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My own too long to post here. I just discovered I joined nairaland.com due to matters of the heart. Looking back at the tremendous progress I have made in building my emotionally intelligence makes me grin with smile. As per the babe I discovered she was just a crush. Kai I really pour my heart for that thread. Lol.

https://www.nairaland.com/matthew%20briggs/posts/6#14027717

Nice ideas all you need is a great UI and a well thought out User experience that is fun and engaging. Kudos for the effort.

femi9naija: Nice one @ OP. I'm saving this for easy reference.

Mr. Matthew Briggs, I'm inspired by ur story. Will like to contact u.

feel free to send a pm.

Cathaliya: Which one is if I have mb?
Na elekwanu mkpari n'isi ututu a.

It's not an insult the video is quite large, I was just giving you a heads up. I'm Sorry if I made you feel insulted

Cathaliya: I wonder how one can actually fake confidence,,,,what if put in a tight corner, how do you go about it?

Cathaliya it's very easy. If you have mb I highly recommend you watch this Ted video to know how.

http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are.html

Ngokafor: ...i can see some peeps still have lots of growing up to do....you ask babe out and she turns you down or whatever,you then turn around and say she's playing hard to get!!...bullcrap!.....what part of NO dont some of you get??.....abi na by force..... ....if you think you are all that and she turns you down,is'nt that her loss?...why keep whining?...too much man-child prancing all over the place!.

Reread my post again in slow motion and try to comprehend it this time. Please my dear Ngo.

@ ihedinobi and jaybee thanks for the insight

El Guapo: [color=#0066ff]I beg to concur dude.

If getting turned down turns u off then u should be doing the growing up thingy and not the other way round.

A woman scorned is a woman with a motive, u dont expect them to easily say 'YES' b'cos u whispered into their ears u've got a Msc degree in ur kitty, u are flawless and u can trade paths in Pluto, it doesnt work that way bruh.

These creatures are sensitive, they think like rats and best way u'd have to roll with them is by behaving like a rat - Just stay sensitive.[/color]

High end scarsm in action.
Ps. I never said she turned me down. Reread my post in slow motion

Caracta: Are you telling me? Some of them just want to get under her skirt. Why do they get crazy over a woman's bakkassi and manchester? They immediately hand over their cards and promise her heaven and earth, shaking all over like epileptic leaf. The moment they get tired of her flûîd, they move on to the next victim...and the cycle continues!

Thank goodness you used the word "some". Because some of us no send or get crazy over bakassi or Manchester. We are more interested in the intrinsic value she carries. Because we know say one day the bakassi and Manchester go become like slippers.

uj_sizzle: Men are like sales rep or marketers looking for a particular customer to show interest in their product.
A woman has many admirers who all want one thing. Now there may be a couple of them she likes already, but that doesn't mean she can jump into a relationship with either of them until she's certain it's worth her while.
That's where the 'thinking' comes in. She needs to weigh the pros and cons of each individual before settling for one.

Guys take their time to study a girl before deciding she's worth claiming...i think you should give her as much time too to make up her mind about you unless you've decided you can handle an emotional wreck then by all means feel free to rush her. Just remember some people are quicker at processing new developments and their emotions than others.
If you think she's worth it all, then please wait for her.

I dig your analysis, I think I need to relax, cut her some slack and try to see the world from her perspective. She is a refined young lady, pretty and with good character and hence has got several admirers. I think she needs to take more time to decide cos I don't need an emotional wreck. My only concern is that I might move on, I hate prolonged suspense it irks me.

Caracta: Which brings me to the question, what is the length of 'hard to get'? How many hours, days, weeks, months, years, decades, can you tolerate a girl's 'posting'?

The answer to the question will help a long way. We already know some of you prefer within an hour.

Boy: Will you be my girlfriend?

Girl: (within 10 seconds) Yes

Boy: Will you marry me? (someone you just met)

Girl: Yes. Lets go to the altar tomorrow.

LoL at least after 3 dates or 1 week a girl should be able to make up her mind.

Mynd_44: A woman actually knows if she likes a guy or not from the first one hour he talks to her. She already knows if she will change her mind or not. The rest is just to disturb you and grease her silly ego which the guys are too happy to do.

She already knows her answer and the guy is just some pawn in some silly childish games girls (note not women) play in the name of making their minds

Very true.

Omo_Alata: there are men who play hard to get too, not just ladies. I used to love the game of going after men who play hard to get, but I am over it now

It looks like karma has caught up with me. I am now in the receiving end. And it sucks.

Caracta: I see too

Lol, Una sabi give man pikin sleepless night. Kai

Caracta: Sometimes, we need to process your advances and weigh our options. I bet you didn't ask us out the moment you liked us. You thought of it and the best approach. "Should i talk to her? What if she doesn't like me? Is she really a good girl? etc." And this is not for all those "hit and run" guys.

So please, let us take our time. You know how emotional we can be. We love to hold on to ours.

However, playing hard to get for a long time, posting the guy here and there, is childish. If you don't like him, let him go. If you do, grab him! Stop stalling

Very well said Caracta. I see

guy ANDROID: Asking a girl out is like a game to them, this is something I've discover long ago.
Just be yourself cuz girls like dis. Once they see u r confident enough to approach them, then they play on you little to knw your stand.

So don't get fvvking pissed off....

That's the twist, I hate games. I lay my cards straight on the table after carrying out my due diligence of wooing her, expecting a yes or No, not a maybe. Especially when I know she really digs me. I hate mixed signals. I dislike been kept in limbo.

I don't think it is necessary to play hard to get especially in this 21st Century. When Men not Boys are getting scarce.

I understand the desire not to look cheap and all. But I believe if you see what you want and you like him and that person likes you why running in circles.

Personally this attitude turns me off very quickly. It tells me you still have some growing up to do, have no clear understanding of what you really want, and don't deserve my attention. This attitude is prevalent with not all but majority of women in their early 20's I think this maybe because of their lack in experience and the overwhelming attention they get from several guys.

I am not against this attitude but just be weary of the kind of guys you use it on. To some guys it might be a turn on, it's a sign that they need to try harder.

To guys like me who know what they really want, think long term and careless about the container that houses your soul. To guys like me who by default are spoilt with so many options but decide to focus our energy on you, this attitude turns us off. We just take it that you're not interested and off we go and once we are gone, we are gone. Our time is of essence.

To the ladies why do you play hard to get?
To the Guys are you the type that never gives up, or give up easily?

chronique: Sup? I think we discussed this issue on one of your threads way back about the dwindling pool of marriageable men... I actually wanted to copy the link and paste here,with the hope that it can help out but I'm too lazy to search it out right now. Why not copy and paste the link here for them to see? Guess it might help. Cheers!

You mean this link. https://www.nairaland.com/1265198/dwindling-pool-male-lovers-nigeria

I connected so much with the 5th shape, and the results rhymes with who I am as a person

Professional

Pragmatic

Self-Assured

You take charge of your life, and place less faith in your luck and more in your own deeds. You solve problems in a practical, uncomplicated manner. You take a realistic view of the things in your daily life and tackle them without wavering. You are given a great deal of responsibility at work, because people know that you can be depended upon.

Your pronounced strength of will projects your self-assurance to others. You are never fully satisfied until you have accomplished your ideas.

I serve God, Not just because I love him, but because he defines my existence

Posted this in a wrong thread earlier.

Matthew briggs: *Grabs Mic*

Have you ever wondered what its like for the Sun to stand Still! , for your world to pause for a moment, and in that moment, you receive a rush of inspiration, a rush of insight and have your perspective towards some thing change forever. I think the above experience best describe how I felt on stumbling on Caracta and her diary. She didn't just paint pictures with words, but reminded me that amidst the decadence in our society, the good ones do exist.

Oh Caracter...my nun... my Ms sunshine you've caught my facy not with Manchester or Assernal, but with your great personality and your unique mind.

Here I am several months later, breaking all the rules of this challenge, damning all the consequences and defying this bout of malaria I am currently facing all in a bid to let you know that somewhere several kilometres from you is a guy who belives in you, your dreams, the potential you carry within, and the grace the almight has blessed you with. Oga moderator abi Madam moderator abeg pardon me for intruding into your challenge. Good thing we both know that when it comes to matters of the heart the mind is mummified.


As I was saying, Caracta ... my Ms sunshine, you are definitely a character. Cool calm and collected. Blessed with a beautiful mind, It is no mistake you have numerous admirers *Abeg Who no like better thing*. It is of no wonder you decided to be an E-nun, my E-Nun.


*Draws Caracta closer. Locks her in warm embrace while mildly caressing her succulent lips, I stare deep into her eyes*...Caracta my dear, I'll catch a grenade for you, I'll step in front of a bullet for you" ....Ermmmmmm *Scratch that Dear* I think we both know you're smart and deserve the truth. I instead will be there with you all the way, to help you build your dreams. I Will be your last man standing when the whole world is all up in arms against you. Together we will shoulder the storm. It will be YOU & ME against the world. Our journey will be rough but don't worry I'll go the extra mile for you , not just because you deserve it but because with you the extra mile is nothing but fun.

I gbadun you Ms Caracta, I dey feel your Class, it's high time we tango, and take this thing to the next level.


Caracta... My Nun, My Sunshine
Please Stay beautiful

#Matthew Briggs #SaysSo.

Caracta: Matthew Briggs, your words have melted my heart. Thank you...but i still don't understand why you took it down. *sniffs* THANK YOU.

@Emmy9ite, how are you today?

Glad you like it. I took it down earlier after discovering it was on a wrong thread. I want the world to know I gbadu you. Winks

Emmy9ite: Guy calm down o. She belongs to someone now. Don't go far to avoid an e-murder!

Okay Sir I have heard. I have taken it down.

Emmy9ite: Guy calm down o. She belongs to someone now. Don't go far to avoid an e-murder!

Okay I don hear sir I have taken it down. You can do same if you choose