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If you had died, she would have still followed her husband home.

Be careful next time.

Nothing concerns you, if they want to kill themselves, then so be it.

israelp:
many guys won't understand what u put here... even wen the keys are written in capital

What is it bro?

I couldn't understand every thing.

InvertedHammer:
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Fill out the forms.

Bring a bunch of the forms for her to append her signature.

Somewhere in there, hide prenup documents and ensure she signs.

Start hedging your investments.

We sit back and wait for your lamentations.

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What does this mean?

Munzy14:
Marry her, get the marriage certificate, the court wedding, change of name on a daily..

Carry your wowan dey go.

A family friend had hers around May..And na so my mom advised her to do court wedding and document all...She left for UK to be with her man on Saturday.

This isn't a big deal..hence you know who you are married to.

Oga people change, you can't know how anyone would react or behave over time, we can only hope.

AdaNri1:
Going through some comments here I understand a few things now. People are callous and unkind. They want your empathy when it has to do with them. All these beggars pulling at heart strings using it to beg, some of them are among the nasty people here saying this woman should get over herself. Yul is an empty person. A waste of space for a human being. What makes a person is their heart of gold and I can tell that all those condoning Yul’s behaviour are exactly like him. Empty people with hollowness where their hearts used to be. Money and worldly success is nothing without a rich heart. Quote me with your emptiness and worsen your predicament. Empty souls

Don't cry, the world is callous.

Women love men for their ability to provide and men love women for their beauty, the only problem is that with time women's beauty depreciates but men who are focused on their work can make more money, therein lies your answer.

I know wealthy men who kicked their wives out, i am talking about people that make over 30m a month in lagos, probably they found them unattractive, and its not bad because the main reason women leave their husbands or boyfriends is due to financial problems and not infidelity.

fluffybaby:
It's not an excuse to kill him. I don't want anybody dead because one person has pepper body. Yes, she should he punished for her crimes too. but saying a woman should just keep living in her marriage as if nothing happened when her hubby cheats; so far as he is providing enough. Enough is very relative to different people So if the man has been out of job and the wife was the one providing "enough" for the family will you say it's okay for her to cheat? Or is it because you feel men can cheat whenever they want so it's not really about providing enough.

I never implied all you wrote, what happens to leaving the marriage?

fluffybaby:
Enough is relative. What you consider enough might not be another person's enough.

Hope you say this when a man beats and kills his wife?

EgunMogaji2:
This is not true.

Pre marital assets, inheritance, etc are exempt,

Also prenups are not bullet proof.

So uncle Egun, what would you suggests we do, i mean those that have jakpa plans in mind?

Mariangeles:
Yes. A deeper meaning.
Beauty is more about the way you are(as a human), than the way you look.

When you're beautiful on the inside, your outer beauty will shine.
It is a kind of beauty that lasts. A kind of beauty that one cannot get over. It doesn't fade.

All these ones na long talk, simi is not fine physically.

End.

Ninisun:
Na the woman buy the house dey pay for the mortgage...my mind tells me he was cheating and on top joblessness

How do you know this?

crackhaus:
Whilst we all announce our displeasure against these abnormalities, we mustn't at all forget that all of this began with Feminism, that modern snowflakey kind.

I move with love...

Raychee:
And you think that's the best way to be with your own wife? Even if you don't love her, must you make it obvious? That's lowkey abusive

No one cares really.

remsonik:
Eku ewu Omo, 4th child is coming. Oga abeg marry now stop sleeping with babymama all the time. You children need a home and to be well trained. They need their father and mother to be available to take care of them all the time

Why do only women say this?

Leave a wealthy young man to live his life the way he wants.

CHoccolaTE:
Feminists brought about transgenderism?
LOL, I can't even pretend to take this trolling serious, bye.

So how did transgenders and queer people come about?

Abeg read what i wrote earlier, once dissidents are given a voice, don't expect others who feel oppressed not to voice their feelings too.

If you dislike trangender and queer people, then why should people have to accept feminism too?

CHoccolaTE:
Lmao, god abeg oo, so because somebody didn't accept you for who you are, and kept demanding more from you now means you should go overboard and start deceiving yourself that you and biological women are the same?

This your post only goes further to prove how unhinged trans people are.

I don't think you have any moral right to tell any human how they want to be addressed. if they want to seen as men or women, it's up to them.

Feminists brought about this chaos, even though it was for the betterment of the female folk, it gave voice to other groups who percieved themselves to be "downtrodden".

Do you know what every dictator that has existed from time immemorial had in common? The ability to stifle free speech, because they know once they give in into a cause, it goes downhill from there.

If this is the price we have to pay for feminism, then so be it. But remember, you have no moral right!!

Ninisun:
You no dey dig gold too? Who poverty help? Abi you are praying for your sis' to be with poor men? You have time to be typing epistle on top person matter. Your own sisters might be worst sef. Your comment sounded so bitter, abeg change.

You no like poverty but can't work your way out of it, isn't that madness?

Oem18:
Are you currently talking about coding? The guy i referred to was he talking about coding?

i was referring to you.

Stop derailing this thread, thanks.

Please delete these comments @ admin, even mine.

logik29:
What kind of derailing is this now?

Honestly i don't understand, if you're not talking about coding and shit just stfu.

Oem18:
You are the One promoting nonsense.

Why didn't you stop that guy from denigrating the country in the name of leaving it?
He is free to go but must he insult the country.

He said he doesn't pay taxes, the country he wants to run to do their own citizens not pay Taxes even if it is being looted
which one is worse than being happy you don't pay your fair share? So those who pay taxes in Nigeria are fools ?.

A Wild animal in Africa is a wild animal in Europe.

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Can't comments like this be deleted?

Oga please pay your tax in peace.

crackhaus:
It never ends

First they broke shame men then go on to mudsling wealthy men, talking about empathy and shit.

Talk about cognitive dissonance .

I know of a man who lives in the US, his friends sends him evidence of his cheating wife almost every week, baba no send.

I'll glady choose my property and money over women anyday anytime. Make she stay for Nigeria, nothing spoil.

I can't forget what happened to my friend's uncle, the local champion of a woman he brought to the US had him kicked out of the house he bought, their son sef the man no see again lol.

Mindlog:
If the guy ends up getting married there or have a baby mama, the same law is applicable and so he is better off staying back in Nigeria where he is to a large extent, protected.

Or travel alone.

etrange:
That's another argument. Have you accepted that in the absence of the law, men have the upper hand?

I don't do directionless discussions. You guys always do that when you are cornered. I argue that in the absence of such laws, men have the upper hand. You said that's not true. We can move to what happens when the law is in place, but that will be after you've accepted that my statement is the reality. Let's not chat for the sake of sounding smart. Let's separate concerns and put logic before emotions.

I'd gladly tell you how it works in the western world cause I live here. I'd also remind you that millions of Nigerians have court marriage already. So if court marriage actually gives women the upper hand, then it would imply women have the upper hand in all these marriages. But then again, that's after we've agreed the initial bond of contention.

Ok.

DeusMagnus:
lies from the pit of hell. Man is just been careful with his life before tomorrow he will end up in front page of nairaland complaining about how his beloved has changed.

Simple.

etrange:
You are the one that just wants act blind and argue. Stop pretending as if you are not African. In the absence of any law to bide them, the man has the laissez-faire in Nigeria. You and I know this. Why do you think the OP's fiance doesn't want the court wedding? I just gave you a reason above, you ignored it and came back with 'it's not time to argue'.

And in the presence of laws in the western countries, women hold more power, you and i know this, or why do you think the OP wants a court wedding?

etrange:
How can you compare what you just typed with what I typed? Did I mention quiting the marriage? I said "kicked out". Women are the ones that normally get kicked out from the house when there's an issue. You hear things like "I'll send you back to your mother's house" once it's no longer rosy.

This is not a time to argue.

When two people are bound by law, it affects both of them just as when there's no constraint, it favours both of them as well. Stop making it look like it favours men only.

etrange:
Because the society/culture already gives the man the upper hand. He can wake up tomorrow and decide to kick the woman out and nobody will do anything about it.

And the woman can also wake up the next morning and decide tp quit the marriage and no one will do anything. So you see.

etrange:
Why not ask her to just pack into the man's house and assume the title of a wife? Oga, it is not just paper. It is a legal identification of marriage. If the value you have in your man is all thar counts, why do people bother getting married? Why do you guys give women all the wrong advice just to bend thier will? A man vehemently rejecting court marriage is a huge red flag. He doesn't want to have constrains. You wouldn't accept that if you were a woman.

But the man and woman would have no constraint, so why are you talking like it only favours the man?

Raalsalghul:
Nothing bad in that: smart move even.

It's always wise to plan for worst case scenario though I'm intrigued to know how they'll prove their union at the embassy.

Always wise bro.

backnbeta:
Stupid Steven should have cautioned the unFortunate woman! Steve will remarry before Fortune comes out of prison

And thats good for her, women are always harsh towards maids or anyone beneath them, this should serve as a lesson to every "madam".

opeyy:
JBriel, God bless you, keep you and multiply your wisdom 1billion folds!!! You'll not know sorrow and everything good will come your way! Lol. You literally spoke my mind, word for word. I too, unfortunately, have first hand experience with a loner.

OP, you should have sought a loner like yourself to marry, because you knew what you were like before letting that poor, innocent woman into your sad and lonely world. Not everyone is like you and can understand your position, it is un-natural but there are sadists just like you out there with hearts of stone that you require. Surely you cannot desire love that you're incapable of giving. However now that you have deceived this woman into marriage with you, please make amends as JBriel has suggested.

How do you know that the op lives a sad and lonely life? Nawa for you.

DrLevi:
Depends. Learn whichever you feel you'll be good at.
Both requires quite different set of skills and it best your research about it and find which make you feel more at home.

Although most people begin their journey with frontend so that part has more developers and thus more competition
On the other hand, there are BAAS tools that replace the need for backend developers, so everything kinda balances up and brings us back to the first statement, "learn what you like"

Thanks for the advise, i think I'll go with front end and then niche down.

Thanks sir.