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Gabriel,

I'm with you. I'm just as young as u are and if my girlfriend was here, I would'a married her.

Vieira is saying you should be mesing arround. Yeah, that could be a good advice. but what happens when you don't feel like messing arround, simply 'because you don't find it appealing, the same way the choices of pre-occupation vary for different people?

I've gone through things not many 30yr old men have gone through. Having left naija at 18 to US to stay on my own without a single relative nor black person, believe me I grew up. I had to. Am I mature? Well that depends on what you call 'maturity'. Do I know what I want? Yes. (But who doesn't think he knows what he wants?)

@topic. I say anytime you feel like it. Some of my most succesful friends got married at wierdly young ages-- 19 and 20. They're still living together and loving hard. There's no right or wrong. There's appropriate hence in-appropriate.

Atheists are deemed hopeless. Simply because they accept the hard truth. We are not special. There's nothing special about human beings. When you die you rot. Evolutionists believe that the "spirit" is nothing but a term for an evolved consciousness.

Christianity gives hope.
When a strong man is rendered handicap by a fatal accident, his most likely plague is depression. Shove him religion and he's fine, despite his pain.

@topic.

Creationism seeks to prove how man is specially created. Though there is absolutely no proof for this theory, it sure is a pacifier. You are made in God's image and despite your suffering he (KAG says She) knows about ya. That piece of statement means the world to an average Nigerian, with no hope for the future.

On the other hand, evolution is a conclusion from different observations collected over time, by totally unrelated philosophers "jobless people". Evolution explains life and how life became, better than the creation theory could even try.

Different minds need different truths. The contradictions of the bible are maddening; I still go to church though, it's all I know.
If God exists he'll have to forgive me, but he SUCKS in answering the simple question: "Who the are you?"; When his best answer is: "I AM WHO YOU THINK I AM".

I hate to say stuff because it almost doesn't matter anyway.

But My question still is. . . who is a virgin?

His brain needs re-wiring. . . LM-buttcheeks-O

I love shorties. I love to lift 'em.

I'm not really into taller girls because I can't lift em. I'm a muscular 6"3 dude, and I love me chicks nice and lil!

more stories.

jerrymania:
Ok that will do later, anyway i like your pic. got attracted!

Sounds like someone's ready to get shot @. She's married to a white gangsta mind you. You better learn to put y'lil mam where it fits.

_{yeah. . . white boys do drive-byes too}

The best relationship you can ever have is when you haven't seen the nude of your partner. Not seeing your partners nude will lead to a kind of an inexplanable understanding and by understanding each other, you will definitely respect each other.

taaahahaha are you kidding me!!??

damn man. . . you need to move out of GRA. . .

The reason you can't explain anything like me'myself asked you to is because you're probably not the author.

PS your own posts are incoherent.

jesus man u didn't have to be so graphic with the shit thing,

Hey tosh. There's no such thing as "love at first sight". It's a myth. You cannot love someone you do not know. You can dig though. . . like: DIG-- but not love.

Girls don't believe in it either. They can Dig you and think "you hot" but they won't love you just like that.

So get it in you head right now. You don't go drooling all over a chick that doesn't know you. She'll think you're either a stalker, and idiot, or a cute guy with serious issues. Take note.

to answer ur question, I never toasted a girl so I never got rejected.

What is this virginity thingy about? And what exactly is marriage?

If the proof of virginity is the blood that runs through the vagina when the hymen is broken, then it's useless. Why? Not all ladies bleed on the first night. Infact the hymen tears when one endulges in rigourous physical fitness, even riding a bycicle and do the job. So, it all boils down to one truth: trust. There is no way I can proove you're a virgin if you don't bleed.

And marriage? Is your proof of marriage those documents you're given in court? Do you both cease to be married when you lose them to a fire? When one deserts a marriage, he automatically voids the marriage contract. It doesnt have to be sexual promiscuity.

My point is: virginity is a symbol, same as a wedding. For the fact you haven't had sex doesn't mean you are sexually pure at heart. It doesn't prove to me that you wont have sex with some other guy tomorrow. The strongest reason that keeps one a virgin is deliberate IGNORANCE. "I don't know about it, and I don't want to know about it, period". It's not because you have tasted it and it's useless, but because you're afraid it's all you have to show when you get married. What happens when you don't bleed? What happens when your husband is not enlightened enough to know you don't have to bleed?

Nothing makes a virgin less likely to cheat. Actually it makes her more vulnerable to it than it protects her. When her ignorance is unmasked and she finds out that there's nothing special about the wedding night, she's alot likely to be less opinionated.

awesome.

he's playing with your heads. There are two reasons why a male would make a post as this.

1. He's lying, but he loves the attention.

2. He's not above 18.

I choose my first reason because of his replies. He's not getting angry despite all these insults. He doesn't live in Nigeria either (no trains run there; and if there were, he wouldn't meet any girl to start up a reasonable conversation with). Resonable girls hate arrogant guys. So if he's telling the truth, the girls he woos are very very very dumb, and so is he for wooing them.

_{lil' boys talking about fast lanes "when I got on the fast lane. . ."}

queen2:
Ghost stories don't only exist in Africa because i have seen a similarly issue of ghost on bristish tv. The story was about a woman who lives not too far from a cemetery, she said 2weeks after her mum's death that, something wuld move from where she had kept it and she said it happens to her everyday.

It's all hear say. It's always been hear say.

The mind is a trickster. All one needs is an imbalance of neuro-transmitters in the brain to start seeing all kinds of things. A chemical imbalance can be caused by ordinary things as stress or sleeplessness. Ghost-stories and even alien-sightings and abductions are simple halucinations and optical illusions or perceptual biases (when the brain believes, and sees what it wants to see).

why exactly is it that most stories as these are heard in motherland Africa?

And why exactly is it that motherland Africans (used to) think westerners had charms because the native ones wouldn't work ?

Why is it that most people that have had GHOSTLY-OCCURENCES claim to have noticed little things here and there that were out of place that they wouldn't have otherwise noticed? "She touched her hair and I began to sweat heavily" or "she coughed and the bus went off road" or check this out "the last thing I remembered. . ."

sommey,

She tells me she loves me, more than I love her. You see, there's no way to prove if she does so I'm better off trusting her blindly.

No I'm not in naija. My profile is misleading.

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ok lemme clean my mouth. mhm. . . I didnt say a word

taaaaahahahahahahaha

funny logic.

How can you be ready to get married when you don't have a girl?

how can you be READY to buy a house when you dont have the money?

HOW CAN YOU BE READY TO Bleep A GIRL WHEN YOU DONT HAVE A penis?

Jeez man get a life first. . . then get ready to live.

raidaint. . .

I'm joking somewhat.

If a girl has sex often, she won't keep tabs. Not all one-night-stand(ers) are slutty either. But then, to some degree, a guy would like to know that his girl aint goin' nowhere else when his lil-man aint working right. . . or there's someother uncontrolable factor.

No guy in his right minds will ask a girl "howmany times u did it?" OR "who and who done blow u out b4?"

In some way a guy needs that insurance. I actually prefer a non-virgin. But "how often" and "how easy" I'd really wanna know.

Relationships are a lot more intricate than this, I'll not go into details unless I have to.

Christel,

I have a girl on long distance. We've been doing it for a yr exactly.

I miss her with my every being, even right now.

Here's what I do when I miss her. I call her and drool.

I call her like everyday for like 45mins. shhit that's alot of money some say, but I can't help it. We've known eachother for 4yrs now, honestly it aint easy. Neither is it for her. But I'm planning a surprise trip to naija 6months from now and I'm literally starving to scratch up money for that. I got off school and I'm working 2jobs just for her.

To me, I see it as an investment that'll will pay the world over when we're finally in each others arms. One day I told her I said "Baby I'll remember these days and I'll tell our kids that I loved their mother so much I travelled accross the world to spend a few days with her." She was crying. Words like these keep long-distance relationships alive.

Although very few people are creative enough to invent, one has the movies at his main guide. The only trick is communication. You've gotta talk about everything. but then not everyone has the resources to spend.

_{Don't gimme shit for being where few can be: THERE}

Gem. You might wanna watch it.

Don't get carried away. As much as guys dont really give a damn if they wives r virgins, they care very much howmany times you have done it, and how many ppl you did it with. So you have to curb the frequency. It will help y. 1ce a yr? 3ce at most?

Religion is fun, just like faith. I call it pre-occupation.

ignorance, busta, that's the word. It's the only explanation for self-imprisonment.

What they did is like handcuffing themselves and giving the key to the devil himself to swallow

It's just funny how these peeps from abroad r telling the guy he should fashie the blood-whatever and move on; and the home-based telling him about eternal damnation.

throwing my 2cents@ you
You're in trouble, a massive one. If you choose to go to church, and the delivering pastor dont do his stuff right, you'll be messed up the more-- I've seen it happen.

But the main problem is that the mind doesn't find it easy to let go of certain "truths". Whatever it thinks true, it makes true, whether consciously or subconsciously. You once believed that blood convenants work, you will have a hell of a time trying to convince your own mind that it doesn't work, as you patiently wait for woe to befall your ex.

I'm suggesting you do whatever you think is the best to undo the "convenant". But if you ask me what I believe, every bond (both physical and atomic) no matter how strong can be broken. You just need enough pressure, and your greatest leverage-- your mind.