Techmac00:
So it's been a mixed 5 years since I left school in 2017. Before then, it had taken me about 5 years to get into the university.

Then after NYSC at Jos, my Dad felt I should get married as the first son, then I met a lady here, two ladies intact, the first felt I was too young at 26, while the other was too desperate.

I later met another lady here, and when I thought everything was set, my parents didn't accept her place of origin.

Now I will be 30 in October, managing myself with a job in Tech after leaving Accounting as an Economics graduate. My siblings are all outside the country, I'm the only one here, I get home late and there's no one to talk to, no real friendship, no relationship, it's killing me.

Who else has experienced this before? My elder sister wants me to leave the country but I don't have the funds to undertake such right now. My parents want me to get married first but I can't even find a lady that I am interested in. Yes the hooked me up with a Nurse but I want to make my Choice by myself.

So many other things that have happened this year and I just want to express my thoughts to someone, it's hard keeping a lot to oneself.

By the way, I'm a Digital Marketer, I've worked in top organisations, currently working in one of the biggest Beauty and Skincare brand in Nigeria, if you have any project with regards SEO, SEM, SMM, Email Marketing and the likes, I'm your guy.

I'm an introvert by the way

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akwesenana:



I wanted to like this 2 times.

Oya coman pay offering money
I just gave you redpill 1010
The best redpill is the one coming from a female,cause it's sweet not bitter.

You people should tell me o
If you want me to start coaching you
My own is sweeter than Ubunja
Everybody will be happy

mirinder:
you what type of sense do you have?

No try me o
We update on a steady
Social, financial, emotional and moral sense
Na money we just dey find
That's good a enough for me
So I have every right to ask for it while I work on my own
Mirinder wassup
E don tey wey I drink you o
Are you still sweet *blushes*

Ayinke93:


Thank you. This is the perfect summary

My sister abi o
Aiye love in this situation o ni da

Guderian:



Chai how many men have you done this to

I dinnuh even use to do it sef
I just want to start
Na good Girl I don dey do since
But they don do am to me
Don't worry I dinnuh have shame
The thing messed with my head ehn,even when I told myself this was a tactic
Now if you do all those things to me, I still stay really cool.
Come back 10 years and text,me I'll answer you o
Life no hard
If somebody is sha doing this to you
There is a way to do counter attack
But you'll both be cool,no single hatred,just pure mind games
So you can turn the Tables but you'll have to also be very useful to yourself.
Cause you'll be calm and composed and nobody can do shakara to you

Guderian:



How much was it sold...
I found out late....

I did not even ask him
But I think it was #2.3m or #2.5m

odinson1:


Na man or woman you be?

I think I have titties so what am I?

Then @OP if you normally change your DP before, don't change it again
Leave just one of your cool pictures on it and leave it alone,if you normally post on your status, don't post,stop or mute her from viewing and post whatever you like.

What you want to achieve by doing this is to be a mystery.

Don't view her status,view like once in a month and open only the first one
The day you'll text her,open one of her status,only one o
Then go on with your monosyllables
Mess up her head
If it doesn't work, come back and meet me
If she talks about herself, don't give caring comments,be going offline and coming back.
When she's done write
"You'll be fine ,sorry"

Babara1994:

You wicked o

When she gets hooked and she goes emotional and all "you don't talk to me or initiate bla bla bla"
He'll tell her he is trying to be careful so he doesn't anger her

Wordsfrombimpe:
Hmmn , another angle

Thank you for sharing

You welcome

Kiddogarcia:

Not fear tho, not finance.just a personal wish.
Life depending on people for the basic stuff is rubbish to me sha,I want to be for me, not inconveniencing anybody for me

You're still agile at 50
Start talking about dependency from let's say 72yrs old

Iamzealousman:


I tried this early last year.

Around may last year she just text me that she misses me.

Next time write
"Ah okay"
Then continue your monosyllables

Kiddogarcia:
Living a dependant lifestyle,one reason I always hope to die before fifty.
I can imagine my life beyond that age.
Na we be your best plug for everything Sexual enhancement

That life is beautiful okay
It's the time of Earthly rest if you used your youthful age well.
So please imagine your after 50
You're actually still full of life till you die
Being here and old age is a beautiful thing.
Don't be scared
The fear comes not knowing what's on the other side

Iamzealousman:
For more than 2 years now. There is this lady that have been manipulating me emotionally.

She knows I love her. But she has rejected my approach.

She Wants to be communicative only when she makes the move for a conversation. And this conversation will only end in can you help me with this or that. I have no problem with helping(so long as it's not financially) of which she never ask for financial assistance tho.

So...early this year I approached her again she said she can't date me because I never said I love her. I was like so I have been play since? Etc.

I ensured that I didn't communicate with her and I let her be. But she now still calls again.

Most times when she call I don't pick etc.

I have not found another person yet but I know she doesn't love.

I want to move on from her so I can focus of myself

Go monosyllabic

Thank me later
If she calls
Pick
And use one one word responses and keep your tone cool
Oh wow
Cool
I'm good
Oh fine
Don't ask about her, don't seem interested in knowing what's going on with her
Don't care

When next she asks for a favour
Say oh no
You're a bit busy at the moment but you'll hit her up first thing when you're done
Don't hit anything
Continue like that like
She'll either leave or you start being on her mind cause she becomes confused
He is here but not really here
Then if she doesn't talk to you for weeks
Out of the blues one day,chat her up with Hi
When she responds
Count 8-10 hours before responding
Then still go on with the monosyllables

Wordsfrombimpe:
All this bunch of excuses

Guys give towards you

Why don't you come and visit

Your place is too far

And aunty you go carry your leg forget your brain go meet that idiot

Don't you even read the lines in his words it means

I don't like you enough to go miles for you


Copyright Digital Bimpe The Coach

I think this idea is fast running out
Things are changing maybe we should turn the Tables.
The probability of him shooting it first and fucking up is still high so why not turn the Tables?
Shoot your shot first then behave like he would.
So shoot the shot,give the attention,then withdraw,take back the attention.
Be less bothered
Reduce the time
Leave a small string of communication
Vibe it up again
Basically turn the Tables and be the one with the control
Be apologetic and manipulative

Jman06:
Be hypergamous all you want but allow guys make their own choices of having younger, fresher girls whose coochies are still intact and fresh. Let's see where your hypergamy would lead you to.

Stop forming motivational speaker when a man wants to make his own choices.

Be calming down ehn Sweetheart
And who says we both can't have it all ehn?
Or at least to the extent we can?
Last last we'll end up with good or bad spouses but I believe we can always get close to what we want, we'll just do what it takes to have it ni

MaryAye:
After taking the advice of meaningful nairlanders on this https://www.nairaland.com/7341050/he-wants-date-he-doesnt.

This is the aftermath.

I arranged for a meet-up with him to discuss my supposed assumptions. He told me, "he doesn't hate my child, but he feels my son was gargling like a mewling child."

I asked him to elucidate. Which he did and I politely told him that if he gargled, it was because he's still four. I think he should give my son time and establish a friendly relationship with him.

It was like my pep talks rattled him and he immediately slapped me that I have insulted him and trapped his pride. I was like, what!!!

This was a harmless discussion. Why did you slap me? He started apologising. He said he didn't know what came over him.

I told him to leave my shop. I told him I will call him when I'm less angry.
To me, I wanted to pipe low and take his word for it. He asked for some money to take bolt home because he didn't come out with cash. I went into the shop and gave him.

After that day I didn't call him or wanted to have anything to do with him. To my greatest surprise yesterday, he came to my shop and started assaulting me so that I can't leave. I was like, I never wanted to date you before. I was just considering your proposal.

That little tussle was what led to him scattering the fruits I bought. My neighbours came to our shop and before I knew it, he has raze all my goods.

My neighbours called the market chairman and they bungled him to the police station.

What is wrong with men this day? I didn't collect anything from him. Thank God I took the advice of nairalanders. You guys helped me to identify this before going into it.

Thank you, all.

Ah
You got paired up with a weyrey
So sorry
Kasamadupe you're saved now

vic224real:
Hi fams,

A friend of mine is in need of your advice very urgent please... She just lost her job and she has little save that she want to use for a small biz that can keep her going pending when God provide her another job.

She has 100k and interested to go into sales of fresh fruits but confused on which in particular she should start with. She came to me yesterday and I promised to get honest advice from this amazing family.

Anyone with good idea or knowledge about fresh fruits should kindly bring it on here so I can get back to her to start the biz.

Thanks and remain blessed �

Stop
People don't just dive into business that way.
She has to sit and reason and project
Location
Source
Storage
Transportation
Time and season
Profit margin
Expected profit and loss
Variable costs...
Check people into it presently
Check her surroundings to see how the ones around are fairing
Try to know the main Source or the one her money can afford.
What does anybody here wants to tell her if she doesn't do her personal projections?
Her 100k will just finish finish

mhizace:

The first one was a store, where d sell female wears,d owner of the store accused me of taking some of d stuffs, so I had to quit without pay
D second is with one of d biggest food company in Nigeria, and I lost it cost of a health issues

Wait
Sebi you no steal it na
What if the Store Owner didn't just want to pay you but wanted to discard you?
Not everything is your fault okay...
You didn't steal it,you were accused wrongly.
In other situations,you could sue or escalate the matter and ask for compensation..

2nd......
You were sick?
Pele
Could you do anything about it?
No..
Try to get better so it doesn't happen again..

mhizace:
I've been crying since morning, the new job is not up to a month and I lost it too

Ehn don't kill yourself with tears
Oti sele
Check the reasons
Maybe you're just applying to Company's without structure and stability ni,not that you have a problem cause I know you'll want to start thinking people are following you.
And if you're the problem, sit down and think in what and what areas...
Pele Dear

olowo16g:
Good day people, I will make this short as possible. My girlfriend came back from church yesterday and told me that it is compulsory for all executives in each departments to register their relationship if they are not married just for the church to keep tag on them. She told me that she lied to her pastor about me that I haven't been to the church before mean while have been there once and even had interaction with the pastor and pastor's wife... the pastor's wife recognised me when she came to my work place like two months after I visited her church.

The way my girlfriend feels after her conversation with her pastor seems there's a brother in her church the pastor wants to hook her up with. She was telling me it's whatever her pastor says is final about our relationship.


Now if she later tell her pastor about us and the pastor say I am not the right person for her l, she won't think twice before she ends our relationship.

Ayanma
Why the matter con dey smell like this na?
Anything her Pastor says
Man better leave her
It's nauseating

Grandmeister:

And yet those ones who have only money to offer get the women easier? How come? Most women make the wrong choice because of what their perceived monetary gain in a relationship. No man changes from good to bad with his woman because he started earning more money.

See we all have preferences
One I go with is money and sense
Money is useless if the owner doesn't have sense.
You'll suffer, either physically or emotionally.
And sense without money.
You have to filter the sense
Ask
What kind of sense does he have
If he also have financial sense,forget it, don't check his Bank balance,it doesn't matter if it is presently low.
Go with him

With these few points of mine, I hope I've been able to dissuade you and not to confuse you that that man is a no no
Find your type
Someone who sees growth as mandatory

Exquisitely:
I have been dating this guy for over 2 years. When we started dating, he had no job and I always encouraged him to get something doing no matter how small because he was always relying on his parents then.

He got jobs but quit working without telling me, I got to find out later. Due to these issues, he couldn't afford to pay for his apartment, so he had to relocate to his parents house.

He got a job in the same area as his parents house and he only looked for it because I told him I wasn't comfortable with him not working, as someone in his late 20s. As a lady, I try to make sure I work, plan my life and look for opportunities with prospects, but he doesn't do these things. He is comfortable with the way things are going for him.

He's been working for some months now but there is nothing to show for it, he is not even trying to get a high paying job, start a business, learn a skill or leave his comfort zone.
Mind you, I don't ask him for anything since he is not even doing well for himself yet.

This guy is proposing marraige, but I don't want to accept because he doesn't have a vision, neither does he have concrete plans or prospect. I'm afraid getting married to him would mean I'll be carrying all the burden while married, since he is even comfortable with the way things are for him now. I'm tired of having this discussion with him.

Please I need suggestions on what you'd likely do if you find yourself in my situation.

I beg you with Heaven and Earth do not marry a visionless man or else you'll suffer and suffer well.
You'll become despised and frustrated.
You'll later divorce or start dealing with abuse.
Later you'll have disturbed mental health
You'll loose yourself and start living for your Children
You'll forget you came alone to this life and you also deserve to "live"
You'll die with the source of your happiness just being your Children and not yourself.

OvertheTop:


YOU are toasting a MAN Boldly on Nairaland.
and Qualifying yourself for him....Wow ;

500k/Month Attraction is Good o

Man
I can toast you right now for the right mood
I no send
It is left for you to draw up any conclusion about me
That's fine.

Grandmeister:

What is the statistics of these few? Keep on looking for exceptions in a general rule, that exception might never be yours.

Kinide
Calm down
There are also morally decayed men
A whole lot of them
Who have nothing to offer than money,when they're yet to have,it seems like they're responsible.
Na lie,so rest,calm down.
All genders got their faults
Truth is many males are being groomed to be Boys at heart, not men.

toujurs:
Biggest lie. Greed and selfishness is what rendered a lot of ladies still single at early 30's. I am telling you, leave this thing you are saying. Most Nigerian women are easily decieved by what they see, very easy to decieve them, if you have a good ride and a good apartment, where they can come over for the weekend, irrespective of if you truely love them or not, it's when you eat her coochie, that is when she will begin to ask you, if you truely love her, and plan on marrying her. Yea there are decent and matured ladies who understands whats involved getting into a relationship with a decent man, who has a respectful life. But they are very few, very very few, that is why, most guys, just eat these girls to stupor, and dump afterwards, for the next babe.

I'm sure the picture of this "decent man" is frugal spending or pretty low income,who knows could be with a bright future or not.
I don't know why it's almost like a crime for women to be hypergamous...

This is an interesting one
You'll just have to be practical with yourself and judge the matter with your head not your heart, some Nigerian men actually don't have Home training and I won't judge him but most think they're the ultimate price so it's easy for them not to be thoughtful of the other person.
And the question of if he loves you, you're the only one that can answer that practically.
I'm sure you're hurting presently,so sorry,just judge the case yourself and be true to yourself.
Your 6th sense will judge right,then get to know if you have to apologize to him or bid him bye bye

Foreigner12:

Exactly what someone controlling the two monikers will say.

Exactly
So can we start the Gofundme process already?
I guess we already have a residential Pastor.
So what are you donating to the Wedding?
Will you kuku be the first on the Babysitting list?
I feel like that Babysitting is the wahala of them all.

Foreigner12:

Why do I feel that same person is behind both monikers?

Exactly we're the same
The motive?
To extort you of Gofundme wedding
Sebi?
It sounds like a good motive

Abizz:

Go and rest brah. You have tried.

Oko mi
Come inside
I'm waiting for you inside the Yara