₦airaland Forum

paul100:
The bible also said God is angry with the wicked everyday

It’s my hope that Daddy Freeze experiences what Living Faith Church has experienced with these Fulani herdsmen terrorists— looking forward to seeing if he would curse/call the police/take some retributive action... Or bless them.

grandstar:
Most of all he wrote here about Buhari, or all of it is all bunkum, pure garbage only fit for the dustbin.

If what he said is true, why is Dasuki still chopping beans in his cell despite him being granted bail? Dasuki is from the royal house in Sokoto. Why did Sokoto state vote for Tambuwal rather than the APC candidate? Why was he mute when Ganduje diminshed the size Emir of Kano's chiefdom? The Emir of Kano by the way is the highest ranking Emir is Nigeria and is Fulani.

I doubt that is the writer's real name.

I am apolitical. I am not a fan of Buhari but the truth must be said rather espousing conspiracy theories that make only sense to the tribalistic at heart.

First of all, Dasuki is not in a cell. He is under house arrest. “House arrest” is when you stay at home, get everything provided for you— from food to wifi to your family— but you don’t go out. Let’s call it some kind of retirement.

The rest of your submission doesn’t really invalidate any of the writer’s point, like you know. Looks like it’s missed the point. As expected.

chosengocap:
PERSPECTIVE: BUHARI THE GREATEST LEADER FROM NORTHERN NIGERIA AFTER UTHMAN DAN FODIO

by Aare Kurunmi Kakanfo

You can call General Muhammadu Buhari all sort of names, but what I can assure you is that his popularity is increasing all over core Northern Nigeria and across the sahel region of West Africa. The Fulani with the brainwashed Hausa vassals will fight and die for him. General Buhari is one of the most intelligent and courageous leader the fulani controlled territory has ever produced.

He is always two steps ahead of his distractors and he understands history, power and what it takes to build a civilization. General Buhari understands that there is nothing called One Nigeria in any sense, it is only an opportunity for his Nomadic fulani kinsmen to survive and build a Fulani country using the sweat and wealth of others legally or illegally under the guise of patriotism and humanity.

He understands that the South and Middle belt are treacherous and can be used against each other. For the records Fulanis Semitic people who are from the Arab stock. Fulanis don't see black Africans as equals and we will never be seen as equals. Fulanis are masters of deceit, Chaos, they understand how to take control of anarchy to further their interests. They are united in crime and good deeds. They know when to sue for peace and when to crush their enemies.

They staged a revolution using the Hausa peasants to destroy Hausa kingdoms and take over lands and kingdoms of the Hausas. They also staged a revolution in Oyo empire by conniving with a Yoruba general Afonja together with some Yoruba peasants.

They took over power in Nigeria by using the middle belt Generals to launch a counter coup against the Igbo dominated first republic in order to consolidate their grip on other ethnic groups in Nigeria. They understand power, unity and they are master stategists. Buhari has appointed strictly minority Fulani as security chiefs in an heterogeneous country like Nigeria. He has built Baro water port for the North.

He has approved the building of modern railway from Nigeria to Maradi in Niger Republic in order to integrate the economy of his kinsmen in the sahel. He has also approved the building of oil Refinery in his hometown in Katsina where there is no barrel of crude oil.

Go to Federal ministries in Abuja, almost all the ministries have been dominated from top to bottom with fulani youths who went to university through the quota system while their southern counterparts with First class are in cyber Cafe looking for scholarship opportunities to flee the feudal contraption called Nigeria.

NNPC, CBN and NPA workforce are dominated by the fulanis. They are in all the lucrative and juicy positions across Nigeria. In the next 30years, they will continue to be permanent secretaries in the federal Civil service. The Sharia infested Decree is a Northern constitution and for the first time a Sharia lawyer is now the chief Justice.

He is decimating the Shiites and empowering the Sunnis. He is buying up traditional rulers all over the south while killing, maiming and detaining southern freedom fighters. He doesn't want to hear anything like true federalism or restructuring and he is hell bent in creating pure Fulani local government areas for his fulani kinsmen all over Southern Nigeria in a bid to destroy the internal ethnic cohesion of the southern Nigeria.

To do this the northern borders are even more open, his fulani kinsmen has mercenaries to glue the Nigerian nation under the Sokoto Caliphate. As we speak he has used Oil money from the south to establish Fulani radio for the fulanis, which is something that has never happened before.

Thousands of southerners and Middle belterns have been wiped out by the the ongoing Fulani genocide and not a single fulani man has been arrested or prosecuted. Buhari shows no remorse for his fulanocentric policies and continues to March on to decimate his percieved enemies.

Buhari understands power and he has done what no fulani man in post colonial times can do for his people. He knows that southern political elites think along party lines while the fulani elites think along ethnic lines. He knows southerners are treacherous, corrupt and saboteurs and he is using that weakness with ruthless wisdom.

If you are a Yoruba, Edo , Igbo, Tiv, , Efik etc and after reading this article with all these open facts you are still shouting One Nigeria or still screaming APC or PDP under the present 1999 Military Decree then you need to be shot at sight because you are a danger to humanity and your race.

God bless Oduduwa Republic.
Aare Kurunmi Kakanfo.

This is some hot truth, man.

Tinubu’s online apologists should come and read this.

Kingosytex:
How did we get to this stage? How could people derive joy in taking lives that they cannot give? How can people not care about the sacredness of human lives? Those robbers are cursed in the name of JESUS, their end is near and they must surely meet their waterloo.

R.I.P to the dead!

It must be those Fulani Herdsmen terrorists from Gambia, Mali, etc. Same style of inhuman killings they do in these war torn areas of Africa. Same exact style.

Ritzy10:
Nigeria’s ambassador, Olusola Ojemane Orevba, in the Democratic Republic of Congo was evicted from his residence in the elitist district of Gombe, Kinshasa, the capital city, where most diplomats live.

In a video making rounds online, the Ambassador's properties could be seen thrown out by Police and men of the task force.

The parcel of land has been under dispute for many years between the Nigerian embassy and the Congolese Jean-Claude Okito.

According to an American-based Nigerian Journalist, Jackson Ude, who shared the video, he wrote;



Watch the video
https://zenithnaija.com/nigerian-embassy-ambassador-in-dr-congo-ejected-from-his-home-by-police-video/

The Congolese government cannot do this to the Kenyan Ambassador. Or the South African. Or the Ghanian.

They know that Nigeria's President is so intellectually unfit for office that he will either be (1) Unaware of this act or (2) Release a weak statement through Abike Dabiri and that is it.

Why the South West and North of Nigeria did this wicked thing to Nigerians is something they must tell this generation of Nigerians and future generations.

abdulkayus:
PRESSID may have been dominated by the southerner but don't say there are no northerners with first class. There are lot of them, genuine one for that matter, ask anyone that who know who studied in the North to tell u more. Although, I am also not OK with PMB cancelling out the PRESSID.

Chief, I do not agree with that word, "Most".
I do not want to reveal much about myself, but I studied in what you call the "core North". I travelled around Federal and State government colleges on debates and quiz competitions in the North West, East and Central. I did JETS club competitions while at University. I had most of my entire life lived in the North. The core North. There are some exceptionally brilliant Northerners, yes. "Most"? There is no evidence that supports this argument. None. Because it is not true. Even Northerners (who are generally honest people), will tell you it is not true. PTDF reduced their requirement from a 2.1 to 2.2. Go and ask anyone who knows PTDF the real reasons why this was done.

antagonist:
were you born this foolish or did you learn it from somebody?

He was born foolish, I think.

dokiOloye:
Most northerners are smart.
Their only problem is widespread lack of education.
Then comes Islam which 1st of all inhibits women and encourages feudalism which is exploited by their elites to keep their masses perpetually in bondage.

Most northerners are smart.

Not sure where is the evidence that supports this statement. Because there is no evidence. In all the possible indicies to qualify and quantify "smartness" they are not on it. In fact the PRESSID Scholarship got cancelled by Buhari because of Northerners angling for it to be cancelled were mad that it was a struggle finding a 1st Class Northern graduate at all, let alone one who passed the PRESSID tests and interviews.

Let us say things as they are. No one will beat you for the truth. It would rather help them.

MeeztaSoft:
I moved into this nice apartment a year ago while the business I was doing was booming. Things were moving very fine and I am single because I have not had time for ladies for years now.

The landlord and his family have their own separate building inside the same compound and the landlord is someone who works with an offshore company so he is usually away for quite a while.

The kids are in secondary school so most times the landlords wife is usually alone and runs a mini supermarket in front of the compound. Being that my business has really gone very slow and money isnt flowing like before, I hardly go out and just try to do some online freelance jobs while am still hoping on starting another business. Because of this the landlords wife have been really pressuring me for sex and I keep finding excuses to avoid it. My rent is due very soon and she knows am sort of broke because I owe some credit in her shop and she has secretly started telling me that she will make sure I am removed from the house if I don't agree to her request.

This is very sad because I love the house and the husband is a very nice man. Their kids are also very fund of me like I am their elder brother. Even if I have to move out I don't even have the money right now and the problem is that it was the lady who gave me the house being that her husband wasn't around then and he comes from time to time.

I am so very confused that I had to come here to see if I could get any good advice from good people here.

Sex with a married woman is a NO.

DO. NOT. TRY. IT.

For 10 minutes pleasure (?) you want to ruin your entire life?

Jewingle:
Good morning good people of Nairaland. Please I need your input on this.


I have a friend that recently got married to a young beautiful lady from Thailand. She came to Nigeria, they got married and after everything they both traveled to Thailand .

Now, his wife wants him to forfeit his Nigerian passport to gain Thailand passport since they don’t allow dua citizenship. I adviced him to go ahead with the Thailand passport since this could be once in a lifetime opportunity because he was really contemplating on weather it’s a good idea or not.

Pls travel gurus and experts. What’s your take on this?
Is this move a good idea? Would it affect him in the future? Please advice from travel experts and experienced folks will be deeply appreciated

A Thailand passport adds more value to one than a Nigerian passport. But this isnt just about value. He is, first, a black man. He will be treated as a black man, irrespective of what passport he carries. If it was only about value, I would say, "go for the Thailand passport".
However, renouncing citizenship is a different thing entirely. He may need his Nigerian citizenship in the future. It depends on where he plans to be and how he sees his life in the next 30-50 years.
This is a Thai passport. Not a US or UK or Australian passport. He needs a lot of thinking to do. If he doesnt see himself in Nigeria in the long-term, then ditch the Nigerian passport. If he does, then just go for a residence permit.

Finally, he should not let the woman, or love or any other emotions think for him. His decision should be made on facts and logic. Else it will come to hunt him.

SingleGuy9999:
Good day guys, I'm not really too active here, but this is a 2nd account I created for this. I am 22 year old student in my final year. But I've never had a girlfriend, also I have never had sex, but that is not the major problem as I can easily get a hooker and pay. I feel I'm pretty good looking, at least average. This would be a little long, pls try to read through.

My problem is I can't seem to get a girlfriend, I have been rejected by girls like 7 times in a row or more...I don't meet that many girls but I do go out and meet sha and if I like a girl and I feel she's someone I can date I ask her out. If we aren't really vibing I just delete their numbers and forget about them. But I keep getting rejected by all the girls I've asked out, they either see me as a friend and tell me stuff like I'm a good friend or they not ready for a relationship or that they feel I have no feelings for them...like wtf

It's really frustrating so much that it's literally killed every confidence I have to ask girls out. Like the last 3 girls I wanted to ask out I ended up not bothering since I know it'll end same way...planned to ask one out today but I just couldn't stand to get rejected again...cos even tho I think what I'm getting might be green light I'm not sure about girls anymore...in fact now I'm no longer sure if the girls I think liked me before ever did (I wasn't interested in them so I didn't ask them out). Even the one who made me lose all hope was after spending so much time with a girl, I was asking her out for 4 months, I never tot I'd ever ask a girl out that long but I was blinded by love...and we spent so much time together, my friends kept wondering if we were dating but she never said yes even tho she said she liked me too but kept giving excuses...and I pretty much abandoned chasing other girls in for that while...but I still got a no at the end with story changed to she tot she liked me but was just trying to as she could see I was in love with her and didn't wanna break my heart...

That killed my confidence, and I'm not blaming her or anyone...now since then I've only asked 2 girls out, and I still got rejected...

I spend time with the girls, we hang out, flirt, chat etc but they would never date me... I've gotten so lonely as I want to date someone I truly care about and I have even questioned if it's possible for 2 people to fall in love with each other out of the billions of people on earth.

I've heard from someone that I play with girls too much so they won't take me seriously, another was that I'm nice (I don't think I'm that "nice guy" cos I won't go extra mile for any girl just cos I like her, but I'm understanding and I think I tend to make excuses for people when they disappoint). And I'm tired of girls seeing me as a friend, or being taken for granted. In fact my best female friend is one who I asked out before.

When I see people dating I wonder if they from another planet, I can't figure out what's wrong...is it that I have no luck with girls? I have gone online, read books etc. They all keep saying same thing...they talk about confidence but I had that...tho right now I just fake it cos all my confidence is gone with numerous rejections. Then I read about working on yourself, I have done that, I may not be anywhere near the freshest guy but at least I'm sure I'm okay. They talk about creating tension and stuff by making contact and I do that, I hold them around the waist etc....

So far I even read that I shouldn't blame myself or stop trying to figure out what went wrong when I face rejections, that's what I'm doing now...but nothing seems to be changing. I rarely spend time with girls again, except some good friends, and instead I've been focusing more on my hobbies cos I now see it as a waste of time when it only ends in rejection. I think of going out with a girl but I just rather sit at home or spend more time with my guys or even spend the money on them cos I'm fed up. The thought even crossed my mind to give up on girls since it never seems to work...I'm not used to multiple failure as even in other stuff I don't fail as much, but I just can't seem to get it to work with girls. Everything seems fine at first and going smoothly but it all ends with rejection.
I don't wanna give up on girls and I know there's nothing left of my confidence when it comes to girls, tho I fake it...and I will never result to insulting girls just cos of my rejection.

Pls I need real advice on what to do, I have exhausted all my options, and today I resolved to never ask any girl out till I'm 99% sure she'll say yes, but is that even possible? I know every guy gets rejected but it's not easy when u get rejected several times in a row by girls you have serious feelings for.

Should I just cut my losses and give up on girls? For months I spent time on other things and never really cared about any girl any longer but now that feeling is back with this new girl but I can't even ask her out cos I can't say for sure what her reply would be... maybe a no as I usually get...

Pls don't insult me or call me names I just need advice that would help

“22 years old and in your final year....”

You should be thanking God that girls have rejected you. Why don’t you forget about girls and focus on your studies? Graduate with a First Class. Get a decent job or attempt a scholarship + Masters abroad. Get into a decent job.

Ladies will be at your beck and call. Ignore them, bro. They are not worth it. Not at your age and level.

agabusta:
Court freezes accounts linked to former Lagos governor, Ambode, over N9.9bn alleged fraud


A Lagos Division of the Federal High Court on Tuesday ordered the freezing of three bank accounts allegedly linked to the Lagos State government and former governor, Akinwunmi Ambode, over an alleged N9.9 billion fraud.

Chuka Obiozor, the judge, ordered the temporary freezing of the accounts, domiciled in Zenith Bank, Access Bank, and First City Monument Bank, following an exparte application brought by the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission.

According to the EFCC, N9.9 billion was paid from the state government’s accounts into the FCMB account opened on September 17, 2018, and operated by Adewale Adesanya, the permanent secretary in the Office of the Chief of Staff to Mr Ambode.

The anti-graft commission urged the court to freeze the account pending the conclusion of their investigation and possible prosecution of Mr Adesanya.

In an affidavit filed in support of the ex parte application, Kungmi Daniel, a member of the EFCC investigating team, said the schedule of the FCMB account showed how Mr Adesanya and the other signatories to the account made fraudulent fund transfers into the account from the accounts of the Lagos State Government.

“The trend in the account is that the account always witnessed huge inflow from Lagos State Government in the above-scheduled accounts managed by the respondent (Adesanya),” the investigator said.

He said the commission received an intelligence on the transfers, analysed it, and found it worthy of investigation.

The EFCC prayed the court to grant it an order to temporarily attach and take over the accounts to enable it to conclude its investigations.

“There have been concerted efforts and attempts to dissipate the contents of the accounts listed in the schedule to this application,” the EFCC said.

“Without freezing the nominated accounts and temporarily forfeiting the money to the Government of the Federal Republic of Nigeria, there is no way the fraud being perpetrated using the scheduled accounts can be stopped.”

The judge, after listening to the EFCC’s lawyer, Mohammed Abbas, ordered the ”suspension” of the accounts and adjourned till September 9.

https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/headlines/345340-court-freezes-accounts-linked-to-former-lagos-governor-ambode-over-n9-9bn-alleged-fraud.html

He went to declare the Tinubu's chosen god-son and Lagos state governor was a patient in a mental home and takes drugs... Then thinks that he would go free?

Ambode, this is not how politicians roll. One does not need to be in politics to know this.
Tinubu and his newly installed Puppet will deal with you.

kiiingemmy:
https://alwaysnaija.com/uploads/2019/08/1565109486_Philippe-Coutinho4.jpg



Arsenal have completed the signing of attacking midfielder, Philippe Coutinho from Barcelona.


According to L'Equipe, Coutinho joined the Premier League giants on a season-long loan.


Speaking on Coutinho recently, Arsenal manager, Unai Emery told SER: "We've never talked about Coutinho.


"He's a splendid player, but we haven't talked about Coutinho at any time."


Coutinho joined Barcelona from Liverpool in a £142million deal in January 2018.


He has failed to impress since arriving from the UEFA Champions League winners despite playing his part in two La Liga title wins.


The 27-year-old was expected to replace Barcelona legend, Andres Iniesta, but hasn't made the desired impact.


source: https://alwaysnaija.com/forum/Entertainment/Sports/70150-transfer-arsenal-finally-sign-coutinho-from

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Fake news.
Why is this on here?

slick1:
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Inasmuch as I am not pleased with M. Buhari's government, I cannot say that of Goodluck Jonathan was excellent. However, I think it's this government that fits Nigerians.

Where are the Soyinkas, Pat Utomis, Odumakins, Olu Falaes, Edwin Clarksetc. that were always so quick to condemn Jonathan. Now they are scared of being arrested should they criticize the current government.

As long as politics is concerned in this part of the world it will always be about personal interests first for politicians and their allies. The ones who don't get anything become pained and come out to protest when in truth they are fighting for their stomachs. I refuse to be used as a pawn in their games.

LOL.
If you want an "excellent government", you will need to go to heaven. That is where individuals are excellent, and the government is excellent.
I recall one interview where Chinua Achebe was asked why he made the protagonists in his books to have serious flaws. His reply was simple: "because I am writing about humans", he said. "Humans have flaws". There is no excellent government on earth, sir.

GEJ government was doing fairly appreciably well on most counts. Unless we want to lie to ourselves, this was true. On the Human Development Index, his government was doing fairly well. This is what is most important to Sub-Saharan African states. You need to crawl before you start to walk.

Despite this, he was hated and despised. Because, lets face it, of the tribal nature of Nigeria's current politics. The North (who feel power is their birthright) teamed up with the South West (who should know better due to Western education) and he was regime-changed. The Western world always wanted to remove an African government which is doing well for its people. From Nkrumah (CIA) to Sankara (The French) to Lumumba of Congo (CIA, Belgian Intelligence) the West always activate regime change when an African state is showing signs of heading towards true independence. They mistakenly allowed China and India to get away. They wouldn't allow Nigeria as that could have ramifications across West Africa and Africa. Nigeria was topping the economic investment charts despite Boko Haram’s violence and that was all the imperialists needed to go into panic mode. Obama, the UK and Clinton teamed up with the Northerners and South Westerners and the rest is history.

Frankly, Buhari is a lesson which Nigerians really need. By the time this regime is through with Nigerians, tribal politics may go into a long stage of comatose. "Go harder Buhari!" is my conclusion. Nigerians need the lesson.

Tomorrow when Nigerians see a PhD holder and someone whose secondary school certificate is in doubt, there will be no rationalisation or, according to a friend, "unnecessary big grammar".

Born2Breed:
Are you sure is not Evans?

May you have the same experience that she had so you will help us discover if it is Evans or Fulani herdsmen terrorists.

Beverlyjean:
U just showed us one road in Maiduguri and called it Maiduguri and that's all u c in Maiduguri

That’s the point. To sell and spread a particular narrative.

Ask him to show you Polo Jidari, Baga Road, Bama Road, Custom Ciki, Maimalari Barracks, not just Post Office area or Lagos Bridge. Or Monday Market to see the militarisations of a civilian market.

@OP some of us here know Borno State like the back of our hands. Don’t push us.

Anonymus010:
I Need The Advice Of Experienced Married Men

NB: This is not my real account, I created this account for the purpose of this issue.

Please, I need the advice of married people (especially married men). I will make the story as simple as possible and I promise not to compromise the truth to favour me in this issue.

Brief Introduction: I am a man in my late 20's. Got married last year and currently have a 3month baby.

Brief history of my relationship prior to marriage: I dated my wife for 4years before we finally tied the knot last year. I met her in the university, we were classmate in school.

Before I started dating my wife, I was dating a girl in the same class but we both agreed to separate after 1year because we were age mate and she was keen on getting married immediately after graduation which I knew I will not be ready for marriage by then (Note: No sex in the relationship, She was a virgin and because I couldn't assure her of marriage, I didn't sex her).

After the break up with my ex, I became close to my wife and we started dating. She was self sufficient as she had a source of income while in school, she supports me, gives me money, cooks and buy me food etc. She was the best woman any man can think of. I fell in love along the line and decided this is the right lady to marry.

Note: There were several backlashes from other classmates insinuating she snatched me from my ex but we scaled through all that. We dated for 2more years in school and we graduated. We dated for another 2more years post school till last year.

Brief history immediately before marriage: Everything was fine till my wife's birthday last year. I did tripple shifts at work(48hrs work non-stop) and came back a night before her birthday and slept off. I woke up 2:30am to wish her happy birthday. She got angry and told me I didnt put her in mind and that I was not the first person to wish her happy birthday (She later told me her ex wished her first at exactly 12am). I apologised to her and told her the reason I missed the time. I had just 10k, gave her 5k to do a birthday photoshoot, used about 3k to buy her goodies as salary has not been paid.

Fast forward to after 1week of the birthday, she came up with serious issue, saying she wanted a break but not total break-up for some months to put herself together. She lamented she was not getting anything from the relationship, I don't usually take her out, I didnt celebrate her birthday well for her, I didnt buy cake, I didnt buy gift etc. I apologised and pleaded with her to be patient as we had big projects before us (wedding, masters degree and family apartment) which she knew I was saving for. We settled it and had sex. After 7days, I saw a call log on her phone where she had a conversation with her ex for almost an hour between 11pm and 12am. After 1month, she missed her menses and was pregnant. I asked her if she ever saw her ex, she cried and swore that she didn't (Note: I trusted her because she is modest and she is not the sex type). So, I agreed, accepted the preg, quickly arranged an impromptu wedding, I quickly sourced for money, spent over N2million on the wedding......

THE PROBLEM:

2weeks after the weeding, my wife started abusing my family especially my mum, telling me she hated how my family behaved during the wedding. I pleaded with her not to allow this to affect our home. The insults and abuse became perpetual. My wife works from home and will give me several reasons why she cannot cook after giving her money for food stuffs once I collect salary. Its just 2 of us living in a mini flat & I wash my clothes myself, but she will give me thousands of reasons how the non-existent house shores prevent her from cooking.

After 9months, she gave birth, I asked her who she wanted to come do omugo with the baby between her mum and my mum. She opted for my mum (claimed her mum will be giving her problem). Not up to 1week that my mum came over, she has started complaining about everything she does. Despite the fact that this woman will wake up 5am, wash everybody's clothes, bath the baby but she doesnt cook. My wife started complaining about her being obligated to cook every morning because of my mum's presence(Note: she doesnt cook in the morning, if I am going to work by 8am, I will either warm a left over previous night's food or source for food outside). When the complain was becoming overwhelming to the point of her almost insulting my mum in my presence, I told her I will tell my mum to go back to her house( my mum lives in a mini flat too with my dad, so they are very comfortable). She said I shouldn't. After 1 month, my mum left. The abuse, insults and complain continued. She will nag about how my mum did when she was with us, abuse and insults my family. I will appeal to her and defend my family. My wife became complete opposite of who she was when we were dating.

The real issue at hand: We would be migrating to the US soon. Lately, I can't control my wife, anytime I don't buy her idea or wish, she will rain insults on me. Just 3days ago, she told me I don't have sense repeatedly just because she said we should go and greet her mum's pastor which I told her not now but we can go later. If I tell her to do something, she will do otherwise and give me thousand of reasons she can't do it. 2months ago, I reported all her attitudes to her mum, her mum talked to her but no change, she is getting worse. Last week, I did 24hours at work, I got home, my wife didn't cook. I got into the kitchen, made custard and placed the soup on the gas cooker. We were both in the living room. She perceived the soup was getting burnt and insulted me, telling me it was because I was not the one that dropped money for the soup, thats why I wanted to burn it (She cooked the soup with her money because my salary was delayed). She insults me at will, gives me no respect and treat me as trash.(Note: I had never cheated on her and she doesn't doubt my fidelity. Likewise, I had never suspected her of such too).

I am currently scared because I know US is women's world because I have included her and the kid as my dependents in my green card petition. I am scared for my life and career because she could go worse in the US and destroy all I have laboured for.

Please kindly advise me on what I can do to change her.

Sorry for the long write up and any grammatical errors.

Sorry about the marital issues. Frankly, reading things like these scares me off women. Even women will tell you that they change once married (a woman, married for 23 years told me this).

Can’t say much asides that (1) You need an experienced marriage counsellor [this medium is not the best place for these sort of critical, life-changing issues] and (2) Do NOT take her to the States yet till your marriage is repaired.

With her kind of attitude, in the United States of America, you can kiss bye bye to your marriage and your life as a man. She will own you, use you and prevent you from going elsewhere. The law protects her. If you react, you’ll spend the rest of your life in jail— obviously she doesn’t love you, so she won’t mind if you do so. Get your US Visa and keep giving excuses for not travelling till your marriage is sorted out.

May God bring healing to your young family.

Bighead9:
The Criminals are from the Region that have only 5 Governor's.

Hehehe... You meant to say, 15 governors?

Since 20 were present. Don’t worry. Everyone understands

Bighead9:
Combination of Drug pushers, Ritualist, Kidnappers, Armed Robbers, Baby factory owners, Prostitutes e.t.c from the East.

20 governors attended, according to the news which you read..

The East has just 5 governors.

So more Drug pushers, Ritualist, Kidnappers, Armed Robbers, Baby factory owners, Prostitutes came in the form of 15 governors from the West and North.
See how you are yabbing the whole of Nigeria with style. Sense will not kill you

midolian:
Sowore actually needs help..

This man contested election and lost like his party didn't appear on the ballot paper. After elections, he was accused by party members of massive looting of hard-earned campaign funds. This is the same person who wants to lead revolution.

The m0r0n even wants to set himself ablaze out of frustration...As we all know, suicide is a crime in the Nigerian constitution, so his arrest is in order. You never can tell how many m0r0ns like him would want to roast their skin for few days fame(which of course will come after death)...as the most common kind of followership we have in this country is blind followership.

I don't have a problem with his so called revolution but with the supporters of this revolution. Majority of his supporters are from the condemned end of the country and we all know whatever they support fails in the end..If you are really interested in a positive change, start from your various local governments and states. your local government chairmen and governors are busy shaping their present and future with what is meant to shape your present and future..and all you lots can do is to leave your states to settle in other people's states wherein you complain as if you were sold to them as slaves ...

...And when the government of the day tries to prosecute them, you guys flood social media with jargons as if the country belongs to the criminals you worship...it doesn't even stop there,..you guys even troop out in numbers chanting bunkums like "Our son is being witch-hunted", "Nigeria will burn if our son is not released and bla bla bla"...

Lastly to my misguided brothers from the condemned end, if you really care about this country, you would have thought about revolution when the drunk hat-man was in power, when he and his shapeless wife ran this country like it was a beer parlour...but No, you guys won't! because you benefitted from the rot in the system the most. Now that things are going back to normal, you are thinking revolution...

let's see how far you can go!

Not sure if your misguided brothers (whom I believe are the Fulani Herdsmen terrorists/ Meyitti Allah) are actually on Nairaland.

But you are right in one thing: they stand condenmed since they have swore to make Nigeria under Buhari ungovernable by kidnapping and maiming and raping Nigerians.

thesicilian:
Sight victims in the forest? And they came back to post tell us first, before going back to re-site and rescue them.

Hahahaha!

You are wise. Propaganda government regime.

gwarotango:
Empty threats all over again. Nobody is going anywhere

Lol.

Actually, history doesn’t show this. From history, the Hausa/Fulanis immediately leave in trucks and “911” lorries when warnings like these are given. On the contrary, the South Easterners and South Southerners do not leave the North UNTIL the predicted violence by the Northerners start.

It shouldn’t get to this, one prays. It’s only a miracle that the divisive regime of Buhari hasn’t yet throw Nigeria into the abyss.

Emma4321:
I could've posted in the job section but I was denied access.

Pls people I had to open a new account to avoid some things, I am working in a bank as PA to the state area manager, they started me with 11k march 2018 with promise of increase but till today I'm still earning 11k, pls note the 11k don't even take me through the month and basically not a single savings since I started.

Pls nairalanders should I quit this draining job or should I continue?
Note I don't have any other thing to do for now but I think I'm hustling backward.

Pls I need ur candid advise here cos I'm so confused

Put in your best at work. I mean your VERY, VERY, BEST.
Go over-the-top. Exceed targets. Smile. Say "thank you". Offer to do things more than you've been asked.
Be proactive and take the initiative to develop tasks, future frameworks, etc. Be respectful. Come very early to work. Close late. Do these continously for a full month. I would normally advise to do this for 3 full months.

And then, at the end of the month, tender your resignation.
They will make you a better offer, most likely. Then make your decision.

Made4naijalove:
A male corper draws the attention of other corpers as he knelt down before his girlfriend who was smiling and extremely excited about getting proposed to.

unfortunately it turned out to be a prank on her side,

Do you think he went too far?

Watch video

source :

https://www.made4naija.com/a-male-corper-pranks-his-girlfriend-with-a-fake-proposal-video/

This is NOT funny.

You are simply ridiculing another human being.

ericsmith:
These one you're so sure, e be like say ur F& f dey do BMC , please where did they apply, i av my passport ready. 3000k a week go settle my pot of soup 4 now. bros please use ur connection 4 me

Don't worry. I am sure you are already getting many messages since your initial post.

Like you have just agreed, your Buhari has damaged Nigeria to the point of being the world capital of poverty. I expect people to contact you for the BMC allowance and modalities (if they haven't done so already).

greggng:
I have heard you mention BMC member...what is it all about...I want to be educated ...I wouldn't mind having the 3k a week to add to my income...for your information I do sell cars and I have a car stand....I have no dealings with any gov't ...I love to comment and have my opinion on issues. I am answerable to God and my conscience. Educate me on what you mean by bmc if is not Ilegal work, I am in

Lol.

You are a true BMC member They never ever accept their membership. I have not understood why. I think it’s a professional employment. Don’t you think so? At least you get paid!

Thankfully, everyone at least on NL, knows their modus operandi

greggng:
Why would I be sad even when a PhD holder like Jonathan couldn't change anything. ...where is the place of your certificate in all this....I rest my case

Again, we understand your sadness. Buhari’s incompetency has driven Nigeria to the poverty capital of the world, to the point where old and young have seen no hope and have taken to suicide. This is enough to make even non-Nigerians sad.

But you’ve got to work for you N3000 per week! You are a BMC member with a conscience. Well-done. There are few like you.

greggng:
If waec said he has, who are you to say he doesn't have? Is he the first person to lost his certificate? We are been unnecessarily petty over this matter...over flogging a dead issue....ofcource only comedy will come out of it....atiku can only cum inside his wife

Again, I do not blame you.
This epistle you are writing with your BMC data would have been used for other things if Buhari’s so-called certificate was as clear and as honest as yours.

I know you are sad at the way Buhari’s incompetency has driven Nigeria to the brink and a failed state status, but I understand, you must eat food from the N3000 per week BMC gives you.

So write on. The world understands.

Demoore:
Atiku and Buhari are two different individuals, so could you please stop lumping them together like siamese twins which they are not?

I personally would prefer an Atiku Presidency to a lethargic incompetent Buhari Presidency.

That’s their next propaganda. To loop Atiku and the incompetent Buhari/Abba Kyari together and perpetuate a dual propaganda of incompetence.

So it’s intentional. The good thing is that Nigerians are more aware than before. APC’s national incompetence is no more national. It’s international.

Jchi9876:
You are still high on Atiku's cum

Again, I do not blame you. Or the BMC Jabi Brigade you propaganda for. If only Buhari had an authentic WAEC certificate (or NECO, like you do) I’m sure you would have simply uploaded it here.


No, we don’t blame you.