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danduchi:
My friend and I went out to see our other pals and had some great time. On reaching back to his house, we met the mum and dad shouting and getting on each others nerve and were almost pushing each other and creating a scene. My friend who is a regular cool dude but a little hot tempered was really upset and slapped the mum first, the dad was almost running away and he chased him and slapped him on his back (this part was really funny sha but I was still not happy). He has been frustrated by their everyday routine of getting on each others back and retaliated and he feels very very sorry right now. (But sincerely I don't think the parent will quarrel again cos they will always remember today). It not pleasing to the hear or see a child lay his hands on his parents. He wants to show how sorry he is for doing this but what's the best way to do it. Please house your candid advise will be appreciated.

no matter how loud/crazy/disturbing etc my parents are, i can NEVER disrespect them in such a way and lay a hand on them... but thats just me!

delishpot:
They ckearly aint doing it with aliens na. Abi is it only the girls that are commiting the sin?
So the man is ignored and the 16 year old is expected to be the smart decision maker? How then can the society be better? In the days past both boys and girls were discouraged from premarital sex nowadays the men are allowed to slide and a 13 or 16 year old girl is to blame. I thought it was a well known fact that women have chicken brain? Why dont the smart brained men try to make the world clean world?

and let us remember that they ALL look and said nothing about it, or didnt try to stop this criminal act... but then they come on NL and start thread about the issue. misplaced priorities i guess.

all three are needed in life in order to succeed!

delors:
Mehn you seem to be in the know o. Kijiji has nothing to offer in terms of biatches but Backpage.com n Craigslist are just hardcore. Funny enough, th govts just turn blind eyes to this pretending as though there ain't no prostitution in their countries. It's even easier now that twitter/facebook n Co have such groups.

nah, the US gov is actually hard on their tail, both ashawos and clients, but it is not an easy thing to eradicate (just like drugs). there will always be someone looking for it, whatever the cost... and who are we kidding? with the rate at which young women today are desperate for money, there will always be prostitution, its an easy way out.

if A) there is no other option for him, B) he is single and i was living alone, C) a hotel is not an option, and D) he is a tight friend then yes, i would let him use my place while i am away.

what a phoney criminal in robe


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MjCLozCuLA0

kaybee09:
Some people r saying dat 18yr old should nt get married, bt she can have sex ,my question is wat z d difference.,#jst saying

the problem here is that the majority of people use religion to judge this case... but even if these 2 people were legally married, having a child would be wrong. unless they can care for that child's emotional/physical/financial wellbeing for 18yrs, they have no business bringing a human being into this world.

life is not a fukcing lottery where you carelessly pop as many kids as possible and let them fend for themselves, hoping that a miracle will happen and they will succeed in life.

delors:
Lol. Backpage.com place t find anything especially knacking. An they say no to prostitution in Europe n America? Hypocrites.

pretending that there is no prostitution in the US/Europe, or anywhere else in this world, would be a joke. there have been prostitutes on this earth since biblical days, and this is an "activity" that will never get extinct.

technology has taken over and now these gals dont need to stay at street corners....backpage, craigslist etc are full of these biatches

SAMBARRY:
I just taya.as if its a prostitute /client kind of relationship and not mother /son

sadly, we all know too well that a lot of people today foolishly value love for their parents down to how much they have spent in their lives. as if being poor was a crime.

if somebody is crazy enough to send nekkid pics/videos, then they MUST make sure that their personal details are hidden (face, tattoo etc) at ALL TIMES. we all know how love quickly turn sour and therefore only god knows what that jilted person would do with your nekkid pics/vids.
revenge p0rn is very real.

Eddygourdo:
Still getting opinions though, at least from what I have read so far it appears alot of u agree with me on meeting her physically rather than through the phone, though you lot are divided on whether the relationship is still worth fighting for, the men are emphasising he isn't a mind reader and could not have known, while the ladies and some men are regarding him a cheating partner who didn't care to be aa better partner. Will await more opinions as that determines if truly his intention at trying to salvage the relationship is worthwhile. Hearty thanks to the contributors, you are great, lalasticlala need more insight. Thanks

dont let pity cloud your judgment... if she was useless to you before her father died, then she should continue be just that now. trying to be with her again because her father died is a waste of time, because guess what?! she is still the same fukced up person you cant stand.
send your condolences and wish her a quick recovery.

btw does your above reply means that this story is about YOU?! lol

at least he will get the "special" treatment that rapist get in jail... let him become someone's biatch for a few yrs.

Maxi112:
thanks for advice buh catch them young is d best

if you had read what i wrote carefully, then you would have understood that this is exactly what i am saying... but that the reason why we love younger women is all down to US, and nobody else. even if older women were the best, we would still go for younger women.

82quiserasera:
Well I wil not insult u bro, just wanna quickly correct one tin frm wat u have post, u said my action re dos of a guilty person, well u don't no me bro. Moreso have u forgotton that I use d same airport wen I was goin out. I only left d country bcus my boss who is a citizen advice me to leave.. Left to me alone I wud have wait n fight d 2 of dem wit my last brethe even if dey still gonna win me bcus I have nobody. Lastly I wil act as u have instructed, wil go back home 2moro cus nobody gave me money fo d visa. D worst dey can't do is to laugh at me buh I don't send anybody. Thank u fo d advise even if its harch

bro, i can only be real, and if you were my friend, this is what i would have told you.

now, running away is indeed the actions of a guilty person, even though you are innocent. if you run for such small things then be prepared to be blackmailed by women (or others) the rest of your life.

as for you leaving the country, probably the search was citywide 1st and is now nationwide, who knows? but one thing is certain, there is rape case against you in SA. i suggest you contact the SA police via email in order to possibly straighten this situation, and have some more information.

going home is the best choice you can possibly make today. good on you and good luck for the future.

prothelley:
I wish your own mother aborted you, we won't be reading this kind of nonsence post.
What if the girl cant get pregnant again after the 'safe landing' abortion option.

Op if you listen to the abortion option and go for it.....the blood of that innocent child will be on your head.

You should have zip up if you know you weren't ready for the consequences.

stop being emotional and think with what you have between your ears instead. with IFs and MAYBEs we can do anything, so instead we should stick to the facts at hands AND answer the important question:
SHOULD THEY HAVE THIS BABY?
YES if they can emotionally/physically/financially care properly for that child for the next 18yrs minimum
NO if they are unemployed, immature, homeless, pennyless, careless, clueless and if they didnt plan for it.

ask4bk:
I'm surprised one of your options is for them to KILL the human in the lady. Wow. That's no go area. That being in the womb is same like us only they he's weak. Please protect it and not kill it just coz it's defenceless

i am not a sheep who needs a book to selfishly dictate what i can and cant do... i have a brain and intend to use it fully. there is NO human in that woman's belly, unless there is a heart beat and it BREATHE air. that IS the definition of a human being, right?!

82quiserasera:
Excuse me Mr, am not a begger n am not begging u to give me anytin,

here you are "begging" for a job while hiding in Ibadan (for God knows why) instead you should GO HOME, and get back on your feet the RIGHT way.

I only share dis in other to see if I cud get a job n save money to go back to SA to complete my study.

wait wait wait!!!!! are you out of your goddam mind?! you ran away to 9ja when you were falsely accused of rape in SA, and now you need help to go back?! what do you think is going to happen when you apply for a visa (or get to the SA immigration)? your name is probably already in their system as a wanted sexual offender, and your actions are those of a guilty person. forget SA dude!

Put ursef in my shoe bro after abt 3yrs abroad n somtin like dis happen to you. Can u also go home y re u pretendin as if u not a human being.

if i was silly enough to run back home pennyless, without clearing my name, then i certainly would go back home... as my family are the 1st people who would stand by me. pretending to still be in SA (or wherever) while hiding in Ibadan, is wrong however you want to look at it!

I did not rape dat girl, n God know I did not do it. Read my post very well, after I caught dem n send dem away, she brought d police d second day. Did i dissapear to her house to rape her or I rape her on d dream. She set me up just to get me out of dat country.

oh shut it!!! why didnt you ACT RIGHT and tell that to the police? "God" would have been by your side all the way (since he knows you didnt do it). now here you are back in 9ja, still not ready to ACT RIGHT, and instead begging for help instead of going home.
what stops you from going home?!

Plz no hw u contribute to somone's problem

this is MY contribution, whether you like it or not, and hoping that you finally ACT RIGHT.

hajibashi:
it is not as if something is wrong with our ladies, but the trend is like that because when those ladies of marriageable age were in that bracket i mean 16-19 they also dated guys of 23 upwards, they have been used and dumped and u now expects guys of their age or someone a little older to marry them, it will continue like that till our ladies stop opening their legs anyhow till they say i do ......zip up.....

come on, we men have to stop being hypocrites!!!!!! thats is not the case, and if it was then the problem here would be the 23yr old guys going after these young women (and not the way around), duh!

who are we kidding?! the sad fact here is that we MEN love untouched/unexperienced/"clean"/tear rubber women so the younger they are, the best chances they have of fitting this description. so now that we have used and dumped these younger babes, who do you think will settle for them when they are getting closer to 30yrs old?

@82quiserasera
why did you run?! you should have fought whatever injustice was coming to you, now you are officially labelled a rapist in SA
why are you hiding in Ibadan?! i dont get it, why dont you go home if everyone knows you are innocent?!

continuously doing what is WRONG expecting a positive outcome, is called stoopidity in my books. GO HOME, get back on your feet and stop acting like a beggar.

this is such a FAKE STORY that has been circulating for quite a while, with different names and people (but trust stoopid bloggers for believing this nonsense)... here is the same story with different names/people:

http://worldnewsdailyreport.com/l-a-gang-member-gold-plates-own-genitals-to-death/

http://now8news.com/atlanta-lottery-winner-dies/

NONSENSE, he did what he believe was right at the time, and since the gal didnt think it was necessary to tell him about her dad's passing, then he is not at fault here. as much as her father's passing is a sad thing, that certainly shouldnt be a reason to stay with someone out of PITY.

i am sorry but, you falling asleep when you receive that news had me in tears.... bwaaaaaaah!

as they say: "MEN AGE LIKE FINE WINE, WHILE WOMEN AGE LIKE MILK"

coache:
Hello everyone,I finally allowed her to reach me in the early hours of today because she kept sending me messages pleading to speak with me as if her life depended on it....during the conversation, she couldn't control her crying and I had to be consoling her as if I were the one that broke up with her.....summary of everything is that she's so confused and not willing to let go anymore like her initial message said....she wants us to remain best of friends which I declined and after much pleading from her which I declined, she made up her mind to continue fighting for us and to face her family again, maintaining she's never going to let go.
Pls guys what does this mean?
where do you think this is heading this time around.......
should I let go and move on....
will she wake up one day again and say she's really ready to say goodbye to me?
Could it be she wants me to hang around her till someone else comes into her life?
Pls I'm totally confused this time around, what should I do?

this gal doesnt know what she wants, and her confusion will simply have you waste your time... UNLESS she is 150% standing by you and your r/ship.

Raypawer:
Abortion is Never the solution,

how dare you say that abortion is not the solution?! abortion has been the solution to millions out there, provided it is done RIGHT!

at 22, he still can start something,

yes, he can FINISH HIS EDUCATION

all they need now is support from both parents, afterall the baby will be their grand child,

why not support from Obama while we are at it?! as much as support from family "could" be an option, having an abortion is also an option.

the girl will learn her lessons, but that will not stop her from becoming what she aspires to be. The Boy will sit up and learn to control himself when he faces hardship.

again, another person trying to punish them, instead of HELPING them solve the problem.

if she aborts the pregnancy, they will both continue to sleep with their self and continue to Abort and eventually the boy might dump the girl later.

NONSENSE....
A) what makes you think that they will stop having unprotected sex, if they have an unwanted baby and their parents are supporting them?!
B) who cares if the boy later dumps the girl, if she does what she think is best FOR HER?!

@MendeZ
- that man should grow up and be mature FIRST
- get some balls and be independent SECOND
- make his own decision and stand by them, regardless of what people say THIRD

if a man cant stand by these points, then he is certainly not ready to get married.

luvguy:
wat if she reaches orgasm, does it mean she enjoyed it?....is dis possible? ....wats ur take on dis

yes it is remotely possible, but, whether she enjoyed it or not, it is irrelevant to the fact that she was forced into the act, and therefore it is still a crime.

cornel00:
Work done = 0

just because YOU dont like what i wrote, does NOT mean the work wasnt done, it just means we have a different opinion on the subject (you are entitled to your opinion).
i stand again by saying that ABORTION is the only way out in this issue, that gal should certainly NOT have that baby. but hey, thats MY opinion.

Encouraging him to abort de child is wrong

encouraging 2 clueless kids to have an unwanted child, that they cannot care for whatsoever, is what is wrong here.

Sleeping with her in the first place is wrong

sleeping with her is NOT the issue here, sleeping with her UNPROTECTED is the main issue here... but then again, the deed is done so why cry over spilt milk?!

So let them clean their mess by saving the innocent child

you are trying to punish these people instead of HELPING them... get real, we have enough unwanted children at corner street begging or being abused as househelp.

so many are failing miserably.... but when the hand is CLEARLY darker than the face, i cant help but smh:

crayguy:
hi nairalanders....
I'll try to break short my context of my story.
I am a young guy of 22 years old, I am actually dating a girl of 18 years old, I love her real deep and I believe she do loves me too, she's has a bright future and a very nice home manner(beautiful as well),I eventually got her pregnant and she's planning to do abortion which I am not in deep support, considering we both have seek some spiritual findings which makes it clear that the child(male or female) is a great and powerful child, aborting could lead to my girlfriend not able to conceive again otherwise loose her life, she's hell bent on abortion because of her school and shame from meighbours... I was actually thinking of settling her down with business (don't know the best for her).....
please help on idea of a good business I can setup for her in this states, what am I to do ? , I am really frustrated as am still hustling as well.
please help.. I am open for "criticise"
lalasticlala

bro, FIRST AND FOREMOST, in order to stop her from having an abortion, you need to LISTEN and UNDERSTAND her problem. why does she want to abort?! she does so because of her school and shame from the community. so you need to sit down and ask yourself what you can do to solve that. searching for "good businesses", thinking that it will solve the problem, shows us all that you are not listening to what she is saying.

FURTHERMORE, having a child is no joke!!! here you are talking of having this baby while you dont even have a JOB or steady income of any sort. how are you going to FEED/CLOTHE/CARE/ACCOMMODATE/EDUCATE that child for 18yrs, when you cant even care for your own self?!

LAST BUT NOT LEAST, right now your only option is to ABORT, as both of you certainly aint mature enough (aka emotionally/financially/physically ready) to have a child. here is a clue: you should BOTH finish your education, BOTH get a job, then get married, get a house... and only then should you dream of starting a family.

godofwar666:
where is d body?

good question

alwelldinho:
lol..bros, u harsh oo. im sure the women im ur life aren't liabilities? or are they?

again bro, there are some women that are liabilities and there are others that are assets, it all comes down to their actions, AND the criteria required by the person who is judging them... but it is an insult to all the women who act RIGHT to say that all women are assets.

- a woman who cheats, and therefore putting her husband's life on the line (HIV/aids is real) due to her selfish sexual desires, is certainly NOT an asset.
- a woman who marry for money and therefore uses JUJU to poison/kill her husband (in order to get/steal his wealth), is certainly NOT an asset.
- a woman who lies that she was raped so that her foolish husband go and "defend her honour", and subsequently he ends up in jail for life for murder, is certainly NOT an asset
- a woman who leaves her child in the car, so that she could go to a party, and that child died, is certainly NOT an asset.

the list of liable partners is endless, both for MEN and WOMEN, and the fact that there are women in my life wont change that fact.

RUBBISH