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Good day fam.pls I need an advise on this.
I met this guy a month ago,he asked me if I was in a relationship I told I was not which was true.so he told me about the girl he currently in a relationship with for 5years that the girl cheated on him that they have been on the issue for a long time that he want to break up with her but he don't know how to because he has invested a lot on her. I told him he has the choice to make. Some days after we met he told me that the girl told him she was coming to see him she lives in a different state but I and him live in the same state. She spent four days before going that they didn't even have sex that they where still on the issue. I notice something about him that he is always jealous when he sees me with another guy, before then he told me he don't want us to attach emotion and I should not fall in love with him yet that either me or him will get hurt. I ask him why he said because he don't want to have another heart break. So I told him we can't be having sex and been romantic with eachother to avoid such he was not happy with me saying we will not have sex or doing romantic stuff. So I ask him what did he want from me. He said he likes me that he really likes me. But I said you have not break up with your cheating girlfriend and you are jealous if you see me with another guy I don't understand anymore. And I told him that we need to stop seeing eachother. He then say is was because I want to start considering another guy and which is wrong I am just trying to avoid regret. And if I want to cut off from him he keeps trying for me not to separate with him by trying to make me reason with him. I don't know what is his problem I ask and talk maturely with him what he wants from me. I don't understand him if he can't we can't date or something why don't he want to leave me alone. I have asked him to reconcile with his girlfriend. I don't just know what to do.

Pls no insult mature mind what should I do about this pls I need advice. Should I separate and forget about him or I should just play along? Thanks.

Sis, that guy is a liar and do not fall for his manipulation. He would never leave his gf for you, don’t get your hopes up.
A man who can’t stand for himself or who doesn’t know what he wants and stands by it, is that one’s man?
Do not get entangled in their nonsense.
Move on and avoid him at all cost cos he has nothing to offer you.

She could have been raped and fear that if she reports to the police, people will get to know what happened and that’s a serious stigma...maybe she doesn’t want that.
If I were her, I would make sure I report that guy to the authorities. Rape is no child’s play and no woman deserves such experiences.
When she says no, let it be no.
She had no business visiting that guy.
When I was much younger, something close to this happened except I wasn’t raped. I was so young then and a virgin. I visited my class mate and before I know, he locked the door. I was scared but as a mafia, I didn’t show it. I asked him to open the door or I would scream.
He immediately opened the door and I left. That was the last day I spoke to him. Ten years later, he tired to be friendly but I wasn’t interested.
That thought me a lesson. I don’t ever visit a guy in his house or anywhere. It helped me a great deal.
Ladies, let’s be careful please cos some guys are not it.

Some of you don’t know what love is and how to express it. Whenn you see a man in love, you call him simp.
It’s funny to me cos only weakass men who have never experienced love and don’t know what it entails would call one who loves genuinely a simp.
Love is a beautiful feeling and everyone should experience it. Give it a chance.

greatiyk4u:
Because they are hardly reliable, this statement summarises it all.


What do you think?

This is a huge lie. There are still good girls out there. You don’t have to agree anyway.

If you have a friend who is a lawyer, tell them and hear what they have to say.

Some of you men have to be very careful with women. Some of these women are just out to destroy you. When you saw she was messing with you, you should have asked her to leave your house.
Don’t be scared. Like one comments wrote up there, backup your watsap chat to your google for future use, just in case.
Call her and apologize to her. Don’t show any form of fear or nervousness. Be cool and simple about it.
When a woman says no, take it. Even if she comes back and gives you the signal, do not go with it.

thatthickgurl:
No guy is cheap.

I appreciate everyone who is trying to help me get through this phase

God bless you

This is the problem you have and probably why that messed you up. Learn how to be by yourself. Learn how to be independent. Learn how not to be needy especially with friends/relationships.
You need to love yourself � that way, you’ll get through whatever issues you are facing.
Stop depending on people emotionally and otherwise.

thatthickgurl:
Hi
Good evening

As the topic suggest, I'm seeking a rebound, currently experiencing a bad heartbreak that has me begging the perpetrator for forgiveness.

He cheated on me, and I'm the one still apologizing because I've formed an attachment with him, that has become part of my routine.

I need someone to help me wean out, of this unhealthy attachment and be able to function productively.

There would be no emotion attached, just someone who is willing to talk to me daily. I promise you , I'm not a boring person , I know how to hold a conversation.

You don’t need rebound. Work on yourself, thoughts.
Your self esteem is low if not, you won’t stoll be crazy about someone who treated you badly. Dust yourself up and move on.

Lordmech:
One of my colleague at work came begging for cash and I ask him. What happen to your ATM or salary and he reviewed that the wife is the one who sees alert and holds the card.. I was shocked.
My pipo is this love or stupidity?

Maybe it’s what both of them agreed to. But to me, it is not wise.

GooodHardDick:
Davido's fans are coming to fight with wizkid's fans right now

I’m telling telling you. The dragging will be crazy.

What is the rush going to see her father? This one is not your own, let her be.
If after all she said about the other guy abusing her and then she decided to go back to him, leave her.

It is not a death sentence. You could stil live your life to the fullest. There are conditions worse than being HIV positive.
Just enjoy your life, reach out to the privileged no matter how little.
Who says you can’t live up to even a 100 years?
In all, focus on your happiness.

bayelsaowei:
I just don't know why i like davido..the boy is just too much..some of his songs gives me goose bumps...the boy is good..

Same here. Davido is cool.

Brian47:
Shata Wale is crying

Lmao

heniford2:
The flog voice of davido taking him place's but na just flog voice nd juju soon someone in his gang will die 4 renewal

Jealousy �

finson:
Good day all,

I was working in Lagos as expatriate. I am married and she was fully aware at the beginning of the relationship.

I had sex with my gf on the 6th day and I pulled out.

I told her that month that my contract has been terminated by my company and I have to go back to my country.

On 27th day I met her (5 days before leaving the country) and she asked me if I am sure that I pulled out on time when we had sex last time and I told her yes and she told me that she is asking the question because she has not seen her period.

When I left the country 2 weeks later I chatted her and I asked if she is doing well. She told me that she is not fine. I asked "why ?" And she told me that she is pregnant. I was very surprised and I called her. That day she told me that she was just joking with me she is not pregrant and we talked about everything.

Last week she told me that she is pregnant. She shared with me a test results on a paper where the date of the pregnancy perfectly matches with the date we had sex.

She told me that if her family is aware of the situation they will disowned her and she immediately shared with me some requirements to apply for a job in UK where 2 million NGN are required and she asked me for support. She also deleted the image of the tests results.

When I asked her to share with me she told me that she does not want me to be in trouble if my wife see that document in my phone. I insisted to get a copy and I told her that she can be assured I will not keep it in my phone. She shared back the document after cropped the letterhead. I insisted to get the full copy and she sent another one after striketrhoughed on her name.

I told her that I don't think in Nigeria the only option available for a woman who gets pregnant is to travel to UK even if her family will disown her. I understand that the situation is not comfortable but there could be other options. Even this process to go to UK can be unsuccessful, and if it is the case, this amount of money would have been lost.

I am not from Nigeria and this story seems suspicious to me. I am currently abroad, there is no way I can verify what she is telling me. I don't also want to open it some of my friends there.

To be honest, I never planned after I left the country to cut communication with her or to support her. But I prefer to support her whenever I have the opportunity to do. I don't know now if this story about the pregnancy is true or not.

If you have any experience in this kind of situation please share with me. Any advice is also welcome.
Please don't judge me.

Hahahahahahahahahaha do not fall for this prank, yes prank. She is obviously lying. You are her ticket to UK.
One thing I hate is lies like this. You need assistance, you ask for it.
Let’s assume she is pregnant, it is not a bad thing at all. She should give birth to the baby and you’ll take up responsibility. Did she not know you were married before she willingly agreed to sleep with you? How about you? You know you aremareied and you slept with some other women without protection. You messed up big time.
Like I said, that girl is lying to you. Why did she’s crop out some part of the test result if she has nothing to hide.
Don’t be fooled. Tel her to give neither to the child first. Una go dey allow some women fool Una.

Awwwwwwww one of my favs. He’s paid his dues. God bless you.

Iyaebe:
You are not matured,hope you’ll never ask for sex from her again.If I’m her I’ll deny you sex till I decide to let go for making me starve just because I acted silly . I hate tit for tat partners

The way some of you attach so much importance is appalling. As if women don’t crave for sex too.

siofra:
You're very wrong.

You're the one supposed to be cooking for your wife sef.

Modified;

Why are you people attacking me like this

I'm very sure his wife gets up in the morning to go to work just like him and as such they should split the house chores equally. Instead of doing as if he's doing his wife a favor by cooking for her.

I hope you share your salary equally too.

[quote author=yinkaOdutuyo post=111514356]So the main issue that led to me denying her food this night.

I asked her for the two of us to go and get ingredients for food, she said she's having serious headache so I went alone.

When I came back I washed the rice and put it on fire and I also start grinding the pepper and tomatoes with manual grinder.

After few minutes when the rice was done I asked my wife to go and put down the rice from fire, and fried the stew afterwards.

She just started shouting she's so tired, her head is hot and making hefty sounds inside that she can't stand up from this bed.

I insisted and she went to put the rice down and off the gas, instead of her to start frying the stew. She just came and meet me on the bed.

And she started shouting I didn't tell you am hungry, am not even eating this night at all. Do whatever you want to do, I'll never stand up to make any stew in this house. If you want to eat go and make the stew yourself.

I just stood up and enter the kitchen to make the stew. As I was making the stew, my wife that said she's not feeling fine was busy watching film om her phone. She complained earlier that her head is hefty and aching her that she can't stand up from the bed, but she stood up and start looking for the BT Audio to connect to her phone so that she'll be able to hear the film audio very well.

Immediately I finished making thr stew, I served the food on the table and the next my wife wanted to stood up from the bed to join on the table so that we can eat.

I just told her that You can never eat from this food this night and tomorrow morning, because you were the one that said you were not hungry that I was troubling you to make food.

I also told her that the headache allow you br watching films and also allow you to be looking for BT Audio. But denied you to cook for me.

So house I want to know if this is right or wrong pls or what can I do.

To all moniker saying have I ever helped her before this is for you below:

BTW I have cooked many times in the house, there are times she'll go to work before she comes back I'll have prepare good foods, that will atimes takes me 2 or more hours to prepare and she'll come back and eat and smile and say thank you. I use to get home between 5pm and 6pm latest, while she'll be coming home by 7pm, 8pm or latter.

At times the two of us may be at home and I'll be the only one cooking, while she'll just lie down watching films or doing another thing while I do the while cooking.

I think I have being helpful to her in cooking and other chores in the house. There are many times I'll be the one washing all the clothes in the house, while she's sleeping or doing something else.

I literally do almost 80% of everything in the house if not more than.

But me doing all those doesn't mean am a fool or I don't know what am doing.

Bit I think as a man you have to man up.[/quote


There are ways she could have made it easy for both of you. Like staying in the kitchen with you, tickling you and stuff like that.
But she went about it the wrong way and gave her the proper punishment. Don’t feel bad about it.

Some of you are jobless. What is your business with Otesola’s son?
I think the person in charge of this forum should filter certain posts.

You decided to come online to disgrace yourself and family.
Can’t imagine doing this to my sibling no matter what.
If Annie introduced you to drugs, you should be ashamed of yourself. Go get a proper job, that way your sis will not disrespect you this much..

Hedonini:
"A girl just wants to make money and live the soft life" - so says the stupid woman. On social media for that matter. Ndi wife material.

That explains everything.

Some men sabi marry nonsense sha. There's some kind of mentality in a woman that immediately renders her unmarriageable. In fact, any woman hooked on Instagram/Snapchat/twitter is unmarriageable. No ifs or buts. But foolish men would ignore these signals and go ahead to marry a damaged entity. Just leave them alone to do their runs and form wokeness on top until they grow old and fizzle out. Any attempt to domesticate these wild animals would end in tears.

Don’t mind the woman. Let her live her soft life.
The way they run to social media to chant nonsense is unbelievable.

I have done a lot for love, made sacrifices. Not all were worth it but still I did what I could without regrets.

This gender war is not stopping anytime soon. Are posts like this even necessary ?

Very good. If you feel you can’t wear the NYSC uniform cos it’s against your belief, stay at home.

Lalami3232:
You just settle down write nonsense and you dey happy because the ladies dey validate your baseless opinion.
Anyways, I no get time for long talk sha. But weather you follow our 9ja babes or you give them freedom ooooo, dem go still fvck around as usual. My only advise be say make una wey marry nonvirgins aka boreholes go for DNA sha.

I don talk am before and I go talk am again, "if no be you deflower your wife, oga go for DNA test ooooo. The pikin resemble me no be 100% guarantee say na your own"

You think only “none virgins” cheat outside marriage and get pregnant by other men? Lmao.

Tomorrow is not promised. People should learn to be nice and encouraging. There’s no shame in hustling legit, but if you decide to talk down on someone cos you feel they are not in your level, you’ve failed yourself.

bigpicture001:
Hello... It's all women.. they all have same character and thaat is cuz they read same book love same thing, mingle with each other and create ideology around. Men from same dept..

Tell u, I have dated churchy girls, religious one, rich by parents, rich by self made, dependant ladies, beautiful to behold ladies, ugly ones, slim ones , fat ones.. from all over. Tribes in Nigeria... And I can confidently tell u that they are all the same...

It can take somee weeks to show same attitude and some will take months, while others will will take years.. but the. Bottom. Line. Is the attitude later came clear...

Keep deceiving urself thaat somee are. Different heart break will be. Your monthly protion... Women and. Moneey are very inseparable.. whether they are rich or. Not

You haven’t met a good woman at all,
You haven’t. Are you good yourself?