolerate criticism. Majority of Nigerian Christians are just zombies

shortgun:
Let me tell u how I deal with cases like this:
Tell her to pick up her phone and dial the guys number.
Tell her to put phone on speaker;
Now tell her to tell the guy that he should never ever call her again cos her boyfriend is not comfortable with his calls.
Let her tell the guy that she's blocking his number right away.

....if she refuses to do the above, go and get urself a chilled bottle of beer or whatever that's makes u happy and thank Ur stars cos u just dodged a missile.

You did not even read the post...smh

Ventura1:
More reason Nigeria needs a Revolution, a reset is needed to fix the country.

I perfectly agree with Moghalu on the fact

stop importation of petroleum products first... I totally disagree with him

yungpowers:
Tribalism will never allow our youths vote for such a product.
They'll rather vote for vegetables who'll mortgage their future.
Nigerians deserve Buhari.

floating the naira now is a disaster... leave all this write up.
Nigeria as a nation spend more forex importing petroleum than they spend on rice importation but you will not hear the same government attack fuel importation the way they attack rice importation... it begs the question why?

kikero:
And then there is the phenomenon of bypassing the meter

(It happens)

Technology can easy track by passing....

Palema007:
Yes it has to, For your own safety and well being if you are a guy. When you go to where you aren't wanted, valued or appreciated you or your pocket will suffer. When a woman isn't on the same wavelength with you, it's best you let go and save yourself a lot of stress.

While some ladies will be sincere enough to let you know they don't feel the same way about you, some won't and keep playing. While some Men appreciate ladies sincerity and withdraw, some will keep on forcing themselves on ladies while some like you don't even know ladies feelings count. Now I don't need to tell you what the last two categories of Men go through, do I?

feelings constantly change... so when they change what do you do? Leave the marriage? The truth is if we decide base on feelings my dear there would be no need for Marriage

Palema007:
Are you saying she should have been with someone she felt nothing for because he was in love and dying? Do people who give narratives like yours ever think of the "freedom to make a choice" when a woman is involved?

Now I see why most Men fall in the wrong hands! It is all about your feelings, the woman's feelings doesn't matter, sadly when you lots face the consequences of your ideologies, you come back here to rant and tag women names.

Give ur advice.... kids always think love is about feelings. Can you define feelings for us?

Zealoy:
I don't think is from God o cuz I got a message from a man of God that I should dump the fair girl am dating and to all indications he was referring to her, honestly she's every man's dream beautiful and very sexy but honestly I don't love her to the extent of settling down with her, I only wish the best for her that's y I want to let her go so that she can find someone better than me

lol...the scam word used to dump someone "find someone better than me"...lol.

allthingsgood:
Buhari is your problem or the decayed and dead morals of Nigerians. Even u that is talking if they give u chance u will do worst. Buhari remain the best president is 1999.

can you give details for this lame analysis

frozen70:
What do you understand after reading that post

Women are useless and you keep going in and out of them

Are you not the most useless of them all

keep waiting for the man that will give you everything you want...

frozen70:
Honestly, it's not a good experience to.have your wife date another man, men should just avoid anything that will lead her to such life Beyonce they test it out side ,it takes the grace of God to bring her back

Just keep monitoring her until you catch her and that is if you can catch her

Live your life and don't allow her attitude lead you to depression

Every man must make sure his wife doesn't need another man, if her problem is love give her enough, if it's sex give her enough, if it's care give her and if it's attention give it to her

Dont just give her room to get it else where because she will definitely get a better one than yours

can you ppl ever be responsible in ur life? A man should give her everything she wants...lol, most women are just useless