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StubbornGENIUS:
Your Village people are impressed

They are popping champagne right now.

GreatResearcher1, Omar09, emmaodet, we have a new simp in the Simp Hall of Fame.

Adaibeku:
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Apologise to her pls

Why should I apologise to your fellow dick rider?

The foolishness of this OP is way taller than the mythic tower of Babel.

Awesome!

The GOAT of GOATs.

afroxyz:
Oga you know nothing. It's your type that expects your employers to fulfil your financial desire.

You know nothing. I can never expect my employers to fulfill my financial desires; every job you are hired for is based on some mutual agreement between employer and employee. If one doesn't like one's job of 40k/month, one can endure/continue or start hunting for another job. As for the apprenticeship stuff, you know nothing. Go and do your research, ask from those who have been apprentices, and ask from those who have apprentices. Perhaps the apprenticeship you are talking about is different from the "boy-boy" apprenticeship I am talking about (which is what the discussion is all about from the onset). Good day.

FeliciaOja:
Ever wonder why pastor children turn out to be worse than their pastor parents?

Don't pay him any attention. Your case is similar to the two sons of my father's friend. I had always known that the so-called strict parenting can backfire terribly. When you impose a lot of ridiculously tough measures on children, especially when the children don't know why they should uphold such rules, they will abandon it once they get to university or away from their parents. The children will want to explore and taste the life (a life for which they are ignorant of the pros and cons) that their parents denied them. This is even more dangerous as the children will explore the trending and high life all alone without guidance, and in the company of friends that are not good for them.

The best way to discipline a child is not to impose a lot of ridiculous and unnecessary tough rules, but to ensure that they understand why they must embrace discipline in life. The most disciplined people in life are those who voluntarily embraced discipline instead of having it imposed on them especially when they don't see the need, and they don't like it. Don't get me wrong, parents must make reasonable rules, but they must be close to their children such that their children can confide in them about anything. Children who can confide anything in their parents hardly go amiss; this is where stone-cold, military styled parents are missing it.

The stone-cold, military styled parenting only makes children evolve into great pretenders and liars. They grow up not sincerely embracing the harsh rules but only abide whenever the parents are around. Parents must learn to sometimes see things from the new generation's perspective, and realise that some of the things they do are not necessary and would only oppress their children. Now that you have seen where you have gone astray in life, start making the best of your life (what's left of it) now because the world out there don't care if your parents failed you in a way, and as you can see from the comments, people will hold you responsible for how your life turns out. Progress, be stagnant, or retrogress; the ball is in your court.

Edit: the people blaming the OP is proof that most parenting in this part of the world is a bit dysfunctional. You can blame the OP all you want, but you must realise that the "default" mindsets of children in the OP's situation when getting away from their parents for the first time are naivety and the strain of oppressive rules. These mindsets make these children highly prone to taking the path that the OP took. OP isn't the first, and she won't be the last. If you like, make the same mistakes her parents made. You can't solve everything by just rules and beating.

pansophist:
Delusional Zimbabweans.

If Kelechi doesn't want to associate with you, leave him. You and Kelechi owe each other nothing. Na wa for some people.

afroxyz:
Sometimes you let your mouth run ahead of your brains. First you should have asked what year was he given the 50k.

Secondly , the amount does not matter. He has learnt the tricks of the trade. That is enough for him. Because he he has no knowledge if the tricks, even if you give him N10m, he would.not suceed. Yet he was given 50k and still suceeded. The knowledge is what he served the Oga for and not the money.

If you don't know something, shut up. Do you think I don't know how the apprenticeship (precisely what ibos call "boy-boy" ) thing works? What are you teaching someone for 12yrs? Do you think apprenticeship is just teaching people about business? Go and meet people that are into the apprenticeship stuff, and ask if 50k after 12yrs isn't wickedness? 50k is more or less than the monthly upkeep of many university students. There is a reason why people celebrate when an apprentice is finally settled: they celebrate because the apprentice is finally given enough cash to start his own business and go about his life. That's how apprenticeship is; that has been the rules from the onset. Even if you are a business guru, a net-worth of 50k can't do shit. By the time you buy something to eat and pay transport, the 50k is gone. Business knowledge is not a guarantee that you will make it; life no be beans, business knowledge is not a magic wand.

Get your facts right.

Fokosobo:
look at the pervert that wants a girl to live with him

The OP is probably a rapist. This topic and the one you screenshoted make sense. He is probably looking for a girl (prey) with whom he will fulfill is weird fantasy, and since they are not accepting his free room, he is angry. Why would he be angry when males are also applying if he doesn't have some sinister machinations?

If your story is true, and you aren't cunningly trying to lure a female nairalander who needs a place to stay, then you are acting like a thoughtless child. If you were a girl and a male stranger out of nowhere offered to give you a room for free in his compound, would you accept it just like that without considering your security and any possible ulterior motives of the stranger? Beside, is it by force for a girl to stay in your place? Is a girl a fish brain because she didn't what to stay in your place? I am sure males applied to stay in your free room but you ignored them since you wanted a female. If girls doesn't want to stay, let them be. They owe you nothing.

Give that room to any of the men applying instead of bleating that no girl wants to stay.

Righteousness89:
If only Cynthia will see this as an opportunity to turn to JESUS CHRIST and Make Peace with Him..

Some events that happen in your lives is GOD'S hand to pull you out of the Way of Destruction.

I wanna Advice Cynthia to be Careful of the Help she gets! Any Help that will take you back into this Lifestyle of Worldliness, stay away from it Cynthia! Don't Take it!

I Perceive someone has been Interceding for you, Maybe your parents or siblings are praying for you and that's why things turned out this Manner, all for you to be delivered from this Wordly lifestyle.

Not Everyone has this Opportunity to be off Destruction..

Many Died and Wasted without this opportunity! And they are pleading for a 2nd Chance now!

Another Chance might not be Available if you Go back again

She that Ears to Hear! Let Her Hear

Happy Sunday

Your God is nonexistent.

lekki1444:
oh my bad lmaooo I am aware I was making a general statement

I get what you are saying. Some ibo ogas can do person one kain one kain. Few months or a year before your settlement is due, some will become unstable looking for an excuse to send you home.

larryking540:
E better make u no give the person money at all than given 50k for 12years na wickedness be that ,
I don't blame some workman way they theif oga money or even refuse to remit full money o

There is not a honest person who knows the apprenticeship stuff that will tell you 50k after 12yrs isn't wickedness. Do you know what these apprentices go through in serving their ogas? Do you know the kind of beating many of them endure from their ogas when they fumble? One of them even confided in my mum that he cannot let his worst enemy be an apprentice. After paying 50k after 12yrs, oga is blessing the money. Who blesses wickedness?

If I am an apprentice, and my oga gives me 50k after 12yrs, I will be like "are you taunting me sir?"

lekki1444:
its the igbo way

Lol. I am an Ibo guy, but I can't be that wicked.

Plot twist: those guns are not working.

stagger:
You are very daft. The knowledge and mentorship acquired in those 12 years cannot be bought in Harvard University or any Ivy League school of business. I am sure you know how much it costs to do MBA (pure theory) in those places.

A man with all that knowledge gathered over 12 years can turn N10,000 into N1billion. A man given N1bn without such knowledge will blow that money. Ask all the athletes who blew their entire fortunes, or 60% of all EPL footballers who declare bankruptcy within 5 years of retirement.

Shut up your mouth! Do you think I don't how the apprenticeship thing (what we Ibos call "boy-boy" works? If you think the apprenticeship stuff can make EVERYONE turn 50k into N1billion then you are the daft one. You think life is beans? Do you know how many apprentice end up failing despite their settlement? I know many shrewd ones who were settled handsomely but ended up failing. Even the ones that nearly completed their services after many years but ended up being chased out (for whatever reason) have 50k that they can't convert to N1billion.

A very rich family friend who reside in the same estate with me made it big after his apprenticeship and he has apprentices under him. Out of the three apprentices (whom I know very well) he settled, only one is doing fine. His wife's brother was an apprentice but he failed after being hugely settled twice. There are success and failure stories. The money (and maybe assets, in rare cases) an apprentice is settled with is supposed to be used to start up a business. The money is in a way, and as agreed, a compensation for the what these boys go through (believe me, they go through a lot not just in running their oga's business and being errand boys, but in sometimes being house maids. In fact we can call them semi-slaves as an understatement). How many lucrative business can you start with 50k and make N1billion in the long run?

It's funny how many people (even those who made it through apprenticeship) act touch like street materials, and think learning a skill, suffering, and apprentice can turn EVERYONE into a money bag. Oga, life is not beans, and even if one makes it through apprenticeship, it wouldn't be overnight. It would take years of perseverance, consistency, and hardwork. In life, you can do everything right and still fail, that's life.

As for the NBA players who squandered and mismanaged their money, they had the ability to make money but they lacked what it took to manage their cash. Immaturity and naivety are responsible for what happened to them. Btw, how did NBA players get involved?

obataokenwa:
My people say...a child backed by the mother, don't know that the journey is far.

Okay.

RIP.

I always tell people that internet is not for the emotional and weak. People on the internet don't owe it to you to say nice and decent things; in fact, many people on the internet are sadistic, envious, hateful and bitter. If you don't like what you see on the internet, nothing stops you from logging out.

RIP.

obataokenwa:
People don't know that those stages and suffering are the makers of men.

An Igbo boy will serve his master for 9 years only to be settled with 50k and he will not still give up but struggle for another maybe 10years before God will help him to be successful and in everything he will still be proud of his boss and will never speak evil abt him. I remember those days...a guy was settled with 50k after 12 years and he came to my boss to complain...my boss only asked him...did ur oga bless that money? He said yes and my boss said that's all you need. Go and that money will never finish. Today, that guy is one of the authorities in that business. Suffering makes men

Psquare made us to know abt u. Cynthia Morgan destroyed herself with drugs and probably on the process someone used her destiny for ritual.

My people say...if a rat outruns a child, he calls it poo rat

Either you are stupid or callous. SMH. Suffering and hard times are helpful in their own way, but settling someone with 50k after 12yrs is pure wickedness. To even bless the money after doing such wickedness is pure psychopathy.

Agbagbaregoo:
I just met this lady and everything seems to be clicking. she just started a business after I gingered her and I had to patronize her. in the course I transferred some money to her to patronize her far more money than she was selling the Stuff so as to encourage her. The bank debited me and I told her I sent it. Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call. A policeman asked for her number at the bank that he will question her. throughout these period I ignored her and I was just imagining how a beautiful light skin tender looking babe will behave like this. Then lo and behold today the bank reversed the money. I can't explain the feeling of disappointment. Now she said she doesn't want to have anything to do with me again that she doesn't want wahala for her life. She finally picked after many trials of calling and she insisted on me leaving her life.she even said she's not doing business again. I don't know what to do.

Oga, once you have explained yourself to a woman, and you have apologized, let it end there. If you people are going to ever do business (or whatever ), let her be the one to come to you. When you can objectively do without it, never beg a woman to associate with you or love you.

If a girl talk say she no do, leave am. Is she the only girl in this world? Chill! The fact that you couldn't figure out the right thing to do, and you had to bring this here makes you deserving of 50 lashes of koboko.

simbated:
Even this husband abuser about to be deported is here quoting scriptures. All the worst devils in this world have special skills in hiding behind religion to oppress others and perpetrate their crimes. Their hearts are hardened and all they think about is evil towards their fellow men. They go to church to pray for someone to die

Hardened murderers claiming religious.

OFEMANUGURUMARA:
They are foolish desperate people. They are all fighting to ensure their sister stays abroad by implicating the gentleman, destroying his career so she could claim to be a victim of domestic violence and get visa and government benefits. They have lost this one already. She didn't travel abroad with her money and she is trying to destroy the source of livelihood of a good hearted man who wanted the best for his family. The lady's family should all be ashamed and start contributing to rent a flat for their sister in Ibadan on her return cos she is surely returning to Nigeria, it's just a matter of when.

Don't mind the trolls. If not that I was busy, I would have thoroughly debunked the disclaimer. Women lie a lot but many don't properly construct their lies. Why would the OP go about on different blogs and websites as an anonymous writer to write his story (and even keep his family's identity a secret) to tarnish the image of his wife whom he keeps anonymous? Does that make sense at all? To what end? How will people know whose story is that given that many people are in the OP's situation (the OP's situation isn't uncommon)? The only person that could spot whose story is that is either the OP's wife or her toxic relatives (if she is always keeping in touch with them). Ah! All of a sudden, a new moniker springs up with the claim that OP was an abuser in Nigeria, he got arrest by humans right blah blah blah. How could the moniker know this with great conviction when the op never said such and given that his situation is very common (hence op could be anybody)?

These trolls are just full of lies. They are spinning lies to tarnish the OP's image, and only fools will fall for their cheap tales. By the way, are the OP or someone related to the OP?

tuneneabroad:
[s]Hello young man. Your lies sounded familiar because you have come here before with different name. You agreed you used to be hot tempered. At what point did you change? I need to be frank here because you may not find anyone telling you the truth. I wish you could really swear by whatever you believed in, either Jesus Christ or native wise that your wife is always at fault. You have never seen anything good in your wife. It would also help us if you tell us how you met your wife and whether she was the first woman in your life. Can you also tell us that you dont have extra marital affairs in Nigeria before you left and when you got abroad? What kind of man are you, the one tied to her mother's apron string or the one that truly love his wife.
I am short of words for now but if all you have said are true, may posterity judge between you and the wife. But if you have come to this platform to tell us lies "You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father's desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies. John 8:44

We know people like you who likes punishing their wife by not allowing her to work, by not empowering her. Some of you are being controlled against your wife by your mother and your family members.

Except your story is purely and 100% true, you will never make it in live, no matter your position now. If you pull down your wife in the public, you will never grow in your endeavours in Jesus Christ's Mighty Name. Amen and all the curses in Deuteronomy 28 shall be your portion EXCEPT YOU ARE 100% INNOCENT in Jesus' name. AMEN

Don't look for anybody when your problems start. Oniro jatijati[/s]

Another new troll account with an agenda. Probably the same ayomidatè.

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obataokenwa:
What will you guys gain by ending someone's career. The woman can walk away jeje and continue her life...this life too sweet..

You hold one down, you hold yourself.

The disclaimer is false. Any reasonable person should know that. Think!

IDENNAA:
Anybody here who think this guy is making these things up is actually ignorant. I have witnessed where a village girl who was brought to the U.S by here husband was threatening her husband , beating him and dared him to touch her! Then she sleeps around and never give sex to her husband.

A lot of Naija women turn a beast when they touch down for western world....I have seen things that shocked me. Even akata women are scared of what married Naija women could do. My own be say losing my life is not a big deal to me. I know the street and NO Naija woman can try that!

OP's situation isn't uncommon.

djon78:
[s]My friend stop spreading ignorance around.
Have you signed agreement or contract with westerners before.
Oyibo has great respect for the rule of law.
It's not like Nigeria you do anyhow.

Many illiterate folks will be spreading ignorance on this forum.
When you call them out, they will result to insult.[/s]

I didn't insult you. As I have said, I was born at night not last night. Take your lies and garbage to those ignorant of how things work over there.

Ayomidate:
[s]So this doctor is here again to tarnish the image of his wife. When will you rest Mr docki. You go from one blog to the other creating fake username to justify what you did to a loving and loyal woman. Why not tell them on this forum how you use to beat your wife black and blue in Nigeria. Why not tell them on this forum how the police has arrested you on various occasion in Nigeria for beating up your wife. Remember to also let people hailing you on this forum know how you have a case with the human rights commission back home over your senseless beatings and abuse. Good thing you moved her to the UK last year. How have you been treating her since she moved to the UK?

You don't allow her to work, the moment she picks a shift with her agency you run away from the house so she can stay with your three kids. Don't forget the first kid isn't hers but she cared for the kids and lied to immigration the kid is hers to bring the boy here. You kept using the boy against her in the UK to disrespect her and lie to the police. You put cameras all over the house because you were expecting her to beat the boy one day so you can file child abuse against her but God pass you.

Kindly tell this forum how your wife has not been able to have just £50 in her name since she moved to England because you don't allow her work. You don't even give her money for food rather keep the food in your own bedroom. Tell people here how you use to seize her mobile phone not to get in touch with her family and friends back home and you did not allow her to keep friends in England. You've broken her phone on two occasions in your Plymouth abode and she kept hanging on to the marriage to make it work.

Kindly explain to this forum how you login into her social media account to chat with her male friends by trying to be her to see if she is dating anyone. You are the same person using her email address opened on your laptop to contact social workers that everything is fine when she reported you. Have you also forgotten all the threats you made to her if she ever end your career here and how you will end her life. You were only lucky to make a first report against her which were all concocted lies and she was giving a retraining order. You can go ahead and get all the restraining order you want in the UK but very soon you will roast.

She kept quiet all these while to save your career as a medical doctor but don't worry as the evidences against you are quite overwhelming. You can keep running for the little time you have but just kiss your career goodbye. This lady don too suffer and it will soon be payback time. Everything you were able to get away with in Nigeria has been unravelled. This is England you know and not naija�

Keep writing your fantasy stories[/s]

New account created with an agenda. We are not interested.