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longnose:
I met this girl online and after we met, we kind of started dating. But my confusion now is that, she has màny guys she chats flirtatiously with. How do I trust her?

have you ever met her in real life or this is an online thingy?! have you ever told her how you felt about her flirtatious ways?

Daresh:
Please cheat on him. Isn't he cheating on you?

how would that solve anything?! in fact that would make this matter even worse.

@sweetmuah
i do weep for women like you, and its clear why the man, who you call your husband, treats you the way he does....but sadly you deserve everything you get.

sweetmuah:
Hmmmm,we have been married for 5years and our union is blessed with a 4years old boy. Before we got married,he was all over me doing everything to please me but everything changed immediately I move into his house.

i guess getting married was all what he needed from you.... it does happen due to family/religious/social pressures etc

He started having affair cos I do check his phone atimes and hv seen him proposing to different ladies lying to them that he's still single.
Am not even bothered about that.

what makes you think it is a lie?! if the man started cheating as soon as you guys were married then maybe he did it for the reasons i stated earlier and, in his mind, he is indeed single. that man has no respect for YOU or your FAMILY.

btw if you aint bothered about his cheating ways then maybe this is the reason why he does it. if you aint bothered that your man cheats then that is a green light for him to indulge in that silly act.

But I love sex so much becos am a romantic person and I love that kind of sex that involves deep kiss(hv made him know that I love to kiss). This man stopped kissing me and make love to me without any romance,he always do it like am forcing him. He's a 5minutes man and can only do thrice in a month. Am 29 and still fresh and pretty. I dnt want to cheat on him but he said I can't force him to do what he don't want. Pls I need mature advise cos I do masturbate atimes

that man is turned off by you and only mounts you out of pressure/necessity (just like the reason he probably married you). i suggest you get used to that miserable life you call marriage and keep on mast.urbating until he infect you with some deadly disease that he may catch from the women he patronize.

@OP
i will sit her down, take her phone away, then tell her that i will forgive her ONLY if she fully confesses EXPLICITLY to what she did in the last few days, as i will call whoever she was with and ask them to also explicitly say what they did..... i will warn her that if the person (s) i call do NOT say exactly the same thing she tells me then she will be out the door that instant. obviously, that woman will confess to all her shiiit and then i will get rid of her and divorce her sorry aaass anyway, knowing fully what she did.

@Spenoiya
i hate with a passion people like you.... people who are quick to write all type of BS on Whatsapp/FB etc but then when it come to meet that person and act right, you cant show any of the BS you wrote.

i fully understand why this gal asked you to say it to her face to face and show her what you mean...... if that is too hard for you to do then what you write is just "in the air".

you are actually lucky, when women are too quick to tell me they "love/like" me, i simply reply them back: "what do you actually love/like about me?!" and most come up with shameful BS.

lolaxavier:
And I can even remember one that was flogged publicly for being raped...also in one of the middle east countries...it is a shame and human right abuse. Unborn generations will look back at all these and say what

i do remember a case like that too, she was punish because islam forbid women to be alone with other men than their spouse, thus SHE did something wrong by being raped. i will never live in such countries, i can only tell all my friends and family to never dream of going to live there, and i can only continue to feel sorry for all the people being raised, and living, there under these archaic laws.

although i love a nice bouncy aaass, that gal in the picture the OP posted is fat (IMHO), and i feel it is disgusting, to say the least. so i guess there is a degree of aaass, just like there is a degree of big tittays..... any smart man knows that most women with humongous tittays (in bra) will be vomitting the minute she removes the bras, and realise them tittays hang all the way pass her belly button like slippers.

to me, big bootay and tittays does NOT count (or isnt remotely attractive) if the lady is fat.

lolaxavier:
That's if they are allowed to make a choice. Was watching CNN a month ago and there's this young lady that was forced to marry the man who raped her. Can't recall exactly where but it was one of these middle east countries. It is a stigma to her, to her family and she could hardly walk on the street.
To me, it is as simple as it gets, i will suppress that pregnancy. I cannot live with such pain for eternity.

sadly, yes there are countries in this world with inhuman and stoopid laws, take Pakistan for example where a raped woman need to provide 4 eye witness to the rape for anyone to be charged with the crime (even if dna evidence is present)....true madness!

what kind of nasty who.re is that opening her legs for a car ride?! such women are the lowest of the low (as well as men who would say yes to that nonsense), and that toto is not worth mounting. what would be the pleasure in that, really?!

am i the only one who will be suspicious in having this kind of animal in his car?!

only the woman who carry this pregnancy can answer this question.....some religious fanatics would say NO, while others who hate themselves (and the baby) for what happened would say YES. the last call is for the victim to make.

what kind of travel agency dont know that it's called a FLIGHT not fright.

iebanehita:
Top position?
I would have to disagree with you on this.

I have worked with hotels.ng as a freelancer and with Jovago.com and I can categorically say that Jovago.com is way popular and has claimed several awards, including No.1 hotel booking site in Nigeria and has already expanded to Ghana, Kenya and other African Countries, despite hotels.ng starting before her.

Congratulations also, on your recent breakthrough.

cc: MRBrownJ

well said, that was also what i was thinking.... thats why i asked which criterias they used in "believing" that hotels.ng was #1 in Nigeria.

also, i am still waiting to the answer to my question:

- you claim to be the largest booking site in Nigeria, have you (or your team) personally stayed in the Nigerian hotels you advertise on your site.... or is it just about numbers at hotel.ng?! i mean how do you make sure that all the hotels you advertise are tourist/client friendly?

mizzochocinco:
That you just as old as those women.

wait a minute.... so one of your 1st point towards older men was that "they have a bad attitude towards women and marriage". so i asked you what is the RIGHT attitude that older men should have towards women and marriage, and the above in bold is your answer?!?!?!?!?!? i am sorry to tell you that you are simply a bitter older women (although you are only 28yrs old) who is mad because men your age prefer younger women.....and therefore leaving many women in their 30s having to look for men around 50 to give them the time of the day, while you would rather men 30 gave you some attention.
simple quote for you: dont hate the playas, hate the game!

Since i am dreaming tell me more on why every saturday you see more couples who have a 3-5yrs difference marry more than men your age and women in early 20s?

unfortunately, in 9ja it is taboo for people to have a big age difference in marriage, so 1-8yrs is what you mostly gonna see (with men) as for women, even a yr older would be considered wrong. so you see, the game is made for older women to fail because people like Oshiomole would marry a gal 20yrs younger than him and its good, but if it was the way around, people would crucify the lady. so just because women cant go for younger men (without looking like a predator in the community) does not mean men SHOULDNT any longer.
simple quote for you: dont hate the playas, hate the game

older men normally marry women in their 30s, which are the same women you mock, dispite being your agemates.

let me understand clearly what you are saying........so because "some" older men of +30 marry older women of +30, older men should A) NOT give their opinion on why they believe these women are a bad choice and B) NOT prefer younger women??!?!?!?!? come on sista, you are making less and less sense now.

how many broke older men do you know that marry younger women if its not about money? Im not talking about forced or child marriages.

i fully understand that, at your age (28), MARRIAGE is a big deal, and this is probably why you are now focussing on marriage in this discussion, but pls remember, many older men who already got burned by marriage wont make the same mistake again (and those who havent still got plenty of time to settle)... so the game is different for you women, so wake up and stop trying to compare yourself with us men, as many today rather focus on making something out of themselves (aka make money), have gfs/baby mamas, and settle later in life. any smart person would know that
simple quote for you: why buy the cow if the milk is free?

i never said there is anything wrong with gyming i dont know why you got that twisted. I just stated that some of you use that delude yourself that you are young, but really the rest of the world sees you the same way you see women your own age.

an older man who prefers younger women and DONT want to attract them with money, will need to be on point in everything in his life. pot belly is out of the question and a fit body is a must (especially if you want to keep up with these babes in the bedroom). what you write would be as silly as me complaining about women +30 because they went to the gym to have a tone body and skin, lol!!!but the most important part here is that, although you'd rather that older men have pot bellies, they ALL should care for their appearance in order for their partner to enjoy their sight, WHETHER THAT GIRL IS 30, 40 or 70. believe me, the guys you see that still fukc like rabbits up to their 90s are not men who didnt care for their health.
simple quote for you: if you dont care for your motor then it wont last the journey.

this is just like a cup AA girl screaming her size is bettter than a C cup just to feel ood about herself. It is all a lie stop fooling yourself. A younger guys gets a strong erection and lasts longer in bed. When you go 30+ it slowly gets weaker and weaker.
Keep lying to yourself that experience is what matters when you get a weaker erection as you age.

i actually start to feel sorry for you....really, i cant believe a gal 28 would write the type of clueless stuff you write, but then again, i will have to educate you.
A) NO man can have full sex unless he has an erec.tion, and unless you want to claim here that older men DONT have erec.tions, i cant understand the rubbish you wrote.

B) STRONG EREC.TION HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH LASTING LONGER IN BED!!!!!!!!!!
STRONG ERE.CTION AND/OR LASTING LONGER IN BED HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH GOOD SEX!!!!!!
i cant shout these ones loud enough

C) there is no such thing as a stronger erec.tion, its all down to how excited you are....and it all comes down to the women. so yes, a man who fukcs the same woman for years will not be as excited down the line, compared to the man who fukcs different sexy women every week/months

D) good love making comes with experience (whether young or old), but hey, if you think that a younger man would automatically do a better job in the bedroom, then what better joke there is than to let you fool yourself until you see the light.

simple quote for you: if all what it took to have good sex was a stronger dikc and lasting longer in bed, then there wouldnt be SO MANY women who have never had an org.asm in this world.

but you are the exact same there is so much of what you see in ladies that are 30yrs old that everyone other younger people see in you. Thats the point i making all along. Whether you want to delude yourself with thoughts that you are in better position or not

again, you are entitled to bring whatever points you want to the table, and believe what you want.....would that change the POINTS i wrote on the subject of +30 women?! nope. now we know you are getting to that age and still not married, and this is why the issue (and my points) are as painful as it is to you..... but dont despair, i didnt have you in mind when i wrote them.

mrdrizzy:
My belief

NO MAN IS UGLY EXCEPT YOU THINK YOU ARE

build ya confidence 1st b4 making an approach,grow yaself,it might take a while ,just have it in ur mind that beauties are born each day!

It took me 20years b4 i was able to make my move when my niggs did theirs @17,oh and believe me i swayed!!
Give it time

the above in bold is a damn lie...... yes, with confidence, he can be able to get a proper woman BUT ugly would remain ugly.
here are a few examples:

elantraceey:
Can't believe I'm saying this but forget about girls for now and make enough money then you'll be the one having problem of who to choose.

nonsense!!! using money to attract ashewos and golddiggers wont solve the problem, it will just fool him into believing that people like him, while they dont (they simply like his money)! what kind of a sorry life is this?!

lower your standards....... go around the neighborhood and look for the ugliest single lady there, i am positive she will accept your proposal!
but if you are indeed as ugly as you pretend then pls stay away from the Beyonce and Genevieve of your area!

pls do forget about this demon FAST!!!!! she is trying to bypass all the good stuff about dating etc and just get whatever she needs from you...how desperate is she that she just want to be pregnant?! maybe she is already pregnant and looking for a dumbass to accept her pregnancy? this has NOTHING to do with love because love does not mean you have to do any silly thing someone asks you to do.
watch out bro, there are demons all around

@Holatunde007
maybe you should teach your girlfriend how to turn these people down nicely. it is actually very simple, and best done in public view so these men dont try again later.

she simply has to say:" i am sorry but i am NOT interested whatsoever because i am happily dating in a serious r/ship, about to be married. now, if i was your gf, you wouldnt want me to disrespect you and meet other guys who want to date me, right? so why would you expect me to disrespect my man like that with you? if you were a proper guy, with INTEGRITY/RESPECT/UNDERSTANDING you wouldnt disrespect me and ask me out, so pls act RIGHT as a man so some ladies out there has the chance to value you.

i will side with whoever i believe was right........ after listening to why the fight happened. if their stories do not match, i will believe my mum's story as she would NEVER lie to me.

Seun:
Yes, it's Mark Essien.

oh really?! ok then......

@Markessien
- how would you rate Hotel.ng against the ever popular Jovago?

- what are the criteria that you use in order to BELIEVE that your company is the best hotel booking site in Nigeria?

- what do you think is the 3 fundamental tools that are needed to have a successful hotel booking site in Africa?

- you claim to be the largest booking site in Nigeria, have you (or your team) personally stayed in the Nigerian hotels you advertise on your site.... or is it just about numbers at hotel.ng?! i mean how do you make sure that all the hotels you advertise are tourist/client friendly?

- you raised some few dollars recently, could you tell us how you intend to spend that money in order to expand in Africa?

- what's next after hotel booking? do you intend to venture into other areas such as air travel, car rental etc?

why did you open that account today and not before?! before asking any question i would like to confirm that you are INDEED M.E, so please write on your Twitter account that you are answering question on NL, and then we can fire away.
Thanks

- some people out there dont have the TIME to be in a r/ship
- some people out there dont have the DESIRE to be in a r/ship
- some people out there dont have the ENERGY to be in a r/ship
- some people out there dont have the EMOTIONAL STRENGHT to be in a r/ship
- some people out there havent found the RIGHT person to be in a r/ship with
- some people out there dont want to be calling all day and doing all the stuff that needs to be done in a R/ship.
- some people out there dont want to see just one person in their life
- some people out there dont want to be stressed with dating, and rather focus on something else
- (and unfortunately) some people out there are already in r/ships and are just looking for extra spice in their marriage, and regular people to fukc with no strings attached

to these people, a FWB is the perfect fit, and so long as the rules are set beforehand, then everything should be ok. if in doubt about the rules, then have them sign what i call the MBJ AGREEMENT (can also be used as the booty call agreement):

@Greghamite
i suggest you stop writing nonsense and instead educate yourself on what you obviously dont know.
Ronaldo owns a SPORT MARKETING agency in Brasil who owns the image rights for many top athletes, singers and companies, and therefore making him earn MILLIONS per yr........ and guess who is his top clients?! NEYMAR, RAFAEL NADAL, ANDERSON SILVA, VITOR BELFORT, RUBENS BARICHELLO etc, to say just a few. his company also owns the image rights for Brahma (one of the biggest beer sold in Brasil), Duracell (brasil), Gol (Brasilian airline company) etc

so when you are tired writing rubbish online, just google "9ine" and see who owns the company, and stop thinking that a man's HOBBY is his livelihood.

mizzochocinco:
and all i simply said was the same reflects on you and you claimed that mem and women arent the same? And i argued that you are the same.

stop trying to change the issue here, men are NOT the same as women therefore i can have an opinion on the matter. having an opinion (and giving specific points) about why women over 30 may be a bad choice is COMPLETELY different than you judging me (positively or negatively) because of the points i have made. these are 2 different things, get real! now, when you open a thread about why women prefer men under/over 30 then we can discuss the matter on that thread.

From what i have also seen the reason why men over 35 are not yet married are very much similar to those of women their age who are married at that age too.

if that is what you believe then fair enough, but focus for a minute and UNDERSTAND that the thread is/was never about WHY women over 30 were not married, it is about men preferring (or not) ladies who are above 30....and i gave my views on the subject. so, stay on the damn subject.

1.) men over 35 and unmarried usually have a bad attitude towards women and marriage. Exhibit A look at any other guys your age on NL who is unmarried and you see exactly what im saying. Many women in their 20s would rather settle with men in their own age category because they still have a brighter future and they havent had a fair share of bad relationships as you have. Most of you clearly have trust issues when it comes to women, no decent 20something year old girl wants an insecure man to age her before her time.

please care to educate us all on what is the RIGHT attitude that men should have towards women and marriage?! lol
wake up and look around you, many women in their 20s equally settle for MADE men that are sometimes twice their age; many women in their 20s would rather have a financially secure man than a man their age; what does age have to do with brighter future when women are willingly marrying older men? most women in 9ja are driven by money and a hard working successful man would mostly start being settled in life by his late 20s early30s (at best). if you do the math you will understand that you are failing.

sadly there are many older men who cowardly go for trophy wives due to mid life crisis (who do you think they are marrying, if not younger babes?!), but it take a strong older man to date a younger babe in the real world. the good thing is that there is NO shortage of younger babe looking for an older man with experience (in and out of the bedroom) to sweep her off her feet. your problem is you think that an older man will/should automatically be attracted to an older lady, as if the definition of beauty (and what these men desire) changes as they grow older, lol!

REMEMBER: a nasty looking rich man can get any deluded broke aass desperate younger golddigger out there (and there are quite a few), but it take a special kind of older man to date a 20something babe and keep up with her (in and out of the bedroom). if you believe that MONEY is the only reason why a gal would settle for an older guy then you certainly live in lalaland.

2.) Going to physical appeareance, most guys start going out of shape when they have knock 30-35years, big bellies, saggy skin, deflated cheeks and grow bald (some start going bald even in their 20s). Whether you hide behing gyming 24/7 and hide behind designer clothes to make you more appealling. Fact remains when all of that is taken off. That 20year old boy has a more appealing and youthful body to look at, whether it has worn gucci before or not.

pls care to enlighten us by telling us if these physical older men traits are INVISIBLE to women, as it is to men?! when you have women wearing fake hair, fake nails, fake skin tone, fake eyelashes, push up bras, booty pad etc, you have the audacity to compare men with women?! all the older male traits that you described above are CLEARLY visible on the 1st day you meet an older guy, while the ones i wrote about women can never be seen unless you UnCloth that lady and power wash her out of all the nonsense most of you hide under.

btw: how can you put pot belly and going to the gym in the same sentence as something wrong with men?! ahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
men go to the gym because they care about their health AND most importantly, they care about their appearances and do NOT want to have pot bellies. so one cancels the other one, duh! how is it now wrong for women like you if a man goes to the gym?would you rather he has a pot belly?! abeg make some sense here!

3.) put a 25year old next to a 35year old guy and best believe me, the 25year old would probably give more memorable sex. A penis becomes more weak and it shrinks as its ages.

do you actually believe the nonsense you write?! good sex is ALL down to EXPERIENCES, and therefore only an EXPERIENCED man would do the best job here, not automatically the younger one....but, if you can just look at a man and automatically believe that he is good in bed, then you must quickly wake up from you dream. also, i hate to tell you this but if you also believe that a younger man would automatically have a bigger dikc than an older man then i suggest you e-smack yourself for me. i wont even bother to educate you on the fact that good sex as nothing to do with big dikc anyway, lol!

no one denied you to express your opinion, all i said is it simply puts you in the same category.

now look at what i have done to give you valid points to reply your claims about older men....i came up with intelligent points. this is what you should DO instead of automatically busting a vein because you see yourself in what i wrote, and get offended....BUT, the gravy here is that it would never make any difference to the fact that....the points i raised are valid TO ME in order to evaluate a +30 woman, whether you think that older men have pot bellies and tiny dikc (or not), lol!

@Safarigirl
as much as anyone having sex should accept the consequences of their action, i think that there is NOTHING wrong with a lady making love to a man because he did everything her MIND desired, in order to open her legs. what is wrong here is NOT protecting herself properly while being in such risky situation, so that there wont be any issues of pregnancies, STDs or worse. so yes it is a gal's fault if she gets pregnant to a playa, but there is certainly nothing wrong with having a great time in bed with someone you "believe" loves you.

as for going to a virile man's house, there is nothing wrong with that, and that shouldnt automatically means they have to have sex. sex should always be a desire by TWO people to co.pulate, not just one. there is nothing "not" smart about going to a man's house.

you have ALL the rights to not want to involve yourself with premarital sex, but there is nothing wrong with people who do it, and do it WISELY....important word here is "wisely". the fact that you are trying to make sex as something bad because some unwise friends of yours may have gotten pregnant by phoney guys is laughable. why should anyone make excuses for themselves for having sex?! what kind of deluded women do you have as friends?!

as for your comparison of people who do go out and/or have an healthy sexlife as ashawo/public toilet, you are entitled to your opinion.

mizzochocinco:
I did say something on the topic. And i completely agree with you. You can have a negative opnion about people the same age as you and younger than you, but just remember that the same negative things reflect on you too.

now you are making some sense!!!!
the important question IS: should i not give my humble opinion on a subject because (you believe) it may reflect negatively on me?! my post was based on my experiences on the subject and this is some of the points i think are important to think about before settling for a +30 lady. i dont write posts to be viewed positively, but simply to give my truth on any subject.

You can give your negative opinion about how a woman's beauty fades with age, but i can also tell that your facial appearance has changed over the past 10-20years, and it has not changed for the best either. Like i said it reflects on you too

did i wrote it was wrong to age?! did i wrote that i will stay looking 18yrs old for the rest of my life? i am just giving MY own humble opinion about the subject at hand. now who are you trying to fool?! women often hide under make up, fake hair etc and therefore when a lady is +30yrs old, you need to CONFIRM her true state before settling for her..... not just age but also state of mind, toto quality, etc

mizzochocinco:
given your age right now, you probably have reached that stage you drink that herb Nigerian men drink to enhance their skills. You are not fooling anyone

well i am just telling my truth, if you dont like it, fair enough..... you are entitled to your own opinion.

you didn't hurt my feelings. Its rather silly to mock people your own age, because it reflects on you too because you are the same age.

the fact that you believe that men shouldnt have an opinion about people, for ANY reason is LAUGHABLE (to say the least). this is my humble opinion on the subject, accept it wisely as JUST THAT, instead of showing how hurt you feel about my words that described you.

tomorrow i can have a negative opinion about black people even if i am one, just like i could have a negative opinion about Nigerians if i was one...... what you write make NO damn sense whatsoever, if you actually think we cant have a negative opinion about people that may share similarities with us.

You are a human being over 30 so that puts you in the same category.

read the above in bold i wrote and educate yourself, if you dont want to then fair enough.

again i can only be hurt by your words when I reach you current age, in lets say 15-25years from now. If im still unmarried and lonely like you that is.

ahahahahahaha now i can see that you are truly hurt by my words and that it hit a nerve. i never wanted to hurt you in such a way and please accept my apologies BUT THIS REMAINS MY OPINION ON THE SUBJECT. i wish i could lower myself to play your childish game and derail this thread, but i cant. you can believe whatever you desire about me, wont change anything about my life.
BTW: if you have nothing to say on the "subject of the thread", why are you still writing anything here?