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MrBrownJay1:
https://www.reactiongifs.com/r/2012/06/this-cannot-be-real.gif

Better...now go away.

DaytonaAries:
This your pit reeks of your ignorance leaving in a patriarchal society. You say I am being emotional? Then you must be delusional.


I won't insult you because you already lack intellect and I don't blame you. There is nothing I would say that would change your "poverty riddled mindset" much less on issues like domestic violence. From the way you are foaming at the mouth I can see that you don't like being countered.


I would say one thing: women aren't perfect and if a woman decides to assault or get down with her husband then she lacks intellect or is variably stupid. But that doesn't mean that because an husband and wife have an argument, he has a right to beat her up. No one has a right to hit anyone just because they have an argument with you. Men need to know that is not right. You don't tell women to keep quiet in fear that they would get beat up.


You invariably assume every household is the same. You think that every woman and man are the same. Domestic violence is a real societal issue. You educate women on their rights as a Minster and don't give advice that push away the problem.


Again, no matter what I say it won't change your mindset.

You won't insult me after saying I lack intellect? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Shey na compliment you shower me with then ni? OLODO rabata!!!

Oh, so my opinion is due to my 'poverty-riddled mindset'? I guess your own opinion is because you are rich? 🤣🤣🤣

You see how argumentative you already are. The minister is sha warning you or you go collect wotowoto.

Go and marry first. Then you go leaaaarrnnnnn!!!

Jeon:
West Africa. 😒
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Man, beauty is subjective. So my definition of ugly or beauty will be different from yours.

Some blacks are ugly, same to the whites,but to me the whites produces more good looking men than Africa, especially West Africa. . East and North Africans are my top rank when it comes to beauty in A.And skin tone doesn't define good look.

Jeon...kindly shût dafuq UP!!
You can't be looking like a Sherangutan and be abusing us.

DaytonaAries:
Really? That is the only advice she can give women. She can't advice women that no one should be assaulting them mkst especially their husbands. She can't educate women that if their husband beats them uo fir an argument they should consider leaving their marriages. Why should women be the ones to shut up and remain in silence for the fear that their husband would beat them up? That is making a mockery of women that have gone through domestic violence. A man that would beat his wife up during an argument would beat the wife up if he isn't satisfied with something else.


Instead of her to educate women that domestic violence shouldn't be tolerated and end this "dictator and servant" mindset. She is in all facts asking women who are dissatisfied to keep quiet so their husband won't beat them up! How is that a sane thing to say.


Educate women on their rights. Assault and battery are crinimal offences that if any person commits needs to be held accountable.


Women are human beings too. They have feelings. Not all women are perfect but that doesn't mean that they should be keep num when they find things unfavourable to them just becuase their husband would beat them up during an argument.


This Minister could have done better please!

Now I know that your brain is full of relaxer!!! People like you threaten hell fire and brimstone and yet you are not even married. So when she educates women to leave their husbands, the home is now blessed? The children are blessed? Or the home is blissful?

Someone is trying to mend homes across the country and you are here saying nonsense. Someone old enough to give birth to you. What on earth do you know compared to her? Rubbish post, you full of.

MrBrownJay1:
see this man suffering from amnesia...YOU are the one who quoted me with your nonsense!

Agbayaaaaaa!!!

Shioorrrr

DaytonaAries:
It's the response from men for me. Nigeria still has a long way to go in educating the male child.

In a saner country; do you think you can beat your your wife for arguing with you? Men in this post are glorifying domestic violence. Do you think if some women shut up their husband won't beat them.


Go to homes for women that have been abused. You would know that domestic violence isn't a thing of just keeping your mouth shut. Some women if they breathe the wrong way, thier husband would beat them, if they sit they wrong way, they get beat up even infront of their kids. Some men even ask their kids to beat the mother.


How a whole Minister of women affairs can come hear and say such things and think keeping quiet would stop domestic violence is appalling.


You need to teach people no one has the right to hit anyone just because they have an argument with you. Would men beat uo their bosses or colleagues for the same argument? No they would not.


The response from men in this post just reeks of ignorance on domestic violence issues. It Just reeks of poverty riddled mentality and lack of exposure. I don't blame them, it is the society that makes them think it is right to beat up their wives and get away with it I blame.

Shût ya ass up and stop being emotional. You and I both know the minister has a point. But feminazis like you Huff and Puff and end up saying nothing. What experience do you have to counter that of a woman who prolly is old enough to be your mother? Unless you don't understand English, she advocated for peace in the house and a way for women to handle issues with their husbands but here you are, screaming your head off, thinking by arguing incessantly is the way forward. Some women outrightly demean their husbands, some physically fight him, others deliberately frustrated his life to a point he lashes out the only way he knows, by physical violence. The minister is just saying you lots should mind how you address your husbands- FOR PEACE TO REIGN. Yet here you are, already abusing the men and calling them vile names. You need to take the minister's advice and learn to shût dafuq UP

Just to bust your bubble, domestic violence occurs abroad too but it's not talked about in newspapers.

MrBrownJay1:
i was expecting a :"thank you for educating me" but that's ok...

BTW using colored letters is another way to emphasize/draw special attention to something i wrote.

Leave me alone naaaaa...
Agbaya oshi!!!

MrBrownJay1:
you must not be well versed with the English language so let me educate your unfortunae self... an exclamation point doesnt always mean shouting/anger... it can also mean to emphasize a point or to express strong feeling/emotion about something.

just because "you" wrongly assume that i am shouting, is the problem here, and i suggest you seek help.

Stop screaming egbon!!! Drink water and stop using coloured letters

freakyamanda:
Sometimes, there is no way a husband can win his wife in an argument. Once the woman has a feeling she has to express it and you must allow her no matter how hurtful. If you shout at her, she feels stifled, if you ignore her she feels abandoned.

I ignore them.

It makes them more angry!!!! Then, it makes them more sad and that's when I come in to talk to them and settle the ish. I never argue with any woman.

MrBrownJay1:
ARRANT NONSENSE FROM YEYE WOMAN (who should be fired from her post)
a marriage is a partnership, not a dictatorship. so as much as people in marriage shouldnt shout/insult one another, they should BOTH communicate and work out their differences in a mature manner. telling women to shut up as if they are always wrong (and/or men are always right) is clueless! and even though men are consider the head of the family, it doesnt mean that your woman doesnt have her say in the union.

so your woman's views/opinion are irrelevant in marriage now?! what kind of yeye person would even want such woman in their life?

circus monkeys saying utter rubbish!

Something is wrong with you and your attitude of screaming at every post.

Seek counseling!!!

Karlifate:
Never, ever chase a woman who ghosted you.

Practice an abundance mindset when dating & move on. 👌💯

This works.
Many times, they will be the ones to call back.

So the man was charged but the mum nko?

She was given a medal?

EreluRoz:
I love how confused you are.

Go and marry and experience real happiness.

Marry who? You?

Be like say menopause dey worry you already...
Hairy balls

Karlifate:
Dear [young] men,


The greeting of a financially unstable man will always be mistaken for begging for financial assistance.

Poverty has no honour.

Work towards your financial freedom.



Never stop trying. 🔥💯

Nice one.

EreluRoz:
Luminouz trails?

AGAIN!!!
what's the matter with your hairy balls? Stop mentioning me and go get you some diick!!!

incogni2o:
Kindly read my response again. I never said "Men who don't marrry are weak"

More so, What makes a Man isn't cos He is Intelligent, Lot of Women are also Intelligent and achieved up to par with Men.

Again, Only a Very weak man refuses to marry but sleeps around with other people's daughters. None of the people you mentioned did that.

More so Intelligence is difference from being a Man.

Reverse psychology is new to you. That's why you are trying so hard to make it stick. So if a man refuses to marry, he is very weak? Nawa o....
Delulu is strong in this one!!

EreluRoz:
Things are happening in this life sha, in as much as I dislike redpillers there's this quote from them that I buy and it says "let your woman choose you" A woman hardly cheat on the man they choose, the thought won't even cross their mind.

If ops wife married that her boyfriend bestie now you'll be surprised how submissive she'll be and will not even have that thought of looking elsewhere.

Thank God for my life, na manners them say we no get but Ashawo no follow.

See as Luminouz just Dy everywhere for this op matter Dy happy. Call martinez39s your partner in women hating business to kom chop food.

Op my advise is pray and fast, take her for deliverance, dress well and smell nice all the time, take her out and buy gifts for her, go on vacations, be in shape, let that six packs show, brush your teeth well, cook for her, make sure the house is clean, respect her people and send money to them. Beg for her forgiveness and tell her she should forgive you for making her cheat on you, keep your penis clean and exfoliate your scrotum sac often, encourage her always.
Above all love her unconditionally

What's doing this one, me mentioning my name everywhere!!!! I steal your bladder ni!

Lmaooo...so he should take her to deliverance, in the UK? Like a child? He should brush his teeth, cook for her, send money to her folks, love her unconditionally and bla bla bla ... Girl, you done lost your goddamn mind. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Only a simp would do all these shiits.

franchasofficia:
You have a valid point but still, I know a lot of guys living in Nigeria and abroad who married when they were say rich according to our Naija version of being rich and they and their wives are doing very fine no issues and waxing stronger.


I am Igbo, by nature most Igbo guys marry late cos we always love to achieve a certain level of financial stability before we go into marriage, so literally most of my closest friends are Igbo guys who married when they were financially buoyant and they still married superb chicks with wonderful home training.


Some are living in the US, UK, Europe; and they came back to Naija to marry their wives whom they didn't even court physically for too long per se yet they are having a great marital life without issues.


I just believe most guys don't know how to spot a genuinely good girl with good values.


Marrying a good girl is not even about marrying a virgin like some ignorant guys here believe, but it's about knowing the girl's beliefs, values, what matters most to her, what she thinks about marriage, what she believes in, how she see men and the marriage institution, the family she is coming from, how was she raised, what and what was she exposed to? Her life challenges and how she overcame them? What she does like her job or business and how did she get there and how does her job or business shape or affect her thinking about life or understanding and relationship with men in relation to her job or business or craft


These things are what guys ignore and focus on the wrong qualities and things that don't usually matter at the long run

I understand your point. You and your friends are among the lucky ones. Especially coming home to marry the girls based here.

franchasofficia:
Just pray not to be in a tight condition or situation that will push you to do that. I will give you a real life example of someone I know.


This guy I know dropped out of school at OND level due to family poverty, and later struggled to start a business he was doing and was doing fine. He later married a lady who was a university graduates. 8 years later, his business started going down due to government policies of Buhari, his only option then to save his entire family (wife and 3 kids) was to Japa with the savings he had.


Their best option was for his wife to go for masters in UK while he and their 3 kids joined as dependents.

In this situation, what do you expect the man to do?

I understand your point. Look at it my way. The man married a university graduate and for many years was able to support a family, enough to transit them abroad but he couldn't do Distance Learning course or National Open University course to get BSc? It's called thinking ahead. No matter how worthless education is here, the certificate is needed to apply for stuffs elsewhere. He failed to develop himself bro. Unless that wife really cares about him, you think she would bow to him in the UK with a master's degree? People don't understand that women want to look up to their man, not look down on him and once you are failing in that regard, it's over.
What kind of job do you think he would do in the UK as somebody without no evidence of any certificate...factory job? For how long? What's his endgame? He thinks his wife will start working and earning big pounds and she will take care of the family for him in the long run?

*Sighs* Most men don't know women and that's why they get burnt

franchasofficia:
lolz


Honestly as a married man, the kind of stories I read here and on some Twitter threads on what some married guys are going through in the hands of their wives and even what some married ladies share about how their husbands treat them always make me wonder how and where these people met their spouses and what even made them to consider marrying the men and women they married in the first place lol


A bad woman is a bad woman whether she lives at Buckingham Palace or Whitehouse or In Oyo Town or Nnewi or wherever; abroad does not change any woman like most Nigerians presume cos I have majority of my childhood friends, course mates and even family members living in different countries of the world; from US to UK, to European countries to Qatar, Dubai, Angola, South Korea, South Africa, China, Japan, Canada, Australia, etc and none are divorced or complaining bitterly the way I read from married people here.


It always make me to wonder oh honestly lolz

The issue is that most women marry not for love but for money and most men bought their wives. Simple. If I narrate to you wetin my eyes don see for married women matter, your mouth go open.

When you see a couple that married because they genuinely liked and cared about each other, it's easier to survive abroad. Otherwise, na premium wailing oh, especially from the men, whose wives turn them to slaves in their own home

franchasofficia:
Sometimes they don't do it intentionally, sometimes its the only option for the man to get his family to the other side for better tomorrow, its well with guys in tight life situation in marriage

Boss..I no fit do am.... I must be the main applicant and the babe be the dependent. Most times, these dudes just feel too lazy to read. That's why.

franchasofficia:
How can a responsible married woman; a Nigerian woman take the last food in the house to her male colleague at work leaving none for her husband at home and you see nothing wrong in it?


If you have a married female friend doing that to her husband, madam please advice her to stop it it's very wrong, she is disrespecting her husband by doing so.


There should be boundaries and limits to these things na haba haba.

I am married myself, to a lady that have one of the tightest work schedule, but she never fails to prepare my meals even when we have helps that can do that. She takes it as her personal responsibility to prepare and keep my meal specially even though I sometimes don't take it cos I am not a foodie man. I can spend the whole day not eating anything serious which my wife knows but still she doesn't fail in making my meals despite her tight schedule. And whenever she won't be around, she must be on call with the helps telling them how to prepare my meal and all that.


When I read some stories of some married guys here, they sound so strange to me honestly.


Even my close friends that live in different parts of the world, from US to Europe to even Asian countries don't experience the kind things I hear married guys say here.


Maybe I and my friends and even brothers are lucky, or some of these guys just foolishly married careless wild ladies who were born to die single

Don't quote that Sharon moniker....she reasons like a toddler!!! She is in the UK too and I know that she will support nonsense. It's glaring to the blind and the deaf that the wife is very much MÃD!!!

franchasofficia:
Dependent he meant is that his wife was the principal applicant (student) who was issued the student visa while he and their kids accompanied her as dependents, not that he is not working. He will even be working more hours; full time unrestricted hours while his wife is restricted to 40hours per week as a student on student work permit.


So literally the guy earned more than his wife before she graduated and ought to have more savings but I doubt if he has cos he must have used all his savings to pay off her remaining school fees before she graduated.


His best bet now is to play along like a mugu, stop complaining about anything his wife does until he gets his full papers, which will take like 5 years. Thereafter he can plan his exit from the marriage if she refused to change for good.

You are very right. I meant to say she was learning....but he used his money to pay for her school fees. That way she was progressing while he was bleeehhhhh!!!

edimina:
I would have loved to make an intro of this post based on what people have had to say severally about bringing your wife to abroad, most especially the ones you knew must have been messing up in ways that one cant curb in Nigeria talkless of being abroad. This is a summary of whats going on with me now. So I arranged for us to move with student visa, shes the main applicant and myself and the 3 children are dependent. Its been a year and the half here now, and just 6 months into entering this country, my eye dun see shege from this woman. One thing I can actually hail and praise her for though is her delegence in taking care of the house, cook and all that. But I do my own bit too cos when shes out for work, I cook for the kids, I clean once in a while too and do what I can.

So after graduation, we got a sponsorship work VISA via the care home shes working for, though while she was a student, she was working in a daycare which was filled with white people, she always complained about how she could not cope with the white people’s culture and how she cant contribute their gist, so she was really happy that she had moved to this new place where she had met some Nigerians.

Now this is where the wahala is, she has 3 prominent friends there, 2 males and a female. So I noticed she picks up these dudes at home to work, pick the girl and do the same, then to make it worse, she will go ahead and still go drop them at home, when me dun dey house after work after taking care of the kids make I comot with car, she go come late and all that. Overtime this ish continued, so I told her one day, bae I don’t think it’s a good idea going to pick and drop this people all the time, because for the lady, her husband normally come around to pick her up and drop her off, but since them don see mugu, the guy totally stopped, so it became my madams task to run everytime they are on shift together. When I had this discussion with her, she complained that they are just friends that she may get the same help from later on, I was like am not saying you should not help, but don’t take it upon urself to be doing this all the time. All said and done she never listended to me and the deed continued to an extent that the husband of the lady had only given her money once, and maybe once from one of those guys and na me and am dey combine money to buy fuel. So it got a level where she begin dey carry food from house go give those guys, not all the time but sometimes. So yesterday jollof wey she cook, I was going to microwave in the morning to eat, I found out it was gone, I called to ask where the food was, she boldy told me that she had taken to her two male friends who told her they were hungry, I was now like why would u priortorize outsiders over your family, she sha change am sey sebi they too bring food that she eats blab la bla. And to even say that one of these dude is the one I created this thread about: the level of disrespect is unimaginable. Funny this is, after creating that above thread, a week after serious confrontation she had a feud with the guy and they stopped talking to each other, in which the guy stopped working at the place, but few days ago I got in from work and I saw that she was on call (speaker on) with this same guy, talking freely and giving me a no Give a F attitude, because I thought the only way she could have at least show me that she was remorseful was to cut permanent ties with that guy, but hell no. After her convo with the guy, she came to meet me that she hope that am not angry about her calling and talking to the guy, I was like its none of my biz, that I had important things to think about, in which it was indirect statement that I thought she would understand, omo from that day like this them dun start their friendship again,, to an extent I felt disrespected, disregarded and I started feeling theres more to what I have been thinking before. That aside, the other guy too, I noticed that one talks to her anyhow, though in a playful way. One day she came back from work and started complaining that the people that shes helping that they aren’t appreciating her, the started with the lady, that her husband does not even care again, only sent her money for fuel once, but the one that is hurting her most if the fact that this other dude that talks to her anyhow tried to implicate her at work, saying that he started yelling at her at the dinning where the old people are, that why haven’t u fed this woman, don’t u have grandma in the house, that he went as far as reporting her to one of the oldies that didn’t gave dementia that could have easily reported her to her manager which can out her work in jeopardy. I was like so have u served his sanction of not dropping and picking him again? She was like no oo, this happened last week, that shes still dropping him, I was like wow! She was like the reason is because the guy had come to prostrate to beg her, I was like how old is this dude, she said 26, and shes 36, omo I was in awe. Before any starts saying am not man enough, am a simp or weak, omo this country na were oo, he dey change SOME women. On a final note I have given her a mandate that she should stop picking or dropping anybody off at their respective homes, infact she should tell them that its my husband that said so. Story continues on the other new thread

Weak ass simp.

You lost your balls the day you became a dependent to your wife. She is the one earning and making moves while you do what exactly? Of course, women being women would take advantage and usurp the power dynamics in the house.

She will NEVER change and it only goes downhill from there. Damn!!! The shiit some men tolerate sha.

EreluRoz:
your own no pass make person go husband house. I know you are capable of doing such shior

See your life. With your disgusting attitude you think any man go marry you?

Shioooooooooorrrrr

EreluRoz:
Op you are the one that shamelessly slept with your fiance's sister, I so much dislike men that engage in this type of abomination. Of all people in this world it has to be her sister, I can never forgive such till I leave this earth and will still not forgive him in heaven if any foolish man dares try this with me around my friends because I don't have stupid family members that can indulge in this thing.

She should just leave the stupid man and ask God to judge them. If I'm the one I'll silently leave but will never speak a word with him again till the end of time and I'll train my child to despise him so much he'll wish he never existed. I sooooooo much hate this type of nonsense.

Nobody should preach forgiveness because there are things that are unforgivable.

Bla bla blaaaaaa.... No go your husband house. Keep advising people old enough to be your first borns.

Shiooorrrr

Mcslize:
Ladies like that are chronic Cheaters. She will always remind you how much she loves you and ask if you ain't cheating on her. If a lady is acting that way, just know she is cheating seriously. She won't give you breathing space.

I have been with one. They will gaslight you and make you feel you are the one cheating on them. They are narcissists and emotional blackmailers.

You nailed it.

OP's girlfriend is just like that. If he had been on the redpill, when would have known. But he is not.

AyoII:
There is this trend among modern women who wish to be seen as saints to do a certain kind of cosmetic surgery called Hymenoplasty

This surgery makes them bleed during the first intercourse after the surgery.

They may bleed but a normal natural pussy won't suddenly become wide after the first fûck! Unlike these artificial hymens....

The pussy remembers and is called the pussy memory! A nigga who knows what's up will catch girls like this.

Truths9ja:
Haaa not true at all. Why the hatred on SW? 🐵🐵🐵🐵

Don't you know how to quote news properly ni?

Everything about the news is tangled and messy. People have warned you here severally on how to properly report news but you still won't take to correction.

I have been in some tight spots in life and people helped me. Complete strangers who didn't know me gave me help or I would have likely died. I have shared some of these stories on NL. My policy has always been to try to help people unless my gut instinct say otherwise because I have been burnt trying to help.

One funny thing I have noticed is the entitlement coming out of these people you wanna help. I remembered some years ago at UI when I left First Bank ATM and was going home. This rough looking dude came up to me and said he hadn't eaten in a day and asked for help. I had withdrawn 2k and I gave him 1k out of it. Dude told me 'why not add that 1k in your hand to it and kuku complete a good deed'. He saw my expression and walked away grumbling. I ran after that mudafucker and got my money back.

Second story... I have always been blessed with a good physique as a guy. Doesn't matter what I put on, it looked good on me, so people have a habit of thinking I'm a rich dude. I remembered going to the bank and seeing this woman with two babies in the banking hall, who came to meet me and asked for help. I told her I don't have much and if she would consider taking 5h from me. She retorted 'as you look like this, na only 5h dey your pocket. Anyway, I go manage am sha'. I walked off with saying shiit to her again.

But not all cases were like those two scenarios up there. During the COVID era, I was approached by a man in his late 40's. We both stayed in an estate. He told me he lost his job during COVID and things were so hard back home. He and his family (a wife and two girls) hadn't eaten properly in 3 days. Things got so bad he approached other men in the estate and they refused him. One of the men needed a nanny, and he told his eldest girl to help but things went south when she was almost raped by this man. Seeing that no one could help him, he approached me, a bachelor and asked for help. I was touched because he was literally trembling from hunger. I took him in and even though I was a lousy ass cook( I still am), I had some foodstuffs I didn't like, such as Noodles, Amala flour, Macaroni and stuffs like that. I gave them all to him. He came with his eldest daughter(around 19) and told me, if there was any cleaning I needed to do that she would do them for me and left thanking me profusely.

I didn't have much cleaning to do but I told her to wash my plates and sweep my floor. She was very uncomfortable around me, till I told her to relax that she was safe. So, once a week, she would come around, cook me soup, clean my house and take foodstuffs back home to her folks in the same estate. After a while, she relaxed around me and for like 6 months of the pandemic, I literally fed her whole family. After the curfew was lifted, her dad got a job and one day showed up at my house with a bag of rice and several stuffs and his daughter too. He thanked me profusely for helping his family.

He told me, that each time his daughter returns home, he always asks if I molested her but she would say no. He said he knew asking his daughter to help cook for me was risky but even if I had touched her, he wouldn't have done anything because without my help, they would have starved to death. He said he preferred me sleeping with his daughter(at least as a bachelor) than all the old goats in the estate. But seeing that I fed them for six months and I never touched his daughter, he now believes that not all men are controlled by their diicks. He was weeping while saying these things to me. I could only imagine what he had gone through as a man not to be able to provide for his family. I rejected all they brought and told him to use them to take care of his family. Till I left that estate, the whole family became like my birth family.

N.B: People can be selfish, rude, ungrateful and messy. My rule is study the situation, listen to your gut instinct and give what you can afford. You don't owe anyone anything but there is always this pleasure I get when I see someone smile after I help them. It's like sunshine through the foggy clouds. That kinda makes up for the other ungrateful little shiits you help who make you regret it.

advanceDNA:
Werey....no be una dey find rich older men....
She followed ur advice naaa...

Abi u dey find older men wey single, never married and still very rich??

No wonder u never marry

Easy...make she no cry today o...

Na fatality you give her oh

Chimarto:
God himself is black, and he made Black people in his own image. The albino (oyibo) we have today was caused by the Elite as described by Enoch. The Elites are the angles who saw that we our women where beautiful and took advantage of it and had affairs with our black women. Our Black women gave birth to oyibos and giants known as anunnakis as described in the book of Genesis. Some of the Angel took our women from Africa to wide world. When Gold told Abraham to marry from his tribe, I think this was the reason .

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Delulu is strong in this one sha