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Glad it is being challenged

OBhdae:
I get so tensed up easily. I have tried meditation, alcohol even drugs all to no avail.. It's worse when I converse with people I get really sweaty. It is affecting me in so many ways. What should I do?

Make out time to read up on and even watch youtube videos on Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and Anxiety

HarunaWest:
Then why did they collect the yam, bags of clothes and other stuff?Dude ,its his right to have sex with his wife.

Have your own family not been collecting things from men who came to marry your sisters and other female relatives?

Sex is very central in marriage and where one or both are feeling dissatisfied with it, it is a call for concern. The conjugal role in OP's marriage is seriously affecting the conjugal rights and there is need for both to effectively communicate their concerns, in as much as they now have children between them how can they rekindle the sexual aspect of their marital life, what has to give way so that they don't get physically and emotionally overwhelmed to the level that it leads to the decrease in sex drive.

When both of them can truthfully recognize what has gotten them to that low level of intimacy, I believe they would be on the path to a better space that would nourish their marriage.

YoonSung56:
The woman you paid her bride price, you beg her for sex? I can't believe it. If you decide to have s side chick, its not a crime.

Paying bride price is not a receipt of purchase of another human being. You don't cut the nose to spite the face.

And the FG continues to borrow recklessly!

A good way to remember her mother.

NobleAngell:
Is the girl called Chris too?

Shortened form of Christiana or Christine.

They should both calm down and do not say/do things that is not of the best interests of the 3 children between them.

Craig24:
In response to the comment above mine: when next you get back to heaven tell the Almighty to make you a man not a blood-leaking mammal.

Without that "blood- leaking", your mother wouldn't have given birth to you and it is that "blood- leaking" that will make you a father, so there is nothing shameful about "blood- leaking".

Trump is a comedy filled character!

The children of most of the ASUU representatives and that of the FG are schooling abroad, so little motivation to do the necessary things that would lead to resumption.

Mummiesgirls4:
Am a 26years old single moda of four girls 8,5,3, 8 months, I left the fada of my first three daughters because He was nothing but a cheat and liar , he has made my life so much miserable and i suffered with depression and blood pressure.

I was staying with him in his parents house , he never care about me and the children , he was always out chasing women especially rich married and older woman , those woman are the ones giving him money, he will be spending it on expensive clothes and shoes while me and our kids starved of hunger, my children has never been to school and they are very stupid just like their fada .

I have sold almost all my clothes and jewellery to start up foodstuffs business so i will b able to feed my children and send my children to school but the wicked man stole all my money and I went back to zero. I was angry at him , that night I fought and injured him and I left with my 2 years old child because my fada says he can only allow one child in his house and I left the other 2 children with him. At my fada house even my younger ones don’t respect me , everything I did is wrong my presence irritate them and my baby can't breath in this house , if she cried it's bad if she is very happy it's also bad, I can't ask them for money to buy my baby something to eat things was hard for us so I was frustrated that I started dating this rich married man just for me to get something to feed my baby.

the man gives me lots of money and promise to open a shop for me and rent me a room so I can survive with my children , he gave me an iPhone 7 and he was really in love me and he has told me if I gives birth to a baby boy for him , he will send the wife packing because he had 3 girls with her and me as a stupid and greedy I believed all his lies and he impregnated me , I told him about the pregnancy he was happy but after few days his phone was off , I tried calling and calling nothing , I was angry that I searched for his wife on Facebook and Sent her all her husband naked pictures that i kept on my phone and I did also sent her my number to call me so we can discusses more , she did and I told her everything including the pregnancy and i screenshots all the messages her husband sent to me ooooo.

the lady cry on the phone and she hanged the call and three days later the stupid man call insulting me that I should leave his wife alone or he will arrest me , he say he will never leave his wife for me and I should forget about him , the way I insulted him I told him I will do everything to kill him or one of their children because he cannot just come use and dump me so we both should loose and the next morning Out of anger I went to his house to fight him and he arrested me for a week , I sign an undertaking not to be near his house anymore .

I was very depressed I want to kill myself because the pain was too much for me to bear , I was kicking my stomach everyday for this pregnancy to come out I didn’t want it again but it was still here , I feel bad for messing my life to this level and Was very ashamed of myself, I wanted to die oooo , i didn’t know how to face my family, while I was pregnant I posted my story in this Facebook platform in February 2019 and the admin was so nice that she help to find me a counsellors which helped me a lot but it wasn’t easy my family had rejected me and I couldn’t face my other baby daddy I stop contact with my 2 other girls leaving with him and I had this baby the labour was the most painful one and was operated and the fees was high after spending almost three months at the hospital a Good Samaritan paid my hospital bills and I returned back home , things hasn’t been easy but I thank God because I’m working as a sale girl and I’m managing with my children and I rent up a small room and my other 2 children are still with their fada.

and it makes me angry when I see this stupid married man posting his family on Facebook forgetting he has a child somewhere else that he is supposed to be taking care of but he hasn’t given me a kobo for her upkeep I just feel like to go and fight him even the wife has no remorse for my innocent child she can’t even counsel him to take his responsibility , she is forgetting that she also has children incase something happened to her , her children will suffer too the same way she is happy my innocent baby is suffering. Please I’m thinking of going there next Sunday very calmly to ask him to take his responsibility, I will not fight him all I want is for my baby to be a part of his family too.

Quoting you from your earlier thread to have an insight into where you have been and also coming from.

Co-habiting with a man shouldn't have been your priority when you are yet to get a clear head about the direction of your life. Don't lead any man on with intentional misinformation about your child-bearing history because the consequence will be dire.

You already have 4 children with different fathers, I suggest you pause on any relationship that is sexual to avoid having another child and focus on putting your life back on track and having all your children living with you while their fathers make their contributions.

Being economically empowered and raising your daughters should be your priority, work on conquering the cravings of seeing a man as an escape from your reality because it isn't!

I hope there is a prison section in any of our Federal Neuro-psychiatric hospitals as such a place is most appropriate for the arsonist/ killer.

DaddyRochie1642:
Ryan Giggs has every Right to Discipline that woman whenever she steps out of Line.

Am sure that so called girlfriend is there to Leech Off Mr Giggs Success and contributing very Minimal to it.

Every right indeed! Why not advise him to be girlfriendless, so no woman will leech.

Leagues. may soon be suspended.

Wishing them the best

But I have earlier seen some of these pictures relating them to #endsars looting

Hmmm...you are lucky to have options.

I bet that they had severally discussed about exiting around the same time. May their souls rest in peace.

Yawns......

Graysons:
Akwa ibom women fvck like dogs, no surprise here.

Who are they infecting and who goes on to infect others?

The training was a waste on most of them.

We4all:
His family is doing everything to help. Mind you, they got to know about the bondage cos the man responsible confessed to it before he died. A once loving dad just woke up one day and became a different person entirely. I mean, it was strange cos we all knew how chilled and level headed he was.

Whenever people say such things don't exist, I just laugh cos I have seen it all. Sometimes, I wonder where those powers come from, then I remind myself that we are Africans and the devil must have lived with us.

From what you shared, it means the man's was "spiritually".manipulated into descending into alcoholism and other addictions he may be battling with?

I work in a psychiatric facility and most relatives of patients insists that the mental health issues has roots in "jazz" and they have gone to many prayer homes and healing centres before finally resorting to getting them admitted in a psychiatric hospital. For me, I interrogate that "jazz" angle they come up with while being culturally sensitive.

Primary school things, Raymond our chief late comer made the time keeper.

We4all:
When did he start to exhibit this behavior? I used to know a man who behaved exactly like your dad, if not worse. Years later, we got to know it was a spiritual manipulation. He was put in bondage by his wife's ex fiance.

And has he been released from the bondage of alcoholism and womanizing?

mutter:
You need to seek professional help.
I've been there.
We often think that it is only. "mad" people that need a psychiatrist.
Please seek help.
It helps.
I have been there.

Unfortunately, it is a misconception tied to seeing a mental health professional.

Ferlis:
Pls what app is this?

They are yet to fully launch.

Logon59:
These clubs social media handlers are actually the ones feeding most of these rivalries in football. Rivalries generate banter and banter means more traffic which translates to more income and improved brand value for their clubs. You may be shocked to find out that Ronaldo and Messi probably chat and congratulate each other on WhatsApp after a good performance while their fans spew blood at each other online over an imaginary rivalry created by people who are being paid to do so.

Beefing sweetens football!