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emmaodet:
Lol, and you think any reasonable company will employ a contract staff or casual with full options? HMO (medical coverage for me, wife and 4 kids), fly me to and fro work to house, pick me up with a driver from airport? Pension? NHS(Housing mortgage) etc
Don't you think you can only be a full staff to enjoy such benefits?
Is it because we are on a faceless forum and everybody is same you think everybody is broke?
Pls stop disgracing yourself more, pls
I know you are not expecting such from ubunja follower. You expected a frustrated, jobless, broke guy of a sort.
Newsflash - there are silent millionaires on this forum i know. Cool guys earning big.
Like i said, why don't you change your circle broke lady

It's sexylassie's wet dream to see red pill men being broke. That's how she kept stalking me, and kept digging my posts from my old account. Don't mind her. She might be a broke used up hòe. It's funny how women advocate feminism and reject female gender roles, but declare that it's a man's job to provide.

Your pùssy is a cesspool of immense disgust.

gRESEARCHER:
We4all is not a female. it's a male. a female's ass-licker.
A male mod banned me because I stood up against male rape.
A lot of female ass-lickers in the world.

I suspect a female. Some of them calm to be male.

We4all:
I said what I said, and we don't have to agree with each other. But one thing I'm certain of is that, 'all your counter arguments are illogical, based on sentiments and wrapped with sarcasm and chauvinism.

We can agree to disagree. If you were that smart, you would never have foolishly said in your first post that male rape is less grievous because males are assumed to be stronger than females, and male rape happens less frequently. If you were smart and honest, you wouldn't have seen these as enough reason not to take male rape seriously. You would, if you were smart and honest, noted that little boys are victims, men can be drugged and raped, men rape men (here, your argument of which gender is physically stronger is redundant), and multiple females could ambush and overpower a man. How then are you the rational and logical one?

If you think that a female losing her virginity to rape isn't that much of a big deal, then it's either you're not enlightened or just being outrightly insensitive.

Were all female rape victims virgins at the time of rape? You cunningly act like only virgins get raped. Going by your logic, non-virgins who were raped shouldn't get much attention yet that isn't case in reality. Why? Is the possible loss of virginity enough reason not to take male rape seriously at all?

And there is a difference between 'getting pregnant on purpose', and being 'forced to'. So, your 'baby mama' counter point is baseless and doesn't hold water.

You don't even understand your argument. You claimed rape pregnancy is traumatizing for the female victim because of slut-shaming, I then asked the following:
1) can you show me one women whom everyone knew got pregnant from rape, and was slut-shamed for getting pregnant by rape?
2) who slut-shames pregnant females in an era of baby mamas?

And to think that you brought another dimension to the issues being discussed when you indirectly insinuated that, the 'married victims of rape' who were thrown out of their matrimonial home could have been as a result of them not contributing to the house rent.

Your don't understand your arguments, and you are not keeping track of them. You don't even comprehend my posts properly. You said married women, unlike men, get thrown out of their home and marriage when they get raped, and I disagreed. I then said that if such does happen (giving you the benefit of doubt), then it is because unlike women, most men are usually the breadwinners of their household, the owner of their houses, and the ones who pay the rent (solely or jointly in rare cases).

What a dumb insinuation to make! Seriously, if that is the only counter point you could come up with, then it's pointless trying to make you see reasons. But anyways, I didn't expect less cos you sound like the 'typical African man' whose past time is to belittle women.

Cry me a river.

So, if you like, scream all you want, but be rest assured that cases of male rape will NEVER be taken seriously because the effects rape has on men is nothing compared to what women suffer. Deal with this, or just close the chapter.

All I needed to hear. This emotional declaration reveals who you are on the inside, and it explains why you have been coming up with your unsound argument. Won't be surprised if it's a female behind this moniker.

onyegwu:
And what you can provide does not necessarily mean only material things. You as a man the onions is on you. Never put your self in a position where the woman will see her money as her own. And there is nothing wrong to give a woman ur money even if she is working as long as occasionally she does same to u it is called appreciating one another. If Dangote does anything for you today u as a person try and replicate it even if it is an orange u give to him he will be glad to receive it from u. Lastly, I repeat woman empowerment will save them a lot of troubles from their men partners. And not all women see their money as theirs. A lot of women are doing stuffs for their homes and thereby keeping the men on check in a way which for me is a win win situation.

Okay.

onyegwu:
Getting a rich guy is good but women empowerment is much more better. It emancipate you from any form of slavery.

Forget all these women empowerment, and swallow the redpill. All women, even the feminist, ultimately want a man's money to belong to both husband (boyfriend) and wife (girlfriend) while the wife's (girlfriend's) money is hers alone. The so called true love you hear about and have been brought up to believe doesn't exist; it's a scam that exists only in the minds of men. Women only love you for what you can provide; they see you as disposable utilities, and they are looking for a man that will spend on them not the one with whom they will "build together." There is no point arguing; a tiger will never eat grass.

What's the need for this topic? Is it motivated by my topic? If you like a rich man, go for a rich man. Red pill men are not bothered by your choice, we don't just care. Even if all women start shunning redpill men, we wouldn't be bothered.

We4all:
I think your problem is, 'you're just being sentimental and not factual', and this is an attribute displayed by most humans.

I was not being sentimental.

My points were raised based on experience and how the typical human reasons.

Your argument were thoughtless and out of touch with reality. Seems you wrote it out of strong emotions instead of logic.

Hey, it is human nature to show empathy towards people whom we feel have been more physically bruised and have suffered a lot of physical damages than others. When a rape occurs, the victim experiences a lot of pains; both physically and emotionally. But unfortunately, very few pay attention to their emotional battles. In fact, very few pay attention to our emotional battles ( whether we are rape victims or not). So, this leaves us with the physical pains and consequences.

First of all, who told you female rape victims suffer more than male rape victims? Apart from pregnancy, what emotional and psychological trauma or harm can a female rape victim suffer that a male rape victim cannot? I really don't get the point behind this emotional ramblings.

And as for the physical consequences: "Do you know the number of pregnant women who have been called names, but unknown to the public, their pregnancy was as a result of rape"?

Pregnant women called names in an era of baby mamas? By the way, do YOU know the number of pregnancies that resulted from rape? In an age where women have dozens of abortion pills and techniques, why would a rape pregnancy be left undisturbed?

Do we begin to talk about those who were slut shamed right here on this forum, and accused of seducing their rapists with their dressing mode?

If the words of female rape apologists (which are a minority) can be counted as trauma, what about the male rape apologists (which are many) that sweep male rape under the carpet with "male rape is not a thing," "it's free prissy," "a woman cannot rape a man" etc.? Shouldn't that be counted?

So tell me mister, how many male victims have experienced half of what their female counterparts go through both physically and emotionally?

I have already shown that your preceding arguments are thoughtless. What emotional and psychological trauma do female rape victims suffer that male rape victims don't suffer?

I have seen cases where women were asked to pack out of their matrimonial homes for being victims of rape. How many men will ever experience something like that in Nigeria?

Na so. Even if such happens, many men can't suffer the same because most men are either the owners of their houses, or they pay the rent.

And yeah, I'm not denying the fact that male kids are victims of rape as well, and I questioned the OP's claim not because he is a male, but because he loves to throw tantrums and sounded like he just needed his topic to be on front page.

That aside, do you think male rape is wrong and SHOULD be taken very seriously? I ask because it's one thing to give YOUR reasons as to why society treat both cases differently, and it's another to actually buy into these reasons. Answer.

GreatResearcher1

And as for the male kids who were victims of rape: Although I feel empathy for them, but this doesn't change the fact that despite them suffering emotionally, and might have contacted STD in the process, there is no physical evidence that they lost their virginity, and there is no possibility that they will grow up and be called names like "whores" (by some unreasonable men) just because, they are no longer virgins. So, tell me why female rape cases shouldn't be given more attention since women experience more devastating effects than men?

SMH. We are not arguing on why female rape should be given more attention, we are arguing on why male rape is usually dismissed or never taken seriously. Is the loss of virginity a trauma in itself? If it is, then all non-virgin girls are traumatized by now. I know why society treat male rape differently, but your points are not just it. Loss of female virginity isn't enough to slide line male rape. Thank goodness you even admitted that male rape victims are traumatized emotionally. If that is not enough reason to take male rape, then I am confused.

Would you question why Covid-19 patients are paid more attention to than patients suffering from a slight headache (considering the fact that the former has a more devastating consequences)?

We are not arguing on why female rape should be given more attention, we are arguing on why male rape is usually dismissed or never taken seriously. Don't try to be cunning. Male rape can be very traumatic, and that's enough reason to take it seriously.

Some things are the way they are, and can never change, because human nature has made it so. So, until men start carrying pregnancy, and their bodies begin to show physical signs when disvirgined, then the society will start to pay more attention to male rape victims.

We are not arguing on why female rape should be given more attention, we are arguing on why male rape is usually dismissed or never taken seriously. Should male rape be taken seriously, yes or no?

Lastly, you must be living under a rock to state that: "It is unlikely that a parent would do nothing if his/her daughter accused a houseboy/relative of sexual assault". Seriously, you obviously don't know how the average Nigerian parents think or act towards their children(especially the poor ones). Majority are irresponsible and lack parenting skills, and will dismiss claims by their kids of being molested by uncles, fathers, because they consider such scandals as embarrassing.

We can agree to disagree. It is unlikely that a parent would do nothing if his/her daughter accused a houseboy/relative of sexual assault.

And hey, Busola never spoke up as a teenager because, the backlash she would have received from the public would have been enough to push her to commit suicide. She opened up when she was strong enough to handle the insults and names calling hurled at her. And one of her reasons for speaking up was because, "the pain of a female losing one's virginity to rape never heals".

Lol. Perhaps she was wasn't able to handle the insults and name calling a year before she came out.

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Lai Mohammed still dey learn work where dis people dey.

Localemperor:
Its is no longer news that I have been declared insolvent, After all effort to maintain my liquidity level to no avail I decides to let her go.

just as organization retrenched worker during periods of economic downturn in order to cut cost of operations, I sent her a massage expressing my regret and reasons.

I feed her
I pay money for hair dressing
I buy clothes
I take her out every weekend
I buy shoes
I do everything thinkable

You seriously need to read these

https://www.nairaland.com/5150034/boys-get-here-mumu-must

https://www.nairaland.com/5695941/many-memes-redpill-guys-get

She works and earn but I still wonder why she would want me to do everything for her. I compiled my income statement and statement of financial position for the first quarter and found out that expenditures have exceeded income and debt is on the rise. So I wholeheartedly declared my self insolvent yesterday and decides to cut cost in order to protect my goodwill.

Women see men as disposable utilities. A disposable utility serves and is never served. A disposable utility is only associated with for its usefulness. Once a disposable utility can no longer serve, it is discarded and no longer welcomed regardless of how much it has done in the past.

freeze001:
Female children however, have it worse especially when they are brutally raped, sometimes injured, killed or left pregnant and then they face the wrath/stigma of unwanted pregnancy, rejection by families, abandonment, truncated education and so on. How many male children despite their abuse face these consequences?

Not all females get pregnant, and even those who didn't get pregnant (Busola Dakolo) do have their cases taken seriously. Are males not "brutally" raped? (I laugh at your use of "brutal." Is there "non-brutal" rape? is "non-brutal" rape less serious than brutal rape? Is brutal rape exclusive to a particular gender? ) Are male not injured as well? In cases where women are killed, can you say for sure that it had nothing to do with rituals and/or a mere serial killer's methodology?

We4all:
Cases of male rape are usually swept under the carpet for the following reasons:

1. Men don't get pregnant unlike their female counterparts.

This is not a good reason to sweep male rape under the carpet; in fact, this isn't even why male rape isn't taken too seriously. This doesn't even make any sense. If a female rape victim was discovered to be infertile, will her rape be swept under the carpet?

2. The opening in a woman's body makes her more vulnerable to STD's unlike their male counterparts.

Utter rubbish. This is the first time I am hearing such excuse as to why male rape is less grievous than female rape? Suppose a lady was immune to any STD, do you seriously think the rape of such lady will be swept under the carpet?

3. Women are usually slut shame if they have multiple body counts, but males are hailed for doing the same.

I can't, for the life of me, see how this reasonably explains why male rape isn't taken too seriously. A woman who has been raped isn't even considered a slut, and no boy is hailed as a player/stud for being raped. What exactly is your point?

4. Women are usually the victim in more than 90% of recorded cases of rape.

Please drop a statistic that confirms your percentage globally. I am happy you included "recorded cases." Less men report rape cases because of the way society views male rape victims.

5. Men were created to be more physically stronger than women, so it is assumed that it is almost impossible to rape an adult male. The same cannot be said of women.

Male rape victims could be little helpless boys sexually preyed upon by aunties, uncles, parents, clergymen etc. Also, physically force is not the only method of rape; a lady could drug a man (remember Cardi B?) and take advantage of him. In some instances, multiple females could ambush a male and rape him. Even male homosexuals rape men.

Your arguments so far have been irrational and disappointing. I am convinced you are being disingenuous. Your are probably a female or a weak stùpid male asslicker.

What I'm trying to say in a nut shell is, when there is a female rape, the physical and mental consequences are more devastating hence the need to feel empathic towards their plight. On the other hand, cases of male rape may occur and can only raise an eyebrow if the person involved is a kid. And since it does not happen frequently, no one pays attention when it does.

Rape is rape, male or female. Rape is rape, whether ot happens frequently or not. Who told you that rape is more devastating for females? Who told you that male rape rarely happens? Even if male rape rarely happens, is it enough reason not to take a single case of male rape seriously?

Although, I don't believe you were raped as a kid,

You might as well believe that all cases of male rape are fabrications. You SOUND like someone who has no sympathy or a shred of concern for male rape victims. Obviously, you think male rape isn't that serious, and you feel justified with half-baked rationalisations so far. I am sure if given the chance, you would proclaim that male rape is not a thing.

but if really you were, then bear in mind that your mom refused to believe you not because you were a male, but because she was not responsible enough to pay attention like a parent should. Most female kids also experience situations like yours.

You don't know his mother, neither do l, but it's highly unlikely that a parent would do nothing if his/her daughter accused a houseboy of sexually assaulting her. I could understand if the parent does nothing if the family pastor was accused since the brains of many are so subservient to their pastors and holy books.

But I'm curious though, since your mom wouldn't listen, why didn't you confide in your dad, siblings, relatives, or anyone who was close to you?

GreatResearcher1, a question for you.

I'm not insinuating anything, but I get curious when I see male children bringing down the roof top for being spanked by their maids, but will never speak up when molested. Could it be that they really enjoy the act, hence the silence?

I am not insinuating anything, but I got curious when females like Busola Dakolo open up years after their supposed incident. Could it be that they enjoyed the act?

Goodmarlian:
Sister you are a lady so I wunt take your advice because if you meet a guy who is lively tomm orow you will still dump him if what you said is true then you will be dating every lively guy that comes your way I am not afraid of another story ;Dif she goes I will replace her shaparly like the others women do not understand themselves.

Good thing you didn't listen to her advice. Never take dating/relationship/marriage advice from women; they will terribly mislead you. Never trust what comes out from a woman's mouth; they usually say one thing but mean another. Finally, stop being a nice guy.

Have you taken the red pill?

https://www.nairaland.com/5695941/many-memes-redpill-guys-get

https://www.nairaland.com/5150034/boys-get-here-mumu-must

SweetCunt97:
what about those above 30? Make dem enter bush abi? Mtcheeeew... U never ready to matchmake abi na d age wey d baba give you?

Are you above 30?

Tajbol4splend:
Of course but it is still as a result of poverty

It's not a result of poverty. It's female nature, and female nature is universal.

What a foòl.

TheAfricaQueen:
Many men will say oh no I cannot do it, because of the smell or that it is degrading.

Men also smell down there, it smells like musty, sweaty, stale urine, FROM WHAT I HAVE HEARD. It is also degrading for women to offer services to a man that doesn't even value her enough to wife her up.

favinvest:
women are so selfish and self-centered.

just imagine if the OP is the 43 yrs old woman., and the 30yrs old guy is another person`s brother

she will twist the narration to... AGE IS JUST A NUMBER, ITS LOVE .. AS FAR WE ARE IN LOVE.. AGE DOESNT MATTER.., I AM VERY YOUNG @ HEART etc

but now its the reverse.. since its her brother..

danielistics:
Where can I download the book?

I can't say, but try www.pdfdrive.com.

Zabiboy:

@ emboldened,
They'll end up using a man to execute their plan..
Just Watch out...If she ends up getting killed ( which i hope doesn't happen ), its a man simp ( sent by a woman of course) that is going to do it..
WHAT A FUNNY WORLD !!

Simps are the backbone/enforcers of gynocentrism and feminism. If the simps fall, gynocentrism and feminism will fall.

CAPSLOCKED:
I THINK IT GOES BOTH WAYS AS THE REALITY OF LIFE. IT DOESN'T JUST APPLY TO ROMANCE BUT EVERY OTHER AREAS OF LIFE.
WITHOUT MONEY, WHAT ARE YOU DOING?

A human being's life without money is like a decrepit white and black picture; with money, it becomes a fresh coloured picture with filters embedded in a golden frame. Money is important.

Zabiboy:
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Truth is, This cycle can be changed..
BUT ARE WE READY TO CHANGE IT??..
Some are, but MAJORITY aren't...And so they keep exploiting the majority and broke-shaming the minority ( which has rich men in it but with TRP )
So the best the minority can do is keep spending on themselves and get better and swallow more pills
Take a look at the pics below...A message from Esther Vilar
GL

Ester Vilar killed it. I learnt that many years after her book, she keeps getting death threats from women.

Why are men getting butthurt and angry over this redpill truth? This is what separates men that learn by keen and honest observation (me), and those that learn the hard way. Remove emotions, and swallow the redpill before you. Why not just swallow this redpill peacefully and stop prioritizing these høes? All women are høes.

johnkey:
I hate royalty, I've never bowed to any king and i will make sure I avoid any situation that'll change that. All men are born equal.

Sorry to break it to you, all men are not born equal. Hierarchy is an inevitable aspect of human life. The only place all men should be equal is in the face of the law.

PrecioussB:
this is something I really wanna change

Is it because am too friendly and nice

some guys recently said I am worth 0 cents and am still fronting

Every girl is a höe, and puśsy/beauty is worth $0.00. The guys who said you are worth 0 cents are my kind of guys.

Amatarasha:
That's bad , I blame we women, thousand years ago, women go to war then killing almost 1000+ men who degrade Dem ,but now?

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She ought to be sentenced to death.

emmaodet:
Why? Any reason?

No reason. Just want to focus on other things; I would keep on visiting as a guest after November.

Not everyone remains active on nairaland forever. I am even considering doing away with nairaland by November.

Only simps commit/marry a girl out of pity.

Liliantalks:
I rem a cousin who became a lesbian in her teenage days , we talk tire even beat her ,, she refused n continued with one teen like her ,,, she’s passed that stage n hates even hearing about lesbianism !! That girl will grow out of that stage . But that u will change her , u will never !! She will grow out of it .

Bullshit! Lesbianism, just like heterosexuality, is not a phase; it's permanent.