₦airaland Forum

UDUJ:
Hahhahhahahha

Lumi the pressure from parents and the ladies is heating up everyday but I am not ready to give up my peaceful and happy single life yet

Lol...I can imagine.

Take your time and be sure bro. Marriage is no child's play Biko

UDUJ:
Stories like these makes me happy being single. Na wah

You better goan marry, old pumper!!!

MALIGNANTGuest:
She has but my wife & I wouldn't recommend her to you, for her madness knows no bounds.
She has gone haywire. She can run her mouth on your entire family just like the Black Americans.
Although I believe she can still be revived if the right man clinches her.

I'm the right man, bro.

Verbally abusive? Lmaooooo... I eat girls like that for a living na. Have you seen where girl go abuse you and after she finish, you just let some farts rip and watch as she flees from you? I'm fuqin crazy that way.

Anyways, I'm just clowning with the visa stuff. Anyone man or woman who wants to help me is free to do so. I'm too old to be lying to a woman about marriage so I can get visa Biko.

Frankicent:
Sorry for your lost bro. Maybe you didn't have options. 7 years no be small thing. Me I can't date that long without a purpose which is marriage. It's too long for bf and gf. She wouldn't take you serious. And I value time alot.

Anyway, be glad that she left you now. Make e no go be say na Inside marriage you go dey cry.

Don't worry bro. She doesn't know that she lost a good man. That alhaji will just chop and dumb her. Shebi na work and sex. E don finish. Abi you think say to find husband easily? Lol. Most guys aren't ready for marriage. Problem too much.

Calm, down bro. Just focus on yourself and build another relationship. Don't be surprise, when she comes back begging. And never accept her. Just see her as a b!tch.

See me, I am naturally paranoid. I have trust issues. Maybe that's why these breakup don't really accept me. I've already program my mind that such would happen. Even though it wouldn't.

It's like my mind has built a defense mechanism with a backup plan.

I never for once believe what people say or do. I see it as someone telling me an interesting story. Even if it's truth. Yeah, I'm all messed up.

I will never believe you until my doubts are proven correctly, or you prove to me you're right.

Even my close friends I don't trust them.
Talk more of a woman I'm dating. I can be friends with you and I'll never trust you. You just wouldn't know.

Some said I have a problem. I don't know if it's a medical condition. I sha no dey trust.

Just forget her and find another woman. Dem plenty jawe. Fresh catfish

You talk too much...just freaky my account jor

MALIGNANTGuest:
Abroad based LADIES who visit Nigeria to marry Men have better prognosis compared to MEN who visit Nigeria to marry Home based Ladies.

I was home based before my wife married me.
Most of my Nigerian men who came in like me are still married to their wives, although a few had issues and parted.

Most Ladies find it difficult managing sudden Freedom and wealth.

Does your wife have an unmarried younger sister abroad?

I'm available for pickup biko

Twoclans:
LOL

I will give you food.It is never a good thing to starve a fellow human being just because you have more money than the person.

Thanks darling....

If you can give the man food and understanding, trust me, such a man won't rest on his oars till he becomes successful as before. And guess who he will trust more than before? YOU!!!

CharisEleos:
You said back in the day. Not anymore.



Don't generalize. Everybody is not the same. I will never do such to someone I love and agreed to spend the rest of my life with.

Awwwwwn...so you are a good geh abi?

Yinmu

CharisEleos:
This is why it is good to watch and pray hard before settling for someone. Marriage can make or mar you.

Never marry anyone based on people's recommendationa. Understudy them yourself coupled with prayers before concluding they are good for you.

May God guide you to your dream job and restore you to a better state.

Your second paragraph is subject to debate. Back in the olden days, young men marry based on recommendations from parents and such o...

Twoclans:
Lumi my love everything in life is not gra gra,its unfortunate things are bad for him now.He needs to survive temporarily. All I am saying is that he should forget love for now, forget if the child is his or not and forget who drops her off .

Staying in the house will give him a roof over his head pending when he puts himself together and gets a new job and gets away from her space.If he even behaves himself she will give him food.

Lumi dear to answer your question earlier yes if you dont have money I will show you pepper,i dont like a man who cant hold his side.They are very disgusting.

Your second paragraph is understood. But what stops her from initiating divorce as we dey talk now now ehn? he would still lose a lot, shey u know. He is completely at her mercy. Anyways, unless he has no other option sha.

Your last paragraph had me guffawing. My love my love, money is not everything o. Shebi u go sha gimme food or na hunger galore?

SavageResponse:
She made a good decision by moving on with her life.

How can you date a lady for 7 years without any form of commitment knowing fully well that she has a short shelf life?

Nawa for you oh...could have been from secondary school na. Or a 5-year course

doggedfighter:
I can see it in your eyes, hun

Kikikikiki...

Yinmu

manikspears:
I feel something is worrying you. When you return to normal, read my replies again.

Nothing bro.

Just take into account all sides before making judgement.

Have a nice week

thorpido:
It was an opportunity for her to step up no doubt.

For me, she had no option and never loved him. Too bad that he couldn't figure that out after his first heartbreak

Twoclans:
What do you want him to come home and do?

He should just swallow his pride and manage that woman.He should go and ask men who swallow their prides when leaving with women that have more money than them.

Told u I was drunk before.

Besides, it's not the issue of money now is it? It's the disrespect, disregard and outright contempt for the husband. What's he staying for when she told him,even the daughter ain't his?

manikspears:
No wonder, your first paragraph explains it all,keep it up,ranka dede oga.

She is not my business, if she is I would say something directly about her ,I was only thinking out loud and hoping she knows what she is doing. is that too hard to understand for you?

Well I don't oppress people and I have never been oppressed because I believe in dialogue and that has always been my way of life.

What is shalaye?

Don't think aloud on another man's wife...it's creepy..

Next time, consider all sides before making deductions

doggedfighter:
Yen yen yen

Why are you jealous?

Lol...who says I am!!

Twoclans:
@ OP please what exactly do you want to come and do in Nigeria .The country has cast ohhh,let me just tell you.

My humble solution to your problem go back to your wife.Try and turn a blind eye to her trouble and behave yourself .Whatever you do make sure you dont leave canada.

If you come back to Nigeria without Money,naija babes will show you their true colour.

Even me wey advise am just now to come back just now dey drunk. What's he coming for? Nothing here na

Let him divorce because if he doesn't, his BP will go through the roof and he might go on some revenge-ish mission that will land him forever in jail. With divorce,comes peace of mind and at least a chance to build his life again. Even the daughter isn't his,by the wife's take so what's he staying in the marriage for?

Your last line is funny. You mean you can do me shege without money too?

Romanoff:
I'm sorry to say but that woman never loved you.

I guess she just wanted an abroad man that was earning foreign currency so since the money stopped coming, the respect went out the door.

Love? Is there such a thing sha? Been around for a while now and I tell you the things I see ehn, makes love a fairytale

Besides, she is a doctor so she has her own money. Not the usual gold digging broke ass girls desperate to hook a sucker. She didn't date him for his foreign currency. She dated him because she had no option at that time. Losing his job is an excuse to exercise her inner demons.

Come home first baba...


ASAP

Hedone:
Handsome guy

Leave him alone. Sikiru the cobbler in your hood fine pass am yet u never complimented him. Stingy ass

BiggyB242:
I think you hit the nail on the head, even guys betray each other. Everybody is trying to survive, so be smart on who you put your trust on.

If I were toe guy, I go scope the girl make Alhaji run one or two packages for me, she's free to go.

Abi na... The alhaji sef would help the dude get a job or give him some connections to better his life. It ain't like the alhaji go marry the babe as a first wife, that's if he even married her at all

doggedfighter:
I know you will even sell me to Alhaji by yourself for yourself, sweetie

You know it's all about the Benjamins babe.


It's a cold cold world out there.

OP should take heart. It's just the hustle. It is what it is

manikspears:
While you could have had a point concerning hearing from both sides, this is Nigeria.

The police are tools for the rich to oppress the poor. An issue of land dispute should never lead to an arrest that would lead to a detention that is more than 48 hours. Go and educate yourself about the law.

His wife is non of my business.her money ,her body,her life......but she is just 20years of age and may not understand life yet. It is called common sense.

Your second paragraph is still based on what I said na.... How do you know that's all that happened,based on what the young woman said? Don't even say the rich oppress the poor, all Nigerian are guilty of oppression. It's in our nature to take advantage of another person.

Leave the wife out, like i said. She is not your business so why the shalaye?

doggedfighter:
Murjem, Nigerian women are very bright just look in the right places

How's your day going,dear

See as that dude don make ur head swell!!!

Yen yen yen

Switchman:
My guy why not focus on your hustle and make some money then you can bleep as much girls as you want and dump them when you are done.

Do you think it's love that small girl saw in Bed Nwoko that made her marry him. Girls are moved by material things.

Forget the Africa Magic love movies, no true love anywhere. Love na scam cos when better opportunity arises they will switch

Your first paragraph is flawed. A real man doesn't make money to impress any woman but his own life, family and achieve set goals for his future.
What's the essence of making money only to spend it on women cuz you are on some revenge-ish trip

doggedfighter:
Trusting women in your life or the ones you have met may have been a risk. Trusting

humans is a risk. Not gender restricted. Don't generalize.

Learn to understand that when you are starting out in your walk of life , not everyone believes enough in you to stick it out with you.

Not because they hate you or are untrustworthy but mostly it's out of survival.


We're all fighting to survive and may do some desperate things.



Even YOU !

Life's hard ,baby.

Don't let Nairaland boys mess with your head.

Are you saying you don't trust me babe? After all we have been through?

manikspears:
I use to think that ned's money is legit but with what I am hearing now,the man is not a saint . I hope Regina Daniels knows what she is getting herself into though.

So because you heard one side, suddenly you don't believe Ned Nwoko's money is legit?

Any small thing,una don react like chemicals. Why not hear from all sides and not base your judgement on SM sentimentality?

And how is his wife your business Biko?

MMotimo:
This is the definition of “wahala be like bicycle.”

From one thing to the other. If I were you, I would pray hard and also fast because some things require more than prayer. Silver and gold, I have none but I will say a prayer for you.

Been reading your diaries.

Very very interesting.

Romanoff:
Beef is red meat. White meat is a healthier alternative to red meat.

I know that. The way you said it made it look like the fulanis do something evil to the meat to make it unhealthy.

Happy sunday

Romanoff:
Good riddance.

Beef that is not healthy.

The South will go back to healthier sources of poultry and fish.

Shior.

Beef not healthy

What u mean?

emmaodet:

Bro you don vex ni?
Like you said, so of them are not even ashamed of attaching themselves to other people's success as if it is a crime if they achieve it themselves.

I'm annoyed bro. For her to make such a statement 18 years ago, I will gladly reduce her to tears with my words, even back then. I will tell her "don't you have any sense of shame to be chosing who to date based on car levels? Why can't you buy your own or are you allergic to owning good things?' She would never look at me the wlsame way again.

And back to 10 years after, she wouldn't even have the fuqin guts to talk to me. I like women who are not lazy,dependent or allergic to buying their own shiit. Imagine her mentality,which ruined her marriage and even after,she still hasn't changed all this while. Well, there is always a sucker out there to give her hope sha.

Jeremani:
There's this girl we've been dating each other for two years now. I have never touched her for once but have kissed her and smooched her.

Last year March i travel to acquire hand work skill, and since then i didn't come back uptill date.

Am working and schooling at thesame time, bc the state i work is thesame state i school. I do send her money once in a while ofcos is money that i won't regret, is just a fraction of what i can spend for my last female siblings.
She is not complaining, ofcos why should she complain? when i have never asked for anything.

She keeps asking me when am going to come back as if she will pay my next session fee.
The truth is that she is tired of this relationship.
There was a time she broke up with me for simply referring to her as ma'am.
She blocked me on all social media handle.
Then send me text stating is over. I didn't even replied the sms.
After like two weeks she unblocked me and started apologizing. I considered and took her back. Then i told her she should never expect that this relationship to be thesame as b4.

Fast forward to yersterday, i was online reading an article. Her message just popped up.
She greeted me and i replied, ask her how she was. She said fine and all that. She said why didn't i chat her up, is it a bad thing if i greet her first. I told her that am not her mate and courtesy demand she being the lady to greet first.

She then said she hate me that am wicked. I told her am not just wicked but am evil.
I ask her, since she said she hate me, why then is she dating me? She said bc she wants to kill me slowly.
I told her b4 she have the chance to kill me, our relationship may probably be over.
She said i should just say the word is over and she will be gone for good. Mind you, this is not the first time she is saying this.
I had to tell her is over btw us, since that's what she want. She said ok. After like 30minute of none of us chatting with each other. She then send message asking if i was serious i told her yes.

Am not regretting anything.
Am i at fault?

My personal opinion:

Nope you are not wrong.