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I wouldn't ask you to disregard smiley's advice. But you're young, and studies is just part of the many many things you're supposed to be doing, a huge chunk is growing up. There's a lot you'll have to see for yourself, and you probably will; but what determines who you will be depends on who you are right now, and who you're trying to be. You could get all the education in the planet and still be a massive jackass. There's a balance point between intelligence and wisdom. I'd advice as much as you acquire intelligence, seek wisdom also. There are some areas in life that what you learn in class only plays, beyond those bounds, you're on your own.

Wisdom leads a man to his ultimate goal in life: finding happiness.

So get wise while your mind's still open; there's no limit to what you can find here.

u got it mixed up. I'm still in medical- but I'm switching to engineering. I left for US at 18. I didn't mean to impress you. . . . but compliments come in handy, so thanks.

I'm glad you workin it babe. Best'a luck . . . you merit it.

spring n fall

Do you hate daylight savings as much as I do?

Amanda Somegirl,

Lemme share something with you.
When I was back in Nigeria, I had a girlfriend. I was only 16 but I lov'd her so much. But I could not express it. She loved me dearly, she even took beatings for me, but I never responded apropriately (that's not the story). We drifted apart and 2yrs later, I left for the US to start a life with no family; I've gone through hardships . . . . hunger, racism . . . you name it.

Exactly 4yrs later since we drifted apart (I'm 21), I decided to call her up. I decided we had to talk. I sent my cousin to her house and I got her number. It was her voice alone I heard after 4yrs that sent my heart throbbing again. She's in Nigeria and I'm in the US and we're growing strong, filling the relationship with everything we haddn't said to each other back then. Do you know what i'll give to see her again? I'll give everything to get just 1day with her . . . or even an hour.

What am I tryn to say? Baby, when someone's your life, when someone is all you have in this planet of horror, she's everything. Nothing and no one else matters. I can tell you this because I'm right there, right now.

This guy of yours, should (if he loves you) be worrying about losing you. At this point, he'd do anything to fill in the gap his presence has left. You say he's intelligent, baby, he knows what he's doing. In my mind, I think you're holding on too long, you're becoming a pain. You're not important to him anymore.

I cannot let my girl feel an ounce of pain for me-- my reason being: I love her to DEATH. I'm planning to have a life with her; I'm even changing from my medical career to engineering just so I could be there for her and my kids later on. So you see, if he cares about your breaking heart, he'll steal to call you. He'd rob too.

I love you and I'm feeling you right now. But everything will workout, you'll be strong again in no time. You'll be past this and you'll be the best person you could ever be. Cry like you want to, and cry like you'll never. Mourn him for one full day, the next, you'll be a new lady.

I'm sorry.

godspeed

I think girls have a higher lying frequency, but guys have the higher devasitating lie-power. In other words, Guys lie harder. I'll explain.

In the US, guys tend to lie more, but not as much as nigerians. Men are wired generally different from women. There are psycho-biological reasons as to why generally men act the way they do.

According to Christian Carter " The feminine energy grows with fullness,
praise, connection and love, to allow a kind of "surrender" in all kinds of joyful
experiences. With sex, women surrender to the experience
with a man through love and connection, which can make the man and woman as one. But the masculine energy doesn't work this way. At least not in the "darker" part of a man. The masculine energy is VERY different. The masculine energy seeks to break through challenges all alone and arrive at its desire - "emptiness" and "freedom". " What in otherwords he's trying to say is that men approach women at first sight, for the chase. Men love the chase. When the woman gives the man sex after a few nite-outs (as it's normal btw first daters in US), the man wins the game and is "free" and "empty" while the woman loses whatever lustre she holds. The man at this point could choose to call her his gf (though he's in it for the sex) while screwing other ladies behind her back, and lie to save his tail, hence coats his lie with more and heavier lies.

The Nigerian man is not very different from the stereotype above, although they "scout" the girl (americans call it stalk) and already know everything about her before she even knows he exists. However according to culture, most girls would go for the highest bidder. An educated, cultured, well mannered girl would opt for (under normal circumstances) a well spoken atleast-drives-a-car kind'a guy, tall blah blah blah, and in most cases, he'd have already had his fair share of fucking-arround.

The nigerian girl might keep a few guys arround just incase the guy at hand flops, just to have a stand-by. In most cases she wont sleep with them, but of course guys-- being the jealous things they are-- wont stand to have their girl talk to another guy regularly.

The american girl falls in love funnily so I wont talk about that. guess I've talked long enough.

karma happens. Someone knocks up his baby sister . . . . or his mom dies . . . . or perverts never take their eyes off his daughter . . . . best of all his g-f shoots his ass.


And what happens to girls that cheat?

But still somehow it all works out in the end, dont it?

Radiant baby: u back

workin my ass it.


like working or u just do it for the pay?

I feel you. But after I read his shit, I knew I read it somewhere else. I alert him and he's daring me to show him. But fu ck it, he aint said anything since I showed him . . . what's with that? He's widely know all over the world? he has CD's? jesus he should have a website. But oooh no, he has no time for websites. He just writes articles and sends them to different webs . . . .

I got one problem: I hate fakers.

ooooh free c'mooon

Brokehearts take camping trips on brokeback mountain_{If you know what I mean}

Did you ever pay a visit to mt. brokeback ? _{they say if you go brokeback you never comeback}

Everyone has a different lie to tell. Radiant is just alergic to certain kinds.

A stupid assed good for nothing, smelling, ugly, dumb, girl loves it when a guy walks up to her and asks her "Baby which of your parents are thief?" and when the girl is like "what!?" the guy's like ". . .that stole the stars and put it in your eyes . . . .baby I love you!!"

That's a bad lie. The girl knows she ain't cute at all and she knows there aint no stars in her eyes. But hey she falls for it cos the guy has this "romantic" way with words.

I think most girls love being complimented . . . even at the cost of being lied to. I walk up to a girl and I'm like "you're the prettiest thing in this room tonite . . . can I get a dance miss pretty lady? " I'm most likely gonna get a "sure". She aint the prettiest I know it, she knows it but hey, I'm one romantic assed dude!

But then they (girls/women) forget that one lie leads to the next and from one small lie to one bigger lie and so on. It mostly boils down to certain stereotypical "lies" a guy's allowed to tell and one's that are out of bounds. But when there's no other lie to be told, and every other lie's old and stale we want something to keep the girl dazed. . . . so we tell her "my uncle died . . . . I'm so depressed." Just to have her all over you, licking your tears and what not.

I think guys tell most obvious lies. Girls just love the attention.

_{Imagine how misserable the life of a girl that aint been lied to for once by any guy}

And those websites? they copied his terms and in the same words? Oh no they came on here and plagiarized from him. yeah he's the man I agree with you.

He's probably good. so am I. So could anyone else. The question is who's copying from whom? And how does he feel seeing his shit all over the internet? What has he done about it? If he cant answer these simple questions then he's either dumb or he's speechless.

Baby~angel,

Sorry you've been lied to and mistreated. I wish I could find that guy right now. I'd knock shiit into him.

You see, it's hard to move forward when you have lots of luggage and you're climbing a hill. The hill is hard enough to climb without the luggage. I'd suggest you strip yourself of the lies you wrapping yourself up with, I know it's hard. . .  especially when you're in "defence mode". You have to believe me, not all guys are like that. Although the truth is more complicated that this. I don't intend to go into giving you details on how a man's phyche works, but you have to take this from me: no one deserves to be treated wrongly (not even a guy).

Have you ever asked yourself this question: "how do porcupines mate?"

Women are alot different from men, and men are different from men. There are MEN, then there are men and there are _men. They're not the same thing. But concluding "all men lie" gives you serious issues to deal with. I personally would not want to date someone that can't trust me 'because she has issues from her past relationship. If you can't trust any guy with your heart, you wont trust your husband. And believe me; Even if you're cunning enough to make a guy think you trust him and then y'all get married then you let him on what you gat, it's likely the guy will look for a way out, probably cheat on you again, just to see you go. And then again, you're back where you started.

Porcupines mate CAREFULLY

And where's he now?

I hate it when someone claims to be what he's not. Most of those terms have been in existence and are widely known to relationship experts. You dont post something that puts you in the spot light when you're copyrighting.

He could make CD's out'a those, who cant? Is he the author? The most likely answer is: He should have had his own private website and then post it on there and see what happens to his ass. I'm in no position to judge, but when I see someone being what he ain't, I'll let him know. And he's safe as long as he don't get in my face.

It's just a game, someone ought'a play along dont u think?

shut up

My friend over in the corner said you wanted to gimme a blow-job. . . .and then let the drama begin folks.

What's your sexual fantasy?_{lemme guess> does it include plastic ducks and a cell-phone?}

I dunno about that

xkape:
@seun

Yes

God cannot break HIS OWN laws. It only makes sense.

The bible explicitly says it is impossible for God to lie. That is one example

yeah it's aight

u ought to start afrest. forget everything you know or whatever anyone tells you about you.

It's time for u to find out about yourself, what makes you, you. When you understand yourself, you understand everyone else better, it's real. It's not about just getting the girl now. You're getting advice on how to get a girl most easily now, because that's what u've asked for. But you also have to dig deep into yourself and find out those things that might make u a better person, thereby a better lover. It's one thing to get a girl, it's one thing to keep her. Otherwise, you'll keep getting them, only after a few weeks, when it seems like things are going their best, lose em. Then you're back where u started.

Maybe there is something about you they don't seem to trust. If 60% of them don't trust you WELL, and you don't have a girl now, then the other 40% don't trust you at all, and can't probably believe themselves that they even talk to you in the first place. You're the common denominator in that equation so the problem must be you not them. Maybe you're too good to be true.

Get away from the old girls, find new ones, and be a different person to them. You wont believe what you'd get.

I don't know you; You know you best. Paint a picture of who you want to be, and it'll be a lot easier to define what you want. And what you want, if you know the right combinations, you can bring out of a person.

be wiser.

your female friends could also hinder you from getting anyone sensible. "Classy" girls look at the girls that hang arround you as trash whores. They, in tht case, will always find something wrong with you. "look at how he walks--" or "he even thinks he's handsome--". They generally put a security electric fence specifically for you, and with your picture on it. People think in chunks of information, and girls will generally associate anything that has to do with you with the word: stupid. That's why, like it's been said before, you gotta change your flows and even for your benefit, stay away from the spot-light -- (you seem to be in dire need for attention, otherwise, why the expensive cologne?)-- for about a few months; "out of sight is out of mind".

but you also have to know especially what you want in a girl. Most cute girls are good inherently. But not all approaches bring out the best in them. The heavier the security doors, the more precise your codes have to be. So you gotta know whats going on, on a conscious level (most especially when she's very "classy" and sensitive). It's hard to be a player, but once the game clicks, you're on, whether you got money or not.

I know I'm gonna get bad reviews on this; but hey, I'm teaching him general rules. If he starts having relationship problems _{which wont be soon} w'll give him PASTORIAL COUNSELLING 101