₦airaland Forum

Dauchman: Simply means promised in marriage or the period of engagement. Remember at this point she cld hav run away or refuse to marry him. Dude do some research. But again to ease things for u, anoda lite read.
http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Engagement

striktlymi: @mko I believe firmly that there is no hard and fast rule about getting married. Irrespective of how one decide to go about finding his or her life partner, I believe that the element of desperation should not be part of it. Courtship for me I believe is necessary because not everyone is as he or she seems. The world we live in is a dangerous place and we need to exercise some form of discretion in choosing a life partner. I know that it is still possible to make a mistake after taking the much needed precaution but the risk of making the mistake is mitigated when we thread with caution. I believe that before one should get married, it is important to get to know the man or woman and the families too. This takes time. The example a fellow nairalander gave of someone who got married under an hour is a bit too much cause I wonder how the marriage was organized and if the families and/or friends were involved.

OilSubsidy: @ m.k.o2005, Why do you think you need to convince anybody that it is necessary to court or not? Haven't you heard the saying different strokes for different folks? Are you Ojigbani or him brother/manager? mtcheeewww

mrperfect: But is better to know at all than not knowing.

Shadydamsel: t] I personally don't fink dat it is all wat some pastor dat should be taken serious. Beware guyz just do what U think its right, I mean how can u no d person u're dating better if dere is no courtship or will U just pick a person and marry like dat

Sagamite: And this is the person counseling people on relationships?

meggieblac: And if i find out we are not compatible during marriage?

abuayman: [color=#006600][/color]

And U, wueva u re, shut d Bleep down

dozymars: How do u know they didnt court? were the days of meeting eachother before marriage stated?

Moreover Isaac servant prayed that God should show him Isaac's wife in a peculiar way by showing him the signs when he went in search for Isaac's wife.

Isaac is a covenant child so there can be no mistakes even if he doesnt court. The Marriage is divine.

salaksmana: So if I see a lady today, I can marry her tomorrow? Kai kai kai

striktlymi: @mko I believe firmly that there is no hard and fast rule about getting married. Irrespective of how one decide to go about finding his or her life partner, I believe that the element of desperation should not be part of it. Courtship for me I believe is necessary because not everyone is as he or she seems. The world we live in is a dangerous place and we need to exercise some form of discretion in choosing a life partner. I know that it is still possible to make a mistake after taking the much needed precaution but the risk of making the mistake is mitigated when we thread with caution. I believe that before one should get married, it is important to get to know the man or woman and the families too. This takes time. The example a fellow nairalander gave of someone who got married under an hour is a bit too much cause I wonder how the marriage was organized and if the families and/or friends were involved.

dozymars: Okay Mr M.K.O I think you need to know what courtship is. from the dictionary Courtship is traditionally the wooing of a female by a male, includes activities such as dating (dinner and a movie, a picnic, or general "hanging out", along with other forms of activity, such as meeting online (also known as virtual dating), chatting on-line, sending text messages or picture messages, conversing over the phone, writing each other letters, and sending each other flowers, songs, and gifts. Courting usually involves getting to know the family (especially the parents) of the one you are courting. Most of the time courting will be done somewhere public, to lower the chances of anything going on between the couple. Some couples who court do not even kiss until marriage.

In my opinion courtship is like friendship, a committed friendship to a particular person. So is there anything wrong with friendship? NO.
Except you think courtship is all about having sex before marriage, then you are wrong.
Courtship is an english word for such frienship, you get to meet the family or parents of both families during this time.
So will you marry a girl without meeting her family?

Lero15: u dont av to take evritin ur pastor says 100%...courtship is not a sin or frm any pit of hell as long as u dont engage in immoral acts.

striktlymi: Guy make your research before you comment as I did mine. Courtship can mean a whole lot of things including the definition I gave. Courtship can mean:

Abbr. C., ct.

1.a. An extent of open ground partially or completely enclosed by walls or buildings; a courtyard.
b. A short street, especially a wide alley walled by buildings on three sides.
c. A large open section of a building, often with a glass roof or skylight.
d. A large building, such as a mansion, standing in a courtyard.

2.a. The place of residence of a sovereign or dignitary; a royal mansion or palace.
b. The retinue of a sovereign, including the royal family and personal servants, advisers, and ministers.
c. A sovereign's governing body, including the council of ministers and state advisers. d. A formal meeting or reception presided over by a sovereign.

3.Law. a. A person or body of persons whose task is to hear and submit a decision on cases at law.
b. The building, hall, or room in which such cases are heard and determined.
c. The regular session of a judicial assembly.
d. A similar authorized tribunal having military or ecclesiastical jurisdiction.

4.Sports. An open, level area marked with appropriate lines, upon which a game, such as tennis, handball, or basketball, is played.

5.The body of directors of an organization, especially of a corporation.

6.A legislative assembly.

noun, attributive.
Often used to modify another noun: a court jester; court records.

verb
court·ed, court·ing, courts


verb, transitive

1.a. To attempt to gain; seek: courting wealth and fame. b. To behave so as to invite or incur: courts disaster by taking drugs.
2.To try to gain the love or affections of, especially to seek to marry.
3.To attempt to gain the favor of by attention or flattery: a salesperson courting a potential customer.

verb,

Excerpted from The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language, Third Edition Copyright © 1992 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Electronic version licensed from Lernout & Hauspie Speech Products N.V., further reproduction and distribution restricted in accordance with the Copyright Law of the United States. All rights reserved.

Source: Microsoft bookshelf 2000.

striktlymi: Guy make your research before you comment as I did mine. Courtship can mean a whole lot of things including the definition I gave. Courtship can mean:

Abbr. C., ct.

1.a. An extent of open ground partially or completely enclosed by walls or buildings; a courtyard.
b. A short street, especially a wide alley walled by buildings on three sides.
c. A large open section of a building, often with a glass roof or skylight.
d. A large building, such as a mansion, standing in a courtyard.
Since courtship can mean a whole lot of things urs,mine inclusive. Now let's start with, Why do we court ? Just a sentence from you will do.

2.a. The place of residence of a sovereign or dignitary; a royal mansion or palace.
b. The retinue of a sovereign, including the royal family and personal servants, advisers, and ministers.
c. A sovereign's governing body, including the council of ministers and state advisers. d. A formal meeting or reception presided over by a sovereign.

3.Law. a. A person or body of persons whose task is to hear and submit a decision on cases at law.
b. The building, hall, or room in which such cases are heard and determined.
c. The regular session of a judicial assembly.
d. A similar authorized tribunal having military or ecclesiastical jurisdiction.

4.Sports. An open, level area marked with appropriate lines, upon which a game, such as tennis, handball, or basketball, is played.

5.The body of directors of an organization, especially of a corporation.

6.A legislative assembly.

noun, attributive.
Often used to modify another noun: a court jester; court records.

verb
court·ed, court·ing, courts


verb, transitive

1.a. To attempt to gain; seek: courting wealth and fame. b. To behave so as to invite or incur: courts disaster by taking drugs.
2.To try to gain the love or affections of, especially to seek to marry.
3.To attempt to gain the favor of by attention or flattery: a salesperson courting a potential customer.

verb,

Excerpted from The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language, Third Edition Copyright © 1992 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Electronic version licensed from Lernout & Hauspie Speech Products N.V., further reproduction and distribution restricted in accordance with the Copyright Law of the United States. All rights reserved.

Source: Microsoft bookshelf 2000.

Dauchman: I now understand ur afinity to agree wit the pastor. Apparently you do not even knw the meaning of courtship. Well this is a lite read for you
http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Courtship

Dauchman: Dude you lie, wasn't it d same mary that was bethroted to Joseph. I hope u realize dey knew each oda not canaly b4 Mary gave birth to Jesus. You seem to misconstrue courtship as being sex b4 marriage. My parents courted b4 dey got married and after 65yrs dey r still rocking. Stop throwing your ignorance around.

striktlymi: @poster I don't quite agree with the view of the 'good' pastor. I don't think that it would be wise for anyone to get married without one form of courtship or the other. As much as I agree that because of the dynamism of human beings and our natural instinct to adapt with the changing world, it is absolutely impossible to know everything there is to know about an individual; it is still self deceit to believe that we can actually get married without courtship. For starters and in the context in which we are looking at it, courtship simply means to attempt to gain the love or affection of someone, especially when we are considering marriage. In the days of our fathers, this attempt is done by the families involved. You will agree with me that it would be practically impossible for a man to get married in those days without the consent of both families. Courting in those days are left in the hands of our parents. That was when the community was small and everyone knew each other. But presently, because of globalization, expansion, modernization and the rest, we are no longer talking about a homogeneous community where everyone is acquainted with the other. As such the job of the parents has become cumbersome, hence the need for the individuals to help out with the job of courting i.e trying to gain the affection or love of the other. Those days it was sufficient to get the affection or love of the girls family but now it is required that we seek to win both the affection of the lady and the family as well. I think I am talking too much. The bottom line is, I believe that if courtship means to attempt to win the love or affection of another then even the 'good' pastor courted before he got married because he either sought the love and affection of the girl or the girl's family. Q.E.D.

Anyigala: Women use sex to get love, men use love to get sex. When you eliminate sex in courtship, you get realness. The Pastor is not totally correct in some of his assessments.

dozymars: Anybody can come up with any theory stating his own believes and surely surely he or she will have followers.
Please don't be deceived with man made theories that are false and unreal.
Courtship is a very important period before marriage, and should be done with the fear of God and prayers.
Even if the lady or the guy pretends to be good you can still know if you pay good attention to access him or her.
You also need to be truthful to yourself and not be carried away by the love u have for eachother, as u need to asked yourself if can live with the person for the rest of your life.
During courtship your heart will tell you if you are in the right relationship or not, then you will have the time to make your decisions and learn from the experiences.
You cannot meet someone and jump into marriage. you need courtship to understand him or her,the basic characters.

Mad Cow: Google his darn crusade testimonies jor... Thats the only way for you to understand how his mind works..

This guy wedded two people who just met at his crusade live on stage.. I fainted!!

jayplect: Agreed! they were divinely created union but wat of isaac and Rebekah. Did they court? Were they also divinely created?

ayo ade: If courtship didn't work for some people that does not make it a bad idea. I have not listened to the man but, Ofcourse, you cannot meet someone today and marry her tommorrow.

OilSubsidy: Hey! What is courtship? A kind of ship used in court? If so i don't think it's necessary.

andyzoga: I think he should give us examples in d Bible because I know Mary was in courtship with Joseph when she conceived.

jp philips: that guy said a simple fact that can be deduced from all these rumors, everybody is not as brain dead as you.
what if they marched the debtor to death? will you call for justice?

if you will, then start with the Enugu25.

skerries: Yes we have heard about Aluu death,but nobody said anything about Mubi anymore why folks ?

freecocoa: You are wrong mister, the NPF is capable of anything, its been confirmed by many people that the police indeed came there, that one even hit the boys with his gun saying " you go thief abi" and then left, didn't you read the statement by the policemen there on that day? Their excuse is that they didn't have sufficient bullet.

jp philips: Stop saying what you don't know, an eye witness had this account

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Now, how many parents know their wards are cultists? what do you expect the mothers to say? i can guess police take control, then they pay 1 million naira and release them, then what? the R@pe, extortion and murder continues. Nonsense!!!

why would students be carrying about guns to their debtor's homes?

why do we have capital punishment like death sentence?

listen; you must reap what you sow. a girl told me when i was in school that a room of 12 occupants have had 6 incidents of r@pe, that is 50% in one room by cultists. the girls are not talking cos of stigma.

Enugu lost over 25men to cultism, don't they have families? how can you join cult to be intimidating, r@ping and killing people and you expect to be alive?

god is not that Merciful.

call it barbaric, call it anything you like, i call it the FIRST LAW OF KARMA



Wole soyinka founded a cult that protested for the incumbent president to assume the position of acting president.
his cult protested for the ogoni people and bakassi people
his cult campaigned against subsidy removal
they sent their members all around the country, documenting and monitoring the 2011 elections.
for his cult not to be abused like the case we have here, he withdrew it from universities.

Now, here we are, arguing why those miscreants that have failed their sponsors and the society shouldn't be killed.

Arrant Nonsense!!!

dopeJemi: no smoke wivawt fire

People dnt jes kill people except boko haram n ritualists

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