Longrich

if temi otedola or dj cuppy agrees to date you but no sex, will you agree?

I wonder what is cooking in that bottle.that isnt just shisha.

FACT.

mariahAngel:
No matter what you do, an unfaithful man would still be unfaithful.
As a woman, don't ever do what you're not comfortable doing because of a man. You might regret it.

@OP,
this is just a manifestation of the rot in your marriage. Your marriage has not been in a good place and this is just one of the symptoms coming forth.
Yes, you can list out all the good you have done for her, am sure she will have her own list of sacrifices too. But the question is, why is your wife insecure? why is she planning and securing her future without you? you said it yourself that she wasn't always like this. why has she hardened her heart towards you?
You two have to stop hurting each other and have a heart to heart talk, get to the bottom of the matter and address it if you can. Life is too short to live in frustration. Have a sit down with her, and ask her her pain points in the marriage, then you can also table yours. Make sure it doesn't degenerate into a blame fest . i wish you well.

It because they don't have good intentions. They may not have the level of control they want over her and the few once-in-a-while slaps to keep in her in line.

drnoel:


That's always the problem Naija men have. This fear to approach a woman that is already established, be it from self effort or otherwise.
He is already breaking his head to answer questions he can't even before he has met the lady in question. Why don't he approach her first and speak in clear terms with her, hear her answer then decide. Na wah ooh

What exactly was done in the private hospital? what do you mean by she was given treatment and medications? did she undergo surgery? were the lumps excised?
you are playing with fire and time is of essence to reduce the spread.That breast should have been cut off since December.
Are you saying that you guys cannot raise transport fare to ileife? You haven't even gone there to know what the financial requirements for treatment is but you are spending on anointing oils and traditional medicine.
Please get to ileife immediately, then you can share the hospitals bills given to you here and people can coordinate to pay directly to the hospital if possible.
if we send money now, you might spend it on more anointing oils.

someone should save that picture for the kids so when they grow up, they see how useless their dad is.. How he denied their existence just to dip into a womans legs.

I take exceptions to the thought that he can treat the kids however he wants because they are his kids. In a lawful country, children are the wards of the state and wrong handling can cause a parent to lose custody easily.
Now, what kind of boarding school exists for kids of 2 year old? is it a registered institution? an educational body? a religious home?
To the best of my knowledge as an educator, even nursery schools cannot be registered with the ministry of education , rather,with the ministry of women affairs.
Boarding schools for two year olds should be more like orphanages. What manner of a useless man will remove toddling babies from the comfortable arms of their grandmother to such a cold environment? was he raised in one? can he imagine being raised in one?
Adults should growup. Growing up means learning and using our communication skills to negotiate situations, it is not about egos and ultimatums .The issue of tribal marks could have been resolved peacefully with grandma. It is sheer crass to upend the children from their abode of safety to a place of uncertainty.
Humans should learn to be humane.

In reality, men also lose respect when they cheat. Which is why some are really discreet make their hand no fall. The level of respect drops from the wife, kids and other family members who know about it.

emkz:
Until everyone is faced with this situation, no one knows exactly how he'd handle it. And there are many who take back cheating wives, but they won't say so in a public forum. Perhaps your thread should have been: "how many men took back cheating wives and how was the relationship afterwards?". I bet you won't get half a page of comments but you'd get more than 60k views.

Once woman cheats, she can never respect her husband again. For many men, they prefer respect to love, and if they feel disrespected, that's it.

I should show you stats? HAHAHA, Lol, My time is too precious to argue. This is just sound advice that i give to brothers and friends around me.
Check the stats on covid deaths, heart attacks, strokes, death during sex, etc if you need stats.

abbey621:


Yet when it comes to health related issues like diabetes, obesity and so on,9ja women have the larger share. Like I told the previous commenter, show me your stats and stop this sentimental bullshit!

Men are more reckless and yes, they take less care of themselves. So many hotels, bars and joints springing up all around town.. who funds them? who spends most time in those places? why have men boughtthe narrative that fun==alcohol,late nights, careless sex, football?? Financial pressure to spend more on your side gangs, alcohol and hanging out. In your 40s, you are still eating suya with alcohol at 12 midnight, then you take viagra or kolakalagbo to finish that your side chick. Bro, you are finishing yourself. Do not blame anyone but yourself.
Yes, men take less care of themselves.. that is a fact.

abbey621:


I'm sorry to say but you're typing jargon! Men poor diet? Who cooks their food? Are the women eating differently from what they cooked? Tell me you're joking?

Statistically speaking most women run the home financially? I DARE YOU TO FIND ONE FACTUAL BASED EVIDENCE TO SUPPORT YOUR STATEMENT? I'm not even going to argue with you, just go North and see how men with 2 or more wives are living, then come back here and tell me how the women are the ones supporting those men financially....LMAO!

Finally I am talking about demands, you are talking about labor, two different things. Back then it was not the norm for a man to buy his wife a car, not the norm for children to attend private schools, not the norm to take care of one or all of your wife's siblings.

Demands back then drastically differs from the expectations today. This is why more marriages crash today than in the past. Greed, demands and oversabi are things leading the modern man to quickly demise, a man that provides financially but is still called useless father sounds reasonable to you? This is what the OP was getting at, he called his father useless because all he did was provide financially�������.

Sent 10k. Safe delivery

What is your exact need? Medical bills? Baby items ? Baby food?
What is your budget? what percentage of it has been met? You would be surprised, the transparency will encourage more people to contribute and help you achieve the target.

Don't get involved in monthly remittances now and you shouldn't have told her what you give your family. If you ever stop ,you become bad and if u cut into your parents budget, they will resent her. However, since you have towed the path of openness, ask her what she and her siblings make available to their parents monthly.They must have something on the table, which you can just increase by a token. You may even find out that the aggregate sum from she and her siblings might top the 50k you give your parents.

Chorismate:


This is a dicey area. In African setting, i think the couple tend to take the groom's parent more as their parent. Well, i stand to be corrected.

However, as @unnerve mentioned, since the ladies parents have other sons that are capable, i think a little more attention should be given to mine as i am the only one currently capable from my parent's side.

This is my rough opinion.

What do you think?

You cannot compare the quality of that boys life to that of the average nigerian child. I am not talking about wealth. Basic food, shelter, low quality education is a luxury to children in Nigeria . Look around you in traffic , in the markets, kids are everywhere hustling for their daily needs. This one has boxes of cereal and spices bought by his mother to throw away. He has eaten , so he has enough energy to grow and rebel.

Unnerve:

Another false narrative. A lot of you simply see the clip of a family living in a western country and assume they must be rich and the boy was given everything.
That's an average earning family, lower middle-class if we are to go by the floor plan of the house, so I don't expect the child was given everything he wanted, far from it.

The only reason they are having those disagreements is because mama wanted to raise her son like a Nigerian and then he rebelled. It's so much easier to rebel in a western country seeing as the system has cushions. Most Nigerian teenagers would do the exact same thing to their parents, except that they will get thrown out of the house and no uncle, aunty, or welfare system will take them in, so only option is to maintain.

But the kid up there is having none of that. The authorities already had him taken to another home (foster) and even if his mom successfully sent him out of the house, he could take up residence in a shelter.

Summary is, that's not a rich kid who's been pampered and spoilt. Just s typical rebellious teenager.
The truly rich kids don't even misbehave like that when they know they'll be risking the millions in their trust fund and they can get cut off from all their inheritance at any time. Lol

From the responses here, we can identify those whom their parents gave so much. No Nigerian child raised in poverty thinks like these ones here, rather they can't wait to help their parents. But when u stress yourself to give the children so much, they think you want to control them.
Hope parents of today are learning. Strike a balance.. meet their needs not their wants so you don't raise entitled kids.

Evans kidnapper==Invictus obi==hushpuppi.
Kidnappers==Yahoo boys.

Their objective is the same, to inflict pain to their fellow men, they just use different tools.

Yesterday, my driver logged into a fake sporttbet site and they got his card details ..he lost his ENTIRE SAVINGS. His hands were shaking Soo bad..his savings of 125k. A family man with four children. Only God know how long it took him to accumulate that amount of money. This man gets to my house by 5.30am every work day ,just to make a living and a stupid Yahoo boys clears it in on sweep.

There is no sugar coating it, they are the same as robbers and kidnappers. If you don't condemn evil, it will grow out of hand and consume you. Nigerians used to be comfortable when Yahoo was an international game. Now , the boys are looking inwards, our bank accounts with small money is not safe too.

This is serious

Hathor5:


Better.

I wonder why.

I have read three articles since I posted on this thread claiming to have an answer to this question but they did not satisfy my curiosity entirely. One of the reasons they named was that women nowadays are more independent. How does this answer the question why women tend to initiate divorce more often considering that men have always enjoyed greater independence and yet have not been filing for divorce as frequently. I am asking myself if women benefit less from marriage on average (one of the reasons mentioned in those article too) and if men mess up more often giving women reasons for divorce. I have also been contemplating the nature of things given that marriage is a social construct and an unnatural state of being. I think that comparisons to the animal kingdom seldom make sense and usually don't do justice to explaining the complexity of human behavior. Having said that it is worth noting that many females in the animal kingdom tend to behave aggressively toward their male counterparts once they are no longer interested in procreation.

But what do I know?

I have an opportunity to ship a car in a container from the US and I would like to load the container with fast moving goods that can be sold easily here but I am confused on what items to buy. Traders, if this was you, what items would u import from the US for quick turnaround?

so how do we contact u?

Bisiebae:
Step up your lingerie game this year, give your husband or boyfriend something to look forward to. Quit wearing that old Tee shirt to bed, ah an!

*Discounts available for more than two buys.

3,000 only

lol,

In summary, whether you choose Jesus or the Dinosaurs, you are all the same. Both are theories from the whiteman.

It's important to find out the reasoning behind that behavior.is it female liberation, laziness, or not caring? Try and find out the mindset behind her attitude.

First time offender, for a full blooded Nigerian? I doubt. He will be used to set an example for others. Our reputation does the real damage.

IpobAntidote:
First time offender, and less than 10 victims should be expecting 10 to 12 years for 11 million dollar white collar crime. He will do about 10 years before he's deported back to Nigeria. Oh well.

98 percent of those accused in US Federal courts will eventually plead guilty. It's almost impossible to win.

It is on the woman, this needs no explanation.

If only you know your worth. The Bible says,''Do not give what is holy to the dogs; nor cast your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you in pieces".

Baby girl, you are a pearl to be treasured. Don't cast your body and heart to those that do not know your worth. You are the prize, if only you see yourself as such. Even prostitutes have guys asking for marriage not yo talk if you. If only we follow the Bible. It is well.

Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.

I needed this. Good discussion points with my kids..

mrkings84:
SEX EDUCATION

Let's consider 2 verses of the scripture.
1: 1cor.6;18
2: 2Tim.2;22

1 Corinthians 6:18
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.

2 Timothy 2:22 Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.

Introduction:
We live in a world where sex is celebrated in many ways; On bill boards, advertorials, vulgar language, dressing, etc. The perpetrators are mostly young people.

Sex was created by God for the main purpose of procreation and mutual pleasure and satisfaction.

The sex hormones in males is called TESTOSTERONE. While that in females are called OESTROGEN AND PROGESTERONE.

WHAT IS SEX EDUCATION?

Sex Education can be defined as the introduction of sexual topics within an educational context.

Sex Education is very large.
Some topics that can be taught in this are;

* PSYCHOSEXUAL DEVELOPMENT
* SEX ORGANS, SEX CRIMES
* SEXOLOGY
* SEXUAL ORIENTATION
* SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES
* PARAPHILIA
* PAEDOPHILE, ETC

Listen up everyone,
That your body will not itch for sex because you're born again, is a fat lie.

Boys have an erection especially early in the morning for no reason sometimes.
Don't be ashamed, it means you're active and virile..

Girls have ovulation within which period their body will be doing them Paulina Paulina.
Don't worry yourself girl, you're normal.

However, between the various itches and sweet body we get, lies your DESTINY....
If you misfire at this time, there are very dangerous and regrettable mistakes you'll make..

So, ZIP UP and do it with all your soul...

Note this,
Sex is not running.
You'll soon be tired of seeing a naked penis or vagina.
Sometimes in marriage, it will stair at you and you'll have no desire especially when you get caught up with the issues of life...

Note again,
God will not wear you an Angelic bra, so that guys won't behold your boobs.
Big lie.
God won't wear you an Angelic garment so that girls won't crush on you.
Big lie.

The more they crush on you, the more you're being prepared for the slaughter...
Someone is preying on your DESTINY

Note;
THERE'S NOTHING LIKE CHRISTIAN HORMONES OR BORN AGAIN HORMONES..

Note also, that Pastors think about sex just as you the floor member. Otherwise, our Pastors wives wouldn't get pregnant.

There are certain facts you need to know about sex;
1) sex is permitted by God ONLY within the confines of the marriage institution.

If you're doing otherwise, you're a SEX THIEF..

2) Every act of sex goes with a consequence.
Sex is always tied with some kind of responsibility.

3) sex and Love are two different thing.
Sex is a desire or appetite, while Love is a decision and commitment.

4) sex does not make people to love each other.
Otherwise the world would have been a very lovely place.

5) If you marry because you have problems with sexual control, you'll still commit adultery.

Sex is much more than putting an erect penis in to a willing vagina. Premarital sex is the major cause of the incessant and frequent cases of divorce we now have in society.

A vagina that is always ready to receive an erect penis will soon become as wide as river Niger and as deep a borehole.

Also,
An unguarded and uncontrolled erect penis is one of the key reasons why society is full of bastards, idiots and criminals.

Men actually go by what they see.
That's why JOB prayed in JOB 31;1, It says:
"I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid?"

While Women go by what they hear..
That's why ordinary simple I love you, you are beautiful etc, a girl is already falling in love.

Anyone you have sex with automatically transfers to you every spirit he or she has.
That's why Joseph had an understanding and fled when his master's wife wanted to cut short his destiny.

Conclusion:
Sex is sweet.
After Jesus Christ, it is the next sweetest thing on Earth.
However, in between the sweetness, we have a five minutes pleasure that has destroyed Nations...
Let's be careful..

Now, all fornicators are sex thieves like I said earlier.
Why?
1) There is guilt after sex.
2) There is fear of pregnancy.
3) If they're in church they have daily confessions and secret fears. Etc

Just so much to talk about sex education but I have to end it here for now before it becomes boring to read....

Stay blessed, stay safe!

Credit: My mentor, pastor, teacher, coach PST DADDIE JOEL PhD.

That kiss is inappropriate. And why was he smacking and licking his lips in the end? It's a sexual act to him, no denying it.

@OP,

Your behavior is that of a woman who does not trust her husband.
Do you feel he is not trustworthy? Has he given you reason to feel this way or you came into the marriage with your preconceived ideas?
If he has given you reason, then hold on to your money. It is your safety.
If he has not, then you are not fair to him. everyone deserves a chance to prove him or herself trustworthy.
secondly, I suggest an honest self assessment of your behavior .. are you led by selfishness or self preservation? selfishness in that you believe the man should run the home alone or self-preservation ; wanting to provide safety for yourself in case the man misbehaves?
these will help you get to the root cause and make better decisions for your marriage and your own self.
finally, is your husband financially responsible? are his decisions all-inclusive? is he open to you in his dealings? if so, you have to review your position on this matter for a happier marriage.
On a personal note, i have concerns about him seizing your card. There are two levels this issue.
1. wanting to know your salary.
2. wanting to control your finances. Number 2 is a NONONO on all fronts. dont let nobody tell you otherwise.

Runs from behind vgc , oluwanisola to beside ebeano at Chevron then ajiran village agungi. Continues in front of pinnock to behind Nixon town, infront of cowrie Creek to freedom way@Jarus@ednut1