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2 & 4 are excellent ways to relax.

The heart desires what it seeks,
and the soul longs for what it believes.
But what the soul yearns for is nothing but deceptive temptation.
Whoever avowed resisting temptations presented on a platter of gold was easy told a blatant lie.
And whoever claimed caging a ravenous soul was easy told yet another lie.
Yet, is that not what the duniya is….deception and instant gratification?

O you! The servant of Allah, hold on tight to the rope of Allah for the promise of your Lord is true.
The promise of your Lord is real.
So hold prisoner the corrupt desires,
and hold prisoner the ravenous soul.
For it is only for a while.
It is only for a while.

This poem or writing is just about holding on the rope of Allah and believing in Allah's reward. In this duniya you get to see so may thing and sometimes temptations that present themselves as opportunities. In those situations, it is not always easy to say no especially when the "opportunity" keeps presenting itself and everyone else is doing it or people are pressuring you into it. Those time it's easy to feel down and doubt yourself or wonder why it's so hard but jut remember that whoever leaves something for the sake of Allah, HE will compensate him with something better. At the end of the day, the duniya is like a prison to the believer. So hold now for the greater good, so that by the will of Allah you get to stand on the day of Judgement saying I left this solely for your sake Ya Allah.

Jazaklaahu khyran op.

Your responses are clear.

Barakallahu feekum

Been long since I posted


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eatb3nVRozg

Excited about the S9+!

Sounds like a lovely experience even with the obstacles.

Following.

Ibn Maajah (215) and Ahmad (11870) narrated that Anas ibn Maalik (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Verily Allah has His own people among mankind.” They said: O Messenger of Allah, who are they? He said: “They are the people of the Qur’an, Allah’s own people and those who are closest to Him.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Ibn Maajah.

https://islamqa.info/en/145782

I don't get what's disrespectful about it. Why must the husband be informed if a father wants to gifts his daughter?

It isn't always caused by an STI. I don't want to write much because I don't see any issue. I think you should go see your wife not to accuse her or even carry the test but support and let her know that you aren't cheating and you don't think that she is. You should trust your wife not to cheat on you.

Misread the date or time

Al-Tirmidhi narrated from al-Zubayr ibn al-‘Awaam that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“There has come to you the disease of the nations before you, jealousy and hatred. This is the ‘shaver’ (destroyer); I do not say that it shaves hair, but that it shaves (destroys) faith. By the One in Whose Hand is my soul, you will not enter Paradise until you believe, and you will not believe until you love one another. Shall I not tell you of that which will strengthen love between you? Spread (the greeting of) salaam amongst yourselves.” (A hasan hadeeth. Jaami’ al-Tirmidhi, 2434).

It was narrated that Abu Bakrah said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The supplication of the one who is in distress: O Allaah, for Your mercy I hope, so do not abandon me to myself even for the blink of an eye. Set all my affairs straight, there is no god but You.”

Narrated by Abu Dawood (5090); classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood.

Coccoh:
^^^Wow... jazakumLlahu khayran. U really did justice to the video.

wa iyyak. The summary is little compared to the full video.

Jazakallahu Khayran

How does one stick to the guidelines if planning on getting engaged for a year or more?

If I wasn't studying nursing (nursing was my first choice), I would be studying either
Biomedical science
English language
Pharmacy
Medicine (not too sure about this).

Summary

•Talks about love of the dunya and the reality that this world is lowly and near. It is near because it is the present but in reality the world is nothing but deception.
•Mentions ayats that describe the reality of dunya- the world is nothing but “Know that the life of this world is only play and amusement, pomp and mutual boasting among you, and rivalry in respect of wealth and children, as the likeness of vegetation after rain, thereof the growth is pleasing to the tiller; afterwards it dries up and you see it turning yellow; then it becomes straw. But in the Hereafter (there is) a severe torment (for the disbelievers, evil-doers), and (there is) Forgiveness from Allah and (His) Good Pleasure (for the believers, good-doers), whereas the life of this world is only a deceiving enjoyment“. [57:20]
•Sort of like when a person graduates then gets a jobs and things starts to go smoothly then a person starts to focus on the dunya because he feels that he’ got everything under control then all of a sudden it is snatched away through death.

•Talks about importance of holding the dunya at the hands but not at the heart.
•We tend to attribute success to wealth, children etc but Allah doesn’t describe true success as that. True success getting into Jannah and it can only be achieved on the day when the full wages will be paid.
•The problem with Muslims today is that we know but we do not act on our knowledge. We know that Jannah is real and Jahannam is real and we will be called to account but how is that knowledge impacting our lives.
•One of the things that struck me was- we start to chase the dunya so much that we compromise our hereafter for it and don’t mind sinning to achieve it. Yet the dunya is temporary. What’s 60-78 years compared to eternity? Is it really worth it? Allah says in the Quran is Surah al- Ala "ﭑBut you prefer the worldly life,While the Hereafter is better and more enduring. [1verse 6-17]

•One of the ways of earning Allah’s love is not chasing the dunya. It’s important to know that when you make the dunya your focus and disregard the hereafter then it is not possible to get the hereafter. However, if your focus is the hereafter the is possible to get the duniya as well.
•Talks about Zuhd and ways we can care less about the duniya- remembering the hereafter, leaving idle talk, leaving excessive food and drinks
•Read about the biographies of the prophet, sahabas and righteous predecessors for example the 5th Khalifa). These were people who devoted all the time for the akhira and gave whatever was left to the duniya. However now people work all their life for the duniya what whatever is left they give for the akhira, sometimes people give nothing.
•One way of implementing is setting realistic goals that when we get an oppurtunilty to do something beneficial or get knowledge (related to the akhira) which conflicts with something related to the duniya we should give priority to the akhira over the duniya unless when in dire need of money
•Let us not be from those who are blind and deaf to reminders.
•Can’t write more because there were a lot of things discussed but I hope what I was able to write down is beneficial.

*might provide a summary later


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WrqlYUE8VWo&t=1s

I think it depends. All I know is the mother shouldn't have to wash the dishes.

If I feel welcomed and accepted I might offer to help the sister. I mean if I am helping to take the plates to the kitchen then I might as well help wash it. However, I won't be initiating the move if no one wanted to wash it.

Nicely written.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P1Ih779_VcE&pbjreload=10

*Filled with many reminders.

^^
Thank you

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U0X3vPHPsXo

*Not sure if I've posted it before*

Quick summary
-Talks about why people don't lower gaze ( following desires, watching movies, being unmarried, forgetting Allah etc)
-Talks about the ruling regarding lowering the gaze; for men it's obligatory except when with mahram and for women it's obligatory when looking with an intention/desire.
-Talks about benefit of lowering gaze (keeps the heart sound, saves one from calamity, prevents shaytan from entering, become insightful/gaining wisdom etc)
-Talks about harm of not lowering the gaze ( calamities, being distanced from Allah, hardening of the heart)

What can one do in a situation where he/she doesn't lower gaze?
-Make dua to Allah for strengthening of the heart
- Repentance
-thinking of the benfit
-Knowing that Allah sees us even if the creation does not
- Getting married if possible
-Fasting
- Following up bad deeds with good deeds
- Knowing that lowering gaze is fighting one desires and obeying Allah because everyone is doing something out of obedience. So one should take honor in obeying his/her Lord
- Knowing that people are not the ones to decide if we go to jannah or not; this is in relation to culture where free mixing and looking is the norm and it might been seen as rude if a person lowers his/her gaze
-Remembering the day of judgement and that the eyes and skin will testify

-Some examples of lawful entertainment (painting inanimate object, going to parks, sight seeing, watching educative things etc).

*The video covers a lot more.

Mofpearl:
I know this is coming late but today is Monday and it's sunnah to fast on Monday and Thursday.

Just before I forget to post.

Enjoyed reading. Can actually relate to some post. I love my lazy days... nothing beats that feeling!.

I was thinking about cutting people out my life after forgiving them. I don't think it unforgiving to cut people out of your life. To me, it's about placing peiple where they deserve to be placed. If you have earned my trust and respect and I care about you- I will treat you with restpect, love etc. But if you prove to me that you don't deserve it, even if I forgive, I wouldn't see you the same. That place that you had in my heart is no longer going to be the same.


I totally relate to building walls around your heart. To me its a defense mechanisms. However, I find that I don't really open up even if I trust people. I may open up sometimes but I don't fully open up. I think it may be my dislike for vulnerability and asking for help.

You seem to have a conscientious personality. This is the C personality from the DISC. Do you happen to be sub assertive as well?

Abu Dhar reported that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:

“Your smile to your brother is a sadaqah (charitable act) for you. Your commanding the right and forbidding the wrong is a sadaqah. Your guiding a man in the land of misguidance is a sadaqah for you. Your seeing (showing the way) for a man with bad eyesight is a sadaqah for you. Your removing a stone or thorn or bone from the road is a sadaqah for you. Your emptying your bucket of water into your brother’s (empty) bucket is a sadaqah for you.”
[Tirmidhi]

I remember @bolded because I was out and when I walked into the room, a lady smiled at me. It was a huge natural smile that made feel warm, smile back, and give her salam. It was when I walked a few meters from her I realized she just gave sadaqah. So I remembered the hadith about smiling and thought I'd share it.

What type of kidney problem?

Do you mean Chronic kidney Disease (CKD)?