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DateMynd44:
na so one do me, she know say I be student yet she still carry me go costly eateries go empty my pockets. I been wan leave the bills run but I remembered God and kept my peace.
cc Martinez19

I remember your story vividly. Most girls are heartless parasites.

@ Souless0

You say you know you would be great? Good, that's the spirit. I look forward to see you at the top.

Souless0:
make una stop mentioning me upandan nah
Even without her telling me all those things, I know I will be great. I've been working towards it...

I wasn't talking about you. I never had you in mind while writing this. Don't look at it the wrong way.

You wanted to poison your brothers because of two musicians' beef?

Tozara:
You have taken too much meth you've been rendered a vegetable. You do not take weed anymore, weed itself now smokes away your destiny.

I sympathise with you, thou president of Schizophrenics.

Mr. President has been ravaged by psychoactive drugs of all kind.

My topic may not make sense but those that can relate would understand. This phenomenon is happening to many people and many are getting spanked hard by reality.

Children that are victims of these nonsense fall in the following categories:
1) there parents are well to do and because well to do couples are pastors favourite customers, the pastor singles out the well to do couple's child(ren) and make them a victim of this nonsense programming.
2) the child(ren)'s parent(s) don't have to be financially okay, as long as they substantially give regularly, then this nonsense will most likely take place.
3) children that are doing well academically in the meantime are victims of this.

I read a post of HardMirror in a thread of Souless0 and I decided to expand, a little, about what HardMirror wrote there.

Unfortunately, it's not new to see pastors pick out certain little children and bombard them with their so called revelation that they(the children) are special, they have a special destiny of fortune and riches that will make them stand out from their peers and in cases they have a special calling. Christian parents aren't supposed to let this happen as the effect of this act can be dangerous for children. Children who are being constantly told by charlatans(pastors) and have it implied on them that they are special(somehow above their peers) to God and have a bright star grow up not realising how serious life's hustling and issues are. They approach life with the mindsets of "everything will easily fall in place for me since it's my destiny" and "if anything happens to me, heaven must move for my sake". They are, to some extent, complacent about life struggles. They grow up having this proud notion that success, favour and future riches are their birthright not knowing that one must be humble and work to earn and deserve.

Reality usually hit these children real hard especially after they graduate from a four to five year degree programme at the university. Immediately after graduation and few months of employment, they don't even humble themselves to do menial jobs to support themselves because they believe that they are "yahweh's destiny children". It's after like five years of unemployment that their eyes "clear" and they get a better grasp of reality. Before then, they would have spent their childhood and precious teenage years diving deep into religious stuffs, praying, fasting and fight nonexistent enemies that want to steal their bright divine destiny that wasn't there to begin with. Moments before reality chatters their illusion, they would have gone through the emotionally and psychologically traumatic moments of "promise and fail"(eg. Job application rejection for years, futile waiting and hoping on yahweh to them to that glorious destiny where they would shine above their peers ;Detc.) over their future expectations of there bright destinies. At these point, they feel betrayed that their investment and zeal in yahweh meant noting and they to pick up the pieces and move on just like that. If care is not taken, hard times can make them suicidal. These children usually go deep in their delusion.

Truth is no one is special because god said so or your pastor said so. The earth won't adjust to ensure you live a comfortable life despite what choices you make. If you make poor life choices, you will suffer the consequences like everyone else and heaven won't fall for your sake. Sky is blue, roses are red and the world moves on without you. Christian parents should take not. I have seen two nairalanders who virtually fit my narrative. Please, christian parents should teach their children that no one is special and everyone would reap the fruit of their choice. This act by pastors has to stop. It might seem fun and reassuring but it's effect on little children and their psych and life decisions can be destructive. Thanks.

HopefulLandlord, HardMirror, hahn, Johnydon22, 1Sharon, Tozara, Ladyhippolyta88, 0temSapien, segunojo886, Seun, Adepeter2027, dalaman aka dalam0n, akintom, etc.

nepapole:
When sneijder was clearly robbed in favour of Messi in 2010, nobody complained.

Sneijder and Diego Milito. Lol.

More success to this young man.

dynicks:
what about me?....u love me too right?

See chest.

The bride price I am willing to pay is exactly the groom price she is willing to pay.

Kiki's outfit is better.

HardMirror:
you know and feel you fvcked up big time.

@Souless0, I agree with HardMirror here. You know and feel that you bleeped up big time.

Are you also frightened and scared?

Souless0:
sir, pls stop explaining. They wont understand that pple are different. Sometimes, i just wish somepple can put themselves on my shoes, they will never say anything contrary when issues like this arises. Been there, i know exactly what i experienced.

No doubt we both know what we experienced.
1) Stay away from porn.
2) If you have any abnormal happening in your body and mind, go to the hospital. Don't depend on anything apart from the hospital and prescribed medication.
3) Get a firm grasp of reality so you can start making realistic decisions to solve your problem. Religious gods and doctrines are ridiculous garbages and falsehoods with no basis in reality. Shift them aside and start taking a realistic approach to solving real life problems.
4) Never speak to that mysterious woman again. Cut her off.

dancok:
i want to marry you,am a good guy o.

Chai, u don chance me. I for marry makydebbie but I no dey like to give head .

Airforce1's food carries the day. It's a food I will enjoy and ask for more but your food looks somehow. Are those green nylons?

frank317:
What if u were depressed as a result of the addiction itself. The fact that this was controlling u could affect u don't u think?

Hmmm. I knew that initially porn was numbing me and making me depressed but I never worried since it cleared when I stopped but I remember that in the middle of November 2013, I was becoming worried and sad that I couldn't break the habit so I ran to my mum for help and together we broke the habit late November 2013. I would have gone with your theory but I remember getting numb and depressed from porn use way before I started worrying that my addiction was hooking me.

HardMirror:
we are drawn to porn for a reason, if that reason aint bad, why shld it result to depression? Porn is an outlet for desire, and it is a desire no one shld be ashamed of except it stands against morality or social expectations. Eg watching gay porn cld result to depression not cos of the porn but because the viewer considers it an abomination. Etc etc

True. Some addicts I happen to meet surprisingly used porn to cope with certain harsh aspect of their lives but in my case, porn was sweet. I did porn because it was sweet. I admit that religious guilt could play a role but in my case, I was the kind of christian that believed god is too merciful so I didn't feel guilty as new generational churches teaches that your sins are forgiven once you repent. If you doubt me, look at christ embassy youths as they have premarital sex like say they no send , iffa hear say they feel guilty. It was until I started taking christianity seriously around 2015/2016 that I became an atheist.

Christians that attend mfm, deeper life and the likes will likely feel guilty because they believe that if you do these things, enemies will enter your life and steal your star or if you sleep with a prostitute, your spirit of excellence will vanish like samson . I never felt that because I attended a new generational church.

frank317:
And u couldn't figure out why u were depressed after watching porn? Guy why u de fall my hand na?

It was guilt. As a christian, watching porn is bad and evil. Its also a form of fornication which the bible condemns and calls sin of the flesh. Many Christians who watch porn feel depressed because of the guilt that they are deliberately doing something shameful which is also despised by the creator.

lol. I didn't feel guilty jare. I was the type that believed god is too merciful . It was when I started being a serious christian around 2015/2016 that I became an atheist. However I still remember the numbing and depressing moments vividly. This had nothing to do with guilt.

HardMirror:
ok, you loved that, and after viewing what you love you get depressed. Is it cos you felt guilt or what exactly?

Well I don't know. I just felt numb and depressed and this had nothing to do with being guilty as a religious person. I vividly remember those numbing and depressing moments even though it's been five years.

frank317:
A lot if things could have caused the depression. Did u mastur.bate after watching porn? Did u have a girlfriend? If no, after porn and mast.ubation, u will feel like u are missing out. This affects ur self esteem and make u feel low of urself.

As funny as it may sound, I have never mastubated in my life. Then I just watched porn only. I didn't have a girlfriend then.

@bold
Truthfully speaking, I never felt low in my self esteem.

Well as HardMirror suggested, I will ponder on what really happened then. Perhaps I have things mixed up.

HardMirror:
well i still feel everything that causes depression shld be explainable no matter how trivial or ridiculous the explanation may be. What was your appeal towards porn?

@true. Since I left porn for good in November 2013, I have never found anything that clinically depressed me.

@question
Well, If your question I what I think, then I would say I liked viewing heterosexual and lesbian porn videos. Specifically, the females must have big boobs and big ass.

frank317:
Where u a Christian then?

Yes I was.

HardMirror:
you are in best position to know, but porn in itself cant make you depressed. Else explain to me how exactly it makes you depressed.

Well I can't say, all I knew then was that when I became a heavy user, it would numb me( I won't be able to derive pleasure for normal daily activities) and then I would be depressed. Also I had this brain fog that dulled my brain. All these reverses each time I quit (even though I was still idle). Also note that I wasn't absolutely idle, I spent that months of ASUU strike around playing ps3, going out and watching porn. I stopped watching porn 4months before I resumed 100lvl on March 3rd, 2014. I swear, this is my experience. I won't have been firm on this if not for my experience. Perhaps there might be something else that causes brain fog and depression, I don't know but that's my experience.

I don't like bullshiting myself and others, I am a realist and I stand nothing to gain by being sincere about my experience.

HardMirror:
at the bolded, i cant believe what i just read up there 'idleness and unproductiveness cant lead to depression, but porn can lead to depression? Jesus! Martinez i cant believe i just read that. Are you for real? I rest my case. Read and think over what you just wrote up there first

lol. Why is it that when I quit porn during the ASUU strike and I was still idle, the depression vanish? How do you explain that The depression vanished. Staying at home for seven months and awaiting to resume school after I got admission is not enough for me to get depressed maybe for you and others it's enough but for me it's no and I never did.

Souless0:
I had slight depression just by admiring a woman's ass and lusting about it like any normal human being...pls how can you explain that?

Sometimes its not even depression that would come as a consequence, it would be pride or my food digesting like 15 minutes after eating then I'd be hungry like I haven't eaten the whole day.

In your case, when you were a porn addict, after watching porn, how long does it take for you to get depressed?....like, how many days goes by b4 the depression starts?

When I became a heavy user, I had depression immediately after watching. Your case is LIKELY a mixture of both porn and religious guilty.

HardMirror:
you honestly think the porn is the problem? Your your need for porn at that time was a symptom rather than the problem. I still dont get how porn cld be a source of depression. I wld advice you also consider other things you stopped doing or review your lifestyle. How can a man have time for hours of porn per day? That shld be the problem, not the porn itself

I never had any problem. I watched porn, then, because I enjoyed it, I wasn't running away from something or facing a hard time. I watched it because porn is sweet. It's true that being idle can be unproductive but being Idea doesn't lead to depression and brain fog. I am sure of what I am saying. The issue here is whether excessive porn use can cause depression or not.

All happened during the 2013 ASUU strike. I had just finished waec so I finished sec school early and combine with the ASUU strike, I had enough time on my. Even after I quit, I was still idle and the brain fog and depression disappeared. Why was the depression and brain fog coming up when I watched porn? Why did they go each time I quit even though I was idle? I have never had brain fog and depression in my entire life apart from those excessive porn moments. Truth is, porn is addictive and addiction inevitably leads to excessive indulgence.

HardMirror:
honestly i dont understand all this depression bullcrap, how can porn make you depressed? How can you watch people fvcking then you get depressed? I dont get it. I watch porn and i have never felt depressed. I go to strip clubs, it makes me happy. So how exactly is it linked to depression? Porn is not the source of his problem, we should stop focussing on porn. He watches porn so what. Did spatacus make people depressed? Were there no sex scenes in Game of Thrones? Please let's hit the nail on the head. Porn has nothing to do with this

I am speaking from experience. I know beyond all doubt that porn addiction in the long run leads to depression. I know that from experience and I don't need a brain scientist to tell me that. The depression creeps in if you are a heavy daily user of porn for many months or just few years. That one I know from experience. I know certainly that when I stopped porn, my depression and brain fog dissappeared only to return after I did porn again. I have stopped for good and I no longer have these.

I am not talking about watching sex scene once in a movies and moving on from there, I am taking about spending hours, daily, on high speed Internet porn. I can die defending this.

Souless0:
Never ever noticed I heared any voice or voices oo before this woman pointed it out to me. Right now, I hear not even a single voice

check this out. https://www.nairaland.com/4463471/dangers-pornography-masturbation-addiction

Souless0:
I've been deep into porn sha... but withdrawing from it had always been easy for me. Like, if I didn't watch it, nothing happens. Its something I did when I wanted to. Infact, its only when I watched it that something begins to happen. As far as I stayed away from porn, nothing happens. Of course till I met this woman, that was when things began to happen regardless of if I watched porn or not. Just by disobeying the voice in my head I got severely depressed. Am not even going to talk about how I got easily addicted to her. Anyway, we are no longer talking. I will try to go to the hospital like you said.

True. If you are a new porn user, the depression goes very fast once you quit but if you continue long, the depression remains for a very very long while even after you quit. I might be wrong but I think obeying the voice might have simply left you just happy during your depressed state only for you to disobey and be beaten down by guilt. It's nice that you are cutting her off and going to see a doctor.