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Well if your mind tells you something is wrong then you need to decide if you should stay with her and be blaming her secretly for your problems, or you walk away and see if things change . Or you could fast and pray hard for a breakthrough. Some people believe in "spirits" in relationship. If your spirits are clashing then its nobody's fault but you're not meant to be together. All this is just hogwash. I don't believe in any of it. What I think is that since you met her you've not been taking your future/life seriously and you need to face reality, strive harder and keep the girl!!

LOL.
Sorry but the topic is too over the top to be taken seriously .

Well spoken, mohawkchic: Rachel never really had her own identity and that could be part of the problem. Rihanna made sure she was established as a star before she decided to shave her hair off!!! .

About Joe, not all guys can have big afros like Jamie, or big mouths like Danyl --- or even crazylegs like Olly!!! All Joe has is his voice and a cuteish persona. If only he was droolable like Lloyd, then he'll be a definite shoo-in to win !!

Lol, no need to threaten me . I remember the audition quite well. He couldn't sing; his voice was so-so. BUT. He slammed the song on performance level. I prefer Jamie's first audition: that was the real deal. So, as to his popularity in the US--well, as the Americans themselves would say: Big deal .

Kenny_G, Danyl is ok, I just think he's 80% cockiness, 10% charisma and 10% talent . He gets away with it because he knows how to present himself, unlike poor Rachel.

mystikal, you gat it about Jamie being like Kravitz, tho' he'll be a sensitive, lovable version of Mr Rock & Soul. Jamie's song on Friday sent chills down my back. He gets better by the week, at least Simon is doing something right .

^^Wow. Sanaa is sizzling. I've admired her since she acted as Snipes' mother in Blade. She gets hotter over time.

Ok @mazaje. To disagree is not a crime .

And thanks for the info and good for those Danish, Swedish, Finnish etc who don't believe in hell. But if they don't believe in God too then that's a different story. No one should base their faith/salvation on the fear of anything, certainly not of hell. I'm mainly indifferent to the issue of hell in any case. I do believe there's such a place but it's not the fear of it that makes me serve my God . Ok??

@mazaje I wonder why you're attacking everyone's replies, why can't you state your case and stop trying to argue with everybody/anybody? I don't need to defend my beliefs, I was simply answering the question. Think just how much more evil the world will be if there was no notion of hell, or if it didn't exist. Those that are already bad will be downright iniquitous. So one would need to be even closer to God in order to enjoy His Protection. And that's what I meant.

@mohawkchic, once again you lay it all on the line !!! Lol @ "You know what I'm saying" ; ghetto Whitney. I never knew she was so laid back, almost "razz", like my people will say .

You're right about the pink and black lippy(though it looked like dark purple) that Rachel is using. She needs to gain some appeal; I know it sounds cliche but a long weave and some feminine makeup will make her look more appealing to the public. They know she's good but not enough are interested in keeping her in. Sorry to say, but look at Alexandra. She beat all those blonde and brunette bombshells that were her rivals to make it to the top - and it wasn't just her great voice/performance. Rachel could still keep her Rihanna style but she just needs to soften the look a bit; right now she seems so intimidating, as @mystikal implied.

@ sugar pp don't mind them, I always saw the sense in your topic. They must have too, even the die-hard chauvinists who think its we ladies that lack the brain in question . Coming to a public forum to air your issues is in fact helpful to the readers not just the posters. Even when some people make up fake stories, there is always something to learn. Anyway, sugar pp, don't give up your faith/interest in marriage; it's a good thing in most cases .

Hmmn, if there's no hellfire I'll fear God more because I'll need HIM to protect me from all the killers, robbers etc that will run amok telling themselves there's no hellfire to worry about .

^^^Yes o . that his mouth is hard to miss, esp when he's hitting those high points and you can see right down deep into his throat .

@ Whitney Houston . She should learn never to perform live outside the US; the X-factor crew almost didn't have the back-up to handle all her lapses. Simon looked embarrassed, Dermont tried to tactful--- . In fact, the camera was not kind to her at all; and the dress!!! Let me stop here because overall the performance was ok .

Sauron, davidylan & TOPE2000, don't get me wrong, of course you can't love a stranger, but you can "fall" for a girl after meeting her, you get talking and you realise she's your kind of girl . Then you chase her in earnest so as not to risk missing such a good catch. By then you're head over heels and pray for a positive response. So if she says no, you try to recoup and move on. And if she says yes, then oh happy day .

@Sauron
"How am i supposed to fall in love with a girl i am yet to ask out?
What if she's already engaged with another man while i am falling in love with her secretly?"


Lol, I didn't know your heart had a gauge or stop button . So you put your "love" on pause till you're sure she's single/available?? I like your self-control o .

You, (davidylan & Sauron) men are funny. How can you "toast" a girl you're not in love with?? So it's a case of if you fancy her or find her attractive, you ask her out, and only fall in love with her after the relationship is established (God, I hate that word, it's so mean ). Relationships of nowadays ehhn .

@Sauron - we women can always tell.
@ topic, well from the girl's story you can see that she has been used to the guy giving her all the attention/endearments. So now that he's trying to cool off and shows lack of interest, she's complaining. So my conclusion is that now that he's got the girl he's not so dedicated and it's showing. Girl gats to shout now .

@davidylan
Sauron is right about what?? Clarify!! Hope you're not changing ur spots so soon??LOL.

rotfl@ kellorah
you are soo right !! We don't even know our own minds sometimes. But a wise man knows how to play along whether we're blowing hot or cold .

@Sauron, "I fall in love only AFTER a relationship is "established", not before--". Wow, you sound really harsh !! Girls should be wary of guys like you to even chase them; you're the kind who end up showing the girl pepper if she finally falls in love with you/agrees to the relationship .

lol @ Sauron---are you sure you've ever fallen in love ?? Because if you ever seriously have, then my answer would be, to chase her even up till the wedding day - and usually even after!! But if she's doesn't mean that much then please feel free to give her the cool treatment when it suits you .

@davidylan, well you said, "I find that largely true", to quote you. So I guessed that you used some "experience" to make your "findings".

I know this will sound objectionable but sometimes it's the woman's priority to be immature, insecure, attention-seeking, self-absorbed etc, and it's the man's priority to do all the hard work .


Those guys "lucky" enough to get a girl running after them/doing all the chasing, trust me it's not a plus . Never be afraid to pander to your woman's every childish whim, just try and get used to it because it's OOTT( One Of Those Things )

@davidylan
How did I know what?? That you're speaking from experience or that men should be in control if they want to keep their women??

I usually take some of these topics seriously because there's always one or two points to gain, so we should all respect the OP no matter what you think about the issues brought forward.

Good advice @ Playboy. However in this case I wish she could ignore him for some time and see if he'll not be the one running after her . Please sugar pp if he wants to play it cool, do play along because the chasing was never a woman's call. However in a more serious and mature relationship, I'll implore you to do what Playboy said

@davidylan
You seem to be speaking from experience . And you've learnt well because you understand the basic principle: men who take charge win the respect/dedication of their women .

It's sad but I hope Simon isn't to blame for Rachel's unpopularity; he said so many negative things about her, and sometimes the public listen to such things. Well even if she's in the bottom two next week again, she'll still out-sing and out-perform her opposition, because she's one of the few that really has star quality, the so-called "x-factor".

@sugar pp, well guys keep forgetting that "attention" is girls' food. I'm sure when he was "toasting" you he dared not miss/ignore your call. Well you can keep playing along with his childish games or you could run from him because he does sound immature - at least, much more than you .

Lol^^^^^
You're missing the point though. Being obsessed about your weight doesn't always mean you're overly fit or healthy, but that you worry, are over-conscious etc of ur weight/what u eat. Nigerians might be showing signs of obesity but they could still be obsessing in their own way . So no, this is not a rhetoric, I don't think!

The twins are in !!
Poor Rachel!!!
Poor Rikki too. He's got a great voice, he shouldn't be in the bottom two ever!!
That Stacey gets on my wick but she can sing, that's for sure.
Rachel deserves to be in the bottom this week because her voice hasn't been great live. But it should be the twins next to her, not Rikki. But I guess they don't want all Louis' acts to be out before the poor man comes back .




Heyy, who's watching ??

How obsessed am I?? On a scale of one to ten-----hmmn----fifteen!!

Cheryl Cole just now was hot on stage!

The costume, the choreography, the chic - fantastic. I like the song better every time I listen to it, though it didn't seem to suit Cheryl at first. It's almost a "black" song, y'know, a song the young Janet Jackson would have sung. Cheryl even seemed to copy Janet in costume/dance routine. That said, she was great, good for her.

@sugar pp

a summary is always best .
But if the story tells better in a longer version, then tell it girl! we're all ears .