₦airaland Forum

@Topic!

Which of the gals do you love more? You have to go with the one you love! Pregnancy or no pregnancy oh!

@ Esss! 

No!  The child's name should be "away match"! or waka about!

@Topic

Sorry oh!  Please don't attempt to kill both mother and child oh! E don happen! Kai! See major fu*k-up! Huh! When will you guys learn to keep ya arses in one place? Huh!

@Nairalanders------------- NAIJA MEN AND WOMEN CAN BE JUUUUUUUUUST FRIENDS ABI?  he he he he he!  I dey laugh!  Famous words "we are just friends"!  I say not in Africa!  Lai Lai!

@Topic

Wetin be the difference between the two of them?----------- ---Scratching my arse!

First of all, instead of buying gold and lace materials--financial planning involves saving money for at least 5 years equal to your monthly household bills so you will not have heart failure when you have an emergency situation!  But trust Nigerians---we like to live from hand to mouth without planning for emergencies! I do not do that kind of rubbish!   I hate stress!  As you noticed, I have a strong personality!  I do not make noise for nothing and play the demure wife!  I like to organize things!  My husband knows that if anything happens to him--I will definitely take charge!  Some women cannot even balance their check books!  My gra gra no end for mouth oh!

We have solid financial planning in our home!  This was necessary when we started having kids!  We started saving and got heavily involved in the stock market!  If I ever found myself in the situation you described!  No problem---we all move to DC!   We sell our house and all move to DC!  I will work 2 jobs if I have to till my husband can gets a job!  I have done it before!  When my husband had to go back to school I had to get 2 jobs so he helped me with the kids and study for his exams!  It is called financial planning ok! 

Nigerians do not plan so they are always "fu*ked Up" easily financially!  I learned  very well from my oyibo co workers!  White people will save 10 years worth of monthly income and will act like they are broke!  Naija's will have $1000 and spend to the last cent on nonsense!  No savings!

@rowlandwhy

"hot" ke! wetin you mean?

denex:
@ MILITIA

Don't worry, shebi the UAE took care of it's citizens before it developed Dubai, Nigeria will develope TINAPA so that it will take care of its people.

Na the same thing we dey achieve.

  I hear you!  You can go and fool your fellow Nigerians with that hog-wash!  Nigerians the achievers! Almost 47 years and still achieving!

[quote author=md_dude link=topic=61109.msg1240597#msg1240597 date=1182885830]I guess you not putting yourself in her shoes really and I bet you are not married too with the kind of responsibility you have. At least here at least you can get a job paying less to hold yourself while things get better. I have friends that lost their well paying job but didnt have any problem to do security till they got the kind of job they wanted back to pay their bills. That doesnt happen in nigeria. Finding a job is not like walking down to your local KMart/Target/Ross/walmart and asking to start tomorrow or you can go to Dominos to start delivering Pizza the next day at least to keep the fund going.
I worked in naija for a 1.5 years in naija and I know how things work.

Like the poster said, it is not an ideal situation but it is a drastic situation that required a drastic action - who wants to leave a their family to purseu money but when youd ont have a choice you got to do what you got to do - simple[/quote]And you say you live in America? What can K-mart work do for a family of 5? Sorry I don pass that stage! I am putting myself in her shoes because sorry to dissapoint you I am married with 3 kids too so I know what I am talking about! I said I will not leave my kids for any stupid job! As for my personality--don't worry Not every man wants a dull doormat for a wife! God bless my hubby!




[quote author=md_dude link=topic=61109.msg1240600#msg1240600 date=1182885927]By the way, at least you can use your credit card when you are broke here and even if you lose your job you can be on unemployment insurance for 6 months till you get yourself sorted out![/quote]Thank you! At this stage in life---I only pay for what I can afford! No credit cards thank you! Made that mistake for the first 10 years of my life in America! I will not live like a slave to pay credit cards because I want to attend all the "owanbes" in town! God forbid! Sorry oh! It is all about financial planning so I can have time for my family instead of dying a wretched death as a slave to "credit cards"! Is it my money? I do not think you know what you are talking about! credit card ke! Oni gbese!

ghengis:
@MILITIA
While i agree with you that Nairaland might be the worst place to seek serious advice on issues that affect your life such as taking a job or not, I think some of your conclutions are wrong. You live in the US ( where there are basic utilities running very well) so u definitely don't understand some things about financial stress and lack of efficient utilities. Do you have any idea what it would be like not to have money to fuel your car and take your kids to school, leaving them to the rigours of publice transportation (She def wont be able to afford a taxi, if she can't fuel her car)? Do you know how fast financial stress can kill beauty in marriage? Do you know what its like not to have money to feed (my dear, groceries aren't half as cheap in Naija as in the US o!)? If you know what being broke in this country is like, imean if you have any idea, u'll not make things sound as though she's deciding to leave her kids.

I see!  Well fine!  I have said my own abi?  We face the same problems over here oh!  Even with basic amenities and all you called it!  It is just a matter of planning!  Sorry I will rather wait and find a job in Abuja if I was the poster!  I am sorry--I just cannot leave my kids!  God gave me the children as my first priority and I can not compromise that because we are stretched thin financially!  The poster is free to do what ever she wants!  For me, leaving my kids is tougher than not having a job!  I will find another way! By the way what type of marriage is that anyway?   Bi coastal MTN/V-MOBILE marriage!  Sorry oh!  Not for me!  I said I will find other ways to help my family!  Shioooooooooooooooooooooo!

ghengis:
@MILITIA
If you know what being broke in this country is like, imean if you have any idea, u'll not make things sound as though she's deciding to leave her kids.

You do not know what you are talking about!  Try being broke in America!  You are as good as dead!  No help from any one!  So you think being broke is better over here than in Nigeria?  I dey laff!  My dear, broke is broke regardless of where you live!  The same problems you have over there when you are broke is the same you have over here!  The difference is that over here they have no "MERCY"! You will be forced to find a way or die!  Please, do not even go there if you do not know!  Groceries are cheap---like it is saliva you use to purchace them!  I say I dey laff!

dazangel11:
LOL this guy just want to be popular. My guy no be every problem u go carry come Nairaland oh
because u never marry for 24years u dey complain . 40 years barchelor dey streets of Lagos for your info. Just try wait for your time. Or else?

he he he he he! I can't get off the floor for LMFAO! 40 year old bachelors for streets of Lagos ke?

rowlandwhy:
Militia is a militant _{NIGER DELTA FORCE (NDF)} although she is my sister
LOL

Wetin I do now?

Yup! Let the poster tell us his real problems then!

@teeirl

Ireland is only a small part of the world and we all cannot move to Ireland to find genuine harmony in inter racial marriages right? We all have our strengths and weaknesses! My love can definitely not withstand that type of abuse. The last thing I will do is to subject my children to such cruelty in this world! Like I said--Power to you and keep up your good work! Life is just too freaking short for some kinds of hassles! To prove what kind of love? Naaaaaaaaaaaa! I will pass! Over hear in America, people can be very disrespectful, especially to children! I say I pass!

@Topic

Well you did not say much except from you posted title topic.  Over sabi Naija women like me are put off by "terrible grammar" and killing of the English language!  Do you have that kind of problem?  Please write something and let us see what the problem is.  Might need to send you back to some "classes" to brush ya up!  

If you are in America or England---you will not have any problem because the babes there do not care about how "sweet" your oyinbo is!  They all think you are speaking with a "French" or "Creole"  romantic tinge or flare--even when you no break chalk!   Naija babes---can smell an illiterate from across state lines! he he he he he!  Na we we now!  We sabi ourselves!  So explain yourself please so we can know how to help you!

@teeirl

Don't be offended please!  Nothing wrong with biracial dating! When it gets to marriage---that is a dfferent ball game!  Let my brother introduce himself to some white folk in Alabama or Upstate New York as your future husband and see the "hell" both of you will catch!  Look, we know the deal and I personally will not put up with the social abuses of interracial marriages! It is fun to date, but marriage---no way!  I like to eat my stockfish and ishi-ewu without someone disrespectfully spraying airfreshner all over my house! I do not like noodles and gummy bears!

So bottom line!  It is a matter of preference---no disrespect intended!

teeirl:
Oh my god what the hell is wrong with all you people in here LOVE SEES NO COLOUR, I'm a white girl and have been datin black guys for the past 10 years ok some comments do be made but hey these comments come from uneducated and ignorant people which there seems to be a few on here. Ive an absolutely GORGEOUS mixed race daughter who catches the eye of every person not because of her colour but how stunnin she is (who was made from a BLACK man and a WHITE woman) ! I've been to Nigeria and got a very warm welcome there from people but then there is those silly uneducated women who think we are stealing their men but ladies they come to us because u are all too MATERIALISTIC and love to you is the things they can buy you and money they give you,

Sure!  No problems with that!  LOVE SEES NO COLOR?  Sorry oh!  My love wears "bi-focals" at all times!  Why has the Nigerian guy not married you?  We are simply terrified of that interracial nonsense from both sides and life is just too short for that kind of adventure!    Just have all the fun you can while it lasts and take care of your beautiful daughter!

Yup!  The next elephant project is going to be Donald's golden golf course on the moon called "DINAPA"!   Long Hisssssssssssssssssssssssssssss!

tng:
The TINAPA is laudable. Forget anyone that might want to politicise it. True, a lot of us(Nigerians) live below the poverty line but we can't wait to solve that before doing other things.The only snag i see is IF Nigerians would buy into the project and gradually make it the African Dubai.

We don hear!  Like you have ever been to Dubai!  Emirate citizens no dey work oh!  The people that work in UAE are mostly foregners and you are here talking of "African Dubai", with unemployment rate of almost 90% in Africa!  I dey laff!  Don't go and think of how to reduce our mortality rate in Nigeria from common childbirth or tooth exractions!  Rubbish!

Yup! No wonder Duke built TINAPA "projects" for the rich!  To please shallow minded Nigerians like most of you with misplaced priorities!  Is this not where those military guys perished on route to "Obudu ranch" to go fatten themselves some more! He he he he he!  I say e go reach everyone's turn!  Then you will be asking God "why me"?  Why not you?  when you have killed many poor Nigerians with useless policies! Depriving poor children of similar facilities with your greed and selfishness! Most of you are talking trash here because you have most of your family members in high placed positions implementing stupid policies that will keep most Nigerians in perpertual servitude!  And you will carry your misearable selves to church for your stupid thanksgivings!

Keep waiting for Nigeria to be like Dubai!  The emirate people took care of their citizens first oh!  Before making the whole place a tourist center!  You are comparing stupid Nigerians to Arabs who look after themselves!  Nonsense!  Nigerians no get food chop and they are building tourist centers to further widen the gap between the rich and poor!  I am sorry for Nigerians!  No hope at all! God's purnishment is waiting!  Useless people!  Thank God I had the foresight to get out of that useless country!  I will rather die in Iraq than die in Nigeria!  God! And most of you will open your filthy traps and insult government officials when you are not better.  Wonders!

If not my family still there I for don burn my Nigerian passport finish! Just waiting for when ever God calls the rest of them so I can use the passport to attend funerals in Nigeria! That is all my Nigerian passport is good for!  Thank God my kids will never smell that place for you guys are disgraceful! You guys have no shame at all! Tufia-kwu-----ozu wunranwun! (dead body when don die dey smell rotten)!

Beline:
Don't let any man get you in a cheap way because men don't like whatever they get in a cheap means

And what might that be? Toto?

[quote author=md_dude link=topic=24055.msg1239838#msg1239838 date=1182873534]Interacial dating? My best experience was with a Latino girl during my brief work in LA. Gosh!  my worst experience na naija babes (but I still love una sha). when it comes to commitment other factors might come into play![/quote]Thank you bo!  You have said it all!  Wetin Naija people sabi?  And them can make noise!  Please date interracially and then if you choose to marry your home buddy for cultural reasons or whatever, you ladies will have gained the experience of "bedmatics" instead of laying there like a logs of wood playing some "disgusting and irritating secondary virgin"!   The guys will also learn to take a shower and wipe their butts clean before crawling into the bed!  When wahala comes into your marriage you will go and start sleeping in church for help --fasting and praying only to loose more weight, become less attractive with your bloody scarves or even start looking like AIDS victims!  Nonsense!

@Flying dut

Oh booooooooooooooooooooooooooooooy!  Na you dey for that picture? 

@Esss!  
You trust now!  How you dey?  Don't mind this yahoo babe!

@BASETSANA
Very mature oh!  Thank you!  I do not care the reason for the rejection!  Please remove your dross and take mirror look your "precious" cargo well well oh!  No man is what humiliating it!  You need to move and move fast before this man spits on your "pussy cat"!  Once a man no want me---he is perfectly justified oh----- for I am not the Queen of Sheba!--- I will check out so fast  because customers full road oh!  In hot competition from other babes sef!  Sharp sharp I don go!  I have never pinned for one man for more than one week!  Please!  Na king Solomon?

@Topic

You must be very ugly!  No man is worth this type of humiliation!  In this day and age when you can pay your own bills single-handedly?  Like I said earlier keep fastin' and prayin'---that is what Najia babe have first class in! Specialists in "night virgils" to catch bobo!   Long Hissssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss!

@ Trini girl

YOU GET AM RIGHT!  YOU WILL HAVE A LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIP!  You understand the guys well well!  No need for too much talk!  That is one major problem we gals have!  We need explanation for everything! Let your actions do the work!  Less talk talk! I SAY YOU ARE THE WINNER! 50 gunshots in your direction oh!  TO-ZAAAAAAAAAAAAA! x50!