₦airaland Forum

Franciscabless:
Shame on you idiot i can see that you are jalous because i am blessed with 3 daughters and you have none. You want me to give them up so i can be barren like you guess what we can never be the same because i know the joy of motherhood something u will never experience in your entire life plus a real mother that am I can never give my baby away not matter how much the suffering. As long as my mum is alive I will not give up any of my children for adoption , am not the cause of to your problem go and ask your ancestors to tell you the reason why you haven't been able to conceive. Barren bitter woman like you irritate my soul to no end too because you can never be happy for people like us who are blessed with children. Stop taking paracetamol on my headaches

Re-read the highlighted, no take pikin brag is a wise counsel.

Not everyone will birth children, either by choice or health reasons but that does not give you the right to demean another human being who struggles with infertility be it male or female (not even the person who you quoted, who I don't even know whether she is a parent or not).

I don't have interest in how many children someone gave birth to, my focus is what is the quality of life these children are exposed to in a country where 133 million Nigerians live in poverty and are reproducing irresponsibly while risking the lives of the children.

Fear of yellow card

joefelin2345:
But the January 1966 coup could abi? With all the dead personalities such as Sir Ahmadu Bello, Sir Tafawa Balewa, Chief SLA Akintola, Brig. Ademulegun, Col Ralph Sodeinde, Col Pam, Brig Mamlari etc. These were fathers, husbands, Uncle's, Brothers etc of some people as well. It is a pity that people contributed towards that war. The war for me is our war too & if we can learn something from it we could come closer to what the men at time were not...the architect of out future.

As the focus was on the Biafran war, history classes would have given Nigerians the knowledge of the built up crisis and how things got escalated into a full blown war, how it was fought, the surrender and efforts on post war reunification of the minds of Nigerians......My father survived being killed by the soldiers as he drove from Lagos back to the East in November1966 as he did mistaken him for a young Missionary Catholic Priest because of his fair skin complexion and spoken English.

It was a senseless war by all account, nothing good was gained from it.

The Biafran war can never be air brushed away

Franciscabless:
I know I am a adult and not her responsibility but I am at the lowest point in my life right now , she must support me until I get back on my feet , pregnancy is not a disability I will put to bed soon and will find a job or comtinue selling akara with her . [b]My first child daddy is in prison am waiting for him to be release so I can take him to welfare [/b]the same way I am going do for this irresponsable guy am staying with. He must take care of his children by fire by force I cannot kill myself taking care of them alone only for him to comes claiming them when they become very successful in life

The welfare officials can't drag financial responsibility out from a man coming out of prison because he has not been earning. Readjusting into the society is very difficult for ex-convicts as people are very skeptical about giving them jobs or entrusting them with responsibilities.....so don't expect much from him in the first few years.

Franciscabless:
Am not depending on him but it is his responsibility to provide for me and the children even if i starts working he must still have to provide 99% for us. I want him to do his duty because it is not my mum duty to be taking care of his children when he is working I am my mum responsibility but his children are not my mum responsibility

You are not your mum's responsibility because you are a full blown adult, who have decided to be sexually active and become a mother.

You share responsibility of care with the baby daddy of your first child and it is your responsibility to get him to be involved in providing for the child you share with him. You also share responsibility for the second child and the third, about to be born with their father. Get the welfare service to get the 2 fathers actively involved in their children' lives.

You have to concentrate on repurposing your life, 3 children from 2 fathers who you were never married to and neglectful is not of the best interest of the innocent children.

Marriage should not be in your horizon for now and for some years to come, focus on acquiring skills and opportunities to earn steady income to care for yourself and add to whatever your children' fathers contribute.

Burdening your mother with financial responsibilities that shouldn't be hers, is so very unfair.

DSTheGreat:
my mum left my dad some years ago due to infidelity, without divorcing him, she went ahead to have an affair with someone else, though my dad neglected his kids for some years, he is seeking to see those kids and my mum is hiding them from him, what do I do?, I'm sick and tired of it all

How old were the children when their father neglected them and how old are they now?

Argentina.

Franciscabless:
This pregnancy was not planned family planning has failed me

What were you doing for a living before you met him?

Get one thing clear, he is not your husband.

Afolashade01:
My 7years old boy is in basic 5 while the senior is in jss 3 sir

Haven't even be able to clear up there fees sef

Your financial reality can not support having your children in private schools, why didn't you have them enrolled in public schools while you work your way towards financial stability as this is almost 2 years you created this thread and still piling up debts?

marksburg:
No

If you don't want to first talk to your neighbour about it and how it is adversely affecting your household, what else do want Nairalanders to suggest?

How no one has come up to flaunt Tinubu as his/her primary and secondary school mate is still baffling.....are they all dead?

TheboyGhost:
Now someone is talking!! Well them never Jam Thick headed women

What is hilarious about Nairaland's marriage therapists is the usual get a sidechick or divorce her pattern of thinking. Who healthily sorts out marital issues with threats, violence or infidelity?

Afolashade01:
7 & 11years old they are sir

In school, which classes are they in?

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Do you even sound like someone making $50 a week and you are here marketing $10,000 weekly earnings scam... don't you have relatives that needs to earn the $10,000 weekly?

Afolashade01:
Not easy with my 2boys. I need any job cleaning or whatever. Anyone can help with a job asap

Got school fess to balance up for my boys

How old are your children?

I bet such men do see ladies who are already graduates but would prefer to gamble on paying for the schooling of a lady who is not his wife with the belief she would marry him, ignoring the reality that when most of such ladies graduate, they outgrow the man.

Don't waste resources on such!

Vision101:
The school fees are relatively low. The course is less demanding. In most cases only course work but no exams.

£14,500 is the fees

Gerrard59:
Chai! Na me fvck up. I saw the faculty name but not the course itself. Thanks.

Good luck to them tho, but .....

Reason I do encourage some who intend to come over to look into doing their Msc in Psychology even without an undergraduate degree in psychology as it gives them more opportunities during study and after graduation.

Gerrard59:
These are computing and physical sciences' graduates, so chances are high. Abi is the tech sector in the UK not booming? BTW, is the tier 2 visa really that hard to come by?

Project management? Chances are not high as many end up in care sector.

Amza07:
Am praying but i do not know Why everything keep getting harder day by day.

Is she not earning, no matter how little?

MT:
Getting tier 2 visa is not the issue but maintaining it. If you get arrangee tier 2 and you are not getting the jobs on regular basis, Home Office is waiting for you when you want to renew the visa.

The struggle is about to get so real and crazy.

Even if you get the arrangee tier 2, you are supposed to be a full staff of the company and paid monthly, salary stated in the contract.

ednut1:
they will give them 2 years permit to stay. After that they will need a company to sponsor them for tier 2 visa. Very hard to come bye. Majority will have to settle for care jobs sponsorship caring for old people or disable for 5 years before getting permanent stay

There are also sponsorship for mental health related jobs likewise children' residential support jobs, which entails working in residential homes for children living in care mostly 8-16 year olds.

OboOlora:
MSc Project Management but 80% of them don collect care sponsorship lol

If u know u know

Well, that was the intention of most from the onset.

Persephone1:
On the contrary Uk caregiver requires care certificate With that over there applicants are given trainings and backup certificates.

This incident has nothing to do with training, The problem is the woman being black. That child isn't even a baby.

It is not about being black but leaving the child, unobserved for such a period of time which is very risky. The age of the child is irrelevant.

I have worked as a Children' Residential Support Worker here in the UK. Before I and my colleagues started our shifts, we had to attend weeks of training to get certifications covering: Safe-guarding, Fire safety, Self-harming, Medications, Household chemicals, Food safety and preservation, UK legislations on children living in care, bringing under control aggressive children without going physical on them and filling in the daily paperwork.

After those trainings and you signing an employment contract, negligence is not expected of you and it has consequences.

wakanderforever:
the guys at abuja say they cannot change age on the new passports (b series), that only their comptroller general can.

It is no fault of yours but theirs, get a lawyer to write to the Nigerian Immigration as you need to take legal steps to get it corrected.

Chidinwa:
Hello everyone. Please any single female here who was disappointed by the form A ish and still willing to travel this year?
I am going in for undergrad degree, and have made all my deposit of £4k and all (London Uni). If you wanna come in as a dependant, feel free to contact me. Terms and condition applies tho.
First off, must be female and single. Only one person needed of course. You know what to gain from this offer of course.

As an undergraduate, you are not eligible to apply for a dependant.....only for postgraduate students.

frankmoney:
Seems like a harsh punishment ... For just 30 mins

How long did it take Davido's late son to get drowned?

Eltunechi11:
You're right,ion like the way these Arab people treat blacks......I see nothing wrong with the 30min bath..

There is everything wrong in a 30min bath, while on shift. It is not about Arabs treating blacks, it is standard procedure in childcare not to leave a child unobserved.

taylormed2:
My issue with this is not her cheating, but making raise anothers seed. Imagine what she, the man and the children would go through when the kids are all grown and their real dad shows up to claim them. He cheated yes, you punished him by cheating? Ok maybe justifiable. Then you make him invest his love, money and time in kids that are not his which can give him heart attack later when he finds out.

Assuming I am not biologically related to who I have known as my father, if the man who is biologically my father comes up.....how can he claim me as a grown up because even in many communities in igboland as it is traditional that any pregnancy within a marriage (even as a result of infidelity) belongs to the man who paid the woman's bride price...the husband.

spinna:
Aww even evil dictators can be cute daddys... But fear that child in the near future.. childhood go soon end

With such father, she doesn't have a childhood.