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Survival instinct...if sex weren't pleasurable we wouldn't be encouraged to do it and reproduce..then the human species would die out

Also it helps bind couples together...you release oxytocin during sex which helps you to bond with your partner

If you don't feel a connection to your partner it is a loss to the species because humans need to create family groups to survive.

Also any pregnancy resulting is more likely to be abandoned and still, the child is less likely to survive. I am speaking from a biological perspective

The same reason eating good food makes you feel good/want more and we naturally like the taste of combined carbohydrates and protein ... all survival instinct

In fact if you really want to answer this question, you have to find examples of people who do not experience sexual urges and see the difference between their bodies and a normal one

Kaycee54321:
Bullshit. Any man content with that kind of false worship is a piece of crap. I will never treat my wife that way and I'll never raise a daughter that will lick the soles of another human just because he has a penis.

Africans and false sense of self worth.

Hahaha you people have surprised me today

Heaver:
You are kinda right though but I will simply tell them it's not their day and they can't force me to go afterall, they are not seeing me through school but I get your point besides that, the memories, I mean it's a one time thing

Fair enough, congratulations anyway

Heaver:
Exactly, I skipped my matriculation and I plan to do the same to my convocation, I really hate social functions

Won't your family complain? A lot of people wouldn't really want to go but their parents want to take pictures

sammysmiles:
Informative but why is the denture not white,,, so when a person starts using it,,, what colour do we expect?

Healthy teeth have a natural yellow tint..but too much Photoshop has deceived us into thinking that our teeth are supposed to be brilliantly white

Dentalgist what's the difference between these dentures and veneers?

CapitalHYC:
David this kids should be in school right now or they don't school in Nigeria?? .. Money Stop nonsense Cheii

Lol

Jimbadly:
It's coined from two names Jim and Badly. So basically my name is Jim Badly, my pseudonym that is.

So you're nocturnal? Hmmm, that's really interesting. Girls are rarely nocturnal.

Let me guess, you wear glasses, right?

But how would "Badly" be your name? Isn't that kind of inauspicious?

Lol I think people in general are hardly nocturnal, or are men known for staying awake longer?

No, I don't lol. What made you think so? Do you wear them?

crackhaus:
Lol, na you sabi

Lol we caught you, offshore worker spotted

Orjioorji:
dont judge a book by the cover.

Everybody has a duty to himself to present himself in a respectable way to the world

Low-key means not flaunting your wealth or deliberately playing it down, not coming to meet somebody for the first time wearing filthy clothes.

I wonder if you went to meet a lady and she showed up looking like that, whether you wouldn't run away and come to narrate the story

So poor people don't bathe or wash their clothes? What an insult to people of a humble background

zedman1:
This line.... "just like his famous father Cobhams who was also born blind". I read once in an article where cobhams was interviewed, in the said "interview " Cobhams said he wasn't born blind, so which of the info's should we believe?

There's such a thing as degenerative disease or progressive blindness, maybe he was born with some poor vision and it got worse as time went on.

The real problem in this discussion is that we don't know what's actually wrong with cobhams or his sons eyes, we're just using the blanket term "blind" which encompasses so many things

HabaHaba:
Read my previous comment again, you did English Comprehension in school, didn't you?

Did you do English language at school? Your previous comment was unclear

You want to talk about why God allows people to be born blind?

HabaHaba:
Philosophy is not my forth, but Chemistry, and other sciences are. I don't mind we engage each other in those aforementioned dear.

Ready?

What are you engaging me in?

I couldnt answer her comment because I didnt even understand what she was saying until the 4th time of reading it

genq:
They claim to 'ignore' but proceed to take up half a page talking about the said guy emmaodet you really struck a nerve bro

Lol do you want us add your name as well...let us finish the page with your own matter

biGDhAp:
the lady has a big stomach already without even giving birth already .. disgusting

So how would somebody be pregnant without an expanding stomach... I hope your mother carried you with a flat tummy?

I think before anyone is allowed to sign up to this platform, they should be given an IQ test cos this your comment no be here

fairfora:
On the glasses thing, I'm in total support. I have a friend who was using eye classes from secondary school. Till now, he still wears it. Guess what? His first son's lenses are thicker than my friend's. But on this blindness, I feel so sad reading the piece. Ha, all I can say that, God in His infinite mercy gives her the support needed to carry on. Since she said the situation has improved, it means there's still hope for the boy to see more clearly. Out God does wonders.

Yeah it definitely runs in families though you will still get kids whos parents dont wear glasses while they wear, and vice versa

Yes, hopefully the advancements in medical science will help them out

HabaHaba:
Hmmm, see phoney! Your bug Oyibo sef is enough to discourage Lazy Youth Nairlanders from engaging you. See them, they've all kept quiet because of someone's professional diction.
Nairlanders are only won't to responding to topics that has to do with unproductive Yeyebrities & BB Naija! & of course, Bob Risky, matters that CAN NEVER HELP THEIR LIVES.
Mchhhhew, unguided youths.

PLS guide them more, bro.

So why dont you engage her, you as the non-lazy youth

Zoroaster:
Hard facts!

Lol but Zoroastrians still believe in God na

Lol.. thread full of mad people...which one be palm frond

OP you can wear a nice native with a subtle pattern/design that will be unique but not too loud

Really you should wear a suit because it will go well with the academic dress (cap and gown) but if not you should still try not to be too flashy

Orjioorji:
dont know you just missed your husband , that guy may just want to pretend and appear on low key.

Lol lowkey or dirty and tattered? Shior! What kind of next level husband is that

Plead:
You people shouldn’t get me wrong ,I didn’t say she should have her own money so that she’ll take up all financial responsibilities in the home ...no

Highest they share it somehow and not her taking up everything unless that’s their agreement and she agreed to it ,my emphasis on having money was simply because of cases like the one OP is experiencing....

If the man is always telling you to leave his house ,have no respect for you or not giving you money ... if you have your own money you wouldn’t beg him or anybody you’ll use your own money ... hope you understand me?

Infact if the husband knows you have your own money and if he misbehaves you can do without him and even better he won’t try shit with you

It seems you didnt see the lady lamenting that she keeps getting kicked out of her house over tiny issues... didnt she have a job?

People like you always make excuses for iniquity not realising that the same may affect you one day...stop shifting the goalposts over somebodys bad behaviour

Thats how they tried to quash the sex-for-grades saga but by the special grace of God, you people wont succeed

Jimbadly:
I'm not married.

I was just curious about you based on your comments here which most often evokes a feeling of 'coolness'. You often sound like a well-brought up lady . Your comments usually look well-thought-out.

Btw, your moniker is quite catchy. Do you usually stay up late at night?

Ah, thank you that's kind of you to say

Yeah I am kind of nocturnal lol. Whats the origin of your own moniker?

Instead of this she could invest in some skincare treatments to reduce the scarification and hyperpigmentation so that she wont have to cover it up all the time

She is not ugly but her skin is in very bad condition

Acidosis:
Thanks for coming through

Lol you are welcome... dont know whats up with some people

Nobody is advocating for how she landed herself in this situation but it doesnt give the husband the right to bully her. Wont somebody take a wrong turn at some point in their life?

Plead:
Help her in what way? . Did I send her to get married without job?

As a Fellow woman, help her first .

I don’t even know what’s making me to still reply your mention

You arent replying because youre only answering the parts of it that suit your vindictive agenda..is that one reply?

I guess this is how you would like somebody to talk to you when you need advice... just keep harping on about the stuff you should have done 5 years ago instead of proffering a practical solution

Plead:
Weytin concern me?

If you like don’t get a job before getting married (that’s if you’re not married already) you’ll end up like her because as it seems you lack wisdom and you’re very arrogant.

You have a problem with arrogance yourself which is why you cant seem to empathise with somebody who is experiencing a crisis

Knowledge is not exclusive to you alone, why not help her instead of being abusive?

Plead:
That’s why I said earlier that have a good paying job/have money or save enough before accepting a marriage proposal from anybody /going into marriage .

The fact that a man is forming alpha male before marriage and doing everything for you 100% doesn’t me she should be trusted .... there are men who stop their wives from working (I personally think women who quit their jobs because of their husbands directive and not because of their own sake eg sickness or birth for the meantime are foolish) and become housewives only to start seeing the women as liabilities years after even though they were the one who stopped the women from working.

You are correct + you have a point on the bolded.

The problem you are having is being 100% focused on the reality without minding the theoretical, which is what we are talking about.

We didnt say that what happened to OP was unrealistic or that she shouldnt have seen the writing on the wall, but it doesnt make it right and it doesnt give her husband the right to oppress her.. if he didnt want to marry her he didnt have to

enemyofprogress:
I wan do dominique wetin Buhari do Aisha

Better forget me oh, i can never rubbish myself like that

Plead:
Marry with the intention of becoming a housewife in 2019 when the said husband isn’t a billionaire ,GOOD. Not my business, just don’t come wailing on nairaland after some time that he’s not giving you money for whatever .

Now move forward with your fellow lazy sheeples who share the same thoughts with you

You seem to have comprehension issues dear... move forward yourself and try not to get so angry on somebody's matter next time

iaamxavier:
I repeat blindness is never hereditary

You can talk about color blindness being hereditary fine!!

But blindness No! Do ur research

Congenital cataracts and strabismus nko

Plead:
I’m bitter and hateful because I said women should get good paying jobs/money before accepting marriage proposal from men/getting married ? Because all my posts on this thread so far have been about women having jobs.


There is only thing I’ve deduced from this ; you’re probably a lazy woman who believes women shouldn’t work and should be pampered all the time with no hard work that’s why you seem to think I’m bitter for saying if you don’t have a good paying job don’t get married or else you’ll create your own thread on nairaland to cry.


Life isn’t a bed of roses my friend

Not at all, you sound bitter because you cant seem to voice your opinion whilst keeping another perspective in mind.

You didnt even get Acidosis' point. What is wrong in marrying with the intention of being a housewife if its what you people discussed already? Running a home is hard work if you dont know. I dont intend on it myself, but I respect another couple's right to choose that path. I dont see that as being pampered, its just another way of designating roles in a relationship. You cant say being a homemaker is bad just because OPs husband doesnt care for her again

This is the problem with people like you.. I have enjoined OP severally to start supplementing her income and ignoring the sadistic husband, but you wont read that or any other comment. You'll just quote me and start typing inanities to make yourself feel better

enemyofprogress:
she is doing yanga to my love

So you wan use me as Caretaker chairman abi...abeg no enter my mentions again

enemyofprogress:
I am not, Adam single and searching, but now that I have sinned you, I'm no longer searching again

What about the person in your signature... remember that there was only one Eve...