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victovrry: I got married to my husband several years ago, we are blessed with two girls, after 8years of our marriage my husband and his family called a meeting which the outcome was just to tell me of a boy my husband had when he was in secondary school, though he denied the boy then but now he has grown and look exactly like him...the issue now is that whenever I wanted to give birth to a boy, it always lead to miscarriage or born him dead...hmmm we had nothing when we got married, infact we married in a room, now we have more than four houses and cars, in which all my salaries and efforts are contributed but ...my kids are all girls and all our properties are written in my husband's name, pls I don't know what to do.....

Somehow, the thing that bothers me most about your post is this
What would it cost to make sure ownership is joint? Especially when you say you were part financier

E ba mi ra ba ba fun Oba ogo o

Holy are you Lord
Holy is your name
With everything I've got
My heart will sing, how I love you

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Always have, 100% and no, we do not have separate personal accounts

ngoziliz: Hi all , please help a confused friend. Her problem is that her husband's cousin she seniors with 6yrs who is living with them expects her to greet him first every morning. What do u think? They re Igbo

Assuming no underlying drama to this situation:

It is her matrimonial home, which means the couple gets to set the rules. If greeting your elders is a rule in their home and they have graciously agreed to provide him with room and board, then he should abide by the rules. If he's not greeting due to ignorance of some sort, they should let him know what they expect. I presume he greets his cousin, the husband?

Personally, I try to avoid dealing with poorly mannered folks and would certainly not want that kind of influence in our home, around our kids. I am not familiar with Ibo tradition so maybe there is an acceptable explanation for his behavior but in Yoruba culture, a person's bad manners reflects negatively on their parents and their pedigree so the emphasis on good manners is strong.

Poster,

May the Almighty God reward you for the role you played and may you find mercy and favor in your time of need. . . . . amen!

The red dress suits the wearer, she has the right bod for it however the black bra worn under the dress is all wrong. Having your bra show, (front and back in this case) especially for a dress like this, is a faux pas. There are special skin colored breaaaastt support underwear designed for revealing styles such as this. You don't wear an actual bra that is displayed underneath, it is usually a breaaasst cup thingy that supports in the front only

*edited* OP, why did you remove the back view photo of Chika's red dress!

Nothing I cannot eat for breakfast and can in fact eat anything at anytime of the day if I'm hungry enough.

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Invest in good quality non stick cookware/pots. I stir constantly throughout the cooking process to ensure the rice is cooking evenly and it never burns. The pix below shows the bottom of a fully cooked pot of jollof rice, no burning:

shelter4luving: Is like out of all the things in the world increasing, the only thing depreciating is LOVE.
when i was a little girl, there's this picture of men i had in my head. i see them as people that are strong, hardworking, brave and people that can defend and protect women. probably all these qualities was meant to be them ,but today, it's difficult to see men with these attribute. what i see now is, different from what i thought.
1. now some men are confidence and bold to publicly tell people how their wife is the bread winner of the family. i even hear this during testimonies in church. oh sorry to say this. if she's the bread winner, please don't expect total respect all the time.
2. Is like all men now want a working, independent woman. so the woman wouldn't depend on them. forgetting that every woman love to depend on his man even if she have the whole money in the world. if a woman cant depend on you, of what use are you to her?
3. a lot of men can actually lie, pretend to love a rich lady just for the sake of her money or fame. that's why you keep seeing advert: ' i want a sugar mummy who can pay' it's disappointing.
4. most men don't even care nor appreciate how the woman manage her time to take care of the children, and still rush home from work to prepare food for the family. rather they keep going around forming Baddest Boy Ever liveth. chasing other ladies and don't even consider how the woman feels. Mr. man, are you not suppose to protect that woman instead of giving her pains and making her cry?
Men, please what's up with you?
if you continue this way, our little boys wouldn't learn how to be real men.
please arise and be the real man you were created to be.

What you see depends on your environment, a lot of people still see what you saw when you were growing up.

#1 I salute any man that will give such a testimony in public and would place more value on him than one who would rather pretend that his wife makes no significant impact to their finances. Not being the breadwinner should not be a reason for either spouse to disrespect the other, marriage is a partnership, regardless of who makes more or no money. Your mindset is typical though, many people cannot grasp how a spouse with no income deserves respect.

#2 Men have always wanted a working, independent woman, that is not a new thing. The women of my family, including SILs, all had jobs before they got married because most couples will need two incomes at that stage of their marriage. Due to the present economic realities, it has become even more important, few can maintain a reasonable lifestyle on one income.

#3 Don't we have a lot more females doing that than men? And since time immemorial too

#4 Depends on the man you married. Chances are the traits or actual behavior were exhibited during courtship. Only a small minority will change after marriage. These our desperate times and for some women, marriage has become a means to escape poverty thus the haste in many cases to tie the man down with minimal consideration given to compatibility and true affection from both sides. A man that loves you will feel for you and will help as much as possible

kulyie: make sure you pray this prayer before the d day

Hilarious

Duplicated

Funny thread lol
In this day and age?

Really weird # 10

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Largely actual poverty or its sister - poverty mentality disorder

Really funny letter but I feel his pain, especially after paying extra for premium seating

My wallet

Most

Going to sleep late

Good looking couple

OP

You really do need to see a psychologist. This is a lot of emotional weight and I think professional help would go a long way

For your body, don't go buying new clothes in your current post-childbirth size. Work on losing the extra weight first otherwise you will get comfortable with the excess you've gained

1 Same way before marriage . . . . politely
2 No
3 No
4 No is no
5 No, very choosy whom I share contact info with. Village connections/kindred not deemed enough good reason to share
6 Always appropriate, always decent and reflective of self respect/worth, I do not believe in having your bo----oobs hang out/falling out of your clothes like meat for all and sundry to ogle, save that for your man. Decorum. . . . . . . always

By the way, it's no secret that married women are easy prey for predators looking for a cheap lay. Married women generally come with no strings attached, are not demanding and do not have to be fought off; easy to use and dump after bedding and make good friends with benefits (not good)

A relative