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It's the virgo in you. Your role here is to empathize and tend to the world. read more about yourself and embrace it. I am exactly like you too. And please, don't marry a Scorpio..

UyaiIncomparabl:
I am never happy. For every reason I have/find, I'm just always happy and content with my sadness. I always find a reason to be downcast and burdened. I'm very skeptical about everything/everyone around me. I carry scars of everything I have seen and see; pain, sadness, disaster, sickness, death etc. I wear on the gloom and doom of a hundred persons. I can't even say if I'm a sadist.

I constantly seek the meaning of life, the reason of my existence, and as soon as I can't find the meaning, I pass aggression or get mad at myself. I don't have trouble building relationships with others, but I don't strive to build them anyway. I don't like people. I have a huge difficulty fitting into the norms of the society. Could it be that I'm not in the right society for me to be appreciated?

I strive to make friends but I cut them off before they even come close. I'm a realist but people misunderstand it as pessimism.

I'm a very good, ambitious, nice, lovable, generous and approachable person, but people scare me. There's no real love in the world. I have a fairly good life to be thankful for. I have good people around me too, thankfully, but I'm still not happy.

I have a stable job. A fairly good business by the side. I have a good shelter above my head, in school and enough food to eat, in fact, I have totally everything to make the average young adult happy. On here, people might mistake me to be an outgoing and bubbly personality, but in real life, I'm not that. I only come here to have fun, and out of here, feel miserable.

I'm not even passionate about what I even do. I have a job but I don't enjoy it. I just love to be by myself and still get angry for being by myself. In turn, I'm called non-challant.

I'm very passionate about the arts, fashion, poetry, academics, but I lack the right motivation to forge with these things. I usually am very immersed in my emotions to do anything reasonable. In totality, I'm just a sad person.


Is there a help to combat recurrent melancholic symptoms? Do other people feel this way? Am I okay?

What is your concern exactly?
Are u worried about loose vagina for yourself or for your husband?
Does lose vagina kill anybody?
What is the calibration for lose vagina?
Don't come and kill yourself.. if it bothers u that much, go for elective CS.
With time ,you will learn to put your well-being above a man's pleasure, they will find reason to dance naked outside no matter how choking the vagina is.

So OP contacted his dad and apologized as seen from the chat. Well, maybe he wasn't abandoned.. maybe OP did the abandoning.
Also, he said he is 26 and haven't spoken to the dad in 6 yrs, since his 200 level. So the dad was in his life up until he was 20 yrs.
I guess it's a Tiff between him and his dad. Not as deep as abandonment as an infant. Not a deadbeat dad if he was there till ur 20s.

Poverty of the mind. The worst of it all

@djon78,

I think u mean nigerian marriages not modern marriages. Why is childcare a taboo for our men? The benefits are so beneficial to every member of the family. Its a bonding activity for you and your wife and becomes less of a chore for her, you finish earlier with time for yourselves.your kids also bond with you and don't just see you as a provider, everyone is happy. love and marriage is soo easy if we all treat our partners the way we would like to be treated.
These are really the end times..

Hi,

Please which course did u apply for?am targeting computer science but their admission ratio is quite low.

i also have a toddler and a newborn but looking to go in 2020 to ubc.

Do you mind if i send you my SOP to proof read?

thanks

dubajek:
Thanks for sharing. It will end in praise!!

But every child born of a woman ,asides Jesus, has a father. Father is the sperm owner not the bride price payer. All children called bastards just have cowards, weaklings and losers as fathers.

Ikorodu may be better cos of other options of brt and ferry to the island.

Well, this is trickier when a woman is the carrier. It's not just about him getting the vaccines but she could pass it on to her babies.
If its chronic hepatitis b, she should get on her ARV drugs asap to reduce viral load. Consult a doctor to confirm if that also reduces maternal transmission risk. This shouldn't be a reason for the family to reject her. It can be well managed.

That child has been born already. So she will be charged with attempted murder now cos there is no difference between killing a one month old and a 10 yr old. Having a child doesn't give you the right over his life. Drop him in a church, or take him to his father to do the killing. No defence for trying to kill an already born child.

GrabHisBalls:
Someone dashed her clothes without a bra. Why humiliate her? You all think it's easy to be broke and fend for a child? The lady looks like an insane woman. Both she and the child are victims of circumstance.

Rapist sympathizers. Pls keep this recommendations for your daughters.

MelesZenawi:
I propose out of court settlements

In spirit of understanding, the case should be settled amicably between parties.


Since the young man family has agreed to foot the bills, and support them...

They should just not waste money in court but settle in peace.


Let love lead.

It might not be. Sometimes a bad marriage damages one so much you dont even give a Bleep anymore. I don't know what led to the separation but keep working on ur reconciliation if u were the cause. She may not have forgiven completely. Forgiveness can be hard for some people.

sisisioge:
Hmmm...she got it better elsewhere fa...I'm not gonna be the one to tell you the truth. Besides, women mostly cheat with their hearts involved. Sorry, I'm not gonna tell you the truth.

Thanks bro. Any links to helpful videos on bitmex and margin trading?

I really need training on this. I don't mind paying.. I find it so difficult to understand despite watching a lot of videos.

Balanciego:
One of the way to make money in cryptocurrency is through trading it. when I say trading it, it doesn't mean converting bitcoin to naira and vice versa.

it's about using margin to trade. Even if you don't have much capital. at least 50$ can kick start your way to financial freedom.

sign up on Bitmex and read a few article on margin trading. start your plan and follow the plan. simple indicators like SMA and VDUB can help you enter and exit trade.

since I ventured into trading. I have never made less than 200$ a day.

Check out this thread and all the love shown by the men....https://www.nairaland.com/5235015/demon-wife-finally-left-house#79170137...
They just don't like women making the move.. Its a power shift and that is what all this is about.

Is it laser or inkjet

U are an idealist, I worry for you cos human nature is brutal. Unfortunately , people are not always ALL we think they are. Humans are a sum of all parts. As a partner, do you know all their parts before marriage, heck, do they even know all their parts?
If the implementation of the agreement is postponed indefinitely, what can you do?

Before marriage, all there is is promises and vows. You better pray your spouse has high doses of integrity and selflessness, else, those words all come to nothing.

Acidosis:
Someone posted this earlier "submissiveness doesn't mean a man having his way over his wife". Nothing is wrong in having certain prejudices about about situations, job, in-laws, place of worship, etc. It is not gender specific.

People should focus on marrying sane partners. A man can allow you to work 24/7 so he can merry in peace and tour the world with his side chicks, not necessarily because he wants the best for you. Some want you to work so you pay most of the bills.

Marrying sane and loving/lovable partners should be our focus. Submissiveness, and the rest are extremely natural when love prevails.

Btw, the decision to work or not should be talked about before marriage.

No.

I hear you. I don't remember it but it is the peak of wickedness to kill a baby and tell it it's it's not a baby. But like u said, you are derailing the thread.

doitforyou:
We learned difference between an embryo, a fetus and a baby and all the stages of reproduction in basic biology. It's not my fault you can't remember or you didn't go to school to learn it. Anyways all of this is not relevant to the thread, you are derailing it.

How is it a fact? I bet you read up something online to justify your position. Something that some one came up with in this our generation to defend their depravity? Pregnancy and childbirth has existed before any write-up on the internet so u can't tell me otherwise.
Besides, did the OP tell you that her foetus was not a baby despite her decision to abort?

doitforyou:
I am sorry facts do NOT die!

Humility is Messi.
Pride is Ronaldo.
None is better. The just speak to your character and what you think of yourself. I think hustlers are the proudest people. They deserve to be cos they worked hard for it. Talented and privileged people are more humble.
If you are speaking in terms of man and woman, I don't know.

Do all d abortions u want but just die this argument please.

doitforyou:
A foetus is NOT a child!

Bia Muonso nojuo nobi ndi kwerenu
Munye nime face oku nke ifunanya gi.

Puta epkere Nwanne m puts ekpere
Puta ekpere Nwanne m puta ekpere
Ugbua ka umu Mary nasi gi puta
Ugbua ka umu Mary Na si gi puta

Nwanne m puta
Nwanne m mwoke puta ekpere.

Obu mma gi kiji elozo Onye kere gi
Obu ego gi kiji elozo onye kere gi

Puta Nwanne m nwanyi puta ekpere

Well, I agree with breakerofchains.. But it's not black or white, it's all shades of grey. I would ask the girls, what led your decision to have sex the first time and how easy was it to say yes? If you answer honestly, then you will see that this argument although true, comes from a dark and cynical place. The first time for majority of girls is a huge compromise on their pride. Now to decide to give up ur pride for money..... I doubt it's an easy decision. Heck even prostitutes dream of having a Prince Charming and becoming g a princess. But you start doing it, rationalizing it and become desensitized.
I really would prefer to be djcuppy and dad buys me gwagons and Rolex, while my boyfriend loves me and I have sex for love. In my reality, I'll fcrk my landlord and get free rent for d year.. It's a dark reality babe.

khakeesi has spoken. The breaker of chains

breakerofchains:
Nothing.

So can you gtfoh...

My sisters above, whenever a man asks you that stupid question, tell him "nothing". He should go Bleep himself.

The last thing you want is for a male creature to put you in a corner where you feel the need to prove your worth.

We don't do that here.

1.what sacrifices have the other gods made for you? and at what does it cost you to worship them?

Jesus gave his life for ours, to take away our sins . All we need to do is beleive.
No sacrifices or burnt offerings needed, salvation is absolutely free.All you have to do is beleive in your heart and confess with your tongue that Jesus is Lord. this cannot compare with the hundreds of blood thirsty african gods.
Ask the pagans, they strive to worship their gods. The make offerings, drop sacrifices, commune with the dead, carry talismans,tortoise shells, chicken blood everywhere, bath in the oceans for protection,success, etc.
But Every thing Christ has given is FREEEE. The bible says, even before you ask , I will answer. All the promises are FREEE. Christ has paid the price.

2. the laws of christianity make for a healthy society.

Christ gave us the ultimate command, love your neighbor as you love yourself.
He said when they strike our cheek, we should turn the other cheek.
he said we should forgive out brother 70*7 times in a day.
In these statements, Christ promotes love, tolerance, forgiveness, patience and all other positive values neccessary for an utopic enviroment.
If all man lived this way, we would be in heaven basically. if you oppose the teachings of Jesus, Do you now embrace the opposite? and what kind of society do other religions create?

3. the bible says that God is love. and Love is defined in the bible as “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails”.
I don't know which village god that can be defined in this way.

i am not exposed to many religions.. But the ones in my environment, I have checked and none can compare.

OSUigboKiller:
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Rubbish from the pit of HELL
Why should I believe in Jesus who was even afraid of death (hell), for he cried (father father, why have thou forsaken me...) when there are 100s of other Gods to believe in?

First , do you agree that fasting is a form of bodily mortification? If you do, then you must know several instances where Jesus fasted or even gave instructions for fasting. At least you know he fasted for 40 days and nights. Or should I give u a quote for that?

brainhgeek:
Sight an instance of bodily mortification in new testament after the death of Jesus. Christ paid the price. Do not crucify Him again.

The church agrees that no one comes to the Father except through JESUS. Catholism does not teach that Mary is a way to the father. Our choice to honor her as guided by the church is not a sin. Please stop searching for a speck in our eye. Thank you.

brainhgeek:
Honoring Mary is not a sin but many Catholics worship her instead. You know this for a fact. There is however no biblical backing that Mary assumed the position of intercessor in heaven. The only advocate in heaven is Jesus and Jesus alone. Full stop!

Dictionary meaning of mortification is the action of subduing one's bodily desires.
fasting is mortification as seen in the book of Isaiah. So therefore it is a personal decision between a Christian and God on the manner of mortification to embark on .

brainhgeek:

Can you back up this claim with a Bible verse sir? I need enlightenment on the fact that Christians should practice mortification because of the death of Jesus.

Jesus first miracle was at the prompting of his mother, despite his protests that his time has not come. Catholics honor Mary and only require her to intercede to Jesus on their behalf. Catholics believe that Jesus is the only Way, the bible is clear..

brainhgeek:
Show me the log. I stand not for religion. I pray to God to beat out religion from my system and give me the person of Jesus instead. Religion was the error of the Pharisees and Sadducees. I am a Christian who is not bound by religion but who pushes to he transformed by looking at the image of Jesus and studying the Bible.

Catholics are Christians too. Don't be fooled by your pastor to do the work of the devil, setting the church against the church. We are one body in Christ.

Tedassie:
Catholicism is a cult!!! I repeat CATHOLICISM IS A CULT!!!!

FLEE FROM CATHOLICISM NOW.
Jesus loves you!!!