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how to dance : am not a good dancer. how am i going to do it ?and i must dance sopple will not start thinking that the bride is not happy

@ Olamilekan, thanks a lot, am very grateful. all that i have being doing, God help me.

good to be back after that wonderful break.
Its a long thing, but place read it

let me begin like this, before the sallah day that we were to meet, i.e on saturday, i was in Abeokuta with my man to visit my stepmum that is in hospital, we met my half brothers 2 of them, the first born and their last born that is a year older than i am. i saw that as an opportunity to introduce my fiance to my elder bro and also to my step mum and which i did. after some minutes, this my elder bro called me to the back of the hospital and asked me where my guy is from,i told him and he said lailai it will not happen with the series of occurences he has seen/had of about igbo pple. I told him that my guy is a born again xtian and that i love everything about him, and that i have met with almost every member of his family and they all welcomed me, he paused for few mins and said its ok that let it not be that its our own family that will now be proving stubborn, after all dis, he prayed for me and i knelt down and thanked him, and that ended.

On our way back to lagos, i called one of those my bros that was surpose to be in lagos on sunday to confirm if they will be coming or not, he told me they wont be comi because they do not have anybody that will stay with their goods, i said ok.

@ Ipaja on sunday, i was made to understand that my elder bro that i met @ Abeokuta had already called my elder bro and said he accepted my husband to be without his consent as d overall brother, it took that one a very long time to convinced him that he has never ever met with my fiance b4 until on that sunday.

Then after all the phone talk with our elder bro, my bro and my fiance spoke and my brother told him there is no problem that we shld continue with the relationship, but he does not have the final say, that he did not say my man is neither rejected nor accepted, my guy said ok.

We left Ipaja i.e my man and i, on our way going, we decided to give my elder bro a call to know when we can com and pay him a visit, i.e d one we met in Abeokuta,he said no that we shld not com yet, that he will have to meet with my other brothers and conclude with them first and he dropped the call. My guy advised that i call him back and insist that we just want to com and pay him a visit, i did and he said ok but i shld make sure i come alone, i did and it was a seriuos one, he gave me instances of igbos that had killed their wives i.e himself and his wife with their neighbours wife, i allowed them to finsh then i also gave them the instances of yoruba men that had killed their wives in the past too,it was a serious argument that i may not be able to dish everything out here. Infact, this my elder bro conplained that my fiance did not prostrate well when he met with him in Abeokuta,that he even shaked hand with my other bro that is a year older than i am, he then asked me if that one is my man's age mate?, as if he knew when my man was given birth to, and meanwhile it was dis my bro that first stretched his hand to my man o

Then my elder brother after the argument made me understand that he had already called my elder sis (that one married a muslim married man) when she came she said she was going to take me to one pastor that will pray over everything and will let us know if my fiance is my husband or not, at first i refused to follow her to the place that she shld go alone, but my elder bro insisted and i followed her, another drama, when we got there, the first thing the man will say is that my husband is not within this vicinity, that he will have to come from a very far distance and that when i am eventually married, that i shld not stay close to where my family members are, to avoid too much of monitoring, he said he is not sure if he is igbo or not, but he will have to contact his pastor friends first before he can confirm if my fiance is my husband or not.

Then the man started pissing me of from here,he asked me d name of d church where my man worships, i told him its an anglican church, and also asked me of my own church too which i told him, he said anglican church is not a true church that they are fetish, they follow tradition to the fullest, and that infact, in my man's village they have one idol that has like unbrella on it, then when he said dis, my elder sis looked at me, and i asked her why that in our own village too dont they have their own idol that they worship too they all started laughing and d prophet now asked me that have i been visiting that idol that they have in my family? i said no and that my man too has not been visiting the one dey have in his family too.
After all this, he asked me where the wedding will be taking place, my sis responded that its going to be in church, the man shouted that nooooooo, it shld not be that my spirit does not like noise, that we slhd just do d traditional and then go to registry, i smiled and told him that we can still do d church wedding and there wont be noice, and he den cooled down and said ok then.

He promised to get back to my elder sister, but d following day, my elder sis called and was just praying for me that who ever i choose to marry at d end that by God's grace there is not going to be any problem, dat any one i do is what she is going to support,i said amen and ever since then i have not had from her, nor from any of them, My good pple of nairaland where do i go from here??

Make una see wetin orphan eyes dey see oooo

not really, i will be the first graduate that family will produce God willing by next year

in addition, we were never that close to an extent that he will not want me to get married, they are in Abeokuta, am in Lagos, i have being leaving in lagos since 1997.
They never wanted me to go to school most especially this my immediate elder bro, cos they felt i was wasting time, and also felt i was going to be disturbing them financially, but as God will have it, that has never happened, cos i have my job through which i have been surviving. Infact, this immediate elder bro of mine advised that i shld go and learn how to sell cloth and when i get married and eventually have my children , they will go to school instead. of course i disagreed cos i know that that is not my portion. And am soooooo happy for where and who i am today, and also thank God for where he is taking me to. more comments are welcome please. thank you all

@ all, i am very grateful for these wonderful comments, i have really learnt. u ar all wonderful pple, just like a family.

@ Ezinne , i am very much ok with my conversion, i have never ever regretted it


@ olamilekan, he did not convert me, infact, we attends differ churches for now. thank you
ones again, am very very grateful, cos with all these, i know i wont have any problem facing them on sunday, and things will sure sort itself naturally by God's grace

. @ Davidlan, u ar case

Thank you all for your wonderful contributions. My parents are late, and no they did not raise me, the one i stays with presently is my mum's first born, and does not even know how i survive and i dont blame them because they all have their responsibilities.presently am in sch, 400l, and non of them have contributed anything to this, infact, informing them atall that i am getting married is just to fulfil all righteousness. @ stillwater, u ar right if u say i have given dem too much power, and i think this is the time to seize that from them, cos they are getting me pissed off already. More contribution are welcome please. Thanks all for always been there.
@ candylips, thank you, thats one of my late father's names

This is not really a difficult one for me though, becuase my mind is made up already.
Why will your elder brothers mostly your immediate elder brother that is only 2 years older than you are be dictating who you should marry,mostly when you are above 30 as a lady i.e in your early 30s.

The man am marrying is an igbo guy, obviously a xtian, while i am yoruba, from a muslim home, but am now a xtian.when i discussed this with the eldest of us all, he did not frown against the fact that he is a xtian, but only paused for a sec when i told him he is an igbo guy, but did not frown against it after that, he only told me to invite him over so he can talk with him, and dis is somebody i was thinking was going to give me headache over this issue.

Just this afternoon, my immediate elder bro called and was saying all sort of things, how i will not go to aljanna if i marry a xtian/igbo, how he is not going to attend my wedding, and this are pple that did not marry their wives in a proper way o, that whenever i remember i always feel bad, they are now trying to choose who to marry for me.

As for me, i am very much ok with who am going to marry, and by God's grace, there is not going to be any problem now or in future.

we are looking at early next year for our wedding,i.e the introduction first, then after wihich we will proceed for the court, and the church wedding.

N.B there might still be issue from them regards the church wedding if dey eventually agree with me on my choice of man, but muslim wedding is one wedding i do not like atall, and it has never bin in my dictionary


My conclusion with my elder brother before this one called this afternoon is to bring my man over to his place on sunday i.e on sallah day, he also said he is going to invite them over i.e my other brothers, what i need is an advise on this issue so that i wont be rude to any body, becuase i have never been rude to any of them before.

Epi. love what you are doing. please what is the recipe for dirty rice, and also how to prepare it?

@ Epi, wonderful job you are doing. thumbs up.please what is the recipe/how to prepare for dirty rice??

@ marymos, here we go again, tribalism. As if yorubas too was not been divested of their homes/shops.

Stop being tribalistic and face the real issue

@ marymos, here we go again, tribalism. As if yorubas too was not been divested of their homes/chops.

Stop being tribalistic and face the real issue

but why has he not been buried?

shocking . may her beautiful soul rest in perfect peace

black bra
ki nikin se?
tani kin fe
oyato
apaadi

lots more,

sorry, i meant 100bucks not 100k

100k for meat and gaari, for which market, and how will you go about d cooking? i mean the ingredients o

very long jean skirt

Foto no dey lieeeeeeeeee, as my coleague will say

Medicine after death i will say

and as for me, all join, in as much as its plantain. i eat any type

@ phemmy, what ar d ingredients for the sandwich?

dis stuff is herb now

. too baddddddddd, as i did not learnt any from her, instead i learnt in a terrible way. she was not there when i needed her most. its alllllllll over now anyway

Killer Tin Tomato Floods Market (Vanguard Newspaper)

With the nation yet to get over the large number of death of children caused by My Pikin Teething Mixture, the Lagos State government has impounded over 20,000 cartons of an alleged fake tin tomato, Tasty Tom. The National Union of Food, Beverage and Tobacco Employees (NUFBTE) has also raised an alarm over an attempt to flood the Nigerian market with harmful vegetable oil and related products. The tins of fake tomato paste were impounded at Ipaja-Ayobo area of Lagos , according to the State Commissioner for Health, Dr. Jide Idris. He told newsman that the fake products were discovered by the State Task Force on Drugs in an abandoned building following a tip off.


PLEASE LETS CIRCULATE THE INFORMATION TO FRIENDS AND FAMILIES TO SAVE OUR LOVED ONES!!

rubbish of d highest other. what was he thinking b4? dat he was only going to shake hands with all the elders on seat. even d bible too said it that we shld respect our parents, not just our biological parent, in as much as they ar older.

. she must have been hurt sooooooo badly. Sis pls 4give and 4get, i beg of u with the name of God almighty, and also with the name of that person you cherish soooo much in dis world. i ones had dis kind of taught against a guy, but 2day we ar very good friends. am in a much more and better realtionship that i am enjoying every bit of,he is not doing bad too,2day we ar good friends. the more you think of evil against pple, the more you hurt yrself, just let it gooooooo girl. It is well with you

@ Shinatu, u made me remember my late Dad . God bless his soul, and also bless you too. on my B/days, thats was d most precious gift i use to recieve from him. RIP Baami

i learnt LASU does not indicate part time on their certs, while LAG does that. not too sure anyway

what is a wife doing on facebook? and what is a husband doing there too??