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@op if you need reasons to support evil you will surely find plenty.

GraphicsPlus: Good move. Do we have something like iHub in Nigeria? If no, then I think this type of tech centre is a must for Nigeria. Hacker School is a place every developer must try to visit before he retires. I plan to be there one day. Very soon.

We have several hubs in nigeria for now I can remember Cchub and idea hub. CChub is a great place to mingle with very talented and passionate developers. They organise hackathons periodically. it's a developers paradise.

It depends on the stage in life I met her. If I was an average joe when we met, before becoming quite wealthy and then we decided to get married no need for prenup, because I know I wouldn't mind sharing my wealth with her knowing fully well we built everything together. But If I met her when I am quite wealthy, a prenup is a must. I'll tell her straight up, yes I love you, but over the years I have built an empire and I desire to protect it. If she's with me for the right reasons she'll stay. If not good riddance.

#Matthew Briggs.

A very shallow statement. A woman with this outlook towards life I shan't marry. I think she has some growing up to do. @biafranqueeen very well said, you deserve 5stars.

What a thoughtful and unbiased analysis. Thumbs up Op..

I like the opening scene sequence with the kids. Overall this is an average production.

@onila Ask Google.

The backpack looks feminine. Nice gesture Inbtw.

I don realize say this list thingz no dey work, because we no dey in control of who we fall in love with.

But sha make I present my list with the hope say baba God dey see am..

1 Intelligence > book and street smart
2 Chemistry > their must be love and attraction
3 Personality > confident and easygoing
4 God fearing > Will have deep respect for God
5 Sexually attractive > Blessed with the right assets
6 Strong sense of character > Conscience must be alive
7 Hard working > Can make things happen, an asset not a liability.

psky: Don't be surprised mate, the point of sarcasm is that some set of people, very special people of course , don't notice.

If this is sarcasm i think it is lost in translation. Mehn it sad to know people stoop so low to inflict bodily harm on a fellow human due to a disagreement.

Once I discover say she get bf. Two things is involved. Does she really love the bf or not. If yes I back off shaperly, if no I try to woo her over making her understand I am the real deal. Shikena

alutacontinua: U pple can take things too serioz here. Which one is if you fall Anybody dt falls for some online letter know what they're getting into, don't they For someone lyk me, dt whole epistle was me catching fun, anybody dt takes it serious is on a long thing.

Don't sweat it. When you understand that no matter whatever move you make in life you are bound to face critics. Criticism won't take you by surprise. Keep keeping it real and staying true to yourself like you did in your letter.

Inbtw, I like your letter it had a soul.

@troy20 I think I prefer been called the biggest wuss than been a player that is if I were to choose One title as postulated by your comment. Moreover I know fully well that I am neither. I am Matthew the son of briggs. Like I said earlier we are in a free world, you have the right to voice your opinion.

specialguest: From the response on this thread Its obvious we have so many nairaland guys and ladies who hope to make the best husband/wife someday The irony of it all is that this is an unanimous forum and anyone can write what they feel would attract the right attention meanwhile in reality he/she is the exact opposite. No offence intended but if you want to fall for someone based on the letter he/she drafted on this thread, well....... Let me not spoil the fun, by all means go ahead.

I quite agree with you, and l also have this believe that one of the beauty of anonymity is that it gives us freedom to express ourselves in ways we don't in real life. Our anonymous identity is a piece of who we are, a piece we most time hide from the world either for fear of been judged or exploited.

So In contrast to public opinion, it's one of the best was to comprehend what people are capable of, because to me the real world is a facade where we always try to put our best feet forward.

My advise is that whatever the motive a letter is written with either good or bad. I think if one is discerning enough, you will see a piece of who the writer really is, moreover relie on your intuition to guide you on your journey in search of the one.

TEA esq™:
MATTHEW BRIGGS!
You got me smiling sheepishly as though the letter was adressed to me.
Nice one.

Idowuogbo: Awwww....Matthew

I'm here..

adaobi123: Awwwwwwww Matthew

Cutejay: Awww! so sweet nice one Mathew.

Popowaa: Love ur letter

I appreciate, like and respect you ladies. . Glad you like my letter

life_style: can i share this ?

Yes you can bro.

troy20: cant believe guys r also writing all these.more worring is d gurls are aiming 4 d perfect, flawless men dt will make compromises 4 there insecured selvs n u douchbags r replying by making compromises 4 them.can't u wussies ask 4 d perfect woman aswell?.y'all dudes shud stop being such wussies.

Troy I think we all know that no one can be perfect and we all have diverse weakness fears and insecurities. But if anything my dad thought me, is that, don't spend your time trying to find the perfect woman, instead work on making your self the perfect man because on doing so you will attract the right woman. Trust me that's how he found my mum.

If been a wuss means, been in control of one emotions and knowing when to express it. If it means writing a heartfelt letter and for once showing I care about the mother of my unborn child. I accept the title with grandeur. But if it is what we all know you mean...it's a free world you are entitled to your opinion.

Popowaa: Love ur letter

Thanks.

I posted this in popawa's thread, But decided to open a thread for it for posterity sake. Do bear with me if you encounter it twice. I Woke up this Saturday morning unlike me that hate clichés. I decided to write a letter to my future wife I think this is cos I have been thinking of her lately.


Hello Future Wife

The other day i was watching Flavours Na'bania "Ada Ada's" music video I couldn't help but start imagining how our own day will be like, will it be a big, medium or large ceremony... I think that will be up to you to decide but just bear in mind i will spare no expenses in making you dream wedding come through.

I know, I would have to find you soon because recently my dad and mom who have never given me sex education before, have started lecturing me indirectly about the qualities any woman i bring into the house as my wife must have. My sister is always anxious to size up the beauty of any lady I come across as she insist we must protect the bloodline of beauty and handsomeness. As for my brother he always reminds me that I should make sure you are endowed with the right assets whenever we have our little "man talks". I keep laughing in my head given all this list and high expectation they want from you. I think this is because been the first son, the look up to me and have high expectations from me, but trust me you will love my family they are very easy going, open minded and as for my mum after suffering in the hands of her mother in-laws she has vowed to treat you with love care and respect, she can't wait to shower you with the love she never received from her in-laws. Moreover all I want from you is for you to be a "Michelle to my Obama" because we will definitely be a power couple in the future given the trajectory my life is going right now.

There are few things you need to know about your future husband. I am very strong willed, determined but at the same time diplomatic, I have a very tough exterior but a hopeless romantic on the inside, I am principled and I respect boundaries, I am also very hardworking and goal oriented. As for my looks that is not an issue because my father took his time to make me for you .

You alone hold the key to my heart, you alone is my kryptonite. I promise to love you in sickness and in health, for better for worse. I will not clip your wing, I will instead help you soar in your career, I will make it my life duty to ensure you leave a fulfilled life. Your happiness is my happiness, I will be a rock to stand on, a shoulder you can lean on, an ear you can talk to. We will face challenges in our life and marriage but with love, open communication and God as our foundation we will scale through.

Please don't feel insecure about your body because what i care most about is the quality of your soul and beauty of your spirit. By default I am driven by passion, Every thing I do , I do with passion So therefore expect our love sessions to be filled with passion, heavenly feelings will be a normal intimate experience for you because I am equipped with the right tool, the right body and the right skills to make that happen.

Yes I know you might have a past, don't worry it wouldn't matter because if my father in heaven can forgive and forget our sins who am I to judge you for your past, what matter is the future we build together and the memories we make together. My darling we will move mountains together.

Please don't let the bad experiences you've had with guys make you stop believing I will come. I wouldn't want you to worry about me, about when I will come, or become desperate due to age and pressure from society, I want you to live not exist, have fun, make mistake and learn from them, I want you to follow your passion and pursue your dreams, I want YOU to be YOU.

I will find you and when I do I promise to exceed your expectation.

Signed Your Future Husband
Mathew Briggs

^^^ promise. thanks Tv

Hello Future Wife

The other day i was watching Flavours Na'bania "Ada Ada's" music video I couldn't help but start imagining how our own day will be like, will it be a big, medium or large ceremony... I think that will be up to you to decide but just bear in mind i will spare no expenses in making you dream wedding come through.

I know, I would have to find you soon because recently my dad and mom who have never given me sex education before, have started lecturing me indirectly about the qualities any woman i bring into the house as my wife must have. My sister is always anxious to size up the beauty of any lady I come across as she insist we must protect the bloodline of beauty and handsomeness. As for my brother he always reminds me that I should make sure you are endowed with the right assets whenever we have our little "man talks". I keep laughing in my head given all this list and high expectation they want from you. I think this is because been the first son, the look up to me and have high expectations from me, but trust me you will love my family they are very easy going, open minded and as for my mum after suffering in the hands of her mother in-laws she has vowed to treat you with love care and respect, she can't wait to shower you with the love she never received from her in-laws. Moreover all I want from you is for you to be a "Michelle to my Obama" because we will definitely be a power couple in the future given the trajectory my life is going right now.

There are few things you need to know about your future husband. I am very strong willed, determined but at the same time diplomatic, I have a very tough exterior but a hopeless romantic on the inside, I am principled and I respect boundaries, I am also very hardworking and goal oriented. As for my looks that is not an issue because my father took his time to make me for you .

You alone hold the key to my heart, you alone is my kryptonite. I promise to love you in sickness and in health, for better for worse. I will not clip your wing, I will instead help you soar in your career, I will make it my life duty to ensure you leave a fulfilled life. Your happiness is my happiness, I will be a rock to stand on, a shoulder you can lean on, an ear you can talk to. We will face challenges in our life and marriage but with love, open communication and God as our foundation we will scale through.

Please don't feel insecure about your body because what i care most about is the quality of your soul and beauty of your spirit. By default I am driven by passion, Every thing I do , I do with passion So therefore expect our love sessions to be filled with passion, orgasms will be a normal sexual experience for you because I am equipped with the right tool, the right body and the right skills to make that happen.

Yes I know you might have a past, don't worry it wouldn't matter because if my father in heaven can forgive and forget our sins who am I to judge you for your past, what matter is the future we build together and the memories we make together.

Please don't let the bad experiences you've had with guys make you stop believing I will come. I wouldn't want you to worry about me, about when I will come, or become desperate due to age and pressure from society, I want you to live not exist, have fun, make mistake and learn from them, I want you to follow your passion and pursue your dreams, I want YOU to be YOU.

I will find you and when I do I promise to exceed your expectation.

Signed Your Future Husband
Mathew Briggs

^^ I had pure motive, wanted to strike friendship and hopefully take it further, she's reached marriageable age. I had to withdraw cos I thought I rude and disrespectful once I discovered she was her daughter. Time will tell.

Efemena_xy: Nah! Just imagine... You, me, and Sisikill could have been the best of friends doing the moonlight dance under the palm trees, with the likes of Oga Tintingz and Matthew Briggs seriously chasing and trying to woo with the biggest ears of corn harvest or tubers of yam.

In fact I can virtually picture them both doing your bidding, to climb the tallest, toughest coconut tree you point out to them, to fetch you as many coconuts as you wish.

Just imagine kulyie, imagine! Your powers over them. Intoxicating, innit?

Keep dreaming and rolling in your fantasy.

Inbtw I have learnt that behind these moniker on nairaland are people not machines, people with fears, emotions, different backgrounds, experiences and diverse insecurities. I respect the power of words, knowing fully well it can build and destroy people, I chose to do the latter, I knew I crossed the line with kuylie even though I dislike her stance and the way she tries to get her points across, I knew i have no option than to make amends.

I refuse to let nairaland to take away my sense of fairnes, respect and responsibility.

I am a man, with values. Values that define my existence I intend not to lose them due to nairaland squabbles. Not for anything.

fellis: There is nothing like man in a woman's body or woman in a man's body. Human beings are complex creatures and we are all different, there are men who are soft and emotional and there are women that are strong willed and unemotional, that is just their natures, it doesn't mean they are another gender on the inside.
Our physiologies/psychologies are very complex, it isn't black and white so you can't expect every single woman to be soft and emotional and every man to be the exact opposite.
People can have differing psychological make up even if their gender is the same.

fellis you should know that was a figure of expression, I did not mean it literally. That's why I added the no pun intended clause in bracket.

kulyie: because of the nature of my job which will most likely take its toll on the marriage it wont even give me the time for home management or a man (dont bother to ask me what i do for a living) and there are some certain life styles of mine that i am not WILLING TO SACRIFICE ON THE ALTER OF MARRIAGE or a man.am too strong willed.3 my freedom and independence to make certain decisions that will not need to put into consideration husband,my love for my freedom,privacy and space.my attitudal trait that cant accept no you cant do this from any man,the fact that i can have kids and other things attached to the institution and still live single,the fact that it is not uncostitutional and nobodys father will arrest me for it,i also make my rules.i find it difficut or impossible to subject my will to a man and so on and[b] i am living peacefully and happily with my life which is not affecting anybody moreover kulyie is the law maker of her life not society[/b]

On reading this, I apologise for coming hard on you, you are truly happy been single, I respect your decision and wish you the best. But please do tone down on your man hating that seems to fill every thread I see with your name. I might be wrong but I think you are a man in a woman's body, so I can understand your pain. (no pun intended referring to your extremely strong willed personality)

Enjoy your life. Men are not the enemy, the society is. There are good men out there, If you ever decide to settle down which I doubt you will, I pray the right man find you, one who will love you for you, For your strength and weakness. A man that will heal your wound and put smile on your face.

Cheers Milady.

byvan: A guy that hits on a girl infront of her mum lacks basic home training.

jennykadry: I knew people lacked common sense but I never knew they would ask questions that leaves me with one thought in my head..,....why on earth isn't there more rooms for people like the OP at yaba left's psychiatric home?

Please don't crucify me, I never knew she was her mother. Once I knew I backed off.

Gaggi: It isn't rude as long as you are a decent and responsible looking guy. Your approach also determines if she will get upset or not. It's uncivilized people that should frown at a decent young man wanting to chat with their daughters. I have seen it happen a couple of times and most cases it went well.

Thanks Gaggi. I am quite decent, helping her mum execute a couple of projects, and her mum is fond of me. I even think she set us up. But not to be rude once I discovered I retreated. Looks like there is divided opinion on this matter.

I went to deliver a job to one of my clients a woman I worked for a couple of days ago, I met a young lady at her office, I kind of liked her. I started a conversation with her I was going smoothly, was about finishing of before the woman interjected and said "Matthew meet my daughter".  From then I couldn't close the deal, it became awkward, I had to retreat, cos I didn't want to ruin my professional working relationship with her mom. But I still have a gut feeling we were both set-up by her, I feel I blew my chance by retreating or maybe I made the right call. Time will tell sha.
Note: I had pure motive and just wanted to get to her more and see where it will lead to. I am not a player. Plus I never knew she was her daughter until she let me know.

What do you think.

To Mother's is rude if a guy hits on your daughter in front of you?
Ladies do you mind if a guy you fancy hits on your front of your mum?
Guy's have you tried it before, how did it go?

#Matthew Briggs.

kulyie: are you ok? Did i tell you i am interested in men for a relationship. Anyway there is no need for replying you.your post lacks coherence,substance and point,i dont know what you are on about and sincerely,i dont care.your shallow mindedness is pathetic to say the least :/

That's good to know, am truly happy for your decision cos its 1 less future case of male molestation prevented.

ileobatojo: Exactly! Just like you did here...




[b]How does being a key provider make you polygamous by default. [/b]So if a woman is a key provider, she will naturally desire to marry several husbands?


I do agree that legalizing polygamy to get to the end game of polyandry is not a worthwhile endeavor though I disagree with your biased reasoning for this. Neither should be legalized. Ms Keenan should take a chair and sit down abeg. Even if she doesn't have a bait and switch in mind, her position is very dodgy and it would show that she is not very bright.

Read my post again, I am never in support of polygamy and never stated men been key providers makes them polygamous. Instead I am implying that men by nature are polygamous and like to have multiple sexual partners." The key providers" point was to highlight how men in this present dispensation are still in charge making it more easy from them to embrace polygamy than bigamy even if both is legalized.

kulyie: i have no plans for marriage,but even if anything posseses me and i say i want to get married,i will go into an open marriage where the man can sleep with an many women as he wants to sleep with whether married or unmarried and i can sleep with as many men as i want.its a win win situation,nobody is the winner and nobody is the looser.a contract marriage,more like we are only mr and mrs by name,thats all.no one is heart broken,no one feels cheated.kojubelo

I doubt any sane man, will desire to marry you no matter your looks, educational or financial status, highest they will do is use and dump you once they discover you have a psychological hatred towards men.

Your feminist stance is not pure it is filled with hate, powered by anger and fuelled by blood. I believe in giving women the rights they deserve . I also think Your kind of feminist is a dent to true feminists. You really need healing from the bad experiences you've had with men, not just to enable you get married but help protect your sanity because the bitter truth is that you are still in a Man's world till further notice.

This is and epic case of feminist not really knowing what they want, they therefore keep fighting the wrong battles, it's not surprising because of their motive is one based on their dire hatred towards men instead of genuine concern towards the plight of their fellow women.

I really can't make a strong case against polygamy, and if the end game is to legalize bigamy I think it is not worth it.

Even if both is legalised.
I think it will backfire, given that we men are strong willed, domineering, are the key providers, and by default polygamous by nature, the average man can't nurse the idea of bigamy except in few extreme cases, I think it will adversely affect the female gender who no matter what the Feminist say are weak willed, prefer a monogamous relationship by nature but are also easily gullible to entering a polygamous relationship. Polygamy will result to a new kind of single motherhood, where a woman is married but still ends up bringing up her kids like a single mum. Women will be treated more like medals and ego boosting toys. That's is not to say I don't like polygamy and care less if bigamy is legalised in the future but because of my strong understanding of the significance of monogamous relationship and how it in-turn affects the construct of the society I don't support it.

The support for polygamy with bigamy as the end game I think, is mainly from feminist who regret been women, and are doing all they can to at least be treated like men, which I am not against but please let not your hatred towards men lead you to inadvertently support policies that are not beneficial to the average woman.

Remember if you ever need reason to support evil, you'll surely find plenty.

Salamudeen I finished school at a very young age but it took me 7 years before I got admission by then my mates have finished their masters. Moreover I believe if Allah is involved in your life, your delay is not denial. When it's your time the sun will stand still. Today I earn more than even some Msc holders and I am currently seeing my self through school. I felt bad like you before, but right now looking back I thank God for delaying my admission.

The key thing is while waiting for admission don't stay idle, build your skill set, sharpen the Tech skills you already have, build a strong business network. Whether you know it or not, you've been already gotten admission into the "University of life" it's upto you to fail or come out with flying colours.

Don't give up, stay safe, alive and strong.

Followed this debate. I can tell you that feminist deep down do not know what they want. They are seriously lacking in logic, and emotional as usual. 99cent and co. have reaffirmed my assertions, they started strong but are ending weak.

-the Feminist movt I see on this thread is morally bankrupt and selfish movt a mockery of what true feminism stands for.

This kind of feminism I will not support, the kind that stems from hatred towards men, instead of genuine care for their fellow women.

One of this days I will build a solid argument for you so called feminist to learn from.