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Dear House,
I just applied and paid for a 6 moth visa for my elderly mom and myself ( opted for self service) to see mt brother in the UK- to travel March 29 . My mom is a regular traveller and has been issued visa 4 times, but this is my first time. The reason I'm giving being that I'm going to assist her with luggage and see my bro after over 5 years and return to my work in Lagos during two week leave.
I used mybankstatement from GTB for last six months with Ticket Number and password for UK Deputy High Commission. Hope it's ok?
I have appointment with TLS Ikeja on February 2. Can someone please tell me what to expect, what happens there and what I should go along with. Thanks in advance

Righthussle:
Women stand up to end the culture of bride price in Nigeria. The practice of the bride price is demeaning to women. It makes many African men feel as though they “own their wives” and therefore feel they have the right to do as they wish.

Paying the bride price means there's an implicit moral obligation on a woman’s part to respect and obey her husband’s commands and wishes. Psychologically, the practice creates an ownership mentality in men which may lead them to see their wives as their ‘purchase’ over whom they exercise unfettered authority, including physical and psychological abuse.

The payment of bride price is also associated with the perceptiomn of women as ‘acquired properties’ over whom men exercise authority and control. The transactional character of the practice could ‘objectify’ and ‘commoditise’ women in marriage.

#Saynotobrideprice

Bride price is demeaning but baby mamaism is a blessing. Nonsense

OMONGBALI:
Now imagine she aborted and messed up her womb out of the fear of what her parents would say.

The question is why has the father of the boy not married her? She is still in her father's house and he I spending his resources helping to raise the bastard child of his daughter. He has no option ashe cannot deny his blood. The girl should not expect a responsible single man to marry her and be raising another man's kids. Girls should stop disgracing their family. Marry before you carry. We need to bring back shaming of birthing bastards to end this baby mama nonsense

DSTV should be sanctioned for showing this program at a critical moment in our country's history- election time. I suspect APC asked them to broadcast at this time to distract the youth especially girls. It's normal in the third quarter of the year. Last year was 11 weeks, the previous was 12 or 13. It's rubbish

Hello House, how can one pay for the visa fee during application. Can one use Naira debit cards or ATM cards?

Cashmadam:
Fill a form for yourself and another form for your Mother. One form per person.

Thank you

Hello House,
Please advise.
I want to travel to UK with my mom (she is getting old) to see my brother who is based there. I'm a first time traveller and mom is a regular UK traveller. I have filled the form online and completed the section stating that my mom is traveling with me. I have checked the payment section but it's asking me what class if visa I'm seeking. As a first time, I know I am entitled to six months, but my mom has got 2 year visa twice and may wish to stay longer
QUESTION: Do I need to fill separate application for myself and separate for my Mom and pay separately?

OR

Will I have the opportunity to pay for both our visas after I select 6months for myself.

Experienced travellers please reply . Thanks in advance

Were you guys expecting him to marry a divorcee of baby mama like Ooni.? My dear, a man deserves the best. If he is going to marry a woman, marry the best and the best women are young

Jennyclay:
Father from the pit of hell.

How can you beat up your daughter to death just because she called her lover? What happened to sex education?

The man should be beaten to death too. I don't know why men can be this evil

You are a symptom of the rot in modern women. A girl has no fear or respect to use her dad's phone to call her boyfriend. Not even her mom's phone. And you say her lover. Sixteen year old girl having a lover,.... SMH
The man went too far but modern girls are something else

Hello House,
2 questions
1. How do I change my preferred location for UK visa appointment. I chose TLS VI but want to change to TLS Ikeja. I have not submitted visa application just filing the form online and saving for later.

2. I applied unsuccessfully for Canada visa 3x via VFS and dis biometric capture valid for 10 years since 2021. I have been reading if biometric for UK visa. Do I still have to do biometric again at TLS or do they share data with VFS.

Thanks in advance.

In a manual car, clutch down before brake everytime. Depressing the clutch, disconnects the transmission from the engine thereby removing power from it for the brake to work mechanically

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They stupidly married feminist women who don't see it as duty to prepare meals for husband

If APC is voted back to power, it means those who died during #ENDSARS died for nothing. They were betrayed and sold out by those voting APC back to power. It says a lot about the mindset of the Nigerian masses

Hello House,
Finally collected my Mom's passport for renewal today. Capture date was August 24, DIY.
It was issued since October 29

Na wa o.
Even see the idiots telling him to proceed. The father hid it. The mother hid it. The siblings hid it. God saved they guy. Big Ups to the guy for refusing .

When you had a job and we're getting married, you did not consult spiritualist. Now you lost your job and things are hard, you are losing hope and looking for someone to blame. This is a coward's way. If your wife has never given you reason to doubt her loyalty, you must be a bastard for letting outsider, especially scam inclined Nigerian spiritualist. Even if Adeboye of RCCG told you, he is a fool. Someone who could not tell his pastor Osinbajo as VP would fail the entire nation with APC.

She has hit THE WALL

MalcomX009:
Ikoyi I Dey go today two months now I haven’t received any text or call … person helping me run the passport is moving somehow he jus dey post me .. then he said if I should go by myself they will be asking me irrelevant questions .. is it true just to check if my passport is out they will ask questions?

Pls give update. When did you capture. I captured for renewal on August 24, 2022. No update yet

Thia is why Nigerians should vote right. The bus drivers are kicking against extortion by MC Oluomo and his goons. Oluomo is backed by Tinubu and Sanwoolu, APC. Do what is right. ENDSARS it was Police, ASUU did their fight for 8 months, now it's bus drivers. We need to say no to a failed party system

kbower:
Hi Nlanders

We all know no marriage is all that smooth and rosey, we all that are in it have challenges here and there, and for almost 11 years now, out of tolerance, ruggedity, minding my business in terms of taking care of the family have always been something that has held my marriage down, because the majority of the issue I have with my wife have always been issues of trust, transparency, accountability, respect and loyalty.

Some people will say with these things I have listed, that I may be asking for too much, but I can tell whoever would reason that way that it's not too much because am a responsible father/husband that have never for once strayed the family in anyway that will make me lack any of the above stated qualities a man can enjoy from a wife.

Why am I here? Ok.. After enduring so much for 11 years, we are relocating to the UK, she is the main applicant, myself and the 3 children are dependants, she traveled first, leaving myself and the 3 kids behind until she can secure accommodation b4 we leave.

I have heard about countless incidences of how SOME women treat their husbands and the POWER zoned to women in that country which makes it almost impossible for a man with a wife that gives him constant problem to be able to thrive in that country.

I just want to state three peculiar incidences that occured during her 1month stay over there that is already making me feel I have alot to face over there, though I know my God is bigger than anything, I just want people that are over there, or people that are experienced here and all over who are capable of handing a good advise for me on getting there to know how I can fare and withstand what is to come.

Based on the above from the major incidences I have experienced with her, first two weeks of being there, she had gone to check a house b4 heading to school, on her way back to school, she claimed she didn't take enough money and going back home might not be possible, I asked how she would wanna go about it
and she replied saying I will borrow money from Mr Mike, a man she just met at school on her first day of registration. I was like that's wrong, you don't form familiarity with someone you just met in another man's country, I said I will call a friend in liverpool to send you money and you could get your train ticket. She fumed, but I stood my ground and said that's how its going to be. I have asked her to collect a friends account details, since she has not opened an account yet, she said when her class finishes by 8.30pm she'll request details from her friend so the money can be sent. Fast forward to closing period, I messaged her to send me details, she ignored, I called ad she said nobody has an account that I should not worry she will sort herself, I was now like you just got to that country, u have no friends that u know too well to rely on, I am ur hubby and I opened a way for u to get money easily, yet u didn't make any effort to redeem the opportunity, omo she hung up on me then later called back that she gathered few pennies she had to get the ticket, I was now like why didn't u just say this instead of putting me on pressure over how to get money to convey u all the way from london to Luton, over an hour journey at night.

Secondly, on her next school day, she had previously told me prior to her closing hours that her data has finished and she's using schools wifi, that the moment she steps out from school to head home, she won't be having access to internet, etc WhatsApp and all of that, but importantly was to make use of GPS google map, that's what people over there use to navigate their way in order not to get lost, I was like without internet how do u intend to get to ur destination when u know how stressful it was for u getting lost the other day, now the same statement she made was, I will sort myself. I was raged and said woman I will ask my friend to buy u data so u can get home easy and safe, she said no proble, that she's leaving now, I said well since i wont be able to reach you on whats app, I will definitely call you on normal call shortly to give you the data pin to load. She said no P and hung up.

Moments later, my friend had sent me the data pin, na so I begin dey call wifey oo, over 15 missed calls she nor pick. Later she called back and said her phone was in her laptop bag and her hands were frozen so she couldnt put hands in the bag to pick the call and that she didn't even hear it ring.

The issue I posted up there are issues of not being accountable, and attitude of not showing that you don't need me when its not just about that but for security and your well being knowing fully well you are new in the country and proper guidelines needs to be taken.

Another incident happened 3rd week after her arrival, we were video chatting while she was on a train station waiting for train, next thing I noticed was a guy sitting BEHIND her, the guy boldly took a peep into her phone directly, seemingly trying to see who she was on video call with, immediately i called her attention to it, she just smiled and looked back and said silently, nawa some people for this London nor go mind their business. This very day developed a story that transitioned towards few things I will be stating.

The next sunday, I called her in the morin to say hi and all that, next thing I know she dun dey go church, she nor even discuss am with me and na wetin we dn agree on sey we fo jointly choose church wey we go dey go. After church service, she call me sey that guy wey i talk sey dey peep into her phone, sey the guy that very day asked her how long shes been there for, she said, just 3 weeks, sey how come she come take know road when him don dey 3months he nver know road, sey that same guy him coincidentally meet am for the new church wey she come so, sey the guy dey look am, she comot eye, but later the guy come meet am sey are u not the one that showed me way to where I was going. Sey as him meet the guy coincidentally for church, he fit be sey he get why, maybe for job connection or what not. I nor say anything, cos coincidences arent something new in this world. Then the next day, she call me sey that same guy needs an apartment, sey na married guy with 4 kids, but him wife and 1kid dey here, 3 dey nija them nor fit come yet until house is ready, sey him dey ask her if she can help him get someone that can reference for him to get a house, ha him my wife come dey ginger me sey make i help am talk to my friend wey help us reference if him go fit help the guy too. I come sey no problem, she sey she go call the guy now and put us on 3 way call, i sey no p, i come dey wait for call, no call come and madam nor talk again, i come ring her sey hafa u nor do the three way call again? She sey the guy dey work, him nor fit talk,sey she don give the guy my number to call me later, me come sey no p, send him number I go save am down so if he calls i go know sey na him, madam nor gree send number, I come dey wonder sey wetin dey sup sef, normally I nor spose reason ahead, but me my instict dey very strong, i come begin dey put two and two together sey maybe the guy intention was never to get help but to use style dey hit on my madam maybe na why him nor wan talk to me but wan use my madam dey take communicate.

I come ask madam some some questions on previous ish, I come find out sey small lie dey, so I tackler her sey the way she take explain to me about how him meet the guy for train station nor join, she come vex sey me i come am liar, omo as we dey talk for whatsapp, i nor blv sey my madam added this guy to the call without my consent or my knowledge, so as I dey talk, the guy dey the background, i nor even know anything and the dude himself kept quiet, na after the call finish, I see am for call details sey the guy was added to the call, infact the dude even called me directky i nor pick. Now i got very angry, come call madam sey wetin dey sup, u added this dude wey talk sey him dey work him nor fit talk to the call wey me and u dey on and u didnt even notify me, ok lets agree sey if to sey u wan tell me sey u wan add the guy for call sey i nor go gree sey maybe na why u add am without my consent, at least after u add am secretly, u are suppose to talk and sey bae, since u are accusing me wrongly.

I have added the guy to this call so he can clear me out, but she didnt, she just added the guy and the dude himself kept quiet and didnt say a word until I hung up. I got very furious and told her this is the highest level of see finish and dragging in the mud, wetin u want that guy to dey feel like now? She said shes sorry that she only wanted to clear herself, I was now like even if u wanted to clear urself, if that the best way to go about it, the person who is the subject matter is the best person u need to introduce to clear u out? Later on i just bone the matter come apologise sey make we move on, na so she come begin dey yarn plenty, sey she call the guy that my hubby said that the way we met is unreal, sey the guy sef come talk sey wow, so your husband already thinks am sleeping with you, but i cant blame u though, u know u have a big back side, so thoughts like that from him is likely not a surprise, i was hmmmm to hear that, i come tell madam sey if na true this guy talk this thing, shouldnt u already know he has corny itentions, she said well she too dey wonder cos the two times wey them meet she nor wear wetin fit show her bkside so how d guy come take know. The matter end there, next day madam still dey worry me sey shey I go still help d guy, I was like I cant even talk to him, u dun useless me already for him presence, she dey claim sey she nor do anything wrong by adding him to the call, sey the guy know of agency wey fit help me get better job if i arrive, and sey the guy talk sey if me fit connect am to my friend to reference am for house, him go link me up fr the agency. I talk sey i nor dey interested. Omo I weak. Guys I need advise on how to handle issues over there, cos me nor dey take nonsense for nija here, but for there, one needs to chill, but then should it now be sey because we dey live for country wey give woman power, make woman come use that opportunity come dey fumble?

I'm sorry to say but your wife is acting stupid. As for you, never abuse privilege of your friend in UK use it for your self and your family. Do not reference anybody you don't know. And seeing that women don't think straight, she is bringing a stranger for your UK friend to vouch for, yet you have not settled with your family.
If the man did not meet your wife, won't he survive. He is inconsiderate to be in touch with your wife knowing it's putting strain on her marriage. Was your wife this trusting of strangers in Nigeria before she traveled or is it a new trust habit. If new,it's likely she knew him from before in Naija. Your wife is showing negative signs that makes me fear for you. You are in Nigeria, concerned about her well being at night and she is carefree. God give you strength. Let her family know the negative signs Yiu are being so that when it happens you can tell them you showed them the signs early. Most women are ingrates.

One 50cl bottle of kunu

I understand she is your wife's twin sister. But the sister moving in without requesting your consent is inconsiderate. You did not mention how many kids you have for yourself .
Your wife not telling you was silly of her.
Does she not have any other siblings to help or her dead husband's siblings? This is sheer inconsideration. Go home,tell her you wil give them two weeks for family sake, but she has to move after, as the burden is too much,unless you are living fake life for their family .
You are not stupid for planning your family. Don't let another person who did not plan their family inconvenience you. If you start failing to meet your responsibility, none may help you. Think of yourself and your family first

I understand ikoyi are still on collection slips starting with 269. My slip starts with 270. I captured August 24

Good. Now publish names of all false rape accusers and women found to have done paternity fraud

MalcomX009:
As anyone who captured August collected passport from the Ikoyi office… it should be out this week but I’m still on pending production not issued yet it’s now 6 weeks after my capturing..

Today makes it 7 weeks for me. I captured August 24. Anyone with update for passport collection who captured in August?

Anybody who votes for APC after seeing the damage Buhari has done to this economy,
Tinubu's ill health,
the power weilded by touts in Lagos govt like Oluomo,
the #ENDSARS experience,
the hoarded palliative scandal,
the rot and incompetence of Centra Bank in managing economic and monetary policy and many more

is part of the Nigerian problem. How people will shamelessly promote lies is beyond me. During endsars, it was other people's kids who died, this time around, the lasting effect of Tinubu's corrupt ways will affect your unborn children and grand children if care is not taken. Tinubu knows he is close to death. He is going there to loot for his family before death comes.someone with so much scandals tied to him like Chicago, Drugs, Bullion, Dead Journalist, assassinated rivals Funsho Williams, does not deserve to be given power in any sane society

Your wife is lazy.
Read the riot act to her to step up or face the consequences. No one can care for a baby more than the mother. If she can't care for the kids, is it not a shame that a maid would do better? Is it not better to have such a maid than an idle wife?

You have bee too nice. Be firm

Dalil8:
Two Words; Inferiority Complex.

Either that or extreme narcissism.

You can see their so called feminist counterparts here in Africa. They are bitter, old, dull, full of hate, ugly, usually obese/overweight, least desirable.

In all my years I've never seen a young & beautiful feminist.

Like Kate Henshaw. Very bitter, angry
Every alleged rape or molestation case, she is there. But when her cousin Andre Blaze of big brother Naija voice was accused of rape by one BBC journalist, she went silent

Bradford111:
My girlfriend just broke up with me for no reason she was supposed to visit me today but couldn't make it only for me to wake up to this text

Female hypergamy at play
1. She got admission to university like you said at 18 and you will be going next year at 20. She feels she has passed you
2. Women do not break up without securing another relationship, there is another guy.
3. Thank your stars you are just 20 and you learned this. Some 35years+ men are still making the mistake. Ignore women. You can date for fun, not for love as you cannot provide her with her needs, you are competing for her with established men,some are final year students or post NYSC workers.
4. Than God. Ignore her, don't call her or block her. Go no contact. And when she finally reaches out to you break it with her by cutting her off.
5. You will see better, fresher, younger girls, by the time in 5 years time and she won't be your type anymore

I knew when he posted it initially, it would be evidence to implicate himself

I DMed her and asked for her number, she said I should pay for it. I said I will pay to fvxk her only and if she doesn't name a price, I'd block her. She thought I was joking. I blocked her