budaatum: As long as you both have legs, it might walk. But if one of you becomes legless the other might need to do some carrying and it's likely to be you, 24.
lastburn: My girlfriend and I had dis talk about what she consider cheating in a relationship. Guys you should ask your girlfriends or wife and you fit shock! She said what she consider as cheating is sex! So long as you guys didn't have sex then its not cheating no matter what you guys are doing!!!! I weak... As for me? If you play, you play to win!
Anything classed as "intimate" or sexual is cheating in my opinion
Nazgul: Sadly love doesn't exist and girls these days prefer to use their bodies for transactions rather than giving it to a broke guy who will bruise all her holes and leave her in a worse state by breaking her heart.
I will personally prefer a girl to respect me than to love me cos love is fake but respect is real, you can't fake it.
Love does exist. I love my husband n im positive he loves me. I respect him also. You just have to find the right person. And sadly most times u gotta go thru heartbreak atleast once or twice before u find that person
Nazgul: Money is a reward for labour, once it's given the giver will expect the reciever to meet certain of his needs.
This I why I do advise girls to restrain themselves from accepting gifts unnecessarily from men, cos you become indebted to him.
To you question, it depends on the person and the nature of the relationship you have with him. From your post you used the words Man , and Claim meaning he's a grown up man and probably married, you should know that the only thing that made him spend his money on you in the first place is because he wants a taste of your coochie and not because he loves you.
If a man loves u he will only want you to have sex with him because u want to not because hes done things for you n think u owe him. Love isnt a transaction. But if a woman has no intention of marrying the man or doesnt love him she shouldnt be giving him sex or taking his money.
Marshal9: My girlfriend always snatches her phone from my hands whenever she sees me with it, not like I'm reading her chats
She wouldn't even want me assessing her gallery not to talk of pictures.
Lately she brought up the idea of not wanting sex again, cos of reasons best known to her.
But when I choose to stay away, she wouldn't let me. And would never stop talking to guys that I warned her about, making me feel like she's exploring her options.
Not like I don't know what to do, but I'm feeling a bit weak cos I was her first.
Any advice house?
Maybe shes losing interest in the relationship or has her eyes on someone else. Ask her straight up n if she feeds u bullshitt n isnt honest i would move on. When someone loves you you can tell. If u have doubts all the time then its ur brain trying to tell u something
angie541: Please I need help before I kill someone, my fiancé just canceled our wedding because his baby mama wants to come back. We’ve dated for five years and he told me he had a child but there’s nothing between him and the mother anymore, I’ve been helping him to pay child support, I’m from a very wealthy family and very hardworking too , I’ve helped set this guy up in life that I’m sure even up to his third generation can never suffer, this guy had nothing when I met him but I never looked down on him and I built him and established him, I was also a virgin , he disvirgined me. After setting him up, this guy proposed to me and the wedding is in four months time and this guy suddenly informed me his baby mama wants to come back, I had informed the whole world I’m getting married, my Facebook,Instagram,sent out invitation letter, please I want to die the shame and pain is too much . The most painful part is that I recently found out it was all a set up , this guy dated me to dupe me, but why don’t you dupe me and leave me in peace, you went to the extent of proposing marriage and make me send out invitation letters, he’s the only man I’ve dated in my life! I confronted him to know why he decided to ruin my life like this and his response shocked me , he said “what had he done that nobody has ever done before” , I couldn’t believe my ears, so this guy never loved me, even if he had lied on the devil that it’s the devils work I would’ve forgiven him , the boldness to tell me you hurt me intentionally! No he can’t go just like that! He’s in the house I bought with another woman! I can’t do anything cause he’s name is on the documents! Please help me before I kill someone cause I’ve gone to the ghetto to get some hired killers and I’ve paid them already, but I called them yesterday to hold on because I’m scared I’ve never killed anyone In my life, what If his ghost haunts me? If I’m in my room will his ghost appear to me? But he can’t just go scot free please what other thing can I do to this evil guy because he must also feel the same pain I’m feeling, this pain is everlasting and it will there until I die, he must also feel the same! Please anyone who know this guy should tell him to lie on the devil that it’s the devils work because I swear with my life he must pay!
True or fake; either way the lord say thou shall not kill. No one deserves to die for stealing. Learn ur lesson n move on n with time youll feel better
Posted by Daniel. on Mar 9, 2021 Where are the relationship experts in the house? Here is a story of a reader that needs our attention. I met this girl some months ago, we became close, and one thing led to the other, we started dating. Of all the girls I ever dated, this one came closest to my heart. I’m ordinarily stingy to girls when I date them, especially the ones I feel don’t really love me for any other reason than what they hope to benefit. In fact, my last relationship ended because of how tight-fisted I was with her. But in the case of this girl in question, I was so free, I gave her easily, it got to the extent that my cousins and closed friends started suggesting that she put a hex on me. I really loved her my whole life changed when she came in, I became very happy, always wanted to be with her, for every contract I took, I shared a small part with her, and she was happy, whenever there was a misunderstanding, she apologized, she was never the type to climb a high horse. I won’t lie I saw her demands for material things increase uncontrollably, I became responsible for everything she wanted and needed, her cream, her clothes, phone, laptop, subscription, even ordinary airtime! Haba! airtime oh!!! But I wasn’t all that disturbed because I felt I could endure the burden just because of how happy, and lively she always made me feel, practically the same addiction my neighbour has for weed even if it’s with his last dime The trouble started when i went to her place one day and she was not around, my phone was almost dead, i decided to charge it in the Northerner’s place near her house. Then i saw what looked exactly like her phone charging. I mean; her phone cover is very spectacular to me, looks like rabbit ears with lights that come on whenever you touch it. i asked about it, he told me it was hers. God so did it that he allowed me to check the phone, i had known her pattern a long time ago but she didn’t know. Brothers and sisters! When I opened this phone and saw her chat with someone whose name she saved with “miracle” she was obviously cheating! I copied the number and dialled it on my phone with truecaller, I saw the complete name, i opened Facebook and checked that name, it was a guy, he was on her Facebook too. She had been seeing this guy. the dates on their WhatsApp chat confirmed that certain times she left my house and said she was going to her brothers house, that was where she actually went. For the first time in my life i was broken, i had to break up with this girl, but i wanted to think about it thoroughly because i feared loneliness and the loss of happiness that breaking up with her will bring me. i did anyway. She begged and begged promising to break up with the guy, i just don’t know why i refused, i told her we could be friends, but now as i type this, she seems to have moved on, she has never called me again nor sent any message, neither have i, but every day that passes by, i gradually see myself going back to my old state of mind, you know one that makes you lonely even in the midst of people. I really miss her now, I’m thinking i should have forgiven her, but then i know i have to be a man, i see her posts on Instagram, she is still so beautiful in my eyes, I cannot hate her however i have tried, this is very unlike me, i want anyone who has ever experienced this to tell me how he did it. Please How Can I Get Her Back? I Will Be In The Comment Section.
Descortes: I weak for these nairaland men. they just dey disgrace us
imagine saying a woman should suffer with you because of love whereas, she can get a man who can make her feel heaven is on earth. who no like better thing ? women are not superhumans. The country hard
Yes money is nice but the way love make u feel...its way better. Wen thr man u love touches ur skin or kiss u n make u feel all goeey inside lol..money cant buy that.
Poanan: hmm ... a million? do you know what a million is? so a million will make you do what you dont want to do?
if that is the case I dont believe your write that " it is is love over money."
No it depends on the situation ofcourse. N i know a million dollars is a decent amount. Depending on our need for money n my mans blessing haha like thatd happen! I wouldnt enjoy it. But it will never happen i dont know any millionaires so its all conjecture.
New generation african women want a man that will kneel before them to propose and later after marriage, man act like nollywood mumu washing plates and taking turns to babysit their baby. And any small argument, lady will scream get out of my house and throw the man out and file for divorce.....
You fvking africans imitating a foreign culture.....he Is a man.....if u cant stay then get out and look for an african white boy that will kneel before u and u can take turns to babysit your baby and you can manipulate into marriage and divorce.
What am I even saying self, I know I'm saying what nobody want to say but everybody want to hear
But hear the truth babe, leave that guy and find another guy that will cheat on you more carefully while the guy finds a younger and more beautiful girl to continue with
So a man isnt much of a man if he spends time with his own child? Or if he respects his woman especially his wife? A man should be allowed to screw anyone one he wants no matter how his wife feels n put himself n therefore her at risk of stds and pregnancies and drama from other women? Thats not family. Thats not a man. A man can still be all manly if he cares loves n respects his wife. But it goes both ways. A woman shouldnt cheat either. And should respect her man. A man who sleeps with every woman they can is just public property and has no self control or self discipline. No one has to have every person they find attractive. Exactly what will that achieve in the long run? Broken marraiges, hurt, hate, mistrust, regrets, grudges. And its not what u want children growing up to learn or see n be the same. Isnt it better to have a happy fiercely loyal wife than one full of resentment? So only a mans happiness matters. It isnt unmanly to be a kind n faithful husband
BestAccessories: AdesewaAde, you have a BIG problem not a problem.
He his a cheat, he his proud to be one and his mother actually supported his son to be a cheat, your present predicament is too large to carry.
If he actually asked you, what's your problem with him been a cheat and he will not allowed you leave him for someone's else, walahi your present predicament is even worse than anticipated.
The time to start a conversation is now. Not after you finally commit to a lifetime journey with him by getting married to him.
If he doesn't care about his own health safety, he shouldn't jeopardize yours by bringing STDs outside to your doorstep because he his not content or satisfied with what he currently have with you.
Except he his a Muslim and permitted to have more than a wife if he has capacity to take care of them.
Getting married to him, means you will not be the only one and should be ready to have other women share your man and matrimonial bed with you.
You get yourself into this mess and only you probably know how to get yourself out if this mess.
If you're my sister or friend, I will never allow you proceed with this relationship/courtship with him but you're not and you should know what's best for you.
He will not stop cheating, at least he has make that known to you now and his mother also approved of his son to be wayward with women which only means she didn't really think you're good enough for his son.
If his mother thinks you're good enough for him, she will never ever support his child waywardness towards you except you too are wayward but left that part out of your story.
If he cheats and happy to be wayward while dating you,it only means you're not good enough for him. He his indeed obsessed with you at the moment or doesn't want his ego crashed or see you as his personal property when he said he will not allowed you be with someone else except him.
You need to make a stand,fight your battle and make your feelings known.
He his is Public Property (PLC) who want a Private Property (LTD). Except he his ready to change and you're ready to delay any engagement or marriage rite until you're truly satisfied that he his actually a changed man, you're getting into a lifetime challenge you can't win because you already know what is on the table and you have choice now.
It's either you make use of your choice now or get yourself into a lifetime of regrets with him.
The choice and decision is in your hand to make. Please make good use of your power now or live a life of regret later in life.
Ciao
He his is Public Property (PLC) who want a Private Property (LTD).
djon78: At the bolded was one reason I jettisoned anything that will make me cheat on my madam
Some women totally commit with there whole heart and believe in you Cheating on them is terrible
A woman that has genuinely given you herself and shunned others.
That many women are turning into bad eggs is caused by guys
But karma has a way of paying back They always get there own payback somehow
Exactly. I dont think ppl(male or female) realise how much hurt cheating can cause wen u love someone n put into them all ur hopes n dreams aswell as ur heart.
AdesewaAde: So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.
We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.
Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.
Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.
Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.
He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “
I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.
See if even his mom said all guys cheat then obviously hes ben raised that its normal/acceptable n probably wont change. If u can accept it n go on marry him n live life wondering where he is n who hes with everytimr hes out then marry him. But if u cant deal with the same stress n hurt u endured wen u went thru the phone n found him out then quit while u can. He has no choice but to accept it.
falcon01: your human right ends the moment you die, but banging a dead body is a a violation.
Yes but its defiling a persons dignity in death. Some say there is no dignity in death but i believe so. I know id like my body to be safe til burial or cremation. I dont want some dirty pervert voilating what was a part of me. Nor would I want that kinda undignified sick act done to my loved ones remains either
Yomi4reel: What will say about this young man who had slept with so many female dead bodies in the mortuary.He said alot during an interview on air and was not ashamed of himself.
He confessed that may fine ladies always turn him down when he approached them but he sleep with so many beautiful dead ladies in mortuary.
He enjoy his life to the fullness that he has no problem or side effect any time he has s@x with dead body in the mortuary.
When you're walking on the road, always make sure you place your hand on your head, as they may harvest your head without your knowledge only for you to realize that your head was long gone when you want to eat, and by that time it will be too late.
richmond500: u just deh talk, if Ned Nwoko decide to make u one of his wives, u no go gree? After knowing that u will likely cash out about N5b when he dies in 8-10yrs time, u no go do am?
Nope. I cant let someone i dnt love touch me. Especially an older man. No matter the amount of money. Especially for years lol. Money isnt everything. Give me love over money anyday. As long as im with my man n have my basic needs im easy pleased.
If it was a million for one night i could maybe force myself do the deed lol then go get my man n i everuthing he could want.
Women they say are full of surprises, but the surprises we get from this gender on a daily basis is becoming so alarming. Nigerian girls does a lot of weird things with their body, over looking the African culture, customs and belief. In times past, exposing your body as a woman in Africa used to be a very shameful and degrading thing to you as a woman and to the family you are from, but now, reverse is the case. Where did we miss it?
Women these days have gone extra miles to use their menstrual pad with blood as a pomaid under the guise of getting rid of pimples from their faces.
If you would ask me, I would say, that; that act is very bad! Its the most awkward thing I have seen in my entire years of existence on this planet called "Earth".
The general belief that Menstrual blood clears sturbbon pimples is not scientifically proven. A Nigerian girl on Twitter started what was perceived to be a "challenge" on Twitter.
She came out with this ideology of rubbing your Menstrual blood on your face if you have a very sturbbon kind of pimple.
This sturbbon kind of pimple is the type of pimple that defers everything you rob on it. Her idea sparked alot of reaction online including condemnation from her fellow girls.
Some called her out for trying to mislead the gullible minded, while others reffered to her as a potential mad girl. To everyone's greatest surprise, the same girl did it the next day.
When she was asked by one of her followers how the smell was like? She replied 'its just cool, no weird smell and it works.' Other girls followed suit and started doing the very same thing they initially condemned. The questions on the mouth of everyone is 1. What is wrong with these girls? 2. How did they come to this? 3. Does this wierd act really work? 4. How would people look at them after this challenge? We will provide an answer to these questions one offer the other. 1. What is wrong with these girls? We have really tried to know what's wrong with them but couldn't find a suitable answer for the question. We came to a conclusion that these girls may be doing this to gain followers on social media, but this is a step too far. Definitely, these girls are really out of their minds. No two ways to justifuly this disgusting act. 2. How did they come to this? It is simply idleness that may cause this. Millions of Nigerian girls in this 21st century are not employed, most of them loitter around looking for a boyfriend or boyfriends to transfer their burdens to. Many girls don't work, even those that works are still not able to cater for all their needs. They always need a man to pay their bills. How they probably come to this is lack of employment and idleness. 3. Does this weird act really work? The answer is "NO", you may say why "No" I will say because it's not scientifically proven that a bad blood coming out of your private part can cure excessive pimples on someone's face. It can't! This is totally weird and must be discouraged before they lure the youngsters into believing this same lies. 4. How would people look at them after this so called challenge? I think they would appear wierd to people that knows them in person.
People do things without considering the consequences there after. I'm very sure in the nearest future, they would be so ashamed to tell their children the wierd things they have done in the past.
Thats just dirty/unhygenic and disgusting and foolish Ppl believe anything. Most girls are sheep n just follow stupid trends n cant think for themselves.
Shokoloko: Who do you think provided the basic amenities in the US. It was not the white man. 80% of inventions and amenities were black made but slaves cannot own right to inventions.
My question is why are we upset that they are playing the victim card when we as Nigerians play the victim card ALL the time.
The same way we are shocked about their "laziness" is the same way that they are shocked at our stupidity of not being able to vote out bad leaders.
So when you say "African americans stand up and work" let's also remember to tell ourselves "Nigerians stand up and get rid of these corrupt people in power"
The problem of Nigeria is not the leaders. The problem of Nigeria is the people with victim mentality who will not rise and change their leaders but prefer to lament daily.
So you know, a lot of those boys and girls on crack and weed became addicted in utero (in the womb) by their addicted mother who was supplied enough crack by white people. They are also doing it to the native Indians here so you have newborns addicted already.
There are also alot of help for ppl with addictions. Black and white. Also nobody forces ppl to repeatedly inject themselves with drugs Alot of drugs come from mexico into the us and from brazil n opium from china n the middle east. Cocain from columbia. Those ppl arent white. All colours of ppl are involved in drug trade
Shokoloko: Who do you think provided the basic amenities in the US. It was not the white man. 80% of inventions and amenities were black made but slaves cannot own right to inventions.
My question is why are we upset that they are playing the victim card when we as Nigerians play the victim card ALL the time.
The same way we are shocked about their "laziness" is the same way that they are shocked at our stupidity of not being able to vote out bad leaders.
So when you say "African americans stand up and work" let's also remember to tell ourselves "Nigerians stand up and get rid of these corrupt people in power"
The problem of Nigeria is not the leaders. The problem of Nigeria is the people with victim mentality who will not rise and change their leaders but prefer to lament daily.
So you know, a lot of those boys and girls on crack and weed became addicted in utero (in the womb) by their addicted mother who was supplied enough crack by white people. They are also doing it to the native Indians here so you have newborns addicted already.
There are also alot of help for ppl with addictions. Black and white. Also nobody forces ppl to repeatedly inject themselves with drugs
ChizzyBuna: Simple We have very corrupt leaders, who do not give a damn about quality of life of it's citizens. That is the curse of Africa The European are blessed with leaders who care about the quality of life of it's citizens. In Nigeria and some African countries No electricity 24/7 No basic human right No clean water No technology For a continet to develop it needs this basic amenities. Because those in charge to make life easy for Africans are very corrupt,greedy and heartless. Corruption is a reason why Africa is stagnant Until we get rid of this corruption nothing will change.
Those Ancestors did all those sacrifice just for their next generations to be successful, what did the next generation of blacks do They decided to be LAZY That is my point!!! It's like a father who worked day and night to make his children succeed Only for his children to turn out drug addicts,gang members and strippers. Us from Nigeria understand what those ancestors did, that is why we develop ourselves to make them proud. Those ancestors didn't fight all that fight for this generation of blacks to be lazy and useless. If those ancestors come back to 2021 and see how lazy black Americans are, they will shake their heads in sorrow.
We don't go to U.S and look down at THE ANCESTORS for what they did for us blacks. We are only angry that all they fought for will go in vain. When their current generation is busy playing victim and getting lazy instead of developing, working hard and evolving to make their ancestors struggle not go in vain. We appreciate what they did, that is why we put so much effort to make money and not play the victim card. If those ancestors where to time travel to 2021 they will be disappointied at how lazy and irresponsible this generation of black Americans are.
The Ancestors saw far WORSE They were hanged, lynched But that they kept their head up high and still pushed through Despite the terrible horrors they faced which is 10 times worse than what this generation is facing. But did that stop them from pushing ahead No!!! It's not an excuse to be lazy If your Ancestors faced far worse treatment and still didn't play victim card Now that things are a bit way way better still these generation are playing victim card. When they didn't even see half of what their Ancestors saw? There is no excuse to be LAZY!!!
I don't live in america so i dont know if african Americans are targeted to go to prison but what i do know is alot of them are in gangs n carrying guns just the same as white bikie club members do n use or sell drugs. Ofcourse these ppl will be targeted n go to prison. I also know there are alot of middle class hard working african american families. There are rich african americans. Will smith for eg. He worked hard n worked his way to the top in the film industry n is one of the riches actors in hollywood. Barrack obama he was president. Even ppl like rick ross, little wayne, and other african american rappers, singers/artists. N theres many more successful african americans who came from poverty to riches. Yet those who join gangs or become strippers complain the supressed by whites. Some love the image gangsta lifestyle gives them. They think its cool or that thats how they earn respect. They think its cool to act ghetto n talk ghetto. They try copy their favourite rappers. They kill each other yet blame the whites for killing them. African american ppl can be very artistic. Can create awesome rap n beats n dance n singing n artwork but alot waste their talents on the streetlife. Its a shame. Those ppl have as much opportunity to better their lives as many others have. They just dont want to put in the work or make excuses n blame others for their laziness. Or their inability to break the cycle if they grew up in that hood lifestyle. Not all white ppl are racists not all are against them. If that was the case then how come there a the ones whove made it out of poverty n even those who are richer than ur average white?
Romance › Re: I Am 24 And She's 56, Do You Think The Relationship Will Walk? by Mrscarter(f): 3:31am On Mar 16, 2021
They decided to be LAZY That is my point!!!