₦airaland Forum

SaiNigeria:
Can you imagine..... did was Buhari also flogged before he married and defiled Aisha

Nope. Well-to-do people don't submit to such outdated cultural practice.

Nutase:
He will get 70 virgins when he arrives the afterlife.

Truly, you are a nutcase. Perhaps you will be among the virgins to be inherited by the deceased.

[quote author=hatchy post=60143006]There is so much segregation in the North in economic, socially, educational and even religious aspect.

These retrogressive traditions does not apply to the rich and well placed but only the poor just because they have to subjugate and bring them to total submission.

Mentality issues!

I think you made a good point on the discriminatory nature of cultural practices in the north. The elite seemed to be detached from observing these norms, some of which appears to be barbaric, while the downtrodden are compelled to perform or observe them.

Good for him. He wasn't man enough. On the contrary, what kind of cultural practice is this? crude?

Florblu:
Yet you are talking to a community (Nairaland)about your problem

If you had read slowly and carefully, without the intention to be rude, you would have understood the OP said he preferred writing to having face-to-face conversation with friends and family members without being prodded. Maybe you have a problem with simple comprehension.

Your post depicted a spectacular lack of familarity with the Bible. It is wrong, even disingenuous, to say Jesus Christ was born out of wedlock, but you can correctly say he wasn't a biological son of Joseph due to his godhead nature.

hopefulLandlord:
Even Jesus was not the son of Joseph

so he was conceived outside wedlock

Humans and likes used together? You can see why it is difficult to argue with you.

Laveda:
Humans generally likes being sentimental.

Only few people stand their grounds without deviating.

It is strange how you lamely and disingenuously absolved government of any blame, and instead, took the people to the cleaners for being 'lazy' and unwise in their amoral desire for free wealth. For your information, Nigerians are not lazy; it is the lack of visionary and purposeful leadership that led many youths to make wild, weird, and obviously unreliable financial investment. More than anything, the unprecedented resilience of Nigerians have been central to the survival of this state. The leadership is always on abeyance; has replaced rhetoric with policy framework. If the government is responsive and faithful to its primary constitutional duty of creating enabling environment for businesses to thrive, I know few Nigerians will be interested in the scheme. In fact, the absence of government had led, and continue to lead, people to their early graves. I don't have a kernel of compassion for anybody who invests in MMM, because I believe the person has a profound and deep knowledge of the scheme - including its pros and cons. Again, I had a few guffaw at your hasty generalization, which, once again portrays Nigeria and Nigerians in bad light. The so-called owner of MMM said his investment boasts of about three million Nigerians, and I wonder how three million Nigerians constitute the entire population of the country. And lastly, ponzi schemes are virtually in all countries of the world; so it is not peculiar to Nigeria.

RentALodge:
Perhaps, the greatest evidence of the laziness and greed of Nigerians is the rapid growth of ponzi schemes in the country in the last 12 months, the most popular of which is MMM.

A difficult question to answer but perhaps if each one of us begins to seek a higher quality of existence outside of capricious accumulation of wealth and understand that the true worth of a man is not determined by the amount of wealth he is able to accumulate but in the positive impact he has on his family, community, society and humanity at large, we would have taken a huge first step in our journey to redemption and a higher quality of life.

It is counter-productive to complain of suffering from the negative effects of economic recession while still staking your limited resources in dubious schemes. Many Nigerians scoff at the government’s call for citizens to embrace agriculture which is proven to be a productive venture all over the world but are willing to seek ‘free money’ with Ponzi schemes. Is this a failure of government too? Definitely not, it is a failure of individuals to take the right decisions.

Yes, it is not everybody that will become a farmer but there are other legitimate businesses that people can go into and highly sought-after skills that people can learn to gain full time or part-time employment. Examples abound in ICT with programming, translation jobs, virtual jobs of all sorts paying in foreign exchange if you are willing to do the work.

Friend, you are utterly misguided in your erroneous assumption. The sound of his name is extremely inconsequential, and does explain what he did in his youth. You have unwittingly lent credence to indolence. Mr. Taiwo did a paid job, and got his due reward. What else does Nigeria owe him? Did you know that someone composed the National Anthem; someone built the coat of arm. Why are these patriot not crying foul like Mr. Taiwo? Something is clearly certainly amiss with Mr. Taiwo's life during his youth.

Bakass:
HIS NAME IS MICHAEL TAIWO AKINKUMI, ASSUMING IT IS ABDULAHI MOHAMMED BASHIR, THEY WOULD HAVE HONOUR HIM SINCE. I CAN STILL RECALL THAT OUR FIRST LADY SEND SOME TOKENS TO THE FORMER DRIVER OF HER HUSBAND DURING WHEN HE WAS STILL THE MILITARY HEAD OF STATES.

I have seen someone in the same wavelength as I am. My brother, Nigerians are just terrible set of people. Majority of those accusing the federal government for imaginary neglect did not know that this man had his education abroad, while some of them have never been to the airport.

egbaguy2:
I hate this sense of entitlement...... Did he do the work for free? Does it mean he had no life? No profession?

Whether the flag is modified or not does not explain why Nigeria should be perpetually responsible for his life. I have not read anywhere he made the flag without collecting his pay. So, why the hoopla about his poverty-stricken life? Nigerians should stop enabling laziness and irresponsibility. Nigeria did not promise him a never-ending salary. He alone is to be blamed for his impoverished state of living.

selectedhero:
well I think, the beauty the flag or otherwise is inconsequential as it stands. Basic fact is; the flag is an accepted national symbol, and someone designed it. The present neglect is symptomatic of a culture of forgetfulness and disregard for our selves and collective heritage. In Nigeria as it stands, you are not neglected because "the flag is not even fine sef". You are, simply because we have lost the sense of value others attach to certain things. After all, the super falcons are the champions of Africa yet, have to protest to get their pays. Funny enough , the minister seems to maintain, they weren't expected to be victorious. Too bad! And for a final addition, the current flag representation was not how akinkunmi had rendered it, it was modified.

LaEvilIMiss:
True, there is a responsibility for every individual to succeed at life.. but there is a higher responsibility for Leaders and Institutions to create an enabling and sustainable environment in which progress can thrive. perhaps if he received a stipend to open up a factory for flag-making as is popular in other countries

I want to believe he was handsomely rewarded for making his country's flag. It must have a patriotic duty for him given the nature of the time. Remember, it was at the peak of decolonisation, and many young people were fired up, dreaming of positively shaping their lives in a free, independent, and prosperous country. However, we shouldn't dwell in the past and instill that Nigeria should bear his burden because he executed a paid job. What about man that wrote the National Anthem? What about the man that made the coat of arm? We should be asking why is he living in abject want despite his education and exposure? Of course, I think he is cupable, not the federal government.

It is a fact Nigeria has a warped notion of who a hero should be. Reason being that Nigeria has had more of circumstantial leaders, and no societal leaders. I don't think this man deserves to be eternally celebrated for doing a paid job that took place close to 60 years ago. Did he made the flag for free? Why are Nigerians the only people drooling over the lifestyle of their flag maker? Isn't it a way to legitimize laziness? What did he do with youth?

LaEvilIMiss:
In order to be honored in Nigeria.. you have to have
1: caused the deaths of thousands by stealing the wealth meant for them
2: awarded your cronies national honors (twice)
3: being on committees of projects like Ajaokuta
4: Former Governors who pride themselves in planting shrubs on roads built decades before their tenure


add yours

Icecomrade:


Did you came yesterday?

I did not saw you in the party last night.


Anytime I hear stuffs like these, I wonder how the person managed to graduate FROM primary school

There is no word like stuffs in the English language. The addition of 's' to stuff is a rib-tickling blooper, and it is non-standard usage. Stuff is uncountable noun and has no plural form. Now, is your primary school education a suspect?

Luckygurl:
Lol!!

My first and present boyfriend requested for my contact but I declined and asked for his instead.
I collected it nonchalantly, like it was obvious it was a means of telling him off and he had this look of defeat on his face while I had this smirk on my own face

I called him that day at night and we clicked off.

So ladies!! It's no biggie if you're the one to call first, I mean it makes no difference

Why are you cocksure that what works for you will work for another? I think it should be different strokes for different folks, and not a one-size-fits-all approach.

Power is driven by the ability to influence and control. Sometimes, power is maliciously used against the people from whence it came. And politics speak nothing but interest - whether it is short or long term. It will amount to political naivety and grave miscalculation to pay tribute to Tinubu after his uncharacteristic criticism and opposition of his party's candidacy and chairman. Tinubu broke all known convention - as a 'national leader of the party' - by making his displeasure known through his furious, open letter. That his demands were dismissed with a wave of hand depicts his true standing in the party. Again, it will be a slap on the faces of Buhari and other leaders who are determined to roll back Tinubu's influence in the South West and cut him to size. You don't need a degree in political science to understand that real political power resides with the president and the party chairman, not with Tinubu. A lesson any aspiring candidate must learn if they are to succeed. Tinubu has seemingly become a political liability; aligning with him is a clear opposition to the president, and a fastlane to failure. Akeredorlu stated the obvious when he said paying tribute to the president and chairman of party covers all leaders of the party, not minding how big or small they are, or what influence and prestige they command. This is an unfamiliar terrain for Tinubu, a pathological narcissist, who is almost always feted by political aspirants. Nonetheless, he shot himself in the leg by accepting the nominal title of ' national leader of the party', even when is he aware that there is no real power behind it. Talk about crass titlemania and the compulsive penchant to remain revelance. In the aftermath of Ondo election, Lauretia Onochie, one of President Buhari's never-ending media aides, sounded the death knell of godfatherism in the APC, by stating that no one should claim party victories in Edo and Ondo states. Pray tell, why Akereredolu - a new recipient of Buhari's favour - should defy this unwritten code of conduct.

makydebbie:
Proverbs 22:6...Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it.


We all know this scripture and know that parenthood is no easy job. But everyone says, "what better environment is there to train up a child than in a pastor's home" right?
Or does growing up under a dad as a pastor guarantee a child's future on the right path?


Let's look at the challenges faced by pastor's kids which makes it not so rosy for kids growing up under clergymen's/religious leaders roof.



(1) Pastor's kids face the challenge of living up to the good boy/girl tag: As a pastor's child, I can relate to this. Eyes are always on you as a pastor's kid, to always never go wrong. No mistake is expected of you. In school, you're supposed to be different from all other kids and not to play much, joke around with friends or fail to submit assignments on time.


(2)Pressure:- Growing up, there was always this "pressure" that goes with you being the son or daughter of the renowned pastor in town. Even when faced with physical opposition like guys or girls who wanna beat 'us' up, people think that we should not fight but just meekly get beaten and mauled so badly. The bible says when hit we should turn the other cheek right?


(3)Pastors kids and the "be like your dad" comment or tag:-Everywhere you go as a pastor's kid, you always get the reminder that there's a standard you ought to live up to. And that standard in the eyes of people is always your dad or mom who are ministers. Every little thing you do, is a chance for them to say, "you're just like your dad" or if you make a little mistake, "you should be like your dad or mom". They always expect perfection.

In this age, we have come to know that everyone has a path and a destiny from everyone else including parents. Its really frustrating for a pastor's kid to always hear himself/herself being measured with his/her "pastor's" dad.
This is the reason why many of them rebel and go on to "live the life" they feel will make them different from their dads. In most cases, the kids end up destroying themselves.


(4) Pastor's kids and academics:- Always and again, there is always the notion that a pastor's kids shouldn't fail. People say stuffs like, "his father is the general overseer of the states biggest church". He heals the sick, raise the dead and makes the lame walk. If such a child is not shown the necessary support by his "pastor's" dad, or any given attention as regards helping him do well academically, then forget it. He won't fly academically. Not even dad's miracles will make it work.

(5) Pastor's kids and career choice:-As the son or daughter of a pastor, its almost like a taboo to find yourself in some professions. Which may be where one's talents lie. For example some pastors won't let their kids study law, citing some mundane remark like "lawyers are mostly liars".
And most pastors kick against their children going into the music industry. Restricting the child is robbing the world of another gem that would impart the world positively.


(6)Pastor's children and overall parenting:- It is no longer a secret that pastor's homes churn out "clinically depressed kids" because of bad parenting or "parenting negligence". This is so because, a lot of pastors dedicate so much time to their pastorial ministry forgetting that a trully functional church, begins from a truly happy and functional home.
These kids grow up to be so far apart in relationship from their pastors parent. And even end up hating them.

These are some of the many heart wrenching challenges faced by pastor's kids. On the whole, its not a bed of roses being a pastor's kid.


Original writer: Makydebbie


Cc. Lalasticlala

So what is the basis of this longwinded epistle? What thesis or theory does the writer wish to propound? What message does this daughter of a clergy want to pass? Well, that the children of clergymen are born in an unalloyed state, and have been refused the universal process of growing up by an obsessive, puritanical and self-righteous public. Sometimes, the public can be annoyingly meddlesome and downright pesky. What about the clergy themselves? They are accused of being overbearing, demanding extreme obedient from their children, even when the time devoted to them is incredibly disproportional. They have been found guilty of negligence and poor parenting skill, to the detrimental of their children. So much blame to go around, except, of course, for the children of clergymen. How can any right-thinking person blame them, when they did not choose to be born in a home of a clergymen. Therefore, the public must make restitution in schools, markets, malls, stadium, and even in churches, for holding erroneous, malevolent and ungodly views about these kids. For kids, they should go about living their not-too-pious and wayward lifestyles, knowing the fault wasn't theirs.

prettythicksme:
Romantic shii,sennsless post. shey here na food section?Op u r the shameless being for creating a thread cos a guy ate with u.And na ur type dey follow guys chop anyhow.Glutton. #100 potatoes for that matter,smh for some ladies.

The post is not 'senseless' as you hastily and erroneously concluded. The OP said she is in financial strait, and needs to manage the little available. Such a thoughtful student. She didn't make provision for leftover in case she runs into a friend. The guy should have been imaginative, knowing when to stop eating and act gentlemanly, but he didn't. Even if it is a lady, she is expected to carried herself with grace and employ moderation in conduct. Remember the OP has a budget framework she wishes to maintain. This is a true life account that reveals what many people go through, especially in this difficult time. I think the OP should be commended, not chastised, for brilliantly telling her story - without feeling ashamed.

airminem:
Love...doesn't need a complicated metaphor

Someone has a warped meaning of metaphor here.

GossipHeart:


I've watched that movie

The name of the movie is "You can lie for Africa"

If you lie cleverly, it becomes a craft not a vice. The OP's attempt at telling believable lie -though naive- is commendable.

4tunebest:
Judging from your write up, it seems to me the guy gives you peace, even though he hasn't achieved much @ his age.

Been married a few years now and with the benefit of hindsight, I would advice you to be a little bit more patient with him. Even though its easy to write him off/give up on him due to his present state; only God knows the future, therefore:

Seek God's direction. When it comes to the issue of choosing a LIFE partner, we need the leading of He who sees the unknown and isn't limited by human wisdom.

This is a fantastic piece of advice, coming from someone in the field of marriage. One of the problems facing young ladies today is the inability to separate fantasy from reality. The OP has made up her mind to dump her man, and look for where the grass is greener. I don't blame her for aspiring for good things from her date. After all, who wants to suffer .However, my grouse is why being pretentious with your reason to end a relationship.

Richy4:
[b]what I can summarize in your write up is, u feel

<<<Biological clock is ticking
<<<You want someone that will say, let's head to the Altar tomorrow
<<<You are presumably looking for an already made maybe without investing...Remember U have to sow before you reap

It might be looking gloomy for this guy now... but you never can tell tomorrow...I understand Nigerian institution how pathetic they are when handling the futures of some students...
You are kinda desperate now and for you, love does not play a part....The way I see it, any one that shows you the slightest interest is whom the holy spirit says it was...Biko, I suggest you slow down a little..Things sometimes does not go the way we wanted it.... But you have to slow down and work towards it

Please think carefully before you make any move.... I wouldn't want you to fall into the hand of a wrong man who will capitalize on your quest to have a man and teach u one or two lessons .. and I will not want you to dump him now and later try to make a move to come back when things became ok with him...The way I see it, he likes u and even took you to his mama but for you, likeness and love is not enough for now...... I just hope you will not disturb his phone in future when he is trying to settle down with someone else....

I am not trying to prophesy here for the future but this kind of thing sometimes leads to infidelity when some men will not let go of their old crush....and the woman would not let the man relax and settle down with whom he has found as substitute.....knowing that she has made a hell of mistake in rushing into an unhappy marriage instead of waiting for who actually loved her [/b]

You have indeed written well. I know just as day follows night she won't heed to your advice. Apart from the obvious desperate disposition of the OP to tie the knot, my mind's mind contends she has gotten herself a man of higher finance standing. Hence, it is plausible to dispense this loafer, a complete never-do-well. She was also unsparing, uncharitable and ruthless in her description of the guy; no good quality in him. She seems to have made up her mind before coming to nairaland for 'advice'. I think she feels unsettled to ditch the guy in abrasive manner because the guy has been doing the little he can.

Whytelyon:

I see you converting soon. E get as the love and konji go worry you, as Jacob sell em birthright you go sell your own.

Just kidding, but yoruba muslims do have extended christian cousins na.. I have muslim friends that go to church with me when ever I'm in town. Don't let religious whatever hold you back, "I'm a christian, I'm a muslim" na wash. Almost everything way day inside Quran day bible except some other few things.

Poor Bible student. Jacob didn't sell his birthright. Esau did.

It is not entirely true. He is not a prophet but a scholar whose pen unsettled not a few Nigerians. Granted, he has supported few candidates that didn't emerge victorious; nonetheless, FKK actively supported Donald Trump with his brilliant and thought-provoking essays, today he (Donald Trump) is the preside-elect. So, this thesis -propounded by Ibrahim Jimoh - is conspicuously flawed.

MrMan8:
i have been trying to get your attention for like a year now. you have been ignoring me. now am very happy

Guy, nawa o. You are simply being sissy. Don't burst the head this lady with crude flattery. It is weird you are on cloud nine simply because she replied your message after a grueling, fruitless 12-calendar month attempts.

5minsmadness:
All this for me?

You are obviously jobless and lonely

This is a poor defence mechanism. It reveals an ugly part of you that is averse to divergent views. So you want every lady to nod in agreement to your opinion. That is awful. Why not stay on the issue?

Genea:
B

What is the meaning of 'B'?

Diddyydiva:
Happy Sunday

I wish you peace of mind.

Diddyydiva:


You can't always have your last say with me Mr

Nawa for you. Even with all the begging? Today na Sunday o!

Diddyydiva:
Are we bread?

Nope. But I often hear people saying they eat the V part of women. Please don't write a reply.

Diddyydiva:
Use 'woo' not toast

You toast bread and woo ladies

Miss Teacher. Continue!