₦airaland Forum

Nice one.

capetownboyz:
what help do you hope to profer cause am really pissed with situations like this..God punish poverty..

Sadly, such situations are very common in many Nigerian homes but few are speaking out.

nereushouse:
Sorry what you're going through madam.
But I think your husband is a under a spell. Prayer is also a Key.
Also, I know a Marriage counselor who could help by counsel. You can DM me if you don't mind.

Which spell? We should stop spiritualizing wilful misconducts and take responsibility for our actions!

If it was the wife sleeping around, would you say she is under a spell?

wagzy37:
It’s not a guarantee but a possibility. Even in the west, splitting of property and child support is not a guarantee albeit, it’s a common trend.

Section 72 (1) of the Nigerian Matrimonial Causes Act is the basis for every settlement of property of divorced parties. This section grants discretion to courts to settle property of divorced couples in a manner that is “… just and equitable in the circumstances of the cases ….”.

All he needs is a great lawyer and he could have custody of the kids. You forget that Nigeria is adopting western cultures and policies every day.

Get custody of the children he is not close to
going by the narration or get custody on the grounds that their mother poses a danger to the children through her wayward lifestyle, abuse of drugs or has been clinically diagnosed to be mentally unfit to continue to provide care?

Worst still no Nigerian high court judge will grant him custody of their daughters, who are minors and his impregnation of another outside his marriage is a proof, he has no moral grounds to fight for custody. His lawyers must have to prove that he has been present in their daughters' lives, involved in their day to day care, their education etc and most importantly, how do the girls feel about their father (that is where my skill comes in )

Can he afford elite lawyers more than the likes of the sons of Atiku, IBB whose estranged wives won custody of their children.

Kingcalls:
Most of u should watch people like Jordan Peterson ... watch more of YouTube to learn

Women are more likely to be infected with HIV but more men are likely to die from HIV-related illness than women.

In history, Did women lead 51% of the war ever fought?

In medieval Europe, what was the percentage of ruling Queens in comparison to Kings?

wagzy37:
Agree to what exactly? She bought him, but who is coming here and wailing? Not the man.

It's no mistake, but if there's anyone here, she's the fool and you are just typing with your emotions all over the place. The man will go and camp in his new baby mama's house while the wife will still be wailing, talking to whomever and their dog how he was a deadbeat. Besides, the man apparently doesn't have as much as the wife. He can sue for the children and get child support from the woman - or better still, file for divorce and they equally split their assets. Who will lose?

Have some logical sense here.. I know your emotions are running wild. Women should allow men lead. She had been the one coming up with different things throughout the marriage and not allowing the man lead. If I got a dollar for the number of "I" I read, I would become a millionaire.

Lastly, you ladies are just funny. The man wanted more babies, you said no.. But you can decide to have a baby even if the man says he doesn't want any ba? Nonsense! You calling the man names just shows how it hurts you and her. The more painful thing is, y'all know deep-down that you had a hand it it. If not, you won't feel that much pain.

Is it the same lady he wants her to abort the pregnancy?

Share a weblink that cites that in Nigerian law that would guarantee half of the assets?

On what grounds would a judge in Nigeria grant him custody of the children and child support from their mother? As in, he gets custody of the children, then his soon to be baby mama becomes the children' mother?

Kingcalls:
Thats cos what women did in past centuries made men lock up...if they are given the chance, they will use nuclear weapons... women are never logical, they make decisions based on emotions...thats y they are prone to mistakes and are always regretting

Reason I asked you to list the names of women that led wars that disrupted humanity and huge loss of human lives ......list them.

08064978510:
What if he decides to go away with the children, have u thought of that

On what grounds would he take away the children, as per the court granted him sole custody and their mother, denied visitations?

Kingcalls:
We are talking about centuries ago and u are talking about recent history

Ok, accepted that wars of recent history have been led by men, list the ones centuries ago, across all continents led by women since that is your excuse.

Kingcalls:
Wud hv been far worse if it we had women leaders...history has proved that when women are in power, they lead deadly wars..people get killed easily ... una no well...all of una

The Russian- Ukraine war, the Middle East crisis, the Afghanistan long drawn war etc, I guess women led them........when the doctor told you not to skip your medication, you thought he was joking.

Kingcalls:
Everyone knows that a woman's advice is like the devils advice .... u are a terrible human being as known ... always acting on emotion instead of logic....reason y women will never b allowed to rule ...una no just get sense

Shebi you see how Nigerians have been enjoying Nigeria, under male leadership since 1960.

Romanoff:
Why is the woman never under a spell when she cheats?

A man's infidelity tends to be spiritualized as a means of absolving him of responsibility for his actions.

Penguin2:
Don’t kick your husband out

Don’t kick your husband out

Don’t kick your husband out

Don’t kick your husband out

Don’t kick your husband out

Don’t kick your husband out

Don’t kick your husband out

I said it 7 times because 7 is a perfect number so that the universe will bear me witness that somebody on Nairaland warned you.

Kick him out now and you will have that peace you think you need and all that but you will regret it in the long run.

Sit down with your husband and seek out solution on how to go about the girl that is pregnant and try to retrieve your home. Don’t raise your children in a broken home.

The home is already broken.

MNDY:
I am not defending him in any way.
But could his lifestyle be because he wants a male child?
Especially as a firstborn, for someone like me.
And he was probably hiding his worries.
Many men prefer male child more than female.

The side chick is now pregnant why does he want an abortion?

Johel:
You are really dull...I won't engage you...I got work to do...cheers.

Eyah, who is the dull one? I guess it is he who has no idea but want to form authority on a subject he has no clue about.

Do focus on your work, it is good for the mind.

MadarasBlade:
And how do you know all this?

I have lived, schooled and worked in Kenya

Johel:
I'm not married

So you don't know them, how do you then reach the conclusion that they are more sincere and better than Nigerian women?

Starzo:
Lies, you're not talking to a novice

When it comes to character, women from most other African countries are more cool headed that the nigerian ones

If you're talking about women from the West I would understand,not african women.

Feminism has not corrupted those ones like naija women

Naija women now claim feminists but still want to be taken care of...nor be juju b day?

If I hear! I guess you feel you are conversing with someone who have no idea of Kenyans, that is the focus.

Most Nigerian men living in Kenya who are married to Kenyan women, can't try some stunts they do with Nigerian wives....most of the educated Kenyan urban women are generally more assertive and comfortably not under the shadow of their husbands, even as you relate with them, they rarely mention their marital status as Kenyans flow more on first name basis.

In Kenya, ladies are in general,more empowered than guys in terms of opportunities and it is common seeing guys going to cohabit in their girlfriend's apartment, including many hustling Nigerian guys who squat with Kenyan ladies and end up becoming baby daddies.

Misguided youths

Starzo:
And Nigerian women want what??.... intelligent mugu!

Even the most demanding east african women will not demand what an average naija leech demands.

And the woman from other countries are more appreciate compared to entitled arrogant,self-centered naija leeches

Yeye people

A career minded Nigerian wife is more traditional in comparison to her Kenyan counterpart and when it comes to marriage such women tear eyes pass most Nigerian women.

That man will certainly tolerate from her, what he wouldn't from the Nigerian wife.

Johel:
He made the right decision, Kenya women are far more sincere and better than Nigerian women

I guess you are married to one and talking from lived experience.

EbukaTheDrugLor:
Well Dumbo! If she deprives the man of sex because of university education, then she should not blame the man for seeking it elsewhere. My point exactly

Now that while seeking it elsewhere, it has resulted to pregnancy and now wants the same wife, to talk to the side chick to abort the pregnancy, what have you got to say to that?

It is the responsibility of the school to take the student to the hospital, while informing the parents of both students what happened and the hospital the student is being taken to.

Chinelo154:
She has high BP already but she will not move she rather stay and suffer

With your mum's present health status and the pressures around her, her life is gradually ebbing and to be straightforward with you, there is a likelihood of her slumping and not making it.

Smiling....the subtle rationalization.

Sad,

RepoMan007:
Issues for this life plenty o. Don't interfere in his escapades again. Let him do and undo himself.

Escapade don turn to belle, husband wants wife to talk to sidechick about aborting the baby......the guy no well.

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"Let him take the child and settle the mum"....who would be taking care of the baby?

mariahAngel:
If I were your mum, I'd leave everything and everyone behind, and relocate to the village for my sanity and peace of mind.

Memories ..... My mum got her cousin who was the breadwinner of her family way back then, to leave Lagos to go back to her maternal village, leaving behind her 5 children and some of her husband's relatives with her lazy husband in Lagos.

The husband was claiming to be a contractor but one naira, he was not bringing home while the wife worked herself to death, every time she was always looking for where to borrow money from to replenish her capital as she was selling second hand clothing. What broke the carmel's back was when she fainted where she was selling at Aswani market, the husband was called but he didn't show up and his excuse was he didn't have money to transport himself from Ikorodu where they lived, to Aswani.

It was after she was discharged, that my mum made sure she moved to the village to fully recuperate and that caused an uproar as the man came severally to our house to confront my mum for brainwashing his wife, werey was then facing the reality of paying rent and providing for their children and his relatives who lived with them....my mom was always prepared for him.

Their Parish Priest had to be involved, who through his influence got him a job in a bakery, his relatives had to move out of the house and the Priest made him to be paying the house rent and part of the feeding expenses while the wife support from her end.

Obeying the last order.

Dearlord:
That was the best practice that should never be abolished

You can't stop time, people are evolving.

Probably more prevalent in the Northern part of Nigeria.