jesusjnr2020:
What Happened The Day I Said "Goodbye" To The World And "Welcome" To Jesus

It seemed just like any other day. I was in a joint-fellowship meeting on campus and also part of the choir.

Although I wasn't yet saved at the time, i didn't feel out of place there because i had already gotten used to being active in that capacity in church, leading praise and worship and also choir ministration despite yet being a sinner. But the words i heard from the preacher on that day was so compelling, it made me finally make that defining decision to say yes to Christ.

This was after I had come out for several alter calls prior to that without truly repenting. However on this particular occasion i didn't even go out for the alter call, so no one else in the meeting may have noticed what had just taken place. But on that day heaven bore witness and was rejoicing because a change had truly taken place in me, and a soul which was previously lost and bound for hell, had become saved and won into the Kingdom of heaven.

One remarkable difference I noticed in my life after I made the decision for Jesus was with respect to my strong inclination to steal.

Now I was such a chronic thief. I used to steal for country. It got to the extent that I would break into people's houses and cars to steal, some of them were even my neighbors and (family) friends who welcomed me into their family homes and treated me kindly but I still stole or tried to steal from them. It was that bad.

I have a feeling that the strong drive to steal then was driven by my materialistic and covetous tendencies. That's the reason why I am very careful with teachings which encourage such in the church, because I know how far such can push someone into doing the wrong things.

No wonder why Jesus strongly discouraged and sternly warned against such things:

Luke 12:15 (KJV)

And he said unto them, Take heed, and beware of covetousness: for a man's life consisteth not in the abundance of the things which he possesseth.

Although mine, thankfully, didn't get to the extent of wanting to injure or kill someone physically in other to get what they had, as it often does, as illustrated by the instance of Judas the disciple of Jesus who betrayed Him because of money to show how far it could push someone.

Mine was still bad though regardless, but what shocked me was that on that day, in that very moment I made that decision, that inclination in me instantly dried up. That is to say, i suddenly stopped stealing and turned to the opposite of what I used to be in that regards from that day onwards.

This became evident just days later when my best friend in school had finished the assignment and given me to copy from him, as we usually did beforehand to help each other in class, but to his greatest surprise, I told him "no, thanks", that I was going to do it myself.

That was how he came to realize that I was no longer the man he once knew.

It was indeed a brand new me.

God bless.

ufotty2001:
you marry a good woman

evangmx:
I just lost my job like 2 months ago. I use my car to do can work. My wife works as well. And we have 2 children.

I want you to tell me the truth am I doing bad or good?

I pay all the bills at home, I still give out 15k every week for food.

But my wife still complain. I don't know what she use her salary to do. All I know is that she use to wear new cloth every Sunday and new shoes. And buys cloth for the children once in a while.

Pls tell me if am doing bad.

AsomArchitectNG:


Are the delegates not Nigerians?

Colephbreed:
Hello guys good day hope y'all are doing great.

Am writing this with so much grief in my heart as I feel depressed, sometimes love can come with somuch pains and joy at same time.

So recently I agreed with my fiance to relocate to a different city since she got a job over there, we agreed a scheduled time we wil have to see each other within a specific period of time. This is someone we share everything in common the love was great, she's an awesome soul to be sincere.

I got so much attached to her, that it made me felt lonely and empty when she left, due to that reason I always want to call and check up frequently, This has been going on For about 4 weeks consistently, the first red flag I noticed was that she asked me not to be calling her frequently that sometimes it's not really cool with her, I respected that fact and reduced the way I call but I was beginning to loose the trust I had for her.

She goes out with her friend frequently and they love partying, even when I consistently warn her about the late nights they keep most times in clubs and partying she keeps telling me she's not a kid and she can handle things herself. Lately the relationship have been filled with lots of argument, misunderstanding, and the trust is beginning to reduce drastically.

Yesterday she uploaded a nasty picture as her display pics on WhatsApp, she was just putting on a top without bra, though she's busty and all that, I asked her take it down and upload something more appealing and decent that am not comfortable with such pics, she began to rant and start saying all manner of things like it's her privacy,her phone, her body,and she decides what to do with it, am an African man and I don't welcome this woke mentality of women nowadays, feeling they need to be half naked to feel sexy I can't cope with such indecent dressing, I told her am not trying to tell her what to do but atleast you should respect my opinion sometimes, I got angry and sent her a very long message about my displeasure. since then she has refused to pick my calls nor reply my messages.

She tried calling earlier today but I didn't pick, I couldn't sleep through out the night the whole drama was just playing in my Head.

Guys is this enough reason to call of a relationship or are my just being too self centered? have actually made up my mind just need to hear from different and more matured people in the house.
Thanks for reading and enjoy the rest of your day.

AsomArchitectNG:
You've done well my V.P Nigerians ain't ready for a positive change yet.

Ishilove:
A Nigerian lady, Ajibola Elisabeth Junaid from Oyo State narrates how she migrated with her family members to the United States in search of greener pastures. Her family settled in Chicago, as they were all asylum seekers. It did not take long for her to discover that hardly does the American dream exist for minorities or people of colour.

She described America as a reality of racism, poverty, food insecurity and gun violence.

She is a senior student at Wendell Phillips Academy High School.

Her narration below:



https://nigeriastandardnewspaper.com/ng/true-life-story-american-dream-is-a-mirage-struggle-only-racism-poverty-food-insecurity-gun-violence-are-realities-ajibola-elizabeth-junaid-a-nigerian-asylum-seeker-in-chicago-narrates-experien/

Alaigbopress:
Some days ago, I posted here about how my girl friend posted her ex pictures twice and I got a handful of advice, insults and very derogatory statements. Also at the same time I also got very few matured and helpful comment.
I wanted to apply the advice I was given here because I was furious and that could have been disastrous.

The next day after posting here, I confronted my girl, I told her it is over between us(all was a ploy to know how much she loves me). Since that day, my Girl's mood changed, she doesn't talk to people, she doesn't laugh and even started skipping her meal. She came to my house and was crying heavily that she was sorry. That has it been she know that it will provoke me that she wouldn't have done it.

I still pretended that I will never forgive her. Just yesterday she called my female bestie and narrated to her what happened and she called me yesterday evening and pleaded with me to forgive her. Which I did and You need to see how happy this girl has been. I will send screen shot of her recent Whatsapp status.


My Advice to anyone seeking for a relationship advice is not to follow the popular comment here.

chatinent:
Comrade,

Abeg clear me this part...

Dem call their own dating marriage?






Comrade Most High, with due respect, how old is your stupidity?

Tmberwolf1:

Yo! I don't know why you are calling God. Solar flares have been happening since the beginning of the earth, we haven't died yet. It's just simple science and astronomical phenomenon.

sewenzie:




Are you guys still in Worcester? I’ll be coming soon, and I need to get an apartment.

sewenzie:




Are you guys still in Worcester? I’ll be coming soon, and I need to get an apartment.

sewenzie:




Are you guys still in Worcester? I’ll be coming soon, and I need to get an apartment.

Missyajoke:
Whether he his fake or not fake we will know on the Judgement day. On the Judgement all this men of God we will know their true colour. The man is gone rest biko, he's he a God

Kobojunkie:
You are confusing things here.

God created the world alright, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with His ability to maintain His creation a all. He created this instead to be "maintained" by man, and so He gave it over the man, as far as manintainance is concerned. So if you want healing and saving of the world, take your issues up with Man.

Man has not handed it back to God so I don't see why you expect God to then come in to heal and save it...I mean save it from whom...man?

God created humans, yes, but if humans hated their life of agony and pain, as you call it, they could always choose death, thanks to the first man making certain by his choices that is added to the equation. If life is as you say pain and agony, then why procreate?

Human chose to multiply their ranks into the billions knowing fully well what is in store for them as they do. So I am not sure where you find God to blame in all of this still.

Kobojunkiee:
God never said He came to heal or save the World. He came to save those that will believe and obey Him, for His Kingdom. That is why Heaven only belongs to the few and not to many or all.

The relationship He presented is an individual one- a Contract between God Himself and individual man. What you see today as Christianity is in many cases a contract forged in the minds of men, groups of men, founded on doctrines and traditions of men, what Jesus Christ called Lies, with nothing to do with God, and that is why it is filled with the chaos that is men.

To have a relationship with God, one needs to remove oneself from all the following of ideas and doctrines of men, in order to learn from God and God alone. God Himself declared that He alone is the teacher to those who follow Him and are true. Jesus Christ reiterated this Truth of God when He commanded His disciples against setting themselves up as teachers/masters over his flock, commanding also that they not rule or install themselves as authorities over their fellow followers.

If God is your teacher, He will not only teach you, but He will install His Spirit inside of you to cause you to obey His commandments. He will order your thoughts with His thoughts and your ways with His ways as He directs your every path. All you have to do is continue accept(trust) and obey His teachings/commandments, the Truth of God.

Kobojunkiee:
Is the world not in darkness even to this day? I mean look around and tell me where you see the Light of Jesus Christ shinning. Use Google map if you feel it necessary.

MrGoood:
I am a businessman and the thing is I am in for money in any choice I make. I made around 22 million in savings last year. Though I cut family and girlfriends off my life to achieve that and am in Nigeria.

But seeing the doings of people outside The country, there was an America based lady that spent over 12 million naira on her mother's burial. For her to spend that much I believe she will have 20x of that amount.

At least for an upright thinking fellow, I feel like am making less so am thinking of relocating. Can I make over 22 million yearly in savings in USA, If no how much can I save? Talk from your personal experience pls, Let stop deceiving each other pls, How much did you save annually in USA? Please let be sincere.

ProfessorBerlin:
After money na toto sweet pass. Gays are mad

ThreeEyedRaven:
lol. This is what suits the Nigerian wicked governments, let them swear to Ifa and see if they wont be afraid of stealing and mismanaging public funds

WoundedLamb:
An African friend always argue that kids are better of raised in Africa. He said he'd send his two boys to Nigeria so they'd know what life is all about. I asked him "what life is all about", he said hardship, blackouts, etc. He said kids raised in the Americas aren't respectful and organized cause they didn't suffer. And that brings me to the topic of this thread. Is the Nigerian style of raising kids really the ideal model? I just want to share my opinion on the things my friend mentioned as reasons to send his boys to Africa: respectful and organized and the need to "suffer small" (his words).

Respectful: In the Nigerian society, elders don't usually explain to kids why they shouldn't do some things; they just authoritatively ask them not to do it and the kids better not ask why. Kids grow up respecting thier elders out of fear (and not admiration or love). The implication of this is that they do a lot things without their patents' knowledge, and they get used to this "hidden lifestyle" that makes it almost impossible for parents to truly know thier children. This in turn denies the parents the opportunity to identify and correct some unwanted behaviours as the kids always tell them just what they want to hear. And then it's only a matter of time before some of these kids outgrow the fear and reveal their true personalities (good luck with your mystery parcel at this point). Whereas in the Americas, kids are engaged and not commanded. You can easily tell the direction your child is headed.

Organized: He said kids raised in Africa are more organized and not crazy like their American counterparts who do all sorts of things like tattoos, plastic surgery, etc. Yes, Americans have a lot of deviants, but that's why new ideas/findings pop up everyday. I believe Africans force thier youngsters to fit into a predefined pattern of life and thereby reducing the chances of creativity. In Africa, you are supposed to go to school, get a job, get married and make children (and there are ages for all these). Then your children will do the same and the cycle continues. This "organised" pattern is the African dream; it is more important than any other dream or even the world itself, and any deviation is frowned upon. Africans think it's a crazy for a man to dedicate his life to studying mosquitoes even if that's his dream (yet Africans are the most affected by these killer insects), Africans think it's crazy for a woman to say she ain't getting married but would rather use her money to adopt and raise orphaned kids. A friend I was teaching software development had to quit cause "he didn't have time anymore". According to him, he had gotten to the age of marriage. And you wonder why nothing spectacular comes out of this continent? Alternative lifestyles might be scary but that's the wheel of progress.

"Suffer small": This one makes me laugh and I usually use it to tease my friend. Kids don't need to suffer small. Kids need the skills that would make them survive in their environment. If carrying water, fighting for a bus, using candles and going to the farm equip the child for the African life, great (just don't overdo it). But that's not necessarily a model. It's something they do out of necessity. A kid who is born in North America does not need to go to Africa to "suffer small". I don't even own a bucket as an adult and I'll probably never buy one. A kid born here needs DIY skills amongst others.

I don't have a problem with some people wanting their kids to go to Africa to learn thier culture but I don't subscribe to the idea that kids raised in Africa are better off. What do you think?

Killertune20:
Having dated for about 3 years, early this year, we had an altercation, I believe the distance between us caused it cause I moved to a different state.

Late last year she told me about a young pastor who's asking for her hand in marriage, I asked about her stance and she said she didn't see it happening, but 2 weeks after the altercation, she told me she is considering the pastor.

Ever since then, I have tried to move on but I can't, this babe ticks all the boxes for me, for more than 3 years cause we started dating in school while I was in 300L and she 200L, It's been like no other girl existed in the world for me.

Now the usual gimmick "the lord said you are my wife" has cost me something I value so much.

I love this babe with all my heart, now the things I do around her, like forced chats, unreplied messages gets to me, create a pinch on my ego and in a way emasculates me. It feels like she has moved on but I can't.

Now my question, how do people get over people so easily?

Have you ever met someone and felt like she was the one and it ended?

Has anyone been in my shoes and how did you move on?

The happily ever after I dreamt of has become a night mare.

NiRfreak:


Look at the English you are typing... something works for someone and you are talking about one recommendation... Recommendation by who??
So you have to be recommended before u make life decisions

NiRfreak:
Today I was really angry. Someone got me so mad that I could destroy things or harm the person. But I maintained my cool. Yet I was just mad almost all day that I couldn't concentrate on anything else. Then I became angrier for being angry and being in a bad mood that was caused by someone else.

Then this evening, and since it's been a while I went out to drink cos I've been very busy lately. So I went to my ATM and withdraw as much as I could afford to waste.
I went to a bar, drink, drink, took peppersoup..and took a couple of stick...
Now I'm a happy man and no longer angry.

I'm. now wondering how people who don't drink nor smoke or go on lavishing spree manage to relieve their anger when mad..Hmmm. This life is too short to allow people spoil ya mood

Seyzcham91:
confirm!

Richdad50:
Friends, as much as I do not fall for some spiritual gymnastics performed by many preachers, I still hold steadfast to the workings of Faith and the miraculous power of healing found in the name of Jesus.

Don't let what people write on this forum deceive you. Jesus is still in the business of healing the sick and raising the dead so long as faith is given in exchange.

Not everything is drama, not all are paid artists. In the realm of the spirit, common sense is outrun making common understanding insignificant.

Richdad

arsenal444:
Don't say so oooo

arsenal444:
Bross, if you go church u go die?

ZACHIE:
There are dreams and there are dreamers.
Oyedepo is a dream actualizer and he deserves his kudos.

Can this man take over the running of Nigeria, please? The shigidi in the rock should just pack and go.

Bar1941:
Really, so that list is about house warming not wedding? You are talking as if the list is about something else. What brought about the list in the first instance if not the bride?

thatigboman:
I want to create this post in order to disabuse the minds of nairalanders on the misconceptions about much-talked about igbo bride prices.
Contrary to the belief that igbo bride prices run into millions, the bride prices are usually a token. In my hometown in Arondizuogu, Imo State, it is about N200.

The misconception arises from the list given to family of the intending groom. That list is far different from the bride price.
Different people in igboland give different lists in igboland for the different groups in the village they come to marry - the daughters of the family (my 2 year old children get their shares in my place), the women, the youths and the elders. And there are options. You either bring the items or bring the money. Example, u can go to a community and they ask you to bring 10 big yams, another can ask for 20 kegs of palm wine, others can ask for coconut. And youths in my place must ask for a roll of cigarettes, benson or rothmas. And the groom has an option, either to buy them and bring according to specifications or just drop money.

Buying the items usually bring problem. U can buy 10 big yams, and they tell u that it is only 2 that are big, you have to pay for the other 8 'small ones'. U can buy Life and Hero drinks, and they say no, one must be Star, so some people will prefer to pay cash and will be taxed heavily.
All in all, all the issues will be settled, so no worries.

let other igbos and other nairalanders contribute.