₦airaland Forum

chinchonglee:
See how everybody dey make mouth...
Even one fat hippopotamus that i have seen physically is up there making mouth that s/he can't go back to her ex.
The question shuld be which of ur exes really want to come back to you

Damn!! Who are you referring to?

9jaRealist:
While “bandits” and “herdsmen” kill more than 10 people practically everyday in Nigeria, where they beat kids...

Dude, the reason for gun violence in the US is the prevalence of guns, not the lack of corporal punishment...
In fact, if you beat some kids in the US, they are more (not less) likely to return with their guns and snuff you out.

Japan prohibits corporal punishment in schools....
And the Japanese are among the world’s best-behaved persons, and Japan a PEACEFUL nation, with relatively little crime.

Corporal punishment, most especially against kids, is simply BARBARIC!
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You still aren't getting it. So bye bye Sir.

lecowas:
How long do we have to live in this world, do we have to spend the little days we have in pains and suffering? Most kids hate education because of the epistles u have written above, still it doesn’t make u the strongest man or the richest man on earth . Mtcheeew

Why not train your child like you want and leave him to train his like he wants.

I believe in the 'spare the rod and spoil the child' narrative

danny360:
The explanation is in one of the images o. It's total truth. Am in no way related to this guy sef. But it really pains me to see this happen. I repeat that this either hardens the student or reduces his self esteem. This is how criminals are breeded.

Criminals are bred because they were beaten? Are you high bro?

Old school correction from school and home was what saved most of us from being criminals today.

One Alli guy of 21 years just shot dead 10 people in the US,where they don't beat kids. So what's your point?

danny360:
This talk is bullshit. "Try the feminine gender" so, females ain't supposed to be resilient or what The countries that are far ahead of us believe in developing leadership abilities and leadership qualities in younger people. Not making them look like cows and reducing their self esteem. If you treat my child like this I will kill you.

Will you stop all this talk? Who doesn't know missionary schools use the rod on a child? Why acting like you are abroad or some shiit? If you don't want your child to be corrected with a rod, take him to another private school where they will pamper him na!

baralatie:
KPOM KPOM KPOM is the sound of the igbo metallic konko instrument


Cho Cho Cho is an organic sound that reveals the friction between an organic rod and an organic pipe attached to a body of fatty tissue

Damn!!! You are something else!!!

Lemme alone biko...spoilt guy

baralatie:
shey you know say cho cho cho na sound of activity

Nope... It's KPOM KPOM KPOM!!!

Cho Cho Cho na one bird sound

baralatie:
simple

1 Corinthians 11:11, NIV: "Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman."

1 Corinthians 11:11, ESV: "Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man nor man of woman;"

This guy Goan rest na.... Or are you lonely too?

Cho Cho Cho since morning. Goan eat biko

Kakamorufu:
Very bad bro. Nigerian women are worst of it all abroad.

Do gimme experiences biko.

Like tell me more, on the cases you have seen.

seanwilliam:
Lol brother man . E don red here money no Dey Ibadan o

seanwilliam:
Redpill should be a course in higher institutions self.


Meanwhile I buy greendot funds and all types of country cards at chinese rate..

Bless me chairman!!!

Waya my aza

EndRape2:
This is incorrect please, use the word some, once a woman have children she can stay without a man, if she is very wealthy, the children becomes her companion, women need men for money, nothing more, men needs women more . Women with good social network, will not and can not, be lonely

Lmaoooo...the way you lots deceive yourselves amuse me.

A look at Shiloh and redeem camp programs is all I need.

Kakamorufu:
Men prefer to stay single than settle down with lady who will later betray them because of some child supports and take all what the man has worked for.

Got 2 families members that learnt the hard way

Are things that bad out there?

McSquishi:
“Fighting wildly” is something you won’t ever find me doing, especially on religious issues lmao... so I wonder why you would mischaracterize me in such a way? Hmmm

“Fighting blindly” another thing you won’t find me doing. I always speak on topics I’m educated on and have researched well. But nice try...

“Fighting” at all is a mischaracterization since I’m doing the same as you and weighing in where I choose on whatever topics I choose. It’s a forum, meant for conversation, even debate.

I know Europeans not just people who have “been to Europe”... and never have I heard any analysis that women continent wide are suffering loneliness and loss of companionship. Most women who are scammed are those seeking young African men who they can exploit because it is easier to lure a young African guy with their euros than is to find a young man from their country at their age or with their less desirable looks.

I’m not aggressive, I’m direct.

I don't believe your last line. Your posts are proofs.

Do have a nice day.

McSquishi:
Women in Europe are not dying for companionship anymore than the average woman in Nigeria. Scammers usually choose women who are physically less desirable and usually aged. Those women are trying to find young poor men who can they can lure with money, control and exploit for sex and sometimes they get scammed on that mission.

Nobody is lacking companionship over rape allegations � not one man has stopped dating out of fear of being called a rapist. stop the madness.

I went through your posts. You are always either arguing wildly on Bible issues or fighting blindly on feminism. Even people who have been to Europe said the women are lonely but you, an American said nope, and I wonder why you are so aggressive!!!

Talk to me, who broke ya heart babe?

Martinez39s:
Who followed the Derrick Jaxn scandal?

I just read up on Google who he is. Apparently,he cheated and the wife forgave him and didn't leave him.

It seemed though that her decision didn't go down well with feminists. They wanted total war and divorce.

Zabiboy:

Check out the story below...
I THINK this is a classic example of what Coldswe@t meant by "Redefine abi Redesign Masculinity" ..i cant recall the exact words he used...
Please, i'll love to get the thoughts of everyone..
I'll might open a thread on it too....so i can observe the difference in the way men and women think..

That dude did well. I hope he does the same if na guy yansh the tout wan burst another time.

N.B: Evil doesn't go away, it rests and comes back. That tout has raped before and gotten away with it. His ego has now been bruised. He will have friends to help him retaliate. I hope the superman guy has better self defense skills because the tout is coming back for him...and the girl won't be present then.

PrimadonnaO:
Are you serious? The reverse is the case.

How many men do you see functioning fine alone? They either keep a mistress, remarry, or die of depression and loneliness.

Women are usually able to stay without a man and still be fine, because first, they can do so many things to survive on their own, and secondly, women are more easily able to pour their energies into other things... care for their extended family, church programs, humanitarian activities, etc...

Sorry to say this but you are wrong. No amount of humanitarian activity can make a lonely woman happy. I see them here all the time. There is always this lost puppy look about them. Their married friends don't want them visiting too,so how many friends are there to keep her company? If she works or is in church, loneliness disappears during the daytime and returns at night. Men are usually the reverse in this case. They don't even need church or humanitarian activity to starve off loneliness. Even at above 40, he still has numerous options of catching women at will, many,including widows, unmarried and young girls still want his attention. Even if he is poor, there is always someone to hold at night. Men rarely die solely due to loneliness.

You may disagree with me and it's ok. But reality is out there, remember that.

Firstnebo:
Yes. “If they see you as someone they really like”. I agree. And I think this is the gift of Redpill. Teaching you how to make yourself a likeable man.

Even career minded women tend to be too quick to be swayed by the public opinion, to think in packs, and go with the popular culture. The benefit of the career business minded woman is that atleast being a busy woman gives her topics to discuss on.

Lol@bolded.

I quite agree

I don't get you.

What's the issue with the picture? Ain't they friends?

Firstnebo:
Skepticus. I follow you here because I respect your serious approach to matters (just like me). Example, when the talks about Fulani menace hit the FrontPage, many people are there swearing heaven and earth.

But just like your usual matter-of-fact approach, you cut through the bloat and tell them that unless the South becomes practical about this issue, we will continue to stand by and watch the Fulani carryout their plans to the fullest.

That being said, you have got to consider your thinking about women with the same matter-of-fact approach.

It's not true that modern women "can't cook nor clean".

True, I haven't been with many women because of my porn problem. But the fact remains that the few I have been with, not only clean or cook but they, actually WANT to do these things for their man. Not just because it will give their man joy when they do so, but biologically, it gives women a sense of accomplishment when they have a man they clean or cook for.

So let's forget social media. The reality is that some of those men ascending the alter every weekend actually enjoy those benefits, truly.

You have a point. From my experience,they will gladly cook and clean for you when they see you are someone they really like. This doesn't negate the fact that they will first test you to see your mindframe. If you are weak, some won't ever cook,clean or do chores for you. What I'm worried about is the intellectual dryness. Some don't even know what else to gist you with after sex. International politics? Hell No! You see their faces go blank and they will switch the topic. The career minded ones are quite intelligent when they don't come off as men-hating viragos.

Those men marrying every weekend? Well, to each his own,I guess

Skepticus:
I'm always intrigued by what drives men into considering "wifing" these modern day women every weekends. I can't stand most of them living in my space for a more than a week. Aside the sex (which is everywhere), they are boring and practically empty. They can't cook nor clean. Whether you are rich or not, nothing to be gained from them except constant nagging and ingratitude.

The worst thing for me ain't even their inability to cook or clean... It's the intellectual dryness. Nothing dey upstairs most times.Then followed by the nagging and ingratitude

heartofcity12:
These are other advices she’s getting from her fellow hoes and simps.

Lol,let a man post such and see the different evil names women will call him.

The girl even said she is in love

N.B: Did y'all see that KiloVolts chick's reply 'its not about gender but about being true to yourself' ... That is some fuqin BS if you ask me.

Lala is here again

Alex and his QUEENS are here again

vivaciousvivi:
Hey bro! Happy new year.
Indeed it has

Send me a PM Vivi..we get talk abeg. For real!!

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How to crash a Nigerian born and bred relationship? Na three words answer!!

Just be broke!!!

Shokoloko:
Wrong, It is not facial similarity. Its a familiar aura - that's what she is searching for. And very close friends or siblings have similar aura. Thats why you see sometimes when a person marries into a family, the two families start to marry amongst themselves.

Have you seen where a girl is told "You are just your father". She is not male, but everything about her exudes her father. That's what our young girl i trying to get

You have a point but I still don't think she is marrying him for such.

SOZINN:
SOLID!!!!
She told you when you were just seven
Men she really loves you oooo

Lol..she told all her boys. My sister didn't need it. She already has the knowledge in her DNA!

Skepticus:
Why do you think some of these stories aren't true? Even if it is a fake story from the OP, it's not fiction. His story is relatable and one that men can learn from. Especially those still caught up in the illusion of NAWALT.

The OP's story is quite common in Abuja than most guys care to think. The guys who have found themselves in that situation because of their ignorance of the nature of women don't always voice out not to appear weak before other men. When I graduated years back and was still looking to get employed, I had a lady (they are mostly, older) made an offer like that to me promising to help get a job with an NGO linked with the UN in Abuja. All in our conversation, she kept hinting at "marriage". She was desperate but trying hard to hide it. I never felt for the trick because I always had the hunch that something wasn't right. She was single and 34 years old at the time and a highly ambitious career woman. Two red flags, though the first one was of concern to me. If other men couldn't give their commitment to you, in your prime years and probably fûcked and pass you over, why should I be the one to "eat" their "leftovers"? Probably, your shitty, bossy attitude was a reason you were not considered worthy of their full commitment.

I also understood that highly ambitious career women as such tends to be domineering though they hide it and act nice till you move in with them. If you are not mentally strong, they'll damage you so much that you'll almost go insane from mental torture, and eroding of your self-esteem.

A lot of guys are in such arrangements as cohabiters and marriages where they are glorified "errand boys" in Abuja (and other parts of the country). You wouldn't notice till you get closer to them or they trust you enough to reveal their pains to you.

Only a few men can play the games of manipulations that women use to manipulate women and getting resources out of them without being burnt. This goes beyond the red pill.

Women are not your friends.

I get you bro. It's just so hard to believe someone will leave his job and relocate because another girl said so.

On the matured women desperate for marriage issue, I don't lie to them. I tell them I'm not in for marriage. Whatever help she wants to render me,she can fuq off with it. Domineering women bore me to death. Unless I'm playing the cuckoo-in-the-nest game or I wanna fuq her for FWB sakes, I stay off such women. If they can't be humble and follow my lead, I have no use for them.

Some men like being dominated and so you are right. Others are very lazy and prefer their women to take control and provide for them. Other subsets include sick and crippled men.

My mama gave me the first redpill lesson in life. She said 'few women love you for you. There is always a benefit attached to a woman's love, something more attached to her commitment and something way more,attached to her tolerating marriage. Plain love is for fools. There is always a price'. I was just 7 years old when I heard this. I never forgot it.

Rinoxy:
OKAY, A QUICK RECAP: SHE WAS THIS SWEET, CALM, RESPECTFUL N NICE LADY ALL THROUGH THE DATING PHASE. I WAS THE NO-NONSENSE GUY. BUY SHE CHANGED FEW WEEKS INTO THE MARRIAGE; NAGGING OVER TRIVIAL ISSUES. THREATENED TO EVEN LEAVE THE MARRIAGE TWO MONTHS INTO THE MARRIAGE. I REDUCED MY HARDNESS A BIT (BECOMING MORE CONSIDERATE, NOT WANTING MY MARRIAGE TO SCATTER). IT LATER DEVELOPED INTO INSULTS, DISREGARD N DISRESPECT. FEW MONTHS BACK SHE STARTED GIVING ME THE SILENT TREATMENT. DOESN'T SHOW ME LOVE, ALL SHE'S CONCERNED ABOUT ARE HERSELF N THE KIDS (YEAH, WE HAVE TWO ADORABLE GIRLS).
GUYS, I DID THE UNTHINKABLE, WENT ON MY KNEES TO BEG HER TO PLS COOPERATE WITH ME TO MAKE THE MARRIAGE WORK, BUT SHE DOESN'T CARE. I BEGAN FEELING UNLOVED N LONELY IN MY HOME, AND I'M THE ONE WOMAN KINDA MAN (MARRIED AS A VIRGIN).
AS IN NOW EEEEEEHN!!!!!! I DON TIRE! I NEED TO GET MY RESPECT BACK.

Mehnnnn! This one tie gele o..

On a quick one:
What we have discussed here way back has been that what a woman says she wants and what she really wants are two things. They want an Alpha, but they will shit-test you to know if you are truly one, before respecting you. One you fail that test, her respect reduces. And you have failed her tests big TIME. You should never have reduced your so called hardness.Those are the principles she saw before marrying you. When you started giving in to her demands, she lost respect and when YOU KNELT DOWN,her loss of respect became final. Women say they want a thoughtful,caring,loving bla bla bla'...doesn't mean they condone weakness. Women adore strength and once your wife saw you had none, she made your life hell.

We also said it here before: Women are the custodians of redpill. If you lose frame,they will teach you hell and drive you to redpill frame again. Your wife doesn't respect you again bro and you have two options.

1: GO HARD AND GO FOR BROKE: Become hard on her and instill some rules. She insults or degrades you again, just send her out to her parents house. She must not come back till she learns decorum. You are the husband,the head of the home. She either accepts that or stay off. She earlier threatened to leave you and you capitulated. Lmaoooo, if I tell you how many times dramatic women say that shiit to me,I'd be a millionaire by now if I get paid a dollar for it. Just call their bluff and tell them to leave. Show her you can't be manipulated.

2. GO SLOW AND PLAY THE LONG GAME:
This is what I call the silent game. Don't respond to her insults but do what an alpha will do. You prolly need her sexually and she clammed on that. Don't ask for sex again. Do your duties but act like she doesn't exist. No matter her threats, just ignore her BUT DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO IN THAT HOUSE, AT LEAST WHAT YOUR FORMER NO-NONSENSE SELF DEY DO BEFORE: Then, alongside, start being busy on the phone, forming lovey-dovey when some numbers call you. Make sure they are females(you have co-workers and sisters who can help you pull this off). Act happy when you are on phone and keep late nights too. Refuse her dinner(if she still gives you any because from what you wrote there, e be like say na you dey cook and serve dinner yourself),sleep in separate rooms and act totally unconcerned with her and her tantrums.
The end result will be if she still loves you, she will become very agitated and starts being nosey. She might report you to people or threaten to leave. Don't budge. She will then become calmer and more humble once she sees you don't give a fuq. Then,you can reassume your alpha frame and set ground rules Tell her if she ever messes up again, you will get a second wife or leave her.
If she doesn't change, then she is totally lost to you. Maybe, an ex or her friends have influenced her beyond reason. In such a case,the best thing to do is to divorce. I don't want that,but then,you can't save everyone and everything.


N.B: you said you married as a virgin. What of her? If she was no virgin and your bed skills are lacking, she could become hostile to you. Are you doing your best in bed, sexually? The so-called issues started few weeks after marriage o. That is the redlight I saw.